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I just wanted to comment about the Hep B vaccine and “immoral acts” requiring vaccination at such an early age.
They have nothing to do with each other. The point is that these vaccines are a necessity for anyone who works in the healthcare field. You have no way to know what your child will want to do with his/her life in the future and these vaccines have to be given at a certain schedule. Since they have no side effects, it is the easiest course to simply vaccinate the child at the earliest opportunity to fit the series of 3 vaccines into the remainder of the vaccine schedule recommended by the APA. Since Hep B has no cure, you won’t have to worry that your child will ch”v come in contact with contaminated blood and be infected at some later point in his/her life.
The HIV/AIDS vaccine would be given alone the same reasoning when it exists.
I hope you’re not expecting a black and white answer to this obviously loaded question. Tons of studies have shown that everything is a combination of the two, with the dominant one varying depending on the situation.
Cinderella – Sorry for my goof. Please be moichel.
OK, PBA, it was Rochelle, not me.
Musicaldiginity, I had asked how did it go for you and your class? Was it as you anticipated?
PBA, I know that was your purpose, but I do think that no one can possibly judge how another person feels/experiences even things that the person himself has “experienced”. Two people are sick with the same virus, but each person experiences it differently, based on their personality as well as their physical makeup and strength. They can’t even compare notes since it’s like two different viruses. That’s what I mean “don’t judge a person until you stand in his shoes” – meaning to mean to experience a situation as if he were experiencing it because you are standing in his place. It’s totally not possible, even if you could, but since men can’t have babies, then we’re just talking circles.
By the way, I wasn’t the one who suggested you try having babies, cinderella was, but I didn’t take offense.
And yes, I do think that there are people, actually of both sexes, who will milk any situation for what it’s worth, and a pregnant woman will certainly raise her husband’s sympathies in untold ways since 1. he “caused” her situation, 2. it is “his” baby she is carrying, 3. he can’t do it instead, and probably most importantly, 4. GUILT.
I actually loved being pregnant and wish I could do it again, but I’d be afraid to at my age. That’s not to say that I didn’t complain when things bothered me. Yes, I had some nausea. Yes, the last few weeks were very tiring and difficult, but considering that all of my babies were big (I had a 10 lb. 14 oz. baby that I delivered without an operation) that’s not so surprising. Yes, I was happy to finally deliver them healthily into this world. But even with all of the aches and pains of bearing and birthing my children, I think the experience of being pregnant and the feeling of closeness to Hashem that it gave me while he created my baby inside of me was the most amazing experience and I would wish it on anybody who could safely do it.
PBA, no need for us to elaborate. I honestly think that for a man to sit there and spout off about childbearing and childbirth and whether or not it is painful, uncomfortable or anything else descriptive about it, other than to say that his wife was the most beautiful when she was pregnant with his child, is a total chutzpah. It is not anything that you can relate to, since you weren’t created to do it (I’ll not speak about the Pregnant Man). I was once two weeks after my due date, carrying a 9 pound plus baby, and my Rov had the ______ to tell me that I had no patience. I’m sure he has no idea how much resentment I still have to this day (the child is 14 years + now), especially since my husband uses his words like a loaded gun to this day. Until you stand in someone else’s shoes, do not judge them – and definitely don’t give your opinion about what it’s like in those shoes either.
LBJ, I think the Vilna Gaon says that touching hafrashas af does not require washing hands, but touching hafrashas af does.
Sam, thanks for correcting my terminology, but I still think there was more to it for my sake than just the concern about the pieces going on the floor or washing my hands, since he could have just told me to be cautious about those two inyanim. While it was many years ago that I spoke to him about this, I still recall the meeting and I felt that it was something that was akin to timtum halev if I ingested them (the pieces are so small, do you really throw them all out afterwards?).
PBA, what would you suggest to ask about to check a bochur’s middah of responsibility?
Yes Sam, but wouldn’t the nails you cut off now have some sort of tumah that you’re ingesting into your body? I think that was R’ Berkowitz’s point.
I had this problem when I was younger. I was told by R’ Yitzchok Berkowitz that there is a problem with biting nails because of the tumah. What do we wash negel vasser for in the mornings? “Negel” means nails. The ruach ra’ah in the mornings settles on the fingertips, particularly the nails. That’s why you wash your hands. When you cut the nails off (either with scissors or your teeth), then there is a certain tumah that is with them. Just like you should wash negel vasser after a hair cut, you should also wash negel vasser after cutting your nails.
