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Chamanit: First fifteen miles!? How far was your race?
If you read previous posts, you will see that Yoshi ran the NYC marathon – 26.2 miles.
Yoshi: Amazing story! Don’t know how you did it!!!
havesomeseichel: James, while John had had “had”, had had “had had”; “had had” had had a better effect on the teacher…
Sorry, haifagirl and havesomeseichel. I am college educated, but still don’t get this one. Please clarify. Thanks.
Parents: When serving a meal to your children, please check to make sure that the food is not too hot for your little ones.
The following recently happened in my home: I was serving soup to my 6-yr-old and didn’t realize how hot is was. I had let it sit to cool off, but not long enough. The hot bowl of soup was tipped over by an elbow and spilled onto my daughter. It spilled onto her lap and her chest. I immediately got cold water onto it, and B”H it was not serious. (Chasdei Hashem!) But I hate to think what would of happened c”v had I not allowed it to cool off a bit already.
I am telling all of you this so that all should be aware and prevent this from happening to others.
Very powerful story. Thank you getzel1 for reminding us of who we are and what we represent to the world.
mybat: This is how I handle my very outspoken, but well-meaning, MIL.
I listen to her, and say, “I see your point”; “That makes sense”; “You may be right”; “That’s true”; “I hear what you are saying about that”; etc. I take her advice seriously, because she is an experienced, smart lady, and then I make my own decision on what to do.
I do not inform her if I am taking her advice – I just either do it or don’t. In general, I try to show her respect and appreciation, thank her for her input, but if what she says is not for me, I just do it the way I want. BTW, my MIL and I have a pretty good relationship (ba”h).
Hope that helps!
Bemused: NY Mom, I didn’t take offense at all, I don’t have a problem. But it IS offensive to speak so mockingly of those that are following their doctor’s orders.
I think you didn’t mean your off the cuff remark- we all say things “in the passion of the moment”.
Well, thank you for being dan l’kaf zechus, because I did not mean to mock pple for following their doctor’s orders.
What I was LOLing about was the way arc kept making the same point over and over and then expressed himself in this way “:bangingheadonwall:”.
And when I said: “As many times as you write it, whoever doesn’t want to understand, will continue to refuse to accept what you are saying! They don’t understand and they don’t WANT to understand.” I did not mean to mock pple for having an opposing opinion or point of view, rather I was referring specifically to the point he was making over and over, which was never refuted or even acknowledged by those arguing the point. It was like a parallel conversation, and he was obviously a bit frustrated by that.
So once again, thank you for being dan l’kaf zechus, and I hope that clears things up.
BTW, my husband actually asked a friend of his who is a respected doctor whether or not to get the vaccine. He said that the doctors who are recommending holding off on it, is because of the concern that the vaccine may not have been was prepared properly, due to the rush to produce enough for the coming flu season. That seems to be the real concern regarding this vaccine’s safety.
So the question now is: Has this concern been justified, yet? If not then there should be no hesitation in pple getting vaccinated, unless of course there is some other medical condition which prevents you from doing so.
Bemused: I’m sorry if you took offense, however I was reacting arc’s head banging against the wall, because pple do not seem to understand what arc has explained several times, which is that the H1N1 vaccine is prepared the same way that all the flu vaccines are prepared, with the only exception being the strain of the virus added. So it is just wrong to compare this to a drug like Thalidomide.
Sorry oomis1105, I really respect you, but in this case it does not makes sense to compare Thalidomide which was a drug specifically marketed to pregnant women to prevent nausea and the problem was that it wasn’t tested properly or widely enough before being released to the public. This type of vaccine has been produced for so many years and it is only the strain of virus which is new. In fact they change the strain of flu virus added every year bec. no one knows which flu may go around the coming year.
If your doctor tells you to hold off on getting the vaccine to make sure others do not have a negative reaction, then by all means do so. However, how long does it mean to hold off? Better clarify exactly what that means, because pple are getting VERY sick from this flu and perhaps at this point your dr. would say that enough pple have received the shot w/o consequence, so now it is safe.
Hope that clarifies what I meant.
Ask you Ob/Gyn
arc: :bangingheadonwall:
LOL!
