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In EY the newest thing in the big supermarkets, like Osher Ad, Shaarei Revacha and Yeish, are the handheld barcode scanners. Basically you get a cart that has a scanner holder next to the bar to push the cart, and as you go through the store you take your items, scan them with your scanner, and when you’re finished you put the information from your scanner into a checkout computer, pay, and go home. Bagging is up to you. Some people bag it all at the end, but a very smart woman I saw had the large heavy duty shopping bags all open in her cart, and as she scanned her items, she put them straight into the bags, making her job super fast at the end.
Now I have one issue, in Osher Ad, there is one catch. You have to take your cart to a special station and weigh it when you’re finished. There is a bar code on the cart, which records the weight of the empty cart, and the difference is the weight of the products you purchased. I imagine that this is their way of trying to prevent people from taking things that they did not scan (hopefully unintentionally), but I found that due to the fact that there is only one of these scales (maybe 2) in the whole giant store, the line for this process is longer than the lines for having a regular clerk ring up your order. This defeats the whole purpose of using the scanner. I also found it a little insulting that they seem to be not willing to trust that people are honest and will scan everything they put into their carts. Oh well, I just did not use a scanner when I shopped in that store, but everywhere else, I’m happy to use them when they’re available as they simply save a lot of time.
From what I’ve seen, the attachment is a totally separate device, does not require the use of the mixer bowl or the device that mixes dough for break or cake or anything similar. It seems that it is just the engine of the mixer that is being used to turn the grinding device in the meat grinder. If this is all true, then I see no reason why the entire mixer itself would become fleishig, as it has absolutely no contact with meat.
I would be interested to know who says that a product with a Rabbanut hechsher on it is makpid on yoshon. As far as I have always know, only Badatz and possibly the mehadrin hechsherim like Shearis and Rubin, are makpid to give their hechsher only on a yoshon product.
Products that are yoshon in chutz la’aretz have a notation about that status near the hechsher. There is a Rav Herman, who was recently niftar, who created a whole guide on products and when they would become chodosh, investigating thousands of products to find out their status and putting out a guide for those interested parties, free of charge.
A Rabbanut of Israel stamp on a product produced in chutz la’aretz has no more assurance of its chodosh/yoshon status than the original hechsher. A prime example would be granola bars from Nature Valley sold here in EY. You would have to refer to the chodosh guide to find out when those products began using chodosh products in order to know whether they are still yoshon.
If anybody has conflicting information on what I have written, please advise.
I got a similar psak as anIsraeliyid regarding keeping wine. I received a bottle of heter mechirah wine many years back and our Rav told us that we cannot spill it and must keep it, basically as a yerusha for our children. It is on a shelf in my closet.
GHD, just a word of caution about tennis and seniors. Make sure you are not overweight and try to play doubles rather than singles. The pressure and jarring on your knees from running back and forth on the court can aggravate or even cause arthritis, and even in hips. If you feel pain in these joints, sit down, rest, put some ice, take an anti-inflammatory and see if it goes away. If it does not, then tennis may not be a good sport for you. Better to try cycling, swimming, or rowing, as these are sports that do not involve impact-loading and are kinder to your weightbearing joints.
You also have to decide if you would rely on the heter mechirah under which some of those grapes were harvested by Jews during shmittah. That is a huge shaila to ask your LOR. The question of how much you can pay for these wines, Otzar Beis Din as well, can come into play.
Thank you for bringing up this important issue. Kedushas shviis is part of the fruit/vegetable regardless of where you are.
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ZD – I think either you need to wear a big or learn to eat over your plate. I don’t know too many grown men who have such problems keeping their shirts clean. My sons certainly don’t.
I believe that Mitsykins said it best and most accurately. This is the primary reason that I’ve always heard.
I’ve had two different kinds of electric kettles (known as a koomkoom here in EY). One has the place for the plug to insert right into the body of the kettle. The second has a separate piece that plugs into the wall, so there is only a small piece that attaches the heating element to the place that provides the electricity. I prefer this second type, but I have toiveled all types, waited a full week, preferably with the lid off so it can thoroughly dry.
