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If you keep 613 mitzvos, including kiddushah, you’ll get married very young. If you think there’s only one mitzvah – learning – as many seem to approach it – then you’ll likely wait.
Last I heard there are 613 mitzvos.
The Chazon Ish asked the same question as you, which is, why don’t we listen to the Shulchan Aruch and marry at 18.
Everybody has their excuses. But to me they are excuses. Boys would be mature enough if we allowed them to be.
We should marry at 18 or close to it.
middos are most important
however, today generally middos aren’t so good anywhere
the actor fred astaire said half a century ago, “The hardest job kids face today is learning good manners without seeing any.”
so don’t expect perfection ,just somebody who values good middos and works towards it
Depends on the kind of parents you have, whether they’ll be open to your opinion about your own life. But in the end, you have to think for yourself. Perhaps, if your goal is a real ben Torah baal habayis they’ll be OK with it.