Give it up! As many times as you write it, whoever doesn’t want to understand, will continue to refuse to accept what you are saying! They don’t understand and they don’t WANT to understand.
Meanwhile, I’m trying to figure out where to get my H1N1 shot…My doctor doesn’t have it so…I heard that some politician offices are offering it. I’ll have to figure it out.
and the shadchanis told her that if word got around that this girl was going to go on a date with a guy she had met WITHOUT THE INTERVENTION OF THE SHADCHAN, (a) the choshuve bochur would not meet her, and (b) the shadchanis would no longer help her because “my clientele does not talk to boys who have not been checked out and cleared.”
Why did she have to tell the shadchanis about the specific circumstances of her meeting Dovid? What is it her business? That was a big mistake on her part. She should have just told Mrs. Shadchanis “Sorry I am busy right now.”
And Mayan Devash is right, the aunt can now become the official shadchante. And why shouldn’t she check Dovid out? Get some references from Auntie and check him out! This way her position is not compromised bec. she has a shadchan and the boys has been “checked out and cleared”.
Who knows if “Choshuva Bochur” is also a baal middos who would stop to help pple?
I hope everything works out well for both of them.
I checked out the frumsupport.com site and it has many threads about depression. It actually offers support groups for ALL types of medical conditions/diseases.
Also, there is a frum mental health referral organization called Relief. Their website is http://www.reliefhelp.org, and they help connect frum people to the right therapist/doctor who can help in whatever area necessary. Another poster wrote that Relief may even be able to help out with the cost of therapy if that is an issue. (I myself don’t know this for sure, but you may want to check it out if applicable.)
Hatzlochoh Rabbah, Happiest! And may it be Hashem’s will that, from now on, you continue to make positive strides and be truly happy in all aspects of your life.
joyous: I must commend you and tell you how much I respect you for your post. Even posting that anonymously took a lot of courage. I am sure that your have helped and encouraged others in similar situations to yours.
May it be a zechus for you and may Hashem help you in all aspects of your life. Yehi ratzon sheHKBH yemaleh kol mishalos libcha l’tovah.
ICOT: Kol hakavod! I applaud you!
Unfortunately, anonymouslysecret is correct and it is still a stigma, but more and more people do seek treatment, B”H. My husband knows a frum psychotherapist who sometimes talks about his practice (never reveals personal info, just generalities) and he says that certain circles in the frum communities are more open to it, while others are still in the dark ages about it and do not. And ICOT you are correct when you say that we all know people who are taking medication/seeing a therapist. It is more common than most people think.
There is a frum mental health referral organization called Relief that helps connect frum people to the right therapist/doctor who can help in whatever area necessary. You can google it. Anyone who is going through a tough time should not hesitate, but should seek the help that they need, and do not allow the societal stigma to prevent themselves from getting in control of the their problems and their lives.
Sorry, but what is teef?
Eequalsmcsquared: 🙂
Short for Wilhelmina?
You are easily frightened, so many things give you the willies?
Favorite book is “Willie Wonka and the Chocolate Factory”?
How about you live in Williamsberg?
To continue with safety information geared towards adults, this occurred to me now that the winter is creeping up on us:
When the snow and ice begin to arrive, please be a responsible homeowner and make sure to shovel and put down de-icer on the walkways up to, and the sidewalk in front of your house. Other than the fact that you are legally responsible to do so, and can be held liable if you don’t, it can also be a matter of pikuach nefesh.
You may be thinking “Pikuach Nefesh? That is an exaggeration! OK, someone can get hurt, break a bone at worst, but pikuach nefesh?”
And I will say to you, “No, I am NOT exaggerating!” I know someone whose relative slipped on ice, hit their head on the concrete, and ended up in a coma. We are talking critical condition.
So please, please, please be responsible! If you can’t shovel, then have your kids do it or hire someone. And everyone be careful during icy conditions!
Oh! And if you need to drive in icy weather, DRIVE SLOWLY!!!! If your car starts to skid on ice, you can get your car in control much easier if you are driving slowly. Can’t emphasize this enough.
Have a safe and healthy winter.