My question right now is why is it the measles vaccine that has everybody up in arms (I vaccinated all of my children as close to the schedules that existed at the time and added what I felt to be necessary ones out of pocket). It used to be that one could get the vaccine for mumps and rubella separately and nobody seemed to be against getting those vaccines, apparently because of the potentially dangerous consequences of getting sick with those illness. There was actually an outbreak of mumps in EY back around 10 years ago and I was petrified when my vaccinated son, who was 10 at the time, got sick. I was so worried about the sterility issues, which I knew nothing about, but B”H, was told he was too young for it to be an issue. but what if he had been a couple of years older or an early developer? Rubella is almost not heard of and nobody is running to try to get exposed to that illness, particularly not women in their first trimester from what I understand. And what about polio? The fear that people experienced when polio was going around was immense. Are anti-vaxxers against these vaccines as well? I still remember getting the small pox vaccine when I was a kid. Nobody has heard of that illness any more. We live in a different time from when these illnesses were rampant and there was no protection available. I wonder what they would do if they lived back then or when vaccines were just becoming available.
Haimy, so does that mean you leave your not-yet school-age children unvaccinated, running the risk of bringing the disease into your house? I hope there is no one in your home who is at risk due to low-immunity, a newborn, etc. Why not just vaccinate them in accordance with the recommended time for the vaccinations or at least at somewhat of a delay if you are concerned about the young age they are started? I know that in the gan where my daughter works, all the 3yo girls were being brought in to the local clinic to receive their second dose of the MMR vaccine in this latest outbreak. That means that these girls had already received their first dose about two years ago and now they are receiving their second, which means they are basically protected for life. Waiting until school age leaves your child at risk during those years.
I just had a thought I wanted to throw out to the oilem.
Reshaim presumably do not only do aveiros, but may also in fact do some mitzvos. I would think that HKB”H may be creating these people for the mitzvos they will do, so that He can give them reward, and hopes that they will do teshuva for their aveiros and stop doing them.
JB2 – Halachos of the 3 weeks are different than those of the 9 days. During the 3 weeks (until Rosh Chodesh Av), you can sew and fix things, so you can take your pants to a tailor.
But, if they are your only pants, my question would be what will you wear while he is fixing them?
Sheefis would probably be your desires/ambitions – שאיפות
Not sure what the second would be, but veiss means to know, so some conjugation associated with that.
I don’t know what you heard, but I think that the connotation is that it depends on where the bandana sits on the head. A lot of the younger women do not pay enough attention and it slips down and exposes hair above the forehead and unless they are very careful, behind the ears the hair can also be exposed. I don’t think that there is a concept that someone who covers their hair with a shaitel is more shtark than someone who wears a different type of hair covering, but it depends on how careful the person who wears it is. A shaitel does have the advantage of covering places completely, like behind the ears, etc., so there are no concerns about that area. I think that if some women realized how much of their hair was showing when they wear various head coverings, they might regret going around with so much showing. I know I would.
Just a side note to the comment about getting benefits when making aliya. It is not true that all people who make aliya get benefits. if you live in the country for too long (like the children born in Israel to non-Israeli citizens who make aliya later on in life) are not entitled to most of the benefit package that you get when making aliya. Contact an aliya specialist (like Nefesh B’Nefesh) before making plans based on assuming you will be getting benefits.
People usually save going to the Kosel for when they have closed the shidduch, to give thanks to HKB”H for finding their zivug. Not a place I would suggest going on a first date, or even second or third, for that reason.
What you’re asking for is an oxymoron, there is no chareidi cheder worth its salt that would dream to eventually lead to bagrut. Please clarify what you’re looking for, or bagrut or chareidi.
Just a note, if you search on the State Department’s website for embassy and consulates and you ask for it to show you what is in Israel, only the Tel Aviv location comes up. They have a separate line a few rows later for Jerusalem.
Thanks GH, but it’s been less than a year since Bank Leumi stopped giving dollars at their machines. Euros is not an issue, but of no help.
Toi, can you be more specific? Is it a particular machine at that location? It used to be that Bank Leumi machines would allow withdrawals in US dollars, but that stopped at least 6 months ago, and we have not found any machines that permit withdrawals in dollars anywhere in EY at this point. If you know of something, please let me know.
My husband told me at one point that it’s not so much an issue of the schechita itself, where the Sefardi schochtim may be terrific and machmir on every chumra, both of the Ashkenazim and Sefardim, but something in the kashering process is different relative to when or how the salting is done. Can anyone fill in my blanks?