Sam2, I like your point about assuring things during the week just because you might do it on Shabbos as missing the point of making Shabbos different. We’re so much on autopilot that we can’t even force ourselves to be conscious on Shabbos and refrain from doing the issurim. Maybe we should try learning a little hilchos Shabbos on Shabbos to raise our awareness of the halachos.
Nu, how’d it go?
According to the directory I could find, his name is R’ Aron. He has hours in the Beis HoRaah from 1:30 to 2:30 in the afternoon IST. The number that is listed is 052-761-1798. Drop the 0 if you’re calling from the US and add 972.
Hope this helps. B’shaah Tovah.
H99 – Ditto DY’s brocho for you. Mazel Tov
There is an inyan (not halacha) about covering your hair for a davar shebikdusha, but it obviously cannot be applied in every circumstances (think of a woman at mikvah). There are some women there watching who will put the towel over the head while she’s in the water, but it obviously does not cover things al pi halacha, but she’s still saying the brocho.
There are people who hold that the woman doesn’t have to cover her hair in her house at all and I know women who don’t, but I think that once you have children old enough to understand things, it is more problematic to have your hair uncovered except in the privacy of your bedroom with your husband. But obviously those women who hold that they can go in the privacy of their house with uncovered hair don’t hesitate to make brochos without grabbing a hair covering.
I have an interesting scenario where my parents had no sons. My husband learned that our sons (and my sister’s sons) can daaven the omud in place of a son. Their position is stronger than that of a son-in-law. My son turned Bar Mitzvah in the last month of my year for my father, so he finished the year daavening the omud for him. He’ll daaven on the yahrtzeits.
Why not contact his son and ask him what to do in this case?
According to Yahoo answers, each vial is about 10 ml of blood, so you can figure it’s about 30 ml altogether. We have about 5 liters of blood in our bodies, so it’s obviously just a tiny bit. When a person donates blood, it is about 1/2 liter (500 ml), which is more than 10 times that amount. The “weakness” people refer to is probably the drop in blood pressure experienced from a vasovagal reaction, which, according to Yahoo Answers, is very common. It’s caused by activation of the vagal nerve, which causes a drop in heart rate and blood pressure. Like others said, drink some OJ and eat a few cookies. Maybe you should be one of the first so that you can rest for an hour or so afterwards while the other girls are having their blood taken. You should be fine by the time of the chassanah. Also, I don’t recommend looking at the needle when they put it in or while it’s in your arm. That’s the part I don’t like.
Logician, I honestly don’t know how in the financial situation of our generation that a woman can really stay at home without working unless her husband makes tons of $. If he does, terrific. I think I would have understood your point better had you simply extolled the value of being a Jewish mother and how essential the role of staying at home to take care of family is to a Jewish family, and showing how the woman who goes to work simply because she wants some “intellectual stimulation” has the wrong focus in her life. I didn’t intend for my post to come off sounding like that since that didn’t seem to be where More was coming from in her question about working.
I would start by working on getting them into the habit of brushing every night and every morning. My dentist said for the parent to brush a child’s teeth until they are at least 8 years old. After that they need to learn how to do it. Make sure they floss as well. Morning and nighttime routines are very important in our lives and should be established in childhood. One interesting note that my dentist made was that he got his kids used to mint flavored toothpaste from an early age rather than all of the fruit-flavored ones that are out there. He didn’t think they were as good as the regular stuff.
I would take him/her to a good pediatric dentist and have their problems treated. You want them to feel good about going to the dentist and not scared. I had a bad experience at the dentist and hated going after that. I have big problems for that reason. I didn’t want that to happen to my children and was fortunate to find a really good pediatric dentist here and they are not afraid to go.
Cut back on sweet snacks that are held in the mouth, like lollipops, taffy candies, and sucking candies. The amount of sugar that stays around the teeth is enormous. If the child does eat them as a once in awhile treat, make sure they brush immediately after finishing. My dentist also mentioned not having sweets in sandwiches, particularly the ones sent with the child to school for the midday meal, like jam/jelly with peanut butter. He said that he only gave that to his kids once a week.
BTW, you don’t have to wait to get the brushing habit down before going to the dentist, I just happened to write it that way.
