Nechomah

Oh, here I thought you were posting something about how I could maybe get rid of the virus my computer has. LOL! Guess not.

Anyway, my mother always stressed fluids, chicken soup is terrific.

Refuah sheleimah!!!

You’re right Health, and I probably didn’t say it correctly. I think it’s that she’s afraid of the possibility of infection and the pain that is involved. She suffered a lot when she had her previous surgery and infection. Also, she has Kaiser and I’m not sure if she’s looked outside of that network (not that they don’t have good doctors, but the top one in this field is the one who caused her so much pain before).

Hot tea with honey.

Always, I think you’re right, especially as a mother with small children, who can sit there and spend the hours that it might take to really analyze a whole thread, especially if it has a lot of posts. You’re doing what probably a lot of people in the CR are doing. It would probably be different if we were face to face and could isolate ourselves one-on-one with someone to have a direct conversation. You can’t help it when someone else joins the thread (not saying that they’re not positively contributing, just it takes much concentration to remember who said what), so just take what you can from each thread and participate when you feel comfortable.

I don’t think, given the current chareidi-bashing problems that have been going on lately that this should be publicized right now. Perhaps in the future it can be. I am sure that the stroller can be brought in legally, but was the child in the stroller when he was going through customs? I once brought a stroller in for somebody who legitimately bought it and I made sure to have my daughter sit in it while going through customs. It can be tricky. They are looking to trip up the chareidim in any way they can these days.

CM – I agree. Who cares what he calls himself. Maybe he lived there before, maybe he moved there now, maybe his heart is there, what difference does it make what he calls himself?

Poster, probably my latest post hadn’t gone through yet when you posted your last ?. Let me know if you think that might be helpful, otherwise I’ll think of some other ideas that might help, but just you should know that it is a very common phenomenon for a newly toilet trained kid and your teacher’s comments shouldn’t be taken too seriously. It’s a matter of familiarity. Find out what kind of toilet they have available and see if you can either incorporate what they have at school in your own home or if what you have is portable, maybe you can have another one available for him at school. Hatzlacha.

A lot of times they shoot the package – yes with a gun – if it explodes, well then it’s obvious it was a bomb. If not, someone’s things are now full of holes.

Honestly folks, if you know where the bus originates and it is in a frum area and you got on in that area and no Arabs or funny looking people were on with you, then you can pretty well rely on the probability that it belongs to a frum person and is not a chafetz chashud.

It’s great all the stuff you had, but what did you do? Have you ever tried to toilet train him? Has he ever had extended periods of time where he remains dry (an hour or two)? What made it a real disaster?

Some people recommend letting them go naked from the waist down for a few days just to get the hang of going to the bathroom without having to deal with the pants up – pants down. It can be a challenge with brochos, but should be doable for a few days. Do you use pull-ups? I personally do not recommend them because they are like diapers and do not let them feel the sensation of being wet since they absorb everything pretty quickly. Some people try letting them go around in underwear from the start (minus pants) but you have to have a good supply on hand and plan on doing a lot of laundry in the beginning.

What did you do when he had an accident? Don’t make a big deal, just clean up and go on about your day in a matter of fact way. On what is he making – small potty or on “booster” to the regular toilet seat? Does he seem afraid? Some kids need to feel the support under their feet but want to use the big toilet like Mommy and Tatty, so sometimes a stool is helpful. You might let him participate in picking out what to use since that gives them a vested interest and makes them more excited. Prizes, stickers and cheers from the family are great. Try to have 2 levels of prizes for the obvious levels of achievement in the process. Some people suggest setting a timer for every 20 minutes (or longer if you feel comfortable with that) and taking them to the bathroom whether they like it or not. After a while of that they come to understand what the sensation of having to make feels like and then they should learn to start telling. Don’t rely on them to tell in the beginning.

If you need more advice, feel free to ask.

APY – I’m going to ask again if you found the link for Hershey’s n’SMORE’s not n’MORE. The Smores are the ones with the marshmallows. This product mentioned here that I saw in only 1 location on line might have existed a few years ago but is nowhere it Hershey’s site any more. I actually found the the Smores were also discontinued a few years ago, so I’m really puzzled how this girl found such a thing to buy (not doubting you cinderella, just that it seems like it was way past the expiration date if it did indeed go out of production)???

OOM, that sounds like what I remember. There was an area where the path went to the left and the wall on the right had a large recess compared to the wall in the rest of the walkway. We were told that we were in the area opposite Kodosh HaKedoshim and we should not put our hands on the other side the bar because of what you are saying. It was interesting. They gave us a few minutes to daaven in that area and say Tehillim.

Tunnel tours at the Kosel, which you’ll also be sure to visit. Just take a chareidi tour guide to point out the areas where you can’t come too close since they’re underneath and it’s in the area of the Kodosh HaKedoshim.

Another Hoffmann tour is to Masada and Ein Geidi. Real contrast seeing the desert and the whole area out there, also the Dead Sea.

Well see what posting on this thread gets you? I never asked for a subtitle and I definitely don’t appreciate the one I was given. Can it go back to being simply “Member” mods?

Jeans were originally made for the lower working class people because they were more durable than clothes made from other materials. If a person chooses to wear jeans, no matter how dressy, then he chooses to identify with the working class type of people. That is the reality and there is no need to do teshuva because no one claims that it is an aveira to wear them, just face the facts that this is how people identify him/her.

I don’t think there is any leniency being used, simply they have their peyos behind their ears. I don’t understand growing the side burns at all since I would think that is considered face hair and not hair on the head, as would be considered by a woman whose hair on her head has to be covered but not the hair on her face. Can anyone clarify about the halachos of peyos.

