Nechomah

Sam, I’m still confused. What you say Miktzas HaYom, is that in reference to “Miktzas yom k’kulo?”

If so, with what you’re saying, how can we count the day when it’s only by night? I heard that the chiluk between counting the days and the weeks is this inyan, where you can count the day when it’s only a part of the day, but that you can’t count a week until the 7th day, so that’s why we say the week only on the 7th day (night) when we count.

Can you clarify this for me.

The ones tonight are lit after shkia and the ones tomorrow night are light before shkia. I heard that in Meron, tonight it’s the Bianer (Boyan to some) chassidim that have the biggest fire. Tomorrow it’s Toldos Aaron or Toldos Avrohom Yitzchok. The one tomorrow is lit right before shkia and they probably dance on for hours.

Nu, he doesn’t watch movies but he wants mixed dancing???

Feif-Un – I just want to know what would have happened if you had been wearing those pants when she put them into the washing machine?????

It’s a good thing you didn’t sell the pot to the goy because otherwise you’d have to toivel it again since it would no longer be a “Jewish kli”. Since all you’re really supposed to be selling to the goy is the chometz that’s on the keilim and you say that your pot is clean, then there’s no problem with it.

I sure hope I’m not wasting my time on a troll post.

First off, Mazel Tov on your upcoming Chassanah. It should be b’sha’ah tova umutzlachas.

Now to the issue you ask, I totally agree with MM. I made a huge mistake about buying my electrical appliances in US. They can definitely be bought here and that will solve your issues with luggage space for that. Plus you can start with a few basic things and decide what you need more as you go along. A simple hand mixer plus a food processor and possibly an electric kettle are starters. You will probably also want a toaster oven or sandwich maker and maybe even a microwave. You could possibly bring an iron with you but make sure it’s 220.

As far as dishes, for sure don’t waste time (unless you can put it in someone’s lift) to deal with that in America. If you’re going to be here for just a few years, leave whatever you get for presents somewhere over there to use when you go back to the US. If you think you might be here permanently, then either find someone who is making a list (see my idea below) or plan on buying fancy dishes or Corelle here. I think there is someone in Har Nof who sells nice dishes, plus there are tons of stores opening up everywhere with these kinds of things for sale. Just remember that some of them can crack in the shipping process, so it’s not really worth it to ship.

As far as a lift, you could contact Nefesh B’Nefesh like I said to see if they could help with people who are making aliya soon, or else google aliya/lift/shipping container, etc, different combinations to see if you can come up with any info. Keep in mind that it does take time for the shipment to get here, so you have to already be shipping the stuff now for it to be here in a couple of months. You could always make a note in your invitations for shower/chassanah that your plans are to be in EY for a few years/indefinitely (whichever applies) and that cash gifts would be appreciated to help defray the costs of getting the things here or else the gift should be easily packed into a small place.

Oh, and Turkish Air is a good idea also, but still compare prices. I doubt you’ll be buying one-way tix and also you’ll be coming back to the US for holidays, so you’ll take nearly empty suitcases and bring them back full each time.

Hatzlacha on getting everything ready to come here. If you can get my email from the mods, I am over here and can give you info on stores/people selling things if you want more details.

Who says you need to judge?

I’ve been thinking about you. Hope all is well. Are you in for a Shabbos bris? Mazel Tov to you and Mrs. Booze (LOL). Enjoy your Sholom Zochor too.

I work full-time but from my house but I don’t get paid by the hour, rather by what I do. It’s all a juggling act. I have weekly cleaning help but no more than that. I’m not always available the second my kids need me if I’m in the middle of finishing something, but I’m here when they get home and have a meal prepared. Fortunately my kids are big enough now that they can help and I really didn’t start working so many hours until my littlest was already able to go to a gan (a mother of 10 children that I know personally that lived on my block). Now she’s old enough to go to school 1/2 days, so that is when I get the bulk of my work done. It spills over into the afternoon and then I try to do some more at night after the house is quiet. Fortunately I’m able to be flexible with when I work but there’s definitely a trade off. I’m very happy that I don’t have to work outside of my house, but working at home isn’t for everyone either.

Wolf, I think that’s probably your best line I’ve read so far. ROTFL!!!

Seriously, though, some people consider it time for girls to be tznius (whatever their guidelines are for that) at the age of chinuch, so they don’t start until around 6 or 7.

