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Many people think if you’re working you’re rich. How sad is that. How about if you’re working you’re taking life responsibly and putting your prioritites into perspective.
Yidin are so busy looking into other people affairs it amazes me.
Who says if you’re working you’re acutally making ends meet. Those who are envious say things like this. Everyone should mind their own business and leave people be. It sure would make the world a better place to live.
Unfortunately what it boils down to is quite simply that for some people there is not the same respect for Davening as other apsects of life.
Shame really.
A TV and or computer are not evil – as they are merely an aparatus. Their use can be transfered into bad but at the same time good. It depends on how it is used.
It is all about Choice and Yetzer Tov and Yetzer Horoh. In fact we can say this about everything in life.
We are all human beings with the ‘inbuilt’ choice to choose good or bad. How we use these choices makes us what we are. But we definately are not are judges to judge a fellow man and to make assumptions that if he/she watches tv or has a tv they will not have Oilom Haboh. We do not know what the option was and we do not know what the alternatives were for this person at that time, where they came from and at what stage they are in their life.
The references to a Rav having a tv in his apartment or office – again we are not to pass judgment. There are many unerlying reasons for what rabbonin do and who are we to question? A person saw an unkosher food item on the desk of Rav X. Does this mean he approved of the item and would eat it? No. It means it was there for a reason but one doesn’t know why. Ditto the TV. It may be there for others to watch as oppose to other means of entertainment and places to go. It may be necessary for the Rav to keep abreast of things so he can engage in the relevnt conversations required to a job he may be doing.
A person can not genralise on whether a tv and or computer are good or bad and whether one should have one in one’s home or not. This is all relative to a myriad of situations.
Just to wind everyone up of course you could say there is a difference between Haimish and Heimish and Chulent versus Cholent.
Haimish people are not the same as Heimish people and Chulent is not the same as Cholent!
This’ll get some of you really going so I’ll now sit back and enjoy the repsonses all blasting me. EDITED BY YW-Moderator
No Tzippi in this case you would just say Family X are a very frum, warm, homey etc family because in this instance the word heimish is wrong. When asked what is their background then you answer as appropriate.
I get asked a great deal for information and advice on shidduchim, dating etc and I always say choose your words carefully because someone is listening very carefully to what you’re saying and you must be accountable for the exact words you use when giving info for shidduchim.
Hope this helps you a bit more
Jfem02 Gold Star to you! Yey!!!
Dr Pepper – you are kidding aren’t you? Are we supposed to follow this?
Tzippi and Jphone – you are correct that the word Heim means home, but heimish does not mean homey or homely.
There is a difference between actual translation and transliteration.
Heimish is as per my response earlier.
From a professioanl business point of view I would advise that as the market is currently so volatile (worldwide) no-one here can advise you on whether to invest in gold or the stock market.
Aside from a worldwide recession looming, oil prices are falling and currencies are moving up and down from hour to hour.
The world of politics doesn’t help – recent US elections, situation in Iceland, Iran, India etc
You must remember that any investment is akin to a gamble and you must be able to afford to lose the invested amount should your investment fall.
Please do not seek the advise from this site, opinions are fine but do not take the advise proffered. We do not know your financial status or your personal details and it would be unwise to advise over the ‘net’
ICanOnlyTry and Jfem you are out of my league – I hate maths.
Here’s a nice and easy one
My life can be measured in hours,
I serve by being devoured,
Thin, I am quick,
Fat, I am slow,
Wind is my foe.
What am I?
Notpashut – I believe this is in line with his family Minhag not to eat Turkey. I think this minhag also appears amongst some Belz families as well.
Via one of the areas I am involved with this subject has come up recently more and more frequently and I am always being asked what is the difference between Heimish and Yeshivish etc.
Having spoken to many Rabbonim,Shaddchonim and various other people this is what I gather
Mainstream American Orthodoxy whereby the parents did not go to Yeshiva or Sem but have sons that have gone to yeshiva and the daughters will wear a sheitel have moved on to become Yeshivish. Some of these families have moved on to a yeshiva style shul as oppose to a large congregational shul with a YU trained rabbi but a shul where they have a Rav. (Hope I’ve explained well enough here). The father now goes to a regular shiur.