Usually 972 numbers are written like this 97225123456 or 972533121212. The way you dial when you are in EY is like this. Drop the 972, like was said above, and add a 0 at the beginning. In my examples, the first is to a number in Yerushalayim, so it will look like this 02-5123456. 02 is the city code for Yerushalayim. The second example is a cell phone number and it will look like this 053-3121212. Make sense?
LB – Can you explain your question? “What’s the difference between the Wolf’s question and a woman asking if she can wear a shell under a sleeveless dress (that besides lacking sleeves is otherwise tznius)?”
No one suggests to wear the sleeveless shell alone, so I don’t get what you’re asking?
Wolf, in answer to your question, I do not think there is a “din” regarding this. Some extremely cautious people who are suspicious of everything they do in life might not want to use recipes with treif ingredients in them and convert them to kosher, but the average Yid would probably not have an issue with this. I just made a wonderful beef/broccoli/vegetable dish this past erev Shabbos that originally called for bison steak in the recipe.
I mean, really, if a recipe is by a goy and they call for beef, are you obligated to use treif meat in that recipe? I doubt it, so I just extrapolate and use whatever kosher meat or chicken I feel is appropriate in a recipe. I do, however, have a hard time looking at various seafood recipes and pictures showing that food, but I think that is just a personal thing.
Bon Appetite!!!
My husband told me that R’ Aaron Kotler wore two kippas all the time, a smaller one underneath a larger one. That’s what he has been doing for years now.
I asked our Rov when to tell our parents when I was expecting my first. He said right away, to give them some nachas. I agree about not wanting them to be worried about fertility issues (can totally understand DaMoshe also). When my daughter was not coping well with the nausea is when she and her husband told me (on strict secrecy from anybody else).
Fingernail, I hope I am wrong, but you sound like you are in much pain. If I am not wrong, then I wish I could do more to help ease that pain, but the only thing I can do is find someone to whom you can talk (probably a professional) and who can help guide you through your pain to reconnect to the people around you so that you can step into the light and enjoy living.
In EY, Ashkenazi pronunciation of the kamatz is more of an Oh or sound, not oi like a cholom. The patach is what has the Ah sound. It does not matter if it is for the name of a person or the place (EY).
The Sefardim have no significant difference in the pronunciation of the patach and the kamatz, both sound like an Ah.
In America, many people pronounce these vowels like Sefardim.
WB Toi, what prompted this very welcome visit by a veteran CR member?
I think you did fine. You’re not allowed to waste their time by asking frivolous questions when you have no intention whatsoever to buy anything. You made it clear from the start and he told you that you were not, in fact, wasting his time. I think your LOR will agree with this assessment. Not sure what his other questions at the end had to do with (maybe he thought he would ask you for a date), but if you were in a hurry and left politely, then no chance of chilul Hashem on that score either.
Don’t hesitate to say no to a smoker and tell shadchanim that you do not want to be set up with smokers. When my daughter’s husband was suggested for her, I forgot to mention this very important issue to the shadchan. Suddenly, after we had already invested more than a week looking into his qualities, and the other side had already said okay, my daughter reminded me that I needed to find this out. I immediately called the shadchan and asked her, at which point she called the other side and was told, B”H, that no, he does not smoke, a very unusual case in his yeshiva. So obviously, since they’re already married (and have 2 beautiful children) the shidduch went forward, but we would have had no hesitation to stop it had we found out that he smoked. It is a habit that can come back to a person and even for the person above who said that they know of someone who now no longer likes it when others smoke since he quit when his wife got pregnant, he can very easily start again if triggers in his life arise, stress being one of them. I hope that he does not, but it is much easier if a person never starts.
BTW, don’t overguess HKB”H. He knows what is good for you. Have your priorities right and some patience and the right one will come your way. Just daaven for the clarity to see that it is him through all the mist that exists in our times. Hatzlacha!!!
Would depend on what is ikar (the important part) and the tofel (not important part). Are you eating it for the candy in the middle or the cookie on the outside? Nobody is going to eat tempura dough just plain, so it is obvious that the vegetables inside of the dough are the ikar, hence the name reflecting their importance.
But give me a good name if you combine something like Snickers (obviously a cholov yisroel version) and chocolate chip cookie. What do you call it?
P.S. I saw a picture of an Oreo wrapped in a chocolate cookie. That is some invention.
But please, let’s not discuss this too much as I am going to a weight loss group tonight and it’s too hard with all of these yummy treats being suggested.
