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YEAH!!!!!! YENTISH GOT MY JOKE!!!!! THANKS YENTISH!!!!!!
Oh, and Goq, I think they probably got 10,000 or so along with maybe 5,000 bentcher holder thingies. What other kinds of presents do you think people bring to this kind of affair?
Yeah, and forget about chumros like waiting for the new chometz from after Pesach (no lasagna noodles this year, whereas last year they had them and I also can’t buy the ready made graham cracker crusts or the premade pie crusts in the freezer section) and also for us folks who only eat a few of the hechsherim available it’s not always easy to find the stuff. My daughter i still looking for cinnamon raisin bagels like her grandfather z”l used to buy when we would visit the U.S. We started making our own cream cheese last year with pretty good success. I actually found cream cheese with a B’datz Eida Chareidis hechsher recently. It was a little stiffer than what I make (probably don’t let it drain long enough) but for the cost, I’ll deal with a little bit of a looser product.
Actually, as far as lox goes, I heard that there is a store on Beit HaDefus near Gutnik that makes the stuff and all of the other smoked fish products. I was told that you could get lox trimmings for 20 sha”ch a kilo, which is a tremendous price. I’m actually going to be not far from there next week, so maybe I’ll stop over and see what’s available. If it’s true, it would make an awesome lox spread with homemade cc, no?
Skyfall, my question was why it was necessary for you to create an account here in the CR to pull up a thread that had not been posted on for 3 years so that you could tell us your spiel. Whether or not you’re right totally loses significance since no question was posed recently and all discussion was by people who in the vast majority no longer post in the CR (I did see oomis post back there).
Well, I guess she was the only “white thing” around if you don’t count the 50,000 other “white things” in the room. Can you guess what they were?
Mazel Tov!!
Honestly, I think the issue is when the tune is from non-Jewish music and the words that are sung are just lyrics made up by the group. When the lyrics are from pseukim or something inspirational (not something that is just about physical relationships or other things against Torah), then the desire to slide back into non-Jewish music is less. By stopping to listen to all non-Jewish music for a period of time, like kkls45 said, you can usually eventually go back to a middle ground without getting pulled back to the other side again since it no longer has the same emotional connections for you.
IMO, no need for the light rail if you live in Maalot Dafna. The Mir is within walking distance as are most shops. Geulah is a 10 minute bus ride away. There are many American couples/families living in this area so you should be able to make friends if you are the least bit outgoing. The only drawback I can see is the high rent, but if that’s not an issue, then by all means, come to the Yir HaKodesh and may you both grow in ruchniyus while your husband is shteiging in yeshiva. Hatzlacha!
Do you think your parents love you? Do they show you? Do they give you the things you need? If your answers to these questions are yes, then seeing you do things that are not good for you (whether you understand/believe this or not) pains them terribly. Unfortunately there are people out there for whom it is difficult to express their emotions and show love to their close ones. I am sure such a situation would bring them pain as well, but they may not be able to show or express it easily or at all.
I’ll give you a small example. Two boys were playing and one of them ran in the street and was almost hit by a car. Two men were walking close by. One man continued walking and the other ran over and screamed at the boy for several minutes. Why do you think he screamed at the boy? Because he’s his father. A stranger could hardly care less and even an acquaintance would not feel comfortable disciplining the boy. Only his father, out of his tremendous love for the boy, who became so frightened when he saw his son almost killed by the car, chastised his son and made him understand how important it is to be careful near the street and cars.
I hope this story makes it a little clearer. Even if your parents act in an angry way, there is a motivation of love. It may be deep down and there may unfortunately be other emotions within them, but they do love you and it does pain them to see you doing things that will hurt you in the long run.
Hey 42 – that’s what we did last year and are going to do again – the big people who stayed up the whole night plus the big girls, we all made kiddush right after netz daavening and had chopped liver with our challah to satisfy the requirement for a fleishig meal. Then we all got up 6 hours later and had lasagna, quiche, and bagels/lox/cc – a rarity here in EY. Such a fun meal. We’re going to do it again tomorrow, byz”H.
Hey BTGuy – Welcome Back 🙂
Like someone said, glasses are expensive. Once you start buying for a kid the frames that are the style now (black plastic is the style now), then as soon as the style changes (could be a week, a month or a year), then you have to go out and buy a new pair to fit the fashion again. Not a small outlay. If the kid has to wear glasses, get a regular looking pair and update it to something similar only if the prescription changes.
