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I have to agree with BY. We don’t have a lot of money for extras, but just knowing that my husband was thinking of me while he was shopping is a great feeling. He hardly ever comes home from the supermarket without my favorite chocolate or some other little treat, and even though there’s nothing fancy about it and I know it hardly cost him, it still feels wonderful.
I didn’t eat chometz until more than 24 hours after Pesach was over. I had no time to go shopping until the morning, and when I did shop, I didn’t have time to sit down and eat until suppertime.
It’s waiting for moderation, as all posts do on this forum.
I understood that there’s a wedding and they need gowns. Don’t ask me how many or what size though.
There are 7 notes in an octave. They go from A to G.
I don’t know, but if you don’t work something out, she can get glasses here for a very reasonable price.
Schnitzel with rice or potatoes or couscous
Moussaka
Eggplant Parmesan
Sauteed chicken breast with onion and garlic served on top of rice or farfel or couscous
Not very healthy, but occasionally hot dogs with french fries
Falafel–but pita break and make the falafel balls from a mix + salad
Hamburgers with mashed potatoes
Blintzes
Girl, 20-40, though that was probably pretty easy to figure out from my posts.
I think you have to read your sibling’s cues and follow them. If s/he is private about it, don’t talk about it at all. Just act natural and normal and keep things comfortable. If s/he’s the type who’s very open about it, offer a listening ear and words of chizuk without being judgmental or making them feel like a nebach case.
I have lots of relatives on the Lower East Side and agree that Shalom Chai has the best pizza I’ve ever tasted. We go there every time we visit my aunt and uncle.
Cleaning? I would pay someone to do some of the heavy stuff that I can’t do myself.
There are several grains that people with celiac can eat, but gluten-free oats are the only option which is hamotzi.
Popa:
“I don’t say on this site whether I am married or not”
But you did say that your daughter’s Queen Esther costume was mistaken for Vashti by her teacher. 😉
Wolf, what does that have to do with hand sanitizers in Pomegranate? 😉
Having had to call MDA more times than I can count on my fingers, I can tell you that many of the volunteers are young people of both genders and that the atmosphere among them is not always appropriate for frum people. There’s often physical contact between them while working together on a patient, and they sit very close to each other while riding in the ambulance. The gedolim did not say not to save lives, they just said to volunteer for the frum organizations where these problems are eliminated.
I never even knew what heartburn felt like until this pregnancy. Mine is definitely triggered by too much chocolate, but I have a hard time eliminating it from my diet. I’ve been snacking on Tums and it does help but not completely.
Praying with Fire can really made a difference in anyone’s davening.
Health:
“Listen -IMO, if they are asymptomatic, why refrain from eating gluten products at all in general? If their whole lives they were eating gluten and nothing ever happenned, why stop now? Even if Esther is correct about intestinal damage, continue eating the gluten until symptomatic”
Your opinion is not what most doctors would say about this. We’ve traveled this road and consulted multiple doctors about exactly this issue and were told that a gluten-free diet is a must for patients with a celiac diagnosis even if asymptomatic. Sometimes the gluten can cause damage without there being symptoms and by the time the symptoms start, the damage to the gut is very severe and hard to reverse. I have a friend who went undiagnosed until she was in her 30s so she ate gluten all her life, and her condition right now is very serious. Despite being gluten free, she is taking a very long time to get to baseline and is suffering very much because of it.
Guys get varicose veins too. My grandfather wears lovely ladies’ support stockings for his. Me, I just suffer in silence.
If I could have a word with Chava, I would have a lot to tell her right now. Varicose veins, sciatica, shortness of breath, etc.–I’ve got a long list of things to thank her for. And I won’t even talk about how scared I am of childbirth. This will be my 9th ka”h, and I’m still scared stiff when I think about it too much. Thanks, Chava.
For me that would be a sinus issue. Do you have a cold/congestion?
How about Mesushelach who lived to 969? Avraham Avinu? Sara Imeinu? Og Melech Habashan?
I don’t personally know anything about it, but if you have specific questions, I can ask my relative.
