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BP Girl
So is the teen.
More specific. Okay.
Try and keep your hands off your hair or face…your eyes sort of disinterested…don’t tilt your head…avoid extended eye contact (even a fraction of second longer than normal)…
Hey, why aren’t you in school, observanteen? You get off?
yoyo56
(Since you’re a girl, I’m assuming I can be a little vague here, and you’ll get me.)
My sister once commented that I give off a certain flirtatious energy when I’m around guys, which I was surprised to hear, because I kneew it wasn’t intentional.
She pointed out some examples in my body language, which I had to admit, can give a guy the wrong idea.
It took a conscious effort to stop it, and it was hard BECAUSE I DIDN’T EVEN REALIZE I WAS DOING ANYTHING! You can do it too.
Save all that for someone very special who deserves to enjoy it….not the random guy you meet!
Not.
True, Al Pi Derech HaTeva.
(Although some people DO choose to live by instant gratification, and somehow get away with it…)
Sorry for sneaking in, I’m not a teen anymore, but I wanted to comment:
I sat through plenty of classes where I felt the teacher was wrong. W-R-O-N-G. So during those lessons, I did sudoku’s and crossword puzzles and wrote poems about the agonies of teenagehood! 🙂
Amen!
kfb
When Hashem promised us the Ultimate Redemption, he meant it. So, no, the world is not coming to an end. Hopefully, though, all the recent unrest and tragedies are the birth pangs of Moshiach.
There’s no question about it, all the events you mentioned, that’s Hashem nudging us to wake up and do Teshuva.
But scared? What’s there to be scared of? Totty’s coming to take us home!
🙂
guy-ocho
You remind me of a story that somebody told me. (Beware: This will gross you out)
He was walking in BP and a woman a couple of yards ahead of him tripped over something and fell flat on the sidewalk. As she fell, she knocked over the guy who was standing (or walking) in front of her. He got up, brushed off his pants…and walked away.
The guy who told me the story obviously ran to help her up, and made sure she was fine, and then he ran to catch up with the “chossid shoteh” and demanded an explanation. He looked at the guy and said “ah frau??!!” (a woman???)
I don’t think the other guy even bothered responding to that. I wouldnt, anyways. No use.
Just reminded myself of this story when you posted urs.
eclipse
“I think the Mishpacha prints way too many oversimplified (and therefore irresponsible) articles.”
You are so right about this! I thought about it so many times as I read advice columns in various magazines.
I sometimes cringe at the problems people write about, AND THE RIDICULOUS ATTEMPTS OF THE RESPONDERS TO SOLVE IT IN A COUPLE OF PARAGRAPHS!!
The worst part is when someone writes in about their spouse, and I wonder: Doesn’t anyone remember that there’s another person involved here? Another side to the story? Apparently not.
If I were a Rabbi/Rebbetzin/Psychologist/Therapist/(which thank God I’m not!) and a magazine asked me to respond in their advice column, I’d refuse. I simply don’t believe that one can honestly get a handle on an anonymous person’s situation without talking to all parties involved.
And I hope to God that nobody applies the advice they read in there, in their own relationships.
Papa Bear
Welcome!
Only thing you can really do is make sure that your own kids know better than that. Don’t waster brain power trying to make sense outa this.
Btw, I think that al pi halacha, one must put their own life first. But when it comes to my immediate family, I don’t think I can do that.
Gotta work on myself, I guess 🙂
Can anyone confirm that halachically this is true? If yes, are there exceptions when it comes to family?
Okay, nice thread…
I’d do it for my parents, the only thing is, I think they’d hate me for it, and hate themselves for being alive….so I dunno.
I’d take a bullet for any of my siblings, anytime.
Not married, but if I’ll love my husband anything like I love my sibs, I’d do it for him a hundred times. Same goes for kiddies.
undocumented report
suicide victim
unsung hero
Income Tax
Industrial Park
minor crisis
affordable housing
friendly fire
final version
criminal justice
numbing sensation
dim light
sad smile
sun shower
easy labor
This is so beautiful.
Honestly, this was such a heartbreaking tragedy, all I think about is the victims and the shattered lives they left behind.
May Hashem take vengeance in ways that only He can.
Chocolate
new shoes
a hug
music
new shoes
chesed
babies
new shoes
dancing
jogging
singing
if all else fails, go shopping for shoes.
They all work for me. Take your pick.
Personally, I’m happy that I can’t post anonymously- I’m careful not to divulge any personal details, and I want it that way.
If I have anything personal to discuss, I wouldn’t do it here, so it suits me just fine.
Don’t know, not a mom yet.
gavra at work
I agree. I don’t think I said (or insinuated) that girls should be taught on a level anywhere near to that which the boys learn.
I agree with what you said. It’s 100% true, and it’s unfortunate that many girls know more Yalkut’s and Ramban’s than the most basic principals of hashkafa. It’s unfortunate that girls know a thousand meforshim on tehillem, but lack the personal connection that a BT has when davening.
And of course schools should focus on subjects that specifically pertain to girls like Basar V’cholov.
(are you sure you were responding to my post…?)
Daas Yochid
There’s no question about it – mechanchim and parents selflessly dedicate their lives to the chinuch of children. But what about the percentage of kids who aren’t making it in this chinuch system? We’re all aware that this % is growing every year.
Doesn’t anyone wonder why?
(I’m not saying I have all the answers, but this is no slap in the face for anyone! It’s a tough question that I believe most mechanchim would rather not deal with. It’s much more convenient to sit back and beam at the thousands of kids who [seem to be] portraying the proper image of what a yid is “supposed to look like”, and pat yourself on the back, job well done.)