Have you had part of the nail excised by a competent physician, often a podiatrist or orthopedic foot specialist? My son has had this happen and I took him to someone who puts something in the area that is excised to help prevent it from growing too wide in the future. Consult a competent specialist and have it treated right away. Some people go to a specialist who treats diabetics to have their nails cut and make sure there are no corners left behind.

Sam2: I have a problem with your comment: “I guarantee that if you would ask Richard Joel what he thinks of Conservative conversions he would say that he is neither a Posek nor Rosh Yeshivah and would leave that decision up to R’ Schachter.”

What does this mean? R’ Schachter gives the psak as far as how YU holds on these issues, but it could be that he personally holds differently? That’s how I could interpret this statement.

I feel that there is a right and a wrong, either conservative conversions are OK or they’re not, it’s not a gray area, obviously I hold that the person is not halachically Jewish, but maybe I’m wrong on this issue, but this is what I believe the gedolim poskin in this issue. So what would be the difference if he came out himself and said this himself – YU and I are of the same mind and a person must convert to Judaism according to the laws prescribed in halacha. It shmecks of a double talk to me, even though you didn’t say it that way. This is my honest interpretation of such political speech.

I agree Half. No more subtitles. I don’t know why the mods have to make public their suspicions, knowing that there is a chance they may be wrong. Just confront the person using their email and block them from the site if they suspect a troll.

Personally, I enjoy your posts. I don’t understand why anybody has against you.

PBA, what about the ones who also want a frontal lobotomy??

I think it is the yetzer hora that tells you that because of who you are and what you do that you can’t seek help. It keeps you trapped and subject to it’s will (the yetzer hora, I mean). Obviously you feel that you will fall apart because you are being pulled in too many directions at one time. I’m sure the explosion of child abuse cases in the secular media in the past month are the cause for your recent nightmares, etc.

You must try to escape the yetzer hora’s trap and get some relief for yourself. Contact a professional like one of the ones mentioned above.

I don’t know if using an IP address alone is the way to tell where a person is posting from. Personally, I am almost always connected to a VPN located in the east coast but I am located physically in EY, so while my IP address shows up as based in the U.S., I am not physically there. I’m not sure what’s the big deal.

Yeah, could you explain?

soliek, it’s not a matter of living in a dump. This is a very big problem in EY and I live in a new area in a new apartment, but it’s still a problem. I definitely keep my girls in ponytails and check as often as possible, particularly if there is an outbreak.

I have heard of one method of “suffocating” them. I wash the hair with the tea tree oil, leave it on the hair and cover the head with a tichel for about 1/2 hour. Afterwards, I rinse the hair, put conditioner in and comb through before rinsing, then rinse the hair and use the comb to check through. A lot of the lice are already dead, having suffocated from the shampoo.

Another method I heard is to use baby oil on the hair and comb through. It makes combing easy and supposedly the nits come out with this technique as well, but the hair is greasy for days. afterwards.

I would like to make a comment on something I saw that ARWSF posted. “I never even saw the OB/GYN. Her job is to hear the patient’s concerns and take action by referring people for evaluation if they are interested in helping themselves.”

You say that you “spoke” to your OB/Gyn after feeling down after a baby and things going on afterwards and received the referral.

In all honesty, I would change OB’s. These are the doctors who see women postpartum and should be able to judge, upon speaking with them in person for a few minutes, whether the woman is suffering from normal baby blues or more chronic postpartum depression, which would require more aggressive intervention, possibly on the part of a psychiatrist. I’m not sure how long after birth you are, but we all know that it is a stressful time getting you and the new baby adjusted to being in the family, especially if you have a few other small children to deal with along with the new one. You’re tired, you’re not sleeping at night, the baby wants to be fed all the times, all the wonderful, but tiring situations that coming along with having a new baby in the house.

Some women have lots of outside support during this transition (parents to send meals, younger siblings to come take the little ones out in the afternoon, neighbors to talk to) and manage this transition with little more than some bags under their eyes that testify to their sleepless nights. On the other hand, many of us have little to no support and have to manage all on our own. This can seem like an overwhelming task for some. Everybody reacts to sleep deprivation differently and when we’re overtired it can make everything else during our day seem more difficult as well. If a woman doesn’t feel like she’s managing for normal reasons, she may be overtired and need some more support (which she may have available but not be thinking clearly enough to ask for it), she may need someone to talk to (just shmoozing with a friend while nursing the baby when the other kids are at school can help), or she may actually have postpartum depression or even worse.

I think it is the job of the OB/Gyn to spend a few minutes and speak to the patient face-to-face to see how stressed she looks and hear more what she has to say than can be communicated on the phone in a brief conversation and decide what the next course of action is. I’m not sure how you phrased your conversation with her, but it could have sounded like you just wanted to be handed over to a specialist in these matters and that’s what your doctor did for you.

I think it’s almost like asking a Rov a shaila. If you are looking for a heter, the Rov will surely hear this in how you phrase your shaila and you will probably get a psak that fits this.

BTW, I think it’s very good that you looked into the side effects and after effects of taking Zoloft and you should continue to advocate for yourself in all of your medical concerns. Hopefully you will manage your adjustment as well without the meds and the transition period will wind down and you won’t have to deal with the Zoloft issue in any form.

Shampoo products with tea tree oil. Arbonne has something with that in it. I’m not sure what other products do. Like aries said, check daily. Make sure to use conditioner before checking to get rid of all tangles. This is a problem for a long time with kids (at least here in EY). My 12yo is still battling it because of girls in her class.