These references are not necessarily correct in relation to how religious a person is. I know some very religious people, the women wear pants and don’t cover their hair and the men have not been to yeshiva. They may not be yeshivish, they may not be black hat and they are not heimish but ‘frum’ they are.
Black hat refers to those whereby the father and sons wear a hat weekday and shabbos and possibly lead a more learned life.
Heimish refers to those families who have a history having gone to yeshiva and sem. The fathers, granfathers went to solid yeshivas and the girls went to sem from whence sem was applicable.
Heimish refers to familes that do not include Baalei teshuva but have a solid background.
I do not want to start talking about which families possibly would have a t.v or go to the movies etc and I don’t want to talk about anything more contraversial.
The above is an indicator.
If you have specific questions that I have not been clear on above, please post them and I would be happy to answer them to the best of my written ability
Where do you live?
Why! at home of course!
Fred Flinstone and Barney Rubble were our neighbors in bedrock.
Wilma and Betty were friends of the family and I used to babysit Bamm Bamm together with Hoppy.
Read the article and it still doesn’t say which states / countries will be able to see this.
Israel? Mexico? Sydney? London? New York?
Southwestern sky isn’t an answer as this depends on where you are.
Will, you are trying to profile everybody here?
Charlie Brown, you forgot the obvious……
Please submit your full name, address, telephone number, cell number, email address together with a recent photo 2″ x 2″ and verified by a Rabbi or professional confirming this is you !!!
Finger print and iris checker would be appreciated as well
YWN has readers throughout the world. Where will this be visible?
Havesomeseichel – Nope.
As it’s over 24 hours since I posted the riddle, below is the answer. I’m sure you thought I’d be after something deep, but I do have a chilled side to me as well….
Whoever makes it, tells it not.
Whoever takes it, knows it not.
Whoever knows it, wants it not.
What is it?
Counterfeit money!
Hello Jewel and welcome to the site where some of the threads are informative, some of the threads argumentative, some of the threads contraversial and some downright stupid!
You will need to take a lot of what is written with a pinch of salt and I would advise, having been involved with Kiruv for many years that you become closely associated with a Rabbi and Rebetzin (not necessarily a couple). Somewhere you can turn to and go to, question and seek help, advise, or just a shoulder to cry on when the going gets tough.
It’s a long, slow road to religion and there are many bumps and humps along the way. You’ll make mistakes, come across things you have no idea about and so on but if you have someone/somewhere to turn to, you’ll do just great.
Someone I was teaching to read Hebrew took many years to learn and I must confess learning with her helped me remedy the many mistakes I make when I read. I have enjoyed all the people I have learnt with as we have learnt from each other. Hook uo with someone from Aish Hatorah – it’s a greta place to start and the social is awesome!
Please don’t be intimidated. I have been religious all my life and you would not believe the mistakes I make every day!!. We all do, if we’re honest. I respect you for the decision you have made. Not an easy one. People like myself take our religious upbringing for granted and you are working hard towards it. Your reward in the Holy Next World will surely be greater than many of us
The journey of discovery is beautiful. Enjoy it every day.
Yoshi, whilst I have no idea of where anything on this subject is written in seforim I am rather stunned at the post itself.
One gives respect to anyone older than oneself and in fact one gives respect to everyone. Respect is based on polite civil behaviour.
Asking what is the punishment for disrepecting a step-parent – the punishment is seeing the distress caused to the biological parent and the family.
Should this question even be asked?. If the question needs to be asked – I am sorry for the situation that caused it to arise.
I Can Only Try – nope. Its actually easy when you know the answer !!!
YW Moderator – you write that sometimes you edit for spelling and clarity.
Not very often I see !!!!!!!!!!
Whoever makes it, tells it not.
Whoever takes it, knows it not.
Whoever knows it, wants it not.
What is it?
Yanky55 – no, you do not let shmitta esrogim rot and discard them. There are complicated halochos with esrogim as opoose to other Israelie produce
Don’t paskan on shmitta if you don’t know what you’re talking about. As I said above, to Jfem02 call a Rov / Dayan.