More, I wouldn’t say that you need therapy and I don’t think it’s not a normal feeling.
What I would say is that halachically all money made by you belongs to your husband, so there is no money that is really yours unless your husband gives it to you to spend however you want. Having a good feeling about contributing to the finances and being able to spend a little extra on something you really want is a very common feeling, but not based on any halachic difference in whose money it is. (Does this make sense?)
I would maybe talk to a Rebbetzin who could help you get a different perspective on incomes and spending $. You probably feel like it’s not something that you “need” but something that you want, so you feel guilty. Isn’t guilt a Jewish emotion?
Again, hoping you find the right balance for your marriage and family.
Bygirl, BJJ and Hadar may be the only seminary for American girls that have such a rule, but I would say that 95% of the Israeli seminaries, as well as almost all of the elementary schools have this dress code. I think Vizhnitz have a pink/burgundy uniform and very few schools let their daughters wear normal clothes.
Logician, there are women out there who want to use their brains, not just schmooze with friends on the street or going to an exercise class. I didn’t get into all of the details otherwise my post my be a whole book. What’s the point of getting into the kishkes of my post, when we’re supposed to be trying to answer the OP’s question? The point was about a woman going out to work, so I was trying to give some examples of things I’ve heard of from other women who feel the desire to go to work for reasons that are not purely financially-driven.
More, I think you will feel guilty no matter on which side of the fence you stand. I do feel less awkward about spending $ on things since I’m making money, but what’s your husband like? Would he begrudge you those things or is it your conscience that’s bothering you? There is something about having lunch ready for kids when they come home. Can you put something in a crockpot and have it ready when they get home even if you’re not there? You could even get it set up the night before and start it on a timer in the middle of the night or whenever so it would be ready on time for them.
My opinion is that if working is important to you, then you should see if there are ways to solve the difficulties you have with that so that you won’t feel guilty – alternate meal plans – hot meal at night or crock pot idea, extra cleaning help to free up your time from this when you ARE home with them, a teenage girl to help with laundry, again to free up extra time. Hope these ideas help.
147, I don’t think anybody in his right mind would stand by at a bris and “take pleasure” at the sight of a baby in “excruciating pain”.
First, I don’t think the pain, if excruciating, lasts very long, maybe several seconds, otherwise the baby couldn’t be pacified by any means afterwards. Yes, some babies cry throughout the rest of the ceremony, but there are people out there who are more sensitive and harder to calm down.
Second, and probably the most important, I think the pleasure people take at a bris is knowing that the baby has just become part of the covenant of Avrohom Ovinu. He has received his name and this alone can conjure happy thoughts for the attendees. Why would you think that it is sadistic pleasures that they are deriving?
I don’t think anyone else in the whole world can tell YOU whether it’s healthier to be a stay-at-home mom or a working mom. Some women need a little break from their kids and feel rejuvenated after adult company and conversation and are able to give better attention to their kids when they come home. Others feel overwhelmed with trying to balance everything.
On the other hand, staying at home all day can send some women into depression, especially in the long winter months when it’s hard to get out with the kids. Trying to entertain children all day can be a real challenge unless you’re a really creative type of person.
What are your options for daycare? How many hours do you work? Here in EY, sending a 2yo to gan is very common, for sure by 3, but often the lady has the next kid already in the house so if she’s waiting until the child goes to gan before going out to work then she’s now waiting for the next kid for the same thing. This can be never-ending and keep the woman home for many years. On the other hand, sending a child out to daycare until 4 p.m. can be hard for the kid and the mother – how much time does she see her child and participate in his/her chinuch? Who is taking care of her child during those many hours a day?
These are all questions and answers that only you know for your situation. I would make a list of pros and a list of cons and see where things stand for you and your family. I know of a woman who has 1yo triplets and she brings them to the daycare center at 7 a.m. and does not pick them up until 4 p.m. They are in bed and asleep by 8-8:30. I don’t think I could only spend 4 hours with my babies, but on the other hand, taking care of triplet babies 24/7 could really send me over the edge, it’s very personal.
Hatzlacha in coming up with the right balance!
Are you eating a bigger meal for the midday meal? That is the way a lot of people eat over here in EY, the big meal in the day rather than in the evening. I’ve done it this way for years but now that my kids are bigger and wait the full 6 hours it’s getting harder to give them a milchig dinner at a normal hour since they come home pretty late from school. It’s a challenge to find a balance, but cereal for dinner is OK if that’s what you want to eat. Make sure you’re getting a balanced diet the rest of the day to round it out.