Can you give a little more details about the surgery – was it done laparoscopically? What was your recovery time after the initial surgery – like going back to work (desk job but requires concentration)? What are your restrictions as far as eating? What are the possibilities if you are not losing weight as rapidly as you/doctor would like – I think there is possibility with lap band to make tighter/looser?
One of the most obvious is that Ashkenazim have chuppah outside or at least under the sky (some halls have a special skylight just to be able to have a chuppah inclement weather). Sephardim have the chuppah indoors.
Nanny there are lots of places to get cheap kosher phones – I got a pretty good one for less than $100 and I know there were others for less than that. Monthly service fees are a bit higher I think than for regular plans for some reason, but you should look into the ones from America or EY based that have unlimited calling to chu”l. I know they exist but I don’t know any details.
I think the people who have gone OTD are more apparent because of the background of mainly frum people. In places like Brooklyn, there are large numbers of goyim, so someone who is truly OTD blends more into that group; whereas, in Lakewood (like in religious communities in EY) the backdrop is so heavily skewed to the frum end of the spectrum that they can’t help but stick out more, thus it seems like there are more of them.
Hashem should send them and all of us a yeshua and help them do teshuva m’ahava.
As far as the AFP test, there is a false positive rate associated with this that should be researched. This means that you could get a positive result (meaning your baby is at high risk for a birth defect) when in fact the baby is totally 100% fine. If a person wants to test for these types of birth defects even while not considering ending the pregnancy chas ve’sholom, then the triple or quad screen tests should better be considered due to what I saw was a high rate of false positives with the AFP test alone. In conjunction with other tests more accurate results are possibly obtained. One should do his/her own research and consult the obstetrician before deciding on whether or not to take the test.
I thought of “common denominator”. You know, the same thing in the bottom.
Went for the first time this year. Heard there were problems with transportation at night because of a fire in the area. One of the buses from my neighborhood did not make it up. I went in the afternoon on Sunday. Left a little too late, but was still there in time to get in to the tziun and even saw the lighting of the Toldos Aaron hadlaka. It was really beautiful. TONS of people. It was really packed in the area of the kever. People need to know not to spend time inside. Just saw a few tefillos and go out to let others have the same opportunity. My daughter and I almost got crushed by the people pushing to get in. It takes away a little bit from the specialness of the time there, but being that it is sefirah, have to work on bein odom lechaveiro and dan them lekav zechus. I imagine that they really have tzaros and took the opportunity to daaven on the yahrzeit.
SaysMe – I can do even better than the laundry problem. How about putting in a load of laundry, starting the machine and then realizing within 30 seconds that you forgot to put something in the machine that ABSOLUTELY MUST be clean by the next morning. So you turn off the machine and go do something else during the 2 1/2 minutes that the door stays locked just for security reasons so that you can’t open it while the water is pouring in (and then it goes straight on your laundry room floor, LOL).
But instead, you go to the washing machine the NEXT MORNING to put the next load in, totally forgetting about the thing you really wanted clean, and finding a bunch of REALLY WET clothes in the machine. Then you start to figure out what is wrong with the washing machine and what you’re going to have to do now to get the clothes somewhat drier so that you can put them into the dryer – trying the machine on spin so that it will drain out the water and even start loading some clothes into the dryer once they’ve been spun, and finally coming to the amazing conclusion that the CLOTHES WERE NEVER CLEANED to start with since you never put that all important garment into the washing machine and you NEVER turned the machine back on so all of the clothes in the machine are DIRTY!!!!! UGH
Or else you can just come to EY and get your B&J’s here, since I believe it is C”Y.
While it might be nice to have the lid, it is not always necessary as it should be compatible with the from the bowl that comes with the mixer, but DY is right about trying to find the best deal to get the whole thing at one time, especially if one knows that s/he is going to use primarily the metal bowl due to the use of large amounts of flour to make challah.
I do want to ask Yazmitch a question about the cookie paddles – I have had those in the past and have had problems because the plastic attachment onto the metal piece that goes over the bowl has broken. I’ve had not only one set, but more than one. They’ve not been available here in EY, so I’ve had to order from US and had brought over by a friend/relative who is coming. Sending back is too involved for me to deal with so I have not managed to use the “guarantee”. Are they coming out with newer ones that have metal for the attachment or did I misunderstand your post? They are great for making large batches of cookies – I have done triple batches of chocolate chip cookies before and they are also good for making large batches of brownies since the dough is thicker than the whips can handle and you don’t need the dough hook for such things, so the cookie paddles are a great in-the-middle item. Perfect attachment to buy off the bat if you will be doing baking for simchos or just want to get a lot done before YT.