I know that here in Yerushalayim, among the natives it is much more common to start at age 3. I bought my daughter new dresses (to replace her short-sleeved ones) and tights to wear for her third birthday and made it a little more celebratory than looking at like a punishment or hard or difficult or anything like that. It’s definitely easier once they’re young to keep going in the same way, but it definitely depends on their personality. I have one daughter who insisted on wearing socks above her knees at a certain age rather than tights. I was hesitant only due to my concern for how she would be pulling them up during the day. I was right, she has been seen to pull them up while showing her knees and all. She doesn’t do it in front of everybody but there’s definitely room for improvement.

JHV, I had a whole long post that I apparently didn’t send in prepared earlier today, sorry.

Let’s see if I can reconstruct some of it.

First off, is he going to be in a dorm or in an apartment with other boys (organized separately, not part of the regular dorm situation). The reason I ask is because a dorm will provide things that the boys will otherwise have to buy if they’re on their own.

You don’t need to send anything like TP or tissue anymore. We have it here, even Kleenex tissue in a box. He might have to buy some of it on his own if he wants higher quality products. Yeshivas tend to buy the cheapest stuff available, which can resemble sandpaper, ouch! But good stuff is available at most of the local stores these days. Send a basic supply of toiletries so that he won’t have to go hunting for the stuff right when the zman gets going.

As far as food, there are tons of falafel stands/pizza restaurants that are to be found in most major parts of EY. A lot will depend on where his yeshiva is located. If it’s in the boondocks, then he will have to manage with yeshiva food and maybe have a stash in his room that he can tide him over when he gets hungry in the middle of the night. If he’s in the Mir or some other major yeshiva in Yerushalayim or Bnei Brak, there are lots of places close by that he can grab something even until pretty late in the evening.

Bein Hazmanim can be a little tricky, but it is different for guys. Are you bringing him home for Pesach? (I’m assuming Succos is too soon after the start of the year to come home). The Elul Zman ends the day before erev YK and then he will be busy right after with getting his Arab Minim and maybe building a succah by the dorm (don’t know how they work those issues). What will he do for meals during YT and Ch”M? The last week of Bein Hazmanim is the hardest part and a lot of the boys go on tiyulim. He should just be cautious doing those because unfortunately most accidents happen during those times.

As far as labeling clothes, I would since boys are not always the most organized and once you’ll get a bunch of boys together in one small dorm room (apartment sharing a bedroom is the same difference), so all of those black socks/white shirts, etc, will get all jumbled together. Make sure he knows how to do a load of laundry or find someone who will do it for him periodically. I think Mir has a dry cleaner who will pick up and deliver to the yeshiva, which is a big time savings for the boys.

BTW, don’t forget about the new luggage restrictions these days. Even El Al has gone to allowing only 1 suitcase weighing 50 pounds. I’m not sure what the prices are for the other airlines, but I had heard that El Al is allowing a second suitcase for $70 or $75 extra. Could be worth it since he’ll be going for an extended trip, unless he’s a really geshikt boy who will be doing his laundry weekly.

Well, I hope this helps. If you have any other specific issues, post them and we’ll see if we can help further.

What about working in a preschool or playgroup? You need creativity for the projects.

This kind of work is great for women who want to live in EY while their husband is learning, even for a year or two or also longer. Making a playgroup in the house is very common for English-speaking women.

ARWSR – Blame it on your feet spreading due to the extra weight from the, ahem, baby. Having your feet grow is very common during/after pregnancy.

PS – Great to see you back

Shticky – ROTFL

Thanks 42 for the backup. I brought up being overweight as a parallel because there are similarities. Overeating and smoking are both habits that have a psychological as well as a physical aspect to them. Obviously a person cannot stop eating completely in order to lose weight, but they have to learn self control and stop overeating. They need to develop good habits like portion control and exercise to undo the damage that has been done.

A smoker, on the other hand, has to completely stop smoking (in my opinion IMMEDIATELY) and control himself not to take another smoke. I also agree that anyone who starts smoking has a major tayna, but I do wonder if that’s at all different here in EY. My daughter’s close friend has a brother who started to smoke. How could his parents let him? My daughter feels it’s an influence from the yeshiva, where most of the rebbeim smoke, but still, there is so much bad stuff known about smoking, how can they let their talmidim start up as well. Maybe they don’t believe the medical info? On Purim I was pretty shocked when I heard that a father promised his kids cigarettes as a prize for doing a mitzvah. Totally backwards to me.

