moshedovid

The elephant in the room (something no one wants to discuss) is kollel. If the girls are told throughout high school and seminary that they MUST marry kollel then of course this eliminates a large pool of eligible men
If someone learning in Lakewood has a list of 50-100 girls then of course he can “demand” 10-15 years of support a house etc. as well as beautiful (my wife is a shadchan and she has been told this on several occasions!