I once heard that a person can have 7 zivugim. One is not necessarily the highest and none are necessarily higher than another, just a different fit based on where you are holding at that time. Like a person from a non-frum background would marry one person but once that person becomes a ba’al teshuva, obviously that person is no longer appropriate for them (unless they also do teshuva, but that’s a different story). The whole goal is to reach “your potential” which obviously can grow and change depending on what is happening in your life at that time.
Don’t get too involved with stopping the YH, I don’t think you have the power, but daaven that you should have clarity to know which is the right situation for you.
Hatzlacha in your journey and may you find your zivug soon!
I think more is 100% right and I think this fits right in with your other threads about road rage and anger. A person who lacks in emuna does not realize how Hashem is guiding him all the time and how everything that happens is for a reason and for his good. If you are impatient to get something, go somewhere, do something, etc, it means that you don’t understand that you will get it/do it/go only when it is the appointed time and that it is this way for a reason. If you don’t have it now, then it’s not supposed to be this way. Just because you think otherwise doesn’t mean you’re right, that’s ga’aiva.
I think you should take a step back and look at all of these middos that you have been posting about and try to see them as parts of the whole picture of your personality and see how emuna and bitachon fit into this. Leaning Chovos HaLevovos Sha’ar HaBitachon is excellent for developing these middos (improving good ones and decreasing bad ones).
Lots of Hatzlacha!
(HaLeiVi – should I put on full body armor?)
I believe that they follow the British method of transliteration as it exited in EY when they were here. Many street signs here have the Q instead of K, etc. Also, they go more with the Ivrit pronunciation, which took the Sephardic pronunciations, thus the Taf instead of a Saf.
My husband has problems seeing the small print in the siddurim. He can make the print on his electronic device as big as he wants.
Mazel Tov! I just want to say that it’s very nice of you to come back and update us. So often we’re left in the middle of the story and never hear the end. Very considerate of you.
I am a WAHM. I try to make small goals for myself that I must finish before I get up (I work on the computer) or go do something else. It’s a real challenge when someone else needs me to do something, but I try to stick to that goal.
No, an atheist organization put up a sign in Hebrew in a frum Jewish area of Brooklyn with the name of H-Shem of Yud-K-Vov-K written out in very large letters (obviously with a Hey and not a Kuf), speaking about how we KNOW that it’s all just hooey and we should join their atheist organization.
They did the same written in Arabic and put it up in a suitable neighborhood (obviously with the name of their deity in large letters instead).
They claim that they are trying to let the disbelievers who live amongst the strong believers that it’s OK not to believe and that they have a suitable place to turn with their issues.
There were a lot of people calling for the change, not just parents or people connected to the school/team, including professional basketball teams in the area. They did change that game to before Shabbos. The team won and played in the championship game, which was help on motzai Shabbos, which they unfortunately lost.
All in all it was a big kiddush Hashem since they were willing to forfeit the game no matter what.
I’d say that it hasn’t worked at all, because presumably his point is to get married to one of these girls, not simply to go out with all of them. Couldn’t he pick one of those 200 girls to marry?
Stuck, if you are insistent on avoiding surgery, you could try the flush and see if you can get an ultrasound afterwards to see if there are any stones left.
I would definitely recommend diet modification, especially since you say that your attacks seem to be diet-related. Mine were mostly after Shabbos, but I didn’t changed my Shabbos diet and didn’t have any more attacks, so it wasn’t really diet-related in my case.
My husband is a self-diagnoser and he was having upper gastric pain. So since we knew that I had gallstones, he figured he did also (ishto k’gufo – LOL). Anyway, he did a flush, was very week for a few days afterwards and did seem to stop having some pains, but he never had an ultrasound before to see if there were in face gallstones. A few years later, he was pain again (not sure if it was exactly the same pain) and I made him go to the real doctors (not the internet kind) and he did have an ultrasound, which showed that he did NOT in fact have gallstones at that time. I would tend to think that if he had had them in the first place then he would have already started having them come back since once you have been shown to have them, your body continues to make them, so the gallbladder would start to fill up again. So really, in the end, I can’t tell you if the flush helped him or not. He’s really the kind who is willing to try any of the alternative remedies before running to doctors, so I’m not sure if this is advice that’s applicable to you.