When you’ve done that then come back and tell me he said to let a sahmitta Esrog from Israel rot and then discard it
PS don’t use the word ridiculous on something you know nothing about.
Rabbiofberlin – are you reading the same words as I typed? Are they in clear and concise English?
Did I use the words apikoros or Rosho? Did I say anything about being scared of asking questions?
I just warned against going down the road of getting too personal against G’doilim, Rebbes and Tzadikim past and present – as in naming anyone in particular.
I have no intention of getting involved in this discussion and merely gave words of warning out of respect to those on a higher madregah to you, me and everyone on this site.
I think an apology is due here. You were way out of order in your response to me
Please boys and girls don’t in any way allow this thread to go down the road of anything whatsoever personal against, or even in the direction of, G’dolei Yisroel, Rebbes and Tzadikim past and present.
Don’t go there.
I woke up this morning feeling like a teen
Looked in the mirror and saw a Has Been
Right out of bed, all a mess
Just you wait till I get dressed
Slapped on the makeup, pulled out a grey hair
Decided I now looked ok and fair
Not too old, not too young
All geared up for my morning run
Watched the old folk running by
Picked up a hand to wave them a Hi
Got back home, feeling half dead
Collaped in a heap into my bed
So the question remains how old am I?
The answer changes as the day goes by
I start off mentally feeling a teen
Finish the day as washed up Has Been
I’d like to believe I’m as old as I behave
Excluding the mornings after a rave
I’d like to think I’m young at heart
Keeping it that way will be quite an art
I’ll leave you all with a question or two
Is age really relevant to any of you?
Do you feel young at heart, body and soul?
or is that your aim to achieve goal?
A psychologist would have a field-day reading these replies!!
You start doing the moderator’s job!!
How many times have I recently asked for threads to be closed or warnings put up!!!
I need to get a life!
Jfem02 as I said I am not sure of all the halachos regarding shmitta but I do know there are guidlines to follow. Ask your Rav, don’t listen to the advice of some of the idiots here !!!
Teenager, Don’t think that because these guys are dressed chassidish they are. Genuine Chassidim would not, ever, ever ask a young girl or any female for a ride, let alone comment on her driving. The chassishe guy who made that comment to you was possibly trying to flirt with you and was possibly waiting for your retort to start a conversation. I hope I am very, very wrong here. Before you all have a go at me, note I said possibly, twice and i also said I hoped I was wrong.
Don’t ever, ever drive a chassidishe guy somewhere alone in your car – this is not natural – are you mad or what?
You need to be more wary, less trusting (unfortunately) and be more on your guard to personal safety.
I am sad to be writing this but I am like an owl, old and wise!
Two Rabbis are stranded on a desert island. 24 hours later they have three different opinions on……………………………………………………..everything!!
Jokes aside, as with everything, everyone must go to the Rov they feel comfortable with. Some people will specially go a specific Rov knowing he is lenient in an area they want him to be. Good luck to them.
100 posts down the line we’ll get nowhere. Those who say they are allowed to wear slits, on, below or above the knee for all I care, will continue to quote Rabbonim from here to kingdom come.
Tzippi, it’s not only the knee – a slit at the back anywhere near the knee rides abve the knee. So it’s not just about sitting, but standing, walking etc.
But to be honest- leave me out of the argument. Let everyone do what they think is right, I’m really not bothered. It’s their problem at the end of the day.
SJSinNYC I did not say anything about sliys being Osur. I said…. If someone needs an excuse to wear slits…..This was meant rhetorical. There was nothing personal said in my post and there is no need to jump back on the defense.
Everyone should wear what they want.
I will reiterate that if you take two identical outfits and put them on two different people and the image projected by both women will be totally different.
kitzur_dot_net you’re talking rubbish. Many international airlines will show a cheaper fare if booked online. The idea is that with more people booking online this will reduce the airline’s overheads in keeping a reservation office/staff. Furthermore, many good deals and last minute deals can be found online which unfortunately a travel agent with the best will in the world simply cannot beat. So,it’s not a matter of “Proceed at your own risk”
One of the only times it is worthwhile to book via a travel agent is when looking for consolidated fare to Israel (where some agents have special deals negotiated direct with the airlines) or if a journey has more than one stopover and or multiple airlines are being used for the journey.