PBA – GOTCHA!!!!!!
Oomis, first off refuah sheleimah for your knees and your hands and anything else that is aching you.
I have a Bosch – the older model, which I think is terrific. I have a friend who has had one for probably 30 years and she still fixes it and it’s great. I think the best features are that there is the cover which keeps the stuff from spraying out, which the kitchen aid does not have since it mixes from the top. It does have a spill guard or something like that, but cannot prevent stuff from really flying out, which sometimes does happen by me.
The metal bowl is a must for large batches of challah, like on YT, especially with R”H being 3 days this year again and you guys in chutz la’aretz have 3-day YTs with Sukkos and Simchas Torah also.
The nice thing about the Bosch also is that it has many attachments that you can buy separately later on, like a meat grinder, which is good for making chopped liver and even grinding your own meat rather than paying extra for it, like we do over here in EY. I think they also have a food processor attachment for making salads. Mine came with a blender from the start, not sure if the new model does also.
Hope you can save up for a Bosch soon. Nothing like fresh home-baked challah on Shabbos. My kids are not mevater on it NEVER.
Again, Refuah Sheleimah. All the best
The verb niftar (male) is nifterah for a female. The term nifteres refers to the noun form of the word. So if someone was being maspid, they could say “The Nifteres was well known for being a big tzadeikes”.
I’m not sure that I agree. I gave birth in America x3 and in Israel x3. In America I was able to have my sister be there with me. The nurse was basically the only one in the room for the vast majority of the labor and the doctor only came in when I was really ready to deliver. In Israel, there was a midwife and the doctor came in to observe the actual delivery. I had no family who could be with me and my husband was not going to be in the room under any circumstances once things really got going. I did not want him to see me in pain and he couldn’t touch me any way, so what’s the point. I did, however, want someone, who could hold my hand, run and scream for the doctor/nurse or someone to help me when I ran into some problems, etc. A doula knows how to work with the staff in the hospital – you can ask which hospitals the doula has worked with before (if you are taking a frum one versus one that works only with the hospital you are going to). They are also available to help you at home beforehand, which can mean less time spent at the hospital as they will not likely tell you to run there before it appears to be necessary. You can call them when you think things are starting and they can assess the situation even on the phone and give you advice or decide to come over and evaluate more thoroughly.
In short, I strongly recommend doulas no matter what kind of person is going to be delivering your baby. It is in your wife’s best interest (I am assuming Dovid HaMelech is a man).
So then if you didn’t miss counting a whole day (night/day), then you can count with a bracha again tonight. I once heard an eitzah to add counting to your shacharis daavening so that in case you forgot at night, you will be sure to count without a bracha in the morning and can resume counting with a bracha at night without worry.
No shiva during Pesach itself, but it starts right after YT is over and should last the full 7 days, but by now I think it is over.
BD”E. We should only hear besuros tovos.
S18 – I truly hope no impending scandal is in the works. These products all go to that hechsher for years already now since the Eida does not give supervision for Pesach for many different problems (although there are MANY more now than when I first came to this country 20 years ago). I actually try to look on this as a good thing. My bill for Pesach is already sky high. I cannot imagine how much more money I would be spending on the holiday if this were a good, reliable hechsher. My husband suggested speaking to R’ Nochum Yavrov (not English speaking I’d imagine) about different kashrus. He apparently knows a lot. Maybe this will help you.
commonsense – We also used to eat CS from B”B, but a few years ago my husband heard that the quality had gone down and we stopped using it. It is hard because some of the major brands here switch from Badatz Eida HaChardeidis to CS B”B for Pesach, so we have to do without those products during Pesach. Oh well, it’s just a week. I have a friend who does not eat tomatoes since they cannot be peeled (or at least it takes more effort than she wants to invest) so they do without for the week of Pesach and that is her attitude – it’s just a week. Mentos during the year may be a different story for some people. I happen to have a package that my son received as a present – they are made in Holland and have a hechsher from Rabbanut of Holland. Some people, though, do research individual products and find out if they are okay. Maybe Mentos is something like that.
Sam2, that is actually what I meant – pamayim mikra is simply saying the pseukim, not learning meforshim, so this would be problematic, but going to a chumash shiur at night would not, are we saying the same thing?