Yated – I read almost every week, Mishpacha & Binah every once in a while but like it when I do, and Olomeinu – still love that one!
Ron is right. They are making this vaccine the same way that they make other flu shots. This is just a new dif/new strain of the flu. And comparing thalidomide to a vaccine is not a fair comparison.
Bring it. Just keep it on vibrate and don’t answer it. No texting either.
oomis1105: I have always respected your opinion, since the 1st time I read one of your posts (your posts in the child safety thread – I remember that especially due to your unusual SN), so I am happy that we share the same opinion on this. That is very validating and reassuring for me. If you read above, you will see that I also contended that I hadn’t seen any flirting going on in the CR, and made the same points that you just made.
cholentkugelkishke: Funny, but obviously not apropos to all females.
I am a bit irked by the implication that women don’t drive well. I consider myself a pretty good driver (ba”h), and I have ridden in cars with male drivers (mostly on shidduch dates) where all I could do was close my eyes and daven. (I am not joking!) I come across this attitude from males of all types and it bothers me, so sorry for getting a bit serious in the Good Jokes thread. Just venting a little, I guess.
WOW!
Thank you Mod 80 and ronrsr for that very important information. I just checked my fire extinguishers to make sure they’re appropriate for grease/oil fires.
Also if you do a search on oil or grease fires you can find video clips that will show you what can happen if one puts water on an oil fire. Very scary.
OK. No one else has a safety soapbox?
Well, I have another tip for adults, and probably targeted more to the mothers out there.
If you do frying, (as in chicken cutlets/schnitzel) make it a rule that no children are allowed to come near Mommy while she is frying. With hot oil that sometimes splatters, that is a very dangerous situation for little ones and also for yourself.
If you do get hot oil splattered on your hand (or anywhere) immediately run it under cold water. If c”v a child gets splattered, cold running water plus call Hatzoloh.
So careful with that hot oil, all you culinary artists out there!
That’s it for NY Mom’s safety tip of the day. Thank you for joining us and have a good day. 😉
getzel1: Those were “good” jokes! 😉
My pediatrician recommends it and I have already gotten it for one of my children who has a long-standing medical condition. Right now in NY there is not enough to go around, so that is why they are not giving it to everyone.
Also, I have had the flu and it is not pretty! It is not just a cold and some fever, it is much more severe than that. It always irks me when someone says that they have “a touch of the flu”. If you’re not sick like a dog and completely miserable, it is not the flu! So I go yearly for myself and my children to get a flu vaccinations.
Mazca: Thank you for your excellent suggestion.
Much of what we have discussed on this thread is really applicable to adults, as well as children, but in a modified version. For example, adults don’t need special seats in a car, but they do need to buckle up every time they drive or ride in a car.
I think one thing that is totally applicable to adults and well worth mentioning is not to drive while distracted! And that refers to talking on cell phones, TEXTING, checking voicemail, or even just fooling around with the radio. If it is necessary to do any of the above, pull over to the side first or do it before you pull out!
Sometimes I see people doing stupid things while driving, including putting on make-up, reading a newspaper, or trying a difficult/illegal/just-plain-stupid maneuver while holding a cell phone to their ear! Please, please, please be aware that such potentially dangerous actions can have implications for a lifetime – for you or for someone not even riding in your car, just minding his own business, crossing the street. And of course, it should go without saying (but I’ll say it anyway!) one should NEVER drive after drinking alcohol.
Also, as Health suggested way back in this thread, it is a good idea for all adults to take some sort of basic safety course, like first aid or CPR.
Anyone else want to get up on a soapbox? 🙂
Health: Maybe the people you know are of a different type than the people I know.
And I don’t have children in the parsha of shidduchim yet, but I wouldn’t want my daughter or future grandchildren to be exposed to 2nd hand smoke. And I definitely wouldn’t want to be supporting a thousands-of-dollars-a-year harmful addiction, no matter if he’s the “best boy in Lakewood” or not! I’d rather take a 2nd or 3rd “best” non-smoker, if it’s the choice between those two. My humble opinion.
Can you give more details? Is it a daughter? Son? Older or younger child?