I think there’s an American one which is commonly known as AJ and an Israeli one which goes by its full name. A relative of mine worked (works?) with the American boys in AJ and an Israeli neighbor of mine learns in Ateret and I’m quite sure they’re not the same yeshiva.
“Since I’m not -don’t have any expectations of me!”
I think the expectations of you are the same as they are of everyone else who posts here–to use some thought and sensitivity when posting and not just write anything that comes to mind. Nothing more than that.
I thought Health once posted that he was a med student? Or did I make that up?
Yes, it’s true. My friend’s son is one of those soldiers.
That hasn’t been my experience, but one case doth not a study make, so I won’t argue with you on that one. I will repeat though that you are not the OP’s PCP, so sensitivity would be expected on this forum.
Actually, after years of dealing with serious illness and more specialists than I can count on my fingers, I can tell you that the majority of doctors I’ve been in contact with do have good bedside manner and know how to speak to patients. And we’ve had some pretty fantastic doctors. I can also tell you that the ones that don’t have good beside manners tend to lose their patients pretty quickly. I don’t think any poison has to be chosen here. Besides, the OP here is not a patient of yours and in a forum like this, sensitivity is always in place.
“I find a lot of people just want someone to have a nice bedside manner, but they don’t really want them to tell them how to improve their health!”
I don’t think there has to be a contradiction between good beside manner and improving health. Sometimes a slight change in wording can give the same message but leave the patient feeling positive and motivated to keep working. If instead of saying, “Good job, but you really should only weigh 140. Keep trying!” you would say, “Great job! I bet if you continue this way, you’ll soon reach your goal weight of 140 lbs.”, the patient would be a lot happier and be much more motivated to keep trying. If I were the patient and you told it to me your way, I would probably say “Why bother–all my hard work and he’s still not happy with me.” Bedside manner is a lot like parenting in that sense.
Health, I think a little sensitivity would be in order here. It’s obvious that for the OP, this is a big accomplishment. To say “Keep trying” in such a situation is really uncalled for. I understand that you’re not a shrink, but if you’re going to be practicing medicine in real life, it wouldn’t hurt to know how to speak to people with a little more thoughtfulness. If a 250-lb. female patient is told to lose weight and she successfully brings her weight down to 180 lbs., will you praise her for it or will you say, “Well, you really should only weight 140. Keep trying!” Even if she should be encouraged to lose more, it would be very rude and discouraging not to praise her for what she has already accomplished.
I once had awful gum and facial pain and it was my sinuses. It was very hard to differentiate between that and a toothache. I hope you feel better!
I don’t know, but FWIW, when we moved, we were told we could kasher our dishwasher as long as we replace all the plastic parts. We found out that replacing the plastic would cost almost as much as a new dishwasher, so we ended up getting rid of it.
I think she was wrong, but I don’t think your response was appropriate. Sometimes you just have to accept that though the other person is not acting properly, they’re not about to change that so you have to give in. I personally would have said once or twice that this is my daughter’s seat and she’s coming right back, but if the woman would have insisted on sitting there, I would have moved somewhere else or put my daughter on my own lap. To put her on this older woman’s lap was somewhat chutzpadik and immature, IMO, despite the fact that she was in the wrong.
Just my .02.
All the separate beaches in Israel have male lifeguards and that doesn’t seem to stop anyone from going. Almost all of the frum women swim in either robes or long t-shirts which cover their knees and elbows though.
No problem. For more specific instructions: Boil water–2 cups per cup of rice. When it boils, heat up a little oil in a pot, add rice, add 1 tsp. salt per cup of rice, plenty of onion powder, some garlic powder, pepper, sweet paprika, and turmeric. Add 2 cups of boiling water per cup of rice, mix well, put on lid, and let it simmer for 20 minutes without opening the pot. Turn off the flame after 20 minutes and wait 5-10 minutes before opening. Mix very well.
Mbachur, your rice will come out sticky that way. The water has to be boiled before adding it to the rice, and the rice should be coated with a small amount of hot oil first. (I do some catering on the side and rice is one of my specialties.)