SJSinNYC if you contact the Chinese Consulate/Embassy where you live they will give you an approved list of agents to use for local travel within China. Please remember Visas are required and some remote places require you to travel with an official guide. Please note the correct seasons to travel (weather) and check if you need innoculations.
I see this thread has been re-opened. Can we for the sake of the many people who have been referred to in this thread drop it / close the subject.
Enough has been said, mud has been slung, tears (no doubt) shed. There is no point to re-open this subject other than for negativities.
Typical, here we go again fighting men versus the women.
Do you think the time will come when we will all agree on one subject – don’t bother answering!
Tznius comes from within. Two people can wear the same clothing but it looks totally different on both. This is due to how both women project themselves.
If someone needs an excuse to wear a slit e.e the skirt is too long to walk comfortably they know jolly well they should shorten the skirt but they opt not to because they want to wear what they want.
Sometimes a longer skirt can be less tzniusdik than a shorter skirt – again depends on the wearer
There is no problem to dress trendy, fashionable or modern – use whatever words you want but tznius is another matter. It should come naturally.
Any female can becomne a woman. Not everyone can be a lady.
I have concerns that this thread will turn up some apikorsus. Even the name Charles R Darwin is stupid for this Yeshivish website.
Please be careful what you write here. There are many people who log on and read the threads and may not be as frum or learned or mature as the next person and may interpret a post in a different way to how the writer wanted.
Just a polite word of warning from a Nobody…..
My name says what I am. Nobody. Just someone who minds his own business and gets on with life, happy to be a nobody that no-one else would give a second look at.
Ditto to what Oomis1105 has just said. Just to add, a person should be frum in the right places at the right time
If the esrog came from Israel because of shmita it needs to be returned to Israel. This is usually done by returning it to the place where you purchased it. I am not sure of the halachic issues here but a Rabbi will help you out. This is what we were told to do with our Israelie origin Esrogim
Or, totally stud the esrog with cloves and keep as Bisomim.
This question is relative to where the woman lives and who she is.
Some woman drive to get from A to B and as part of their day to day living. Some woman drive about in their cars just to be seen. Some woman drive l’shem mitzva i.e bikur choilim.
Pashuteh Yid, keep your silly comments to yourself!!! driving behind a guy who has his cell in one hand and a cigarette in the other, drinking a coffe at the same time is so common, you just don’t see it. It’s also illegal and dangerous.
Every woman who drives I am sure is doing so with the approval of her husband and local minhag and that’s all that matters
I once drove 2 1/2 hours at night out of state just to wish someone mazal tov. This was financially and time wise a great strain and I did not harbour any ill feelings that I was not invited to the whole wedding or that I could not hitch a ride and I would never, ever have accepted payment for the trip.
I went at great expense because I really wanted to and I wanted to do so personally. I took a flask of coffee and some danishes for the ride there and back and to this day I am still warmly thanked by the family.
We have had many family weddings all over the world and some of us travel and some don’t or can’t. I would be horrified at having to pay someone to come to one of my simchas. Weddings will always have their own simcha and freichlichkeit whether it is with local guys and girls or just a few out of towners.
Krunch, what an appalling post – you expect to be compensated…. Good heavens! please just stay away if you feel that way. I agree with the many replies here, it’s a simcha for goodness sakes, you participate because you want to not because, and only if, you get your expenses paid.
We all have simchas, in town, out of town and beyond our ability or finacial capacity to attend so we don’t. We send a card or call and send best wishes.
With your attitude, I wouldn’t want you as a friend at my simchas
150 replies down the line, you’ll still be getting every known and obscure remedy.
Everybody’s body is made up differently and no two remedies work alike.
If you’re suffering nausea for whatever reason, and you do not state why, please seek the advise of a physician. This is not the best or safest place to get medical advise.
Good luck and be well. refuah Shelaimah
I hope the moderators will close this thread as I would be concerned if anyone started following the advice that is bound to follow
Mamashtakah, no disprespect but The Shomron??? This is not usually the first choice for those wishing to live in EY and I was referrng to the main cities / localities such as Eilad, Ashdod, parts of Yerushalayim, Petach Tikva, Bayit Vegan, etc. I know several people who have come back to the States because financially they cannot afford to live any longer in EY.