A recent Mishpacha magazine had their cover page article about this issue. Perhaps you can find a friend who has the back issue. If I can find mine, I will bli neder look at the article and see if I can summarize it, but it won’t be until after Shabbos.
My son was just asking me if I had heard about this topic. I told him that I’m of two minds on the whole issue.
Mammele, I’m not sure how old you are, but that daughter is now 21, a mother of her own 2 pitzkelach, ka’h. You may be right. Even though she was born in US, the initial blood work was done in EY, so it could be that the doctors here did not check for those levels routinely, but you can bet that I did not necessarily have that blood work with me when I came to US to give birth. It was, however, a relief to know that I was not going to have future issues if my kids ever were sick with the chicken pox.
When I grew up,there was no vaccine. My mother tried very hard to expose me to friends who were sick so that I, too, would just get it over with. Unfortunately it never seemed to work. It wasn’t until i was 25 that I came down with a strange virus with a few blister-like lesions, but only one had any kind of liquid inside, and even though the doctor tried to get a sample, it was never confirmed to be chicken pox. Fast forward 7 years later and I was expecting my first, in my 9th month, and somehow got exposed to chicken pox. Being that we did not know for sure whether I had it or not, I ended up having a blood test to see what my immunity was. If I was not immune, I had only 96 hours to get a gamma globulin shot to help prevent me from getting sick and hopefully give me some immunity and also for my baby. It is at this late stage of pregnancy, with delivery imminent, that chicken pox can be very dangerous for the fetus. I do not believe that it is a problem in the earlier stages of pregnancy. Anyway, B”H, I was actually immune and did not need to get the extra shot (thanks for one less needle stick, yeah!).
In later years, I did give my kids the chicken pox vaccine (for older ones it was optional and for the younger ones it became part of the package). I did have two kids who ended up getting sick with it in any event, as it is only approximately 70% effective (at least in those days that was the number I heard), but it is supposed to make the illness less serious if the child does actually get sick. Fortunately no one else has gotten sick.
Just as a side note, When I had just gotten over my virus, we heard a tragic story of a 26 year old woman, a mother of 2, who died from the chicken pox that she got from one of her kids. Very scary. It is not a joke when an adult gets sick with a “childhood” illness.
LB – Why would a woman be wearing a wig before she is married? For medical reasons I would assume. Sometimes this would cause her to feel uncomfortable about the whole issue, but I would imagine that once she gets married and has a spiritual reason to be wearing a wig (sheitel is just the Yiddish word for wig), then she would feel proud to be fulfilling the mitzvah and not feel uncomfortable about her medical issue any longer.
I heard a story of a married woman who refused to cover her hair until she became sick and had to take chemotherapy and ended up losing her hair and started covering her head and continued on after she became better. Sometimes good things come out of difficult situations like this.
If you’re going to be putting a laptop on the table (whatever kind you get) make sure that you do not plan on typing extensively at a level higher than where your hands come with your elbows bend 90 degrees with your arms at your side. Computer tables have that place for the keyboard built in and I hook up a keyboard to my laptop no matter what just for ergonomics. I think that is the bottom line of what type of table to buy. Check the height of the table you plan to buy and also make sure to have a chair that is appropriate for your work space. What are the different features of a desk versus a dining table that you are comparing? The ones I mentioned are, in my opinion, just as important as the type of material they are made out of it. It’s not like you plan to put things that weigh a ton (literally) on the table, so the quality of the materials in a regular desk should be sufficient for an average person’s needs.
In response to comment by “the plumber” about checking the frig, I just wanted to add to check the oven. Many years ago I bought my son a pair of sandals and he wore them maybe two or three times. I went to look for them the next day and “poof”, no more sandals. I looked EVERYWHERE. He had to have shoes to go to gan, so I was really stuck. I ended up going out later that day and buying him a new pair. The following week I opened the lower oven to put lunch in and VOILA! two sandals on the try. I guess he or his sister was playing mommy making lunch and decided that his sandals were the yummiest option available, LOL!!!
Go for counseling, even without your wife. Perhaps you can get advice on how to improve things to the point that she would also be willing to go. If you give the image that you are simply suffering through the marriage, then you have no hope of bringing closeness between the two of you.
AviK, I think it has been a long time since you were in EY. Ever since the Gulf War, which was just before you were living in Gilo, according to your post, apartments have been built with sealed rooms and individual heating units. Ramat Shlomo, which was started around that time is the prime example. There is no longer any building since that time, at least here in Y-m area, that is built according to the technical details that you mention. They lay water pipes through the whole apartment before they put in the floors and hook them up to heating devices in each room, which connects to the main unit that is controlled ONLY by the person living in the apartment.