” “When you’re davening you’re talking to Hashem, when you’re davening you’re talking to Hashem- our King, it’s a very special thing, when you’re talking to a King, when you’re davening you’re talking to Hashem!” (I love that song!) 🙂 “
If you love it so much, how about getting the words right? 😉
When you’re davening, you’re talking to Hashem,
When you’re davening, you’re talking to Hashem Hashem,
It’s a pretty scary thing
When you’re talking to a King,
When you’re davening, you’re talking to Hashem,
It’s a pretty scary thing
When you’re talking to a King,
When you’re davening, you’re talking to Hashem.
Two people figured out who I was and I confirmed their suspicions. I still feel just as comfortable posting as before. I don’t post anything I wouldn’t tell them in real life anyway.
Someone told me that she only waits 3 hours when she’s nursing. Apparently her husband showed her source for that but I don’t know what it is.
“” can you please give an example of what alternatives there are on the plane? “
As much as I really don’t want to pursue this, as it really just boils down to an opinion, I’m still standing by the restroom venue.”
And here I thought you had a solution that could really help us. I’m disappointed. There is a reason nobody I have asked (and it has come up countless times) uses the restroom to nurse on the plane. Do you want to tell me that your wife has done that?
And I’m with anon for this. Most of my kids have never had bottles, even the ones with a bunch of older siblings. Why do you assume childcare is a given? I work from home and my babies stay with me.
I think that it’s the maternal instinct and that it’s only for one’s own child. There have been actual cases in Israel where mothers have lied on top of their children to protect them from terrorist bullets. This is how Binyamin Kahane’s wife saved her children. It’s not something you think about–it just comes naturally to a mother. While I think most women would want to do what they can to help other people’s children as well, I don’t think that instinct comes into play when it’s not your own.
I send it in the little zipper pocket of my kids’ backpacks. Mitzvah notes go in there too. I have to admit that they often come back home a few times before the kid remembers to take it out.
“This is a flawed argument, as men do not nurse infants.”
And if they would, it would probably be considered completely fine for them to do it in public, just as men seem comfortable walking down the street without a shirt while a woman would never dream of doing such a thing.
“And yes, I / my wife travelled a great deal with infants. And yes, she nursed (but used a bottle as well. And never once did the nursing in public become an issue. There are always altenatives, if you feel like seeking them out.”
BPT, can you please give an example of what alternatives there are on the plane? Many women will be very grateful to you for this. I’ve spoken to quite a few friends about this–and these are very yeshivish friends I’m talking about, who do not generally nurse in public–and everyone of them said that they stay in their seat to nurse on the plane since there is no other option. Since you seem to feel otherwise, maybe help us all out with this.
Thanks, m in Israel! I agree with everything you said.
“Additionally, a mother who is nursing exclusively or mainly cannot simply skip a few feeding without physical consequences — and I assume you would be just as uncomfortable with a woman expressing milk as with her nursing!”
I wasn’t going to bring this up, but since you did….
I once had to fly a few years ago without my nursing baby. I had pumped for him and left him bottles of breastmilk at home, but I was very uncomfortable during the flight and had no choice but to pump on the plane. BH I had a very small, very quiet electric pump and I did it right there in my seat under a blanket. The woman sitting next to me knew because she saw me pull out a bottle of milk when I was done, but otherwise it was entirely discreet and unnoticeable.
(I wasn’t trying to make any point by sharing that other than saying that you do what you have to do when you’re on the plane, whether it’s nursing or pumping.)
“blankets can cover up everything – if hold baby in arm whole time, he needn’t know when baby is nursing or not, and he definitely doesn’t see a thing. “
You’re right that he didn’t see a thing, but when the baby’s head disappears under the blanket, it’s not hard to figure out what’s going on. This was not a newborn so the rest of the time she was sitting straight up on my lap without the blanket covering her.
“So I am not going to criticize it, but if you won’t wear a slit skirt (slit below knee), then you probably shouldn’t be nursing in public. “
I don’t wear slits, jean skirts, or anything else on your list, and I agree with you that I shouldn’t be nursing in public. But what is the other option on the plane? I couldn’t starve the child for 12 hours either, and as I said, there was no option for her other than nursing.
“we have a lot of leeway (sry if i spelled it wrong)”
You spelled “leeway” correctly, but you have at least 15 other spelling mistakes. 😉