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“Here, I *refuse* to do anything about it. I am *not* divorcing my wife. I *could* do something about it, I just refuse to. Hence, I don’t believe it can be a true charatah.”
See. I was right all along. I said all along that if you had true charatah you would divorce and now you agree with me.
“The Wolf (who is proud to say that he’s never been drunk in his life.) “
Purim ad dlo yada?
People have to watch theyre kids like theyre the most valuable thing in the world. I dont have kids yet but when I do I will make sure that theyre always with someone I would trust with my own life.
“Yes, I know that there are some posters who have a problem with eating Shabbos food during the week. Deal with it.”
No youll have to deal with it lachar meah vesrim.
Doesnt the Y in Boropark have seprate swimming hours and people to teach you how to swim?
“I see couples go out both on their phones and not paying attention to their spouses, why bother getting married if all you’re going to do is talk on the phone? “
Al tarbeh sichas im haisha. Its better that they talk to theire friends than engage in idol chatter with theyre wifes.
Floridas not the best place to go for vacation becuz its full of beaches and shmutz but there are worse places to go then that so as long as you stay away from the beaches and from wear women wear untznius cloths I guess its not too bad.
“Ah, but if we put aside the notion that bowling is untznius, then why would a seminary reject a girl because she once bowled? Why would a Lakewood guy turn her down sight-unseen because she was once seen at a bowling alley? Why would principals be “on their backs” for bowling?”
But you cant put tznius aside. well you can but most people wont becuz its halacha.
“Not to mention the police who put their lives on the line to keep the city streets safe.”
Aisav Sonei Lyaakov even when hes a policeman.
“If someone is a moser, but thinks he is doing the right thing, do we still kill him? “
yes a moser is always killed unless he went to bais din and asked permision first. I no some cases where mosrim were beaten up (not killed) for going to the goyishe police.
“Mr. Pasik: 100% proven IS the standard of proof per Torah law.”
Thats right becuz if bais din ever executed anyone unfairly it would mean that the Torah cant be relied on. So for anyone to cause anyother yid to be put in jail ect, we have to be 100% sure.
Wolf dont you think your time might be better spent doing mitzvos instead of wandring around a park taking silly pictures.
“but my learning is not very valuable (in comparison to others) anyway.”
Ive never met someone who wasnt machshiv his learning. Only an apikorus would go around saying that learning Torah is not valuable.
“there is the occasional week when we replace it with a potato leek soup instead.”
You shouldnt change the soup. Chicken soup at the night suda is a minhag in most of europe and america. Much like wearing a kipah its not a din that you have to have it but its a very strong minhag and you shouldnt ignore it for soemthing else without a really good reason like allerges or something.
Who sez sitting next to yur wife in public is muttar even if no other men wll set next to her? Didnt Ezra make takanos that men shouldnt be around their wifes all the time like tarnegolim?
Whatever happened to the halacha that since the churban music is assur accept for a sudas mitzvah?
“No, but his wife or mother would. And she might just make a nicely herbed chicken.”
You think that R. Moshe’s rebetzin would have made “Scarboro Fair Chicken?” based on the goyishe song? I dont think so!
“And re the sweet and sour meatballs: if this is a recipe that’s reserved for Shabbos, yom tov, special occasions, and enjoyed by the family…what am I missing? “
So you think its okay for a family to have peanut butter and jelly sandwichs if their reserved for shabbas?
sorry double post
“and (b) refer back to point #1 above. :)”
So your willing to risk your kids safety so that you can take pictures? I thought you said you were a responsible parent?
“We sometimes have sweet & sour meatballs and spaghetti for Shabbos.”
Meatballs and spigetti is NOT a shabbas food! Its a weekday food. You have to make your shabbas food special.
“This week I made Scarborough Fair chicken which in the past was a hit.”
Would any real talmid chacham make food based on a goyishe song? (I had to google it to find out what it is).
“FWIW, I always vote based on the candidate and not based on the party.”
How about voting for who das torah tells you to vote for?
“Wolfish Shloimie’s Shver apologised. He seems to be sincere, so just type the two words ???? ??”
Dont expect Wolf to forgive. He thinks hes better than everyone else.
“Yet, it’s clear that when it came time to apply these halachos, Moshe was clearly unaware of them. “
Madua lo yirasem ledabair beavdi bemoshe?!! How can small minded you say that Moshe the gratest person to ever live, the one taught by Hashem himself didnt know the halachos. Who do you think you are? Of course Moshe new the halacha! To say anything else is apikorsus. Moshe knew the answers and he also knew that even tho he knew the answers he was supposed to ask Hashem for the answer to those questions.
So you dont believe in medevar sheker and you dont believe in makom kavuah.
“My #1 rule: Don’t get involved with other couples’ marital relationships. If it works for them, great. If not, they’ll work it out.”
That dosnt apply if their doing things kneged halacha like spending too much time with their wife and so on. Then I do have to get involved since kol yisroel arivim zeh lazeh.
“I guess the answer to that question is me.”
Considiring some of the things you said in the evolution page Im not certain that you want to bring yoruself as a good example. I wouldnt necesarily call an apikorus like yourself frum.
“I happen not to agree, but putting that aside for a minute, have you actually seen a couple that does not “stam shmooze” have a successful, productive marriage? “
I dont know what goes on behind couples closed doors but I do know people who are real yarei shamayim and they wouldnt so bluntly go against something so open in pirke avos. I do know that I never saw my parents stam shmooze.