I’m not sure that it’s an issue of “learning Tanach”, meaning something like taking a shiur on the parsha or the like. I think the issue is with something like pamayim mikra v’pam targum. My husband does his during daylight hours, but he says that it’s OK on Friday night. Not sure what the svara is.
I know orphanges like Kiryat Banot and Kiryat HaYeled exist in Yerushalayim. I have a friend who works for one of them. I could get more info after the chag if you could remind me. I am glad though to see that someone was actually there, so you may not need more info at this point.
AC – Yes, I am aware that we don’t go shopping for a psak or for a Rov who will give us such a psak, but it seems that he wants a yeshiva that will give him piskei halacha, which is not really the job of the yeshiva to do. If he doesn’t want his wife to wear a sheitel, then he should stipulate that when going out on shidduchim. If he doesn’t want his Rov to tell his wife that his own wife wears a sheitel, so it’s OK to wear one, then he should pick a Rov who holds like this for himself.
I had experience with this as far as my husband’s Rov’s wife does not wear a sheitel, but I was not prepared to go without for the rest of my life, but he told my husband (before we closed the shidduch) that his own mother and the Brisker wives (my husband and his Rov are Briskers) all wear sheitels, so it’s OK for me to wear one also. Simply the Rov’s mother-in-law did not wear a sheitel, so her daughter also does not. His daughters also do not, but it is OK for his talmidim’s wives to wear them.
This whole issue of sheitels has not one thing to do with learning in a Brisker yeshiva, as their limudim have to do with korbonos and kodshim, so no learning about sheitels in that yeshiva. This is an issue for a Rov or one’s personal feelings in the matter.
If the bochur wants to learn in Ohr Somaych or Aish HaTorah or any of the other BT yeshivas – BTW – I would not recommend a Belz yeshiva if he thinks a misnaged yeshiva would be more appropriate because they probably want people going there who have some connection to Belz chassidus and will be Belzer chassidim, not simply because of the sheitel issue. I also happen to know a lot of Belzer wives who do, in fact, wear sheitels.
am23 – I think the point is that NOT ONE PERSON in the yeshivos mentioned here or actually anywhere wears a wig. The rabbonim in the yeshivos teach Torah. You have to pick your Rov who is someone you go to for halachic issues. If you are against a woman wearing a wig, then make sure that your Rov holds that way and then you will make sure to find a shidduch with a girl who does not care about wearing a wig. There are plenty of girls, even baalei teshuvah, who do not care about wigs.
Just as an aside, any yeshiva associated with Toldos Aharon is not going to be for a baal teshuvah.
I believe it’s Yiddish
Our Rov told us not to cook kitniyos in our Pesach pots. We had to have a special pot for our baby who needed cereal and all that was available for kitniyos. He said it was okay to use the pot for children but not for adults. Why would you want to cook kitniyos in your Pesach-dig pots?
RT – I think my situation was very similar. I did not say that I “felt nothing”, I said that I “did not feel chemistry”. I was also excited to see this person I was dating. I just took having a commitment with him for me to “feel chemistry”.
C – I had a similar situation before I got engaged in that I did not feel “chemistry” with the man I was dating. We seemed to have a lot in common and similar goals and all that. I wasn’t sure he was “the one”, but it seemed to be. I did make sure that I was not “unattracted” to him, but I did not feel any particular chemistry. He told me to make sure if I had any issues then we should discuss them on our next date. I spoke to someone I’m close to, who told me that it seemed like we were ready to close things. Boy, that came as such a shock, since I hadn’t really realized how far along things were, but looking back, it should have been obvious. Now on our 7th date – which was after about 6 weeks, I realized what he was thinking and he was basically just waiting for me to be on the same page. It gave me a bit of a rush and I realized that I just needed to commit. I did and we got engaged. The next week, when I realized what kind of commitment we had just made to each other, it was such a powerful aphrodisiac as it were that all of the chemistry I hadn’t been feeling came on in a big rush. It felt much better at that point. Probably the fact that we weren’t committed to each other yet had held me back from feeling those feelings, which I probably subconsciously had been keeping myself from feeling out of some fear of rejection and then when I was no longer being rejected, they were able to come to the surface.
Hatzlacha with making your decision.
Mazal Tov!!!!!!!!!!
Yes- 42, it is a delicious dressing. I actually use it on fish – even gefilte fish and bake the Unger’s roll in the oven covered with foil. Yummy!!! If you want a little Mexican taste to the salad, you can add some purple onion, olives, tortilla chips (broken up a bit), even corn, and mix with 42’s dressing. Super yummy!!!
