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Gateway to Happiness by Zelig Pliskin
a classic- for good reason, very recommended!
InsideOutside by Gila Manolson (i think)
an amazing, (and blunter than most) tznius sefer
and- if i may reiterate, in my opinion what we teenage girls need is role models in tznius! we are so thirsty for good role models, which unfortunatly in many cases are very hard to come by.
i totally see how it could be one thing (regarding going off the derech because of slits) remember how chamets and matzah are so linguistically related but when you look at the ches and the hay-
what is the difference?
a litle line, thats all it takes, to go from matzah to chametz. this makes sense to me. and thats why we have so many fences, and chumros to stay so far away from cases like the slits to going OTD
While tznius is probably the most multi faceted topic, one main reason is to be a fence, or a “siyug latorah”(pirkei avos)
The following is for out of NY driving tests: (hence my username lol)
-everything about trying not to look cool is totally true, as my dad says, drive like a gramma!- seriously, dont drive with one hand, stop completely at a stop sign, go under 25 mph (or, wtvr the speed limit is obviously), and if they ask you to do a K turn make sure to signal, oh, and tears wont help unfortunatly
so- i did all of the above wrong and failed the first time, but the 2nd time thru i drove the complete opposite and the tester (same guy i had before) told me i drove beautifully!! (not to brag or anything… just proving my point)
good luck!
by the way- Inside Outside by Gila Manolson is an excellent book for men and women. it was extremely well written, i couldnt put it down! i highly recommend to all. A few posts ago mentioned about the rebbetzins not covering her knees and being a bad role model, while of course everything we do is 100% our achrayus, and we should not be pointing fingers, i beileve in one exception. i think that bais yaakov teachers who do not cover their knees not only send messages of hypocrisy, but what else are they supposed to ecpect from their students? it irritates me so much to see these really special and inspring women who send conflicting messages to their poor students! we are all thirsty for role models in this area
i heard once that splenda sends a mixed up message to the brain that you are eating something sweet yet not taking in any calories so it confuses your brain into craving something sweet. i totally see this in my life, like if i’ll have a lot of diet soda, and then suddenly crave a candy bar or something. i beileve moderation to everything, and instead of loading up on packets and packets of fake sugar chemicals, i use less sugar!