I just wanted to defend my comments about “curing” diabetes. There was a study published in the New England Journal of Medicine 3 weeks ago that compares three groups of patients. One had gastric bypass, a second group had a different procedure known as BPD and the third used diet and exercise. 75% of patients who underwent gastric bypass had full remission of their diabetes, 95% of the group that underwent BPD also did, but none of the people who did not have surgery had remission of their diabetes. I’m sorry if I brought this possibility in with lap band procedures, I mixed up BPD and lap band. After researching it further, BPD is an even more drastic procedure than gastric bypass.

When I had a baby who needed formula many years ago, my rov told me to prepare anything form kitniyos in a special pot because back in those days all the formulas were only l’ochlei kitnyos. I’m wondering how you can prepare kitniyos in pesachdig keilim.

Leah is the most common spelling I’ve seen, although goyim have no idea how to say it.

As far as Aryeh vs Arieh, I think the best way is Aryeh because the y in the middle of the word would be pronounced like ye – as in yellow – versus the e sound at the end of the word. Arieh would have an e sound from the i.

Hello99, yes it’s a fight to make sure they just dip the maror in it and also the maror in the korech. They practically want to shmear it in the whole lettuce. I explained that this isn’t the point.

After that, though, it’s fair game. Since there’s not much time at Shulchan Aruch for us before chatzos, we just wait until YT day meal and then I serve up a small bowl of charoses for each person who wants one, which is 6 out of 8 in my house. We get it in time for hamotzi and dip our matza in it throughout the kezias. Basically all matza is eaten with something on it. It’s a lot of fun. We love it.

My kids eat TONS. I have a recipe for a small amount (probably the normal amount consumed by a family at Leil HaSeder), which we automatically make a batch x5 for YT. It lasted for first day Chol HaMoed. We ate out for 2 days, so before today’s meal I made another batch x5 and again tonight made another. I hope we’ll have enough for all the meals on YT and Shabbos. Enjoy!!!

I would bet that she wanted to get you in trouble with the law, like maybe she would accuse you of stealing the things from her rather than that she dropped them and you were helping her by picking them up. Maybe in her mind you would have been “worshiping avodah zara” by bending your head to pick up the symbols, but for you it would not have been done with any kavanah, so what could it be considered?

I wanted to chime in on the point about the parents being defensive when it comes to the changes we make in our lives. I did the same as you and completely changed my life. Actually all of the siblings in my family did (I am 1 of 3 girls). It was pretty amazing that we all became shomer Shabbos/kashrus. I did, however, go farther than my sisters and decided to move away and live in EY (where I felt I had the best chance to raise my children in the way I felt was the best). I missed seeing my parents, but being in EY made it worthwhile. My mother, a”h, would probably have wanted to become shomer Shabbos as well, but she and my father were pretty old by the time I jumped on the bandwagon (actually for different reasons than my sisters), and the change was too hard for them to do. On the other hand, my father had some bad experiences in his youth with supposedly religious family members and he harbored a lot of resentment towards “religious” people. He could not understand for the life of him what it was all about and basically decided that it was just craziness and held no intrinsic meaning.

It was easier for me to deal with him if I kept remembering that he was probably also angry about the fact that all three of his children rejected the lifestyle he chose and went off in a direction he did not agree with. I tried to keep in mind that this state of mind would only affect him in this world and that he would obviously enjoy the fruits of our labors when he would get to the olam above (which is where he is now).

If you try to talk to them and find that they are not willing to speak less antagonistically than they do at present, then you will be forced to separate more from them, so perhaps moving with one of your promotions would be the easiest option.

Please stay. We’ve missed you. The CR is not the same without you around.

Tina18: What business owner is going to hire an untrained yeshiva bochur to work for a short period of time? And pay him $2500? I don’t understand where this idea comes from

The interaction between that child and other children is also different regarding sharing, seeing things from another’s perspective, and a whole gamut of things. I am married to an only child and I don’t think he understands well how to relate to a person of the opposite gender (although the same can be said of a person who comes from a family of all boys or all girls), but it’s almost like he expects children to be adults all the time because that is the primary interpersonal relationship that he had for the majority of his life (not talking about school obviously).

The 4in (10 cm) comes from how much your skirt will move up your leg when you sit down compared to when you are standing up so that your knees will still be covered. Try it out. Put on a skirt that comes to 2-3 cm below your knee when you’re standing and see what happens when you sit down. Compare it to a longer skirt. This all varies whether the skirt is flared or straight, but you can get a better picture. So if you hold that your knee has to be covered at all times, then maybe you should consider this halacha.