From what I remember, male pattern baldness (and even early graying) is passed from the mother’s side, so it would not matter what the boy’s father’s hair situation is (or is not, whichever the case). Better test is to look at the boy’s maternal grandfather.
Good Seasons makes good salad dressing mixes – you add your own oil/vinegar/water. We love the Italian. I can’t get it here, but I found recipes online for how to make the mix (or an approximation of it). I do not use the whole oil requirement, but split it half water-half oil.
I make sort of a ranch dressing, but it is more diluted. I start with mayo, add dill (dry is fine) and some garlic powder – more dill and less garlic, a very little bit of ketchup and then water it down – I would add the same amount of water as what you already have. I actually use a mayo container that is almost finished and put the spices right inside. When I add the water, I shake it up. I find that it sometimes comes out lump, but if I wait a few hours and shake some more, it is more smooth. You could use a whisk or at least a fork to break up the mayo.
Hellman’s over here has a very tasty garlic dressing. I did not think I would like it, but it is much like what I describe above but without the dill that I add.
I stated making a purple cabbage salad with soy sauce, vinegar, sugar and oil. I put some green onion and carrots in the bowl as well. I saw someone even put Craisins in such a salad. It was probably really yummy.
BTW – My favorite is still ketchup and mayo.
Yeah Toi, you and me both!
I believe the American BY system was started by Reb Viche Kaplan. She was one of the closest of Sara Schnirer’s talmidos. She married R’ Boruch Kaplan (a talmid of R’ Yaakov Yosef Herman of All for the Boss). He learned overseas and eventually a shidduch was made. They came to America and she started a school. A lot of the story is told in one of the books by Rebbetzin Shain, possibly All for the Boss or one of her later ones. The basic BY hashkofo was to adhere to Torah and keep the mitzvos, strengthening a girl’s emuna and bitachon, teaching chumash and novi and even mussar seforim, giving her the tools to build a Jewish home, which the secular world was pulling girls away from right and left. These girls left the BY system understanding the value of a husband who learns Torah.
I believe the differences in hashkofos only came about after there were enough students for individual groups to open their own schools, such as different chassidim and such. They each added their own flavor to the basic BY hashkofos. Many immigrants came to the US before and then after the war, bringing with them the traditions of their home towns, adding even more spice to the melting pot that was America in those days. The seminaries in EY simply reflect those differences.
TCG – Kol HaKovod for not taking state funds when you were in EY, but how did you have Kupat Cholim? Most people get on Bituach Leumi so that they will have health insurance. The fact is that when you register your children for the same coverage, you automatically get the kitzva. Everybody does. Anybody coming now will not get anything more than another person with the same number of children. A person who works pays for his Bituach Leumi – it comes out of his pay. A person who is not working has a standard monthly fee that they pay. What’s the big deal?
WIY – If you’re talking to me, do you know when was the last time I had a Ruben? Around 20+ years ago when I lived in the US. Not available over here for me (probably is for people who eat different hechsherim). I am making corned beef for Purim and am having some cole slaw available. I hope to make some kind of semblance of a Ruben – I still remember it was soooo yummy.
I think a tuna baguette is great to get in a bakery here, especially if you’re on a diet, but unfortunately it is sooooo full of mayo, it totally ruins the dietetic quality. There is a very low cal mayo here that I never even saw in US. It’s pretty good as far as I’m concerned, but pretty expensive, so no stores use it.
Don’t you have any favorite foods? (Don’t mean to take the threat off topic.)
I have two options, can’t decides – either a Ruben – corned beef with mustard and cole slaw and pickle on rye, or a tuna in a baguette with lettuce, pickles, tomatoes, and cucumbers (don’t kill the tuna with too much mayo, but it has to be enough so that the bread is not dry, so use diet mayo) Those are for sure my favorite sandwiches.
Did you get tested for strep throat? If you were experiencing a lot of stress, that means that your resistance was probably lower than normal and you could have been susceptible to illness. I know that with my kids, if they complain of an upset stomach but do not seem to be sick with the stomach flu, then I think of strep. For some reason it seems that whatever is in the throat drains into the stomach and causes them an upset stomach. Worth it to get checked out by your ped.
Personalized negel vasser cup/bowl set
Tzitzis with name/picture
These are items that I know are available in US. Only starting to see these things here in EY