As far as air conditioning, again, it has been a long time since you were here. Back in those days (I’m here for 24+ years now), Y-m was a much cooler city and yes, you did not need air conditioning back then. Now it is just as hot as many other places, though not as humid. For example, we have days and weeks of 30+ weather, when 33 is not uncommon. That translates to around 90 degrees for people who speak in Fahrenheit. I would not want to just have a fan in 90-degree weather. Maybe it depends on how many batteries you have or how much you get allowed from your local generator, but perhaps you could have one room unit on that kind of electrical supply on Shabbos so that you do not melt.
I have a 15.6 inch, but I use it as a desktop and prefer to have a separate keyboard, as I can put it on my computer table at the right height for typing so as not to damage my shoulders, elbows, wrists, etc. I have the keyboard on the pull-out for keyboards on my computer table. It’s not a good idea to be doing a lot of typing or mousing on a table of regular height. I also have a separate mouse hooked up and, in addition I even hooked up a separate monitor, so I can see things as big as I like. I have it set up as one long screen, but I basically use the separate monitor.
As far as SSD and regular HDs, you can get a relatively small SSD – 125 GB or 250 and have all other memory be external. This is sometimes useful if the computer crashes and you have to send it in to the shop; at least you have all of your main files stored on external memory and can easily access it on a rental or loaner computer.
GL figuring out the details.
I agree with apushtayid, but I would add this:
“When they are told he is the creme de la creme of his yeshiva, the gaonis to be the next rosh yeshiva, with middos that make him a shoo in as the next mashgiach, and he turns out to be a boor, a bore, smells like a boar, dresses like a slob, has the middos of a racoon and is a self absorbed baby,” and then has the nerve to say no after a single 90-minute date and gives no real reason other than perhaps there was no chemistry, then the girl feels that she has the right to complain. Wouldn’t you?
Joseph, don’t worry. There are beaches here that have the haskama of rabbonim. Your psak does not add anything. Going to the beach is one of the pleasures of the summer. I did invest in tznius bathing suits for me and my daughters as an extra.
There are beaches in Haifa, Ashdod, Bat Yam, Rishon Letzion, Herzliya, and Netanya. If there are not two separate sides, which I think Netanya has as well as the one on the Kinneret in Tivera, then it is usually like this
Men – Sunday morning, Monday afternoon, Tuesday morning, Wednesday afternoon, Thursday morning and Friday morning.
Women – Sunday afternoon, Monday morning, Tuesday afternoon, WEdnesday morning, and Thursday afternoon.
There are companies that will drive you to the beach from Yerushalayim (maybe other cities as well), wait there for 3 hours and then drive you back to the pick-up point. Great way to spend the afternoon. Don’t forget to bring sand toys and a big tube to ride the waves with. Great fun!!!
Very important question to ask is why he did drop out from being a Skverer chassid.
Wanting a wife who will cover her hair and wear only skirts makes it sound like he’s a baal teshuva. This is not usually even discussed amongst frum people as it is a given.
LB, I agree with the above post. People who wear black velvet kippahs tend to wear them for everything. There are some sects of Yerushalmim that wear a white kippah on Shabbos and YT (and thus for a family simcha) with their streimels. Also Na-Nach Breslovers probably wear more white kippahs. There are also people who wear the knitted kippahs that might be white or any other color of their choice, not necessarily related to the place they are going. People who wear the white silk/polyester kippahs, like the kind CTLawyer is mentioning, with names embossed on them, are not necessarily wearing them except at the simcha itself.
Could you clarify what kind of white kippah you are referring to.
I’m wondering what Yossi Sarid thinks about these issues now.
LB, the people who are designated to use that section are people like Women of the Wall who want to go there wearing kippahs, talleisim and tefillin, and want to read from a Torah scroll, just like men. They want men and women to “pray” together. If they wanted to be the women that HKB”H created, then they would be more than happy to go to the women’s section next to the men’s section and daaven, praying one of the three tefillahs of the day or say Tehillim, the way we are supposed to, not the way they want it to be. The above posters are too polite to fill in the details.
Meno, that’s truly funny!!! I can just picture the kallah talking to her friends and one of them asking her, “So how did he propose?” “Um……