Without more details I’d just say discuss it with the teacher/principal.
It is also a colossal waste of money! Can you imagine the $ literally going up in smoke, if a person smokes 1-2 packs a day? I have heard that cigarettes can cost between $8 – $10 a pack in NYC. You do the math.
Also, to all those single bachurim out there: Do you think that smoking is attractive? I don’t know any frum girl who would be interested in a guy who smokes.
yoshi: You’re welcome 😉
This is a topic close to my heart, and I believe people should think more about safety and prevention. I really think so much injury and tragedy could be prevented (with Hashem’s help), if people would take seriously much of what we have discussed here.
Thanks so much for starting the thread!
I know someone who was an older bachur, working and learning, just trying and trying to find his bashert. He was engaged at one point, and then the girl broke it off. That was a huge blow to this bachur’s heart, but instead of becoming bitter, he spoke about it with his confidants (Rebbi, friends, etc.), picked himself up and kept trying. He tried so many different ideas that shadchanim suggested – divorcees, widows, BTs, giyores. But nothing went.
He went different Rabbonim, and received numerous brochos. Of course, at times, he was discouraged, and started doubting himself, and wondering if it would ever happen for him…He kept davening and trying.
Well, fear not, because this story has a happy ending. He finally found the one for him, but she was somewhat younger than he, and that is why he had to wait for his zivug hagun!
So for all of those who are still waiting, don’t give up and don’t give in to bitterness or depression. Just keep davening and may HKB”H send you your zivug hagun b’karov!
Hurray for Yoshi! That’s amazing!
Wow, David!
Well said.
And let me just say, that I think that some yeshivos are moving in the direction you describe. At my sons yeshiva I never see bochurim hanging around outside smoking. And my son came home one day, and told me that an administrator in his yeshiva was seen removing a cigarette from the mouth of one of the bais medrash bochurim. While we debated whether that was the best way to have handled the situation, we applauded the sentiment and creating an atmosphere of “Smoking Not Acceptable” at the yeshiva.
MaKesher: Why not? Why can’t they run in the marathon?
It is because physically, they do not have the lung capacity to be able to run for that amount of time, or sustain that kind of physical effort.
That is why at the Olympics in China the American athletes came off the plane wearing masks. They were trying to protect their lungs from the pollution due to the effect it could possibly have on their athletic performance – especially when winning and losing sometimes comes down to hundredths of a second.
Hi All! Just wanted to say a few words about toys, safety, and encouraging your kids to put their stuff away.
It can be difficult at times to get the kids to clean up, and sometimes it is easier to just do it yourself. But what about when you are exhausted? How will you handle it? The temptation is just to leave it and do it tomorrow. But if we don’t train our children to tidy up after themselves, there can be unintended consequences.
I read an article, not long ago, about a frum woman who fell down a flight of steps, and she literally broke her back, because one of her children had left something on the steps. And she was not old, but a middle-aged busy mother. It is not uncommon to hear of elderly people breaking hips due to a fall, and one of my children broke a bone when he fell the wrong way on his hand.
It not only looks better when the toys have been put away, it is really safer for everyone. I know that I also have a ways to go in this area, so I am not “mussar”ing everyone out there, but kind of “talking aloud” and letting everyone else “hear”, too.
So, yoshi, how was it? How did you do? Hope everything went well!
Thank you, Mazca. I wish everyone would think like that!
Jphone: I just googled it and you were right. It is in the RCBC Kosher Directory. Thanks for the correction!
Chops, that is a problem!
My rule has always been, unless everyone is buckled up, we don’t move – no matter if a little one was crying, whining, screaming, or complaining. And believe me, it has not always been easy to do, especially when we are running late! But I have never had to deal with your problem.
How old is she? Is she old enough to understand that you will pull over each time she gets out of her car seat? If Mommy is not driving, then we can’t get to the store, playgroup, or wherever you are going. This might be difficult at first and you’ll need to leave yourself extra time to get anywhere. But if she’s old enough to learn how the release mechanism works on her car seat, I have a feeling she could understand this cause and effect.
Hatzlochoh!
pookie: Are you advertising for that bakery?