I’m not saying we’re failing miserably. The majority is still frum (on the outside, at least). But what about the rest?
lkwdgirl
IMHO- Because nobody really wants to go there.
I think that in order to seriously address this increasing rate of OTD’s, we’d have to make some fundamental changes to our existing chinuch system. In other words: Change the way yiddishkeit is “sold” in our schools.
Ever wonder how come Kiruv is so successful these days? Ever think about what might happen if yiddishkeit is presented to the FFB’s similar to how it’s taught in Kiruv Seminaries/yeshivos?
They teach you the why’s not just the how’s about yiddishkeit. They teach you the ABC’s of hashkafa; instead of expecting you to magically know it at birth. They focus on developing a meaningful, PERSONAL connection with Hashem and His Mitzvos. They encourage you to ask and understand and wonder.
And nobody wants to go there.
Any thoughts?
Mazal Tov!
mbachur
thnx
ZeesKite
Thanks. Not a Mommy yet,although I always wonder, what do Mommy’s do when they feel the way I do today??? At least I can zzzzzzzzz as much as I want after work!
Refuah Shleima to you.
zeeskite
Any ideas? I hate tea. Slept with steam vaporizer all night, didn’t help. Don’t believe in chicken soup. I’m up to my second box of tissues…and counting….and I hate having a nasal voice.
That didn’t sound like a very “praisy” post, did it? Sorry. I’m just really really miserable.
I would like to thank Hashem for Kleenex tissues; they make a miserable cold a little less miserable.
Sorry, doesn’t compare to the chanukah song. Not even close.
observanteen
You mean from the Enneagram System? (Awareness?)
If I remember correctly I was a 1,2,4,6. But I saw parts of me in all of em. Anyways, I found the system to be poorly developed (doesn’t compare to Myers Briggs System).
Relief Resources is a non-profit organization that provides multiple services to individuals suffering from mental health disorders.
Why don’t you contact them, and see if they can help.
Hatzlacha!
Hey, I’m not following the story. Anyone willing to brief me? Please?
of course
I’d say it’s not a rule. I find that in some areas I work better with people who think similarly to me, and in others, differences can complement each other very well…
spoiled
I can check the book later for ya…or if you’d like to read it yourself, it’s the “Mating” section of “Please Understand Me.”
Health
Isn’t it sad that you were impressed by that? That’s so basic!
Palpitations are heartbeat sensations that feel like your heart is pounding or racing. You may simply have an unpleasant awareness of your own heartbeat, or may feel skipped or stopped beats.
The heart’s rhythm may be normal or abnormal. Palpitations can be felt in your chest, throat, or neck.
Normally the heart beats 60 – 100 times per minute. In people who exercise routinely or take medications that slow the heart, the rate may drop below 55 beats per minute.
If your heart rate is fast (over 100 beats per minute), this is called tachycardia. A slow heart rate is called bradycardia. An occasional extra heartbeat is known as extrasystole.
Palpitations are usually not serious. However, it depends on whether or not the sensations represent an abnormal heart rhythm ( arrhythmia). The following conditions make you more likely to have an abnormal heart rhythm:
Heart palpitations can be caused by:
Well you said you dont wanna hear donut and latte, so….
PMS?
Personally, I feel everything so deeply, I’d feel dead WITHOUT feeling! I love emotions – even if it’s sadness, anger, frustration, although love and joy and gratitude are preferred!
I think emotions are what makes us feel ALIVE…if ever there was or will be a time where people couldn’t feel these things, I’d feel sorry for them. They’d have lost the thrill of living in exchange for robotic responses to the circumstances and conditions around them. Sorry, s2021, I vote no.
observanteen
…You asked if I enojoyed the books (in that machmir on looks thread)- I did, even though I am a bit critical of these personality typing systems, I still love that feeling of reading my “type’s” description, and wondering “how does s/he know how I think or what gets me frustrated/angry/embarassed/annoyed etc.???”
Even though it’s oversimplified (IMHO, anyway), the Myers & Briggs system is quite discerning…I actually felt like someone was INTRUDING on me when I read about INFP the first time. I was like, “What are YOU doing in my head?! Hey, this is ME, you can’t just steal my individuality and dump me into a cataogry together with 5% of the population out there!”
I really hate labels. INFP is a label, although the point is to give you self-awareness, and to help others understand you better.
But I like being me. Not a “type”. Whatever…
Whaddya think?
morah reyna
Me too! Don’t even miss it!
Proud to be an INFP.
vicpr
Thanks for posing. I agree with you.
It’s not fair that a “working guy” (who, mind you, has a serious shiur every day) is viewed as a lesser learner than many “kollel guys” who…well, don’t exactly learn. Not, Torah, anyway..
Btw, before anyone gets angry: I know that there are guys who work and heven’t picked up a sefer in forever, and kollel guys who actually learn.
That’s society, though. Image. Image. Image. As long as you’re ‘in kollel’, you’re good, just don’t go out to work.
Not BP
obervanteen
Totally off topic, but you mentioned the 3’s in Miriam Adahan’s Awareness. Just wanted to remind you that 3’s in their Ideal state aren’t shallow at all!
BTW-since you read the book, I’m just curious, did you find that the system (Enneagram or whatever its called) oversimplifies people?
I read Miriam Adahan’s “Understanding People”, plus the non-jewish version (on which she based her book) called “Please Understand Me”, and I felt the same about all of them.
People are so complex and these systems somehow manage to catagorize all of humanity into on of 9 or 16 “types”. Please Understand Me was the best, though…What do you think?