In my opinion, doctors push you to do what doctors can do for you (have surgery). If you want to try the flush, I would say go ahead, but not if you’re in a full blown attack. Really at that stage, the stone can get stuck in the duct and you could be looking at a medical emergency. If you do the flush, try to get another ultrasound and see if there has been any change. If no change, then you’ll have to decide whether or not to have surgery. The doctors are concerned that what I mentioned could happen – the stone will get stuck in the duct and then you have real problems, so again, better to have surgery when you’re not in a full blown attack.
Stuck, I’m over here in EY. Just to explain a little more, all of the attacks that I was aware of were right after childbirth or while pregnant, so I thought that they were related to that. Then I had an attack when my son was 4 months old and I was not yet pregnant again. That was when I went to the doctor. I never saw anybody more than my PCP at the time. Strangely enough, after the diagnosis was made is when I stopped having attacks and I never saw a surgeon or anybody else regarding this issue. I would have no hesitation to go to one though if I had recurrence. It might be interesting to do a repeat ultrasound of the gallbladder though at this stage, just to see what’s going on in there. By the way, that boy is now 14 years old, so it has been awhile.
I have to agree with oomis’ comment. If the gallbladder is sick (full of stones) then it can’t perform the function that it was put there to do, and should come out.
I’m not sure what you mean by “entail”. That implies to me something that you could be if you wanted to do what it involves. I could be wrong, correct me if I am.
Yekkes, as indicated above, are those of German descent. They have different minhagim, some of which include each adult male making his own kiddush at the Shabbos table, woman lighting only 2 candles – no adding more for children, boys wearing a tallis after Bar Mitzvah, waiting only 3 hours after meat until eating milk.
To be Yekke, you either have to be born one (males) or marry one (females).
Now there is a very different concept of being a Yekke that is often spoken of. One midda of Yekkes is known to be their promptness. This is a trait that is inherent in the people of that region, not just the Jews. Also Swiss people are like this. I once went to an appointment with a doctor who happens to be a Jew from Alcace. I was running late and even the taxi driver told me “Oh, you don’t go to Dr. _____ late.” This type of Yekke everybody is free to be, and is actually a worthy midda to work on.
No, I didn’t have mine taken out because I stopped having attacks. If I did, though, I would have it taken out. A sick part of the body is not helpful and is not fulfilling its purpose, so in my opinion it should get out. I agree with the posters that it is worth the week or so of recovery (I had a C-section and I don’t think it can be compared to that). Even with a flush, because the tendency to create the stones still exists in the body, they can come back.
My husband tried a flush years ago. We’re not even sure if he had gallstones, but I will say that the treatment left him weak for a few days afterwards. He has a very strong constitution, but he was really laid flat by the process.
Even if you do the flush there is no guarantee that you will not have recurrence of the gallstones. There are obviously risks with surgery, the biggest probably being a stone getting stuck in the duct as they remove the gallbladder. There are options for surgery now like laparoscopic, which is not as involved as the open procedure and I would imagine has a shorter recovery.
I had a very similar experience as you and, after having the diagnosis made after blood tests following an attack that showed my elevated enzymes, the doctor sent me for an ultrasound, which showed the stones, and then I realized that I had actually been having lots of small attacks for a long time, especially on Sundays. For some reason they stopped – I wasn’t necessarily particular about a low-fat diet or anything like that.
I do remember that there are increased problems when a diabetic has gallbladder problems. My father’s became gangrenous and they had to do emergency surgery to take it out.
What are your hesitations about surgery or the other procedure you mentioned? I would say that having something done is more advisable when you’re NOT having an attack and it’s not an emergency.
Refuah Shleimah!
iYid, what model do you have? I will need to know for my daughters, who are fast approaching shidduchim (gulp)!
When you say lightly used, you must know which model you are getting. The “mechanical” one, with the bowls like what Best Buddy is describing is from the good quality machine. The “electric” or electronic ones are much less strong and not necessarily worth the $. I have the better version and it is good, has the advantages like what big deal say (cover, putting pieces in the bottom of the bowl when not in use). Some of the attachments that might be worthwhile is the meat grinder (can make homemade chopped liver with this or meat patties) and the cookie paddles – this is great for making a bigger batch of cookie dough that the bread dough hook can’t mix together and the whisks also don’t do well with. The cookie paddles are a great middle that makes terrific cookies.
