MorahRach

I didnt mean to bash MO at ALL! I grew up MO, that was not my intention. What I meant was, don’t judge those who are watching and supporting him, because in their eyes ( and mine) they are not doing anything wrong. But the people saying they are wrong are probably going against their communities beliefs by being on the Internet.

I know!!! We are calling as SooN as we mOve which iyH is in the next 2 weeks. what I don’t get it that the Police have been called so many times, by all of the neighbors, yet they do nothing.

Yes i am a teacher. I am required to report any signs of abuse regarding the children in my classroom, but i agree with you. As i stated i feel awful that i have not reported it sooner. I was pregnant this whole year and this neighbor has threatened me NUMEROUS times and honestly, i was afraid she was going to push me down a flight of stairs or worse. So i was being selfish. I happen to have a newborn now which is why i am pushing it off until i move. I hope that Hashem forgives me for that but i was putting my family first.

I do not want to say too much because it may give me away, as my husband and i have discussed the situation with many of our friends, but what goes on in that home is out of control, and unbearable for the kids. No one is answering my question so i will ask again, IF acs does come and for whatever reason lets the kids stay, what if the parents react WORSE then usual and do something drastic? I am being 100% serious. As i told the police one of the many times i called them on these neighbors, ” does a child need to be killed for you to actually do something about this”?

I don’t know about the OP’s situation, but mine I am guessing they don’t want help. I assume they think what they are doing is normal. They have an aid for one of their children and they keep scaring them off, they scream/threaten everything and everyone but I have only seen and heard them physically abuse their children.

Ofcourse they don’t want to keep the children, the system is overflowing with children unfortunately. I gues consulting someone would not be the worst thing. I plan to call either ways just don’t, as I said, want this to anger them more and have them take it out on their children( like they do everything else). It’s just just cases of me hearing, have seen as well as they do nothing to hide their behavior.

I hope it’s the same. This poor kid. What an awful story, 20 people were standing there watching and did nothing. In this day and age when everyone has a phone on them pretty much at all times, I’m appalled.May he have a refuah sheleima and please let those thugs get what is coming to them.

Oh my gosh I was about to start a thread about acs. I need these questions answered as well. I have been debating calling acs on my neighbors because they beat on their children and verbally abuse them to no end. I am wondering though, in the ny area what it will be like for the kids. Surely better than what they have going on now.

I agree, it does not sense. I personally have some minor reservations about MBP, more so

before the story came out that the most recent child thought to have died from it really caught the sore from his pacifier.

…But, how any politician can openly support abortion yet condem MBP boggles my mind. Well how any human can openly support abortion boggles my mind..

My husband paid for half of our limo and his friends paid the other half. Our chasuna was really far from where we live and his friends offered to pay for it but my husband decided to just split it. For everyone here saying how unessecary and wasteful a limo is, I have to say it was such a special part of the night! My husband and I were starving because we literally did not have 5 seconds to eat at the wedding, do we ate our steaks in the limo and and not be crammed in our wedding clothes into the backseat of a car. The hotel was somethig my husband wanted because our apartment was not totally ready yet it was a big mess, and he thought that it would make me happy ( which it did).

And to whomever said that goyim wear white dresses to their weddings, +1!!!!! Hello?? Should we start to wear black so as to distant ourselves as far as we can from goyim. Maybe we should have the dancing and dinner before the chuppah so that is the opposite too!

More, where do you get your statistics from? What is the 80% of otd children based on?

Side note: if c’v my child ate a bacon sandwich infront of me I would still never “disinherit” him. Why are we even discussing this? Your child is your child. You show them unconditional love. I would think one would never give up hope of them returning to the right path.

I don’t live in Brooklyn and I have spent very little if any time there, so I do no know how people greet each other on shabbos or any other day. Where I live, which is a very frum community as well, men will nod to me and

/say good shabbos almost every time. I don’t think anyone has ever walked passed me on shabbos and put their heads down. I am talking about very yeshivish men, not chassidish maybe it makes a difference. This is a reason I love me neighborhood. I don’t know many people besides my friends but everyone is friendly. And 2 millisecond ” good shabbos” or a pleasant nod doesn’t do any harm. This has never led to IMO any bad behavior on my Part and I would assume on the part of then men who wish me and my husband a good shabbos.

Where does it say that it’s assur? I would assume its accepted on so

E places and not in others. Where I grew up if you didn’t wish a passerbyer good shabbos you were extremely rude, but I’m sure on the streets of bp and Lakewood the opposite is true. I would think though that if a woman was walking and said good shabbos, and you put your head down and kept walking that that would do more damage to the image of frumkeit you are trying to display than not.

I’m so sorry I know how hard it is to have to have this discussion. Many times, as a teacher I have had to approach parents with concerns like this and it does not get better over time. Can I ask what age the child is now? If something like what we are discussing is going on her teacher should notice it. That is unless the child is still very young and maybe the school has yet to pick up on it.

Can I ask the obvious question? Does the child show other signs of depression/abuse/neglect/ or other emotional issues? A very common sign of