You need to bear in mind that the job you had back in the US may have paid well but in EY they pay peanuts for most jobs. This applies to the bi-lingual jobs as well. The standard of living has risen and not in line with salaries.
I travel regularly to EY and from trip to trip I have noticed the price differential. It is harder for those living there than it was say a couple of years ago and the tourist industry has also been affected which has a knock on affect for the locals living there (employment etc)
In an ideal world, which unfortunately it’s not, I would love to emigrate but I am also a realist. However I do want to be buried there. Oh my,now I’ve gone all morbid
Teenager, You may not see what I see in you because your self esteem and trust has been hit. But what I read between the lines is sufficient for me to make that statement.
With regards to the past. You are right. It will always be there because you cannot take away what has been done. But you can elevate yourself to the point whereby hey! it doesn’t matter anymore because you have risen to the stage where the past no longer influences your decisions for today or tomorrow. It’s not easy. It takes time. But at your age you have so much time. There is a saying “Time is a great healer” That does not mean you forget but that time makes coping so much easier.
Don’t worry about others right now,just worry about yourself, you have plenty of years ahead of you to worry about others.
I am as my name says, Nobody from Nowheresville but if I can see your potential believe me so can others. Be well and be happy.
It’s all very well to say you want to move to Eretz Yisroel but nowadays you need plenty of shekels and dollars! the rents are astronomical and the landlords take advantage of all the Americans coming as they think we’re all millionaires!
Please note that Israelie tax laws state that tax is taken based on total income whether that kept in Israel, the US or on the moon! You can’t just up yourself and declare the income you have in Israel. They take into account all out of Israel assets. Chutzpah I know, and this puts a lot of people off who would love to retire in Israel.
As for young couples, it’s all very well to go and live in EY for a couple of years but who’s going to pay for it? It’ll be on the cheshbon of the parents and it’s so unfair. Ditto for the young families with a couple of kids.
Even the kollel families living now in EY. They could not survive without the help direct or otherwise from families and other organisations outside of EY.
So whilst you may think it great to go and live in EY Hakodesh get real as well.
More than 150 posts later and the words go on and on.
Teenager, you will find peace and contentment. Not everyone is happy in life. Some people are just content with life and that suffices for them. But you will find both, due to your trials and tribulations you have experienced so far and how you have made such an about turn.
Just continue day by day and say each morning to yourself ” yesterday is the past, today is the start of a bright new day and tomorrow will be even better” Look forward to each day and hold on to one good thing that happens during the day and treasure it, even if it just the sun shining, or someone smiling at you.
There are many teenagers who are a magnet to other people with issues, just as you say. So it is up to you to set them an example of how good, better and best can really become the very best! You are well on the way to becoming a mature, fine adult and an example to others. Go girl!
Gitty, as I have said before there is no point in trying to argue with you as you seem to continuously come back with the I know it all and have been there, done that and got the ‘T’ shirt attitude. The fact that you need to continuously stress over and over again how happy and free you are makes me wonder if ‘Thou doth protest too much”
Teenager, unfortunately throughout life you will meet the good people and the bad. The honest and the dishonest and those will amaze you or totally stagger you It’ll be up to you to make the wise choice who to follow, who to listen to and who to ignore.
We have all come across those who have disapointed us but that doesn’t mean we just give up and go off elsewhere. No. What it shows us is that there are weaker people and stronger people and these episodes in life are a way to show us how to be stronger as people, as individuals.
You say you are back on track but I ‘see’ in your posts that you still have some disillusionment. Please, perk up and in time you will see clearer. I know I’ve said it before and I must sound like I’m ancient but maturity comes with living life and living life gives us the hindsight to see how we could have done things differently, but to our benefit.
Gitty, there is very little I can say to you. I am sorry you feel being frum is such a burden to your otherwise fabulous life. But we make of life what we want to. If you want to see things negatively, that’s your choice. If you see being frum as such a negative that is your choice.
We all have choice and the wise man is he who chooses the right path. It takes a wise man to know which is the right path and a fool to take the easy one.