Shouldnt the ring be separate, since the chosen has to own it himself?
Even married woman shouldnt wear make up all the time for her husband alone. We see that takanos were made so that men shouldnt be always aitzel neshosaihem ketarnegol. Once in a while is one thing but not all the time – even just for her husband.
Midwest – it is important because we have to know who we can listen to and who not to. If you know that someone is an apikorus (like a certain former member used to proudly proclaim to be) then you cant listen to anything he says and you have to shun him until he does teshuva. You also have to know that hes pasul for eidus or to be counted for a minyan and lots of other things.
“MR- Actually in order to have a healthy emotional relationship the husband NEEDS to talk with his wife.”
Of course. You need to talk about things you need to run the house. What schools, doctors appointments, what types of windows to put in, what to budget so on. But not to stam shmooze.
I meant after. Yur wife is NOT yur friend. Shes a partner with you in raising a family but shes not there for you to hang around with. Al Tarbeh Sichah still applies. She has her friends and you have yurs. She has her social circle and you have yurs. Yes you need to talk to run the house and make desicions, but beyond that, there is no need for stam talking between man and wife.
“I’ve asked him many times why he’s on the internet(I hope it doesn’t go furthur than YW) even if it’s assur and not once got a response.”
I spoke with my rav and rosh yeshiva on this and they okayed my going to college under theyre supervision and that means being on the internet. I got a list of sites Im allowed to visit and yeshivaworld is one of them.
Not to compliment or say nice things about goyim.
“mosherose: you seem to have “talked about ????” a great deal since you started commenting and I take it based upon all your past posts that you are no rabbi “
Yur right. Im not a rav. But you dont have to be a rav to know that basic things are assur or muttar. You dont need a rav to tell you that pig is traif. In the same way you dont need a rav to tell you that you haveto follow the mishna of not speaking to your wife too much.
“mosherose: 1st of all, is the kedushas shoshnim saying it’s halacha, or hanhaga of more kedusha?
secondly, as far as his view, what would be during yemei tahara if the wife would go in a non clingy even when wet fully tznius bathing suit? “
Sorry I only have internet access in school and I was not in school most of the summer.
The Kedushas Shoshanim says that it is completely assur to swim even privately with your own wife. He doesnt say specifikally about if she wore such a tznius suit but how many peopel go swimming with their wifes wearing such a suit? Most wifes would wear a regular suit and the Kedushas Shoshanim says that its assur to look at your wife even when not a nidda if shes not dressed tznius. He says this as halacha not minhag or chumra.
“Very frequently, in the shul I lain in, kids will pull up a chair to the bimah and watch me lain from the opposite side. There is one kid (a Down’s Syndrome sufferer) who makes sure to always watch me lain when he can. “
What about putting a yirah of a makom kedusha and something as kodesh as laining in kids? If you let them think its a game theyll loose all respect for the laining and shul.
“Not talking to your wife too much”
Yes. Lots of people like wolf are nichshol in this.
“Why? Do you feel that rabbis are the only ones who are qualified to talk about halacha?”
YES. Only rabbanon and poskim can talk about halacha. Otherwise its like a stam person talking about brain surgery… he nos nothing and it only makes it more dangerous when they get wrong information.
“Simple. Just do it yourself. Don’t impose it on the rest of the Litvishe (or any other non-Chassidic) world.”
Wrong! It should be set up for all of klal yisroel. Besides preventing couples from going out on dates for years like you did, it will also stop the husband and wife from becoming too close after their married.
“How about we show proper respect for Jews AND non-Jews?”
Did you ever hear of the lav of lo sechanaim?
“There is also some literature that even deaf-mutes today are not the equivalent of deaf-mutes in earlier generations since they can now be educated.”
I dont read “literature”. What do I care about what some Amharez author wrote? Show me some actual halachah.
I cant understand why some people in this thread are arguing aganst the Shulchan Aruch. We dont do that. The Shulachn Aruch is halacha period.
“2. The identification as a student of RYBP is wrong and he was really the talmid of a later tanna. “
Your saying that the gemara is wrong and some sheygitz “historian” is right? And this post was allowed up?
The gemara says oso haish was a talmid of rav yehoshua ben perachya — end of story! No wonder you consider yurself an apikorus heretic. You are one for even thinking that the gemara is wrong.
“I wasn’t going to bring that up, but sadly, that is true. I know that makes me somewhat of a hypocrite… but so be it. :(“
Then dont be a hypocrite and stop talking! Or do you like being holier than thou and knock people for talking while you do it all the time during layning.
Moshe – Wolf has kidded around about this many times — even though he sounds very serious when joking. He is the baal korah for leining, as he admitted many times, hence he “talks during leining.”
The Kedushas Shoshanim says perek 17 seif 4 that yur not aloud to look at yur wife undressed even when tahor. This is from Avrohom Avinu who never looked at Soroh so that we didnt know how beautiful she was until he acidently looked at her reflection in the river. This isnot a chumra but actual halachah. So swimming with yur wife is 100% assur. Theres nothing to talk about.
Wolf? Whats with the silly questions? What diffrince is it to you why the leaders of Menashe were upset — the Torah tells us they were upset and gave us the reason. The nesiim were the gedoli hador of the greatest dor of all time. They dont need you questioning them.