One final comment about the Bosch that I’d like to make. This “good” model is no longer being manufactured unfortunately. You should look on line to see what kind of attachments you can still get for it. I was in need of a new plastic bowl more than 2 years ago and wanted to get all of the standard attachments with it since mine were not in such great shape. I was told by the place where I ordered it that I was getting one of the last they had in stock and that they’d almost had to cancel my order. Just be cautious.
Enjoy your purchase if you decide to go through with it. Make sure to bring a new supply of cookies/brownies/whatever you are baking to the CR since we’re running low on treats right now.
All I want to know is if I get an extra day to get ready for Shabbos. If not, then it’s just a regular day.
R’ Yaakov Kamenetsky’s minhag doesn’t come from his family. I read that he was once invited to a family for Pesach and he didn’t want, either kashrus issues in general or something else, but he didn’t want to insult them so he told them that he didn’t brok. He kept the minhag the rest of his life so as not to have told sheker.
I dressed up my 2yo daughter like a boy. She wasn’t so happy to be wearing pants, but it was really cute and we have great pictures from it. We wouldn’t do it after age 3.
I always take care to mark down from which hechsher I made the baked products in the mishloach manos. It’s inconsiderate not to.
There are opinions that a person has multiple basherts, depending on where they are holding. It can’t be that only one person is the “right” person and if you say no to someone that’s it, you’ll never get married.
You should for sure daaven for clarity and to make the right decision about everything we do in life, especially about shidduchim.
Syag’s advice is right on target. Also, the dough should be placed in a warm place and allowed to rise until double its original size. If you want to allow a second rising, then punch it down somewhat and let it rise again. After this, braid and I allow another 2 hours of rising in the pans. I use individual pans for the challos so that they rise up in the pan rather than spread out on a big tray (if you do them all on a big tray together).
writer – I would assume that the second brand came to the plant where the first brand is produced and, in cooperation with the company (in this case whoever manufacturers Twizzler) and paid for the additional hashgocho and whatever it entailed to be issued in a special run. I would think it only applies to that run. It is a shame though that they couldn’t go all the way and produce packaging with their name alone on it so as not to confuse consumers. Stickers can easily come off or be put on by people.
Why don’t you try asking at the place where you buy/bought the kippa. They might be able to tell you.
I think greatness is overcoming what is difficult for you. A tzaddik ben tzaddik has things that are difficult for him that are not difficult for a baal teshuvah and vice versa. Hashem will give each person schar based on each person overcoming his own yatzer hara not someone else’s.
For kids you really can’t buy whatever kind of kippa you’d like, or else it will just fly off their heads, unless of course you’re using clips to hold it down. If you’re not, then you have to go with the kind that fits their head the best. The 6-section kippas have more of a high profile to them, so a kid whose head is longer than it is wide will need that kind of kippa. The 4-section kippa is for kids who have really round heads. My boys all wear 6-section kippas. It really depends on how it fits. I think for men it doesn’t really matter whether it’s a 4-section or a 6-section kippa so much. I know of a store where they even sell Gerrer types of kippas that are really narrow and high. Oh, you’d also have the same problem of curling of the kippa if it’s a 4-section velvet kippa. I’ve seen it happen. And I don’t know about dry-cleaning kippas, but that wouldn’t last in my house. I can barely send my husband’s suits out for cleaning much less kids’ kippas.
M22 – You could wash one that is already wrinkled, but stretch it out A LOT before you put it inside out on his head – I mean PULL hard to get it back to its original shape and then let it dry on his head. If you see that it’s got pockets of the velvet and it still curls at this point, then it’s probably a lost cause, but you’ll know for the future.
Yes, I used to wash my kid’s kippas, but it depends on the condition I find them in now to see if I’m going to spend the effort on washing it – like is it already turning brown from the sun or is the trim coming apart or is YT around the corner and I’ll be buying a new one anyway – that all comes in the cheshbon I make before I decide to wash one any more. Unfortunately I do have one son who has a problem with bed wetting and sometimes I have to wash a perfectly good kippa that got stuck under him during the night. So yes, it is possible. There are certain types of kippas that wash better than others, and I wouldn’t recommend washing the ones with decorations on them either, but a plain black velvet one, why not?