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Its also important to keep in mind often retail stores are forced to give sales because they are desperate to stay in business and can make very little to no profit on the sale item. He might be struggling to stay afloat to feed his family and support himself. While this might not apply to him and doesn’t mean you have to shop there its something to keep in mind. I also hate when stores do these things but I can also sympathize with the owners.
Most business owners making plenty of profit would honor the price to make the customer happy. The fact that he didn’t probably means he cant afford to and his business is not doing well.
“If it’s subtle and not very noticeable, then again, I ask… how it is any different than wearing makeup on a date?
The Wolf”
Wolf, this is a family program, must keep it tznius. So no one is really going to be able to answer your question. And im pretty sure he meant when it is a significant difference in person.
If you have a twin can you use the shidduch photo of the twin to save time?
Im sure there are people who disagree but its a worth a look anyway.
takahmamash: “Don’t believe everything you read on the internet. Either that, or you misunderstood what you were reading.”
I read that flossing actually doesn’t do much if anything.
I would recommend getting some solid genes prior to being born.
(Im just seeing the title of the thread)
After thousands of years of shidduchim I’m pretty sure we’ve figured out that both boys and girls are equally shallow. Boys want beauty and respect. Girls want status and to feel cherished. Both want money. While girls are equally shallow as boys, some people consider them to be more shallow because they are expected to be less shallow by those same people in society.
I like the question of calling someone WITH smicha “mr” which people do if they are not practicing. What about “Father” can you call someone who is not ordained as a priest “Father”?
Oh, what about someone with conservative or reform smicha?
These are very important questions in our time. Very important.
For some reason I find it embarrassing walking into a gas station wearing a kippa and buying a lottery ticket. Maybe Id be more open to doing it if I could buy one online.
But I still think the “down” feeling after you dont win might outweigh the “up” feeling people get after they initially buy the ticket.
wolf: “For $2, I get to fantasize for a few hours about what I would do if I won. $2 for a few hours entertainment is a pretty good value.”
I agree with you in theory, but can you honestly say after fantasizing for all that time and you dont win there are no negative side effects?
Also, why only a few hours? If you buy the ticket days in advance you can stretch it out for days no?
The real question you have to find out is, being that it would be irresponsible to buy $10-$20 worth of tickets but not $1-$2:
has anyone actually won with only buying 1 ticket?
Spending $1-2 on a ticket is neither bitachon nor hishtadlus.
It can be a good thing if it gives you hope and is productive.
It can be a bad thing if you don’t win and leaves you with a sour taste in your mouth and makes you angry or bitter after even subconsciously.
Make sure its not the later.
“The lottery is a tax on stupid people.”
I recently read a story about a guy who on a hunch bought 10 tickets at a gas station and won over a hundred million even though he usually did not buy. “hey you never know”
“because people make u crazy a whole day to give them money”
Ahhhh, let that be my biggest problem.
“And If people (not the frum olim) knew that there were people who refused to work, spent time studying all day and took government benefits for an indefinite period of time, Do you think the majority of Americans would be in favor of their tax money going to this?”
Do you really think law makers lack the ability to know whats going on? Stop feeling bad for the federal and state government. The system works the way it does, kollel families can choose to use it or not for their benefit so long as they are not breaking the law. There is no smell test. People are expected to feed their families if the law allows for it, its built in to the system.
Trump, a BILLIONAIRE, openly brags about taking advantage of the system legally for his benefit. But I dont see you complaining about him, only poor kollel families. If they are putting pressure and guilt on individuals for support thats one thing, but dont feel bad for the system. Take your gripes to the politicians and law makers not the poor kollel families.
“I agree. And to a large extent, the “smell” says more about the smeller than the doer.”
Yup, its nobody’s business “smelling” what other people are doing with their finances behind the scenes unless they work for such a governmental agency. The government is more than capable of taking care of itself against poor kollel families if it chooses to thank you.
“Probably another 7 years.”
lol
“but who gets to be the arbiter of what wholly legal activities smell good or bad?”
There is only legal and illegal. Smelling does not matter. And a judge determines if it is legal or not in this country.
This thread is getting really off topic and silly, I wonder how much longer its going to last.
“many of these Sephardic Chariedim are so ashamed of where they are from!!! THIS IS NOT FAIR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! CAN THE GEDOLIM OF AMERICA GET INVOLVED AND SAVE THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”
I dont think writing in all caps with a dozens of exclamation marks is going to get the gedolim to read what you have to say more so than if you wrote in lowercase with no exclamation marks.
“Anyway, I think this thread is a pretty good example how we dont take these things literally. “
“newbee,
Perhaps one could say there are different levels of ideal.”
I dont understand how what you quoted is related to what you said after. There can certainly be two ideal things but I dont think there is a way to say this one is more ideal than that.
Thats why I said after talk to your TOM
“strictly based on what was being implied or stated in Pesachim”
Im saying the gemara in pesachim would not view that as ideal. The gemara in pesachim later says that it is a bracha for a talmid chochom non-kohen to “attach themselves” so to speak to the seed of ahron by marrying a bas kohen so they have both torah and kehuna after. So it seems it would be ideal for such a yisroel or levi to marry a bas kohen according to the gem. What that means, take it as you will and how/if this applies today speak to your tom (trusted orthodox mentor). I just wanted to clarify the basic gem.
“he would have agreed in a different era”
Thats my point. Things change in different eras.
“That is still not aggada”
Rabbi Moshe Chaim Luzzatto, the Ramchal, discusses this two-tiered, literal-allegorical mode of transmission of the Aggadah in his well known Discourse on the Haggadot. He explains that the Oral Law, in fact, comprises two components: the legal component (??? ??????), discussing the mitzvot and halakha; and “the secret” component (??? ??????), discussing the deeper teachings. The aggadah, along with the Kabbalah, falls under the latter. The rabbis of the Mishnaic era believed that it would be dangerous to record the deeper teachings in explicit, mishnah-like, medium. Rather, they would be conveyed in a “concealed mode” and via “paradoxes”. (Due to their value, these teachings should not become accessible to those “of bad character” and due to their depth they should not be made available to those “not schooled in the ways of analysis”.) This mode of the transmission was nevertheless based on consistent rules and principles such that those “equipped with the keys” would be able to unlock their meaning; to others they would appear as non-rational or fantastic.
daas, No hard feelings, but that IS aggada. You just admitted its not legalistic and is advice.
“It’s not literal in the sense that it’s a blanket issur, or that there aren’t factors to consider, but it’s a real preference based on what is typical for a talmid chochom.”
typical for a talmud chochom? In what generation? What constitues a talmid chochom? in what country is it typical? But you said it as a blanket statement and you dont know what other factors there are to consider and you dont know how that aggadic statement applies in our current generation living in the year 2016.
Im a male btw msprincess- but yes thats what im saying you are correct. For instance, the gem in pesachim was written during a time when most of the people high up there and in general had impeccable pedigree and the very concept of being a talmid chacham was held to a much higher standard.
I did read meforshim who specifically said we dont take these things literally. Its not because I dont find it PC. So we agree its advice that does not apply today in that way.
All aggada in the gem is advice, stories, messages that were directed to a society that was completely different from ours thousands of years ago. So you have to put the “advice” (your word not mine) in context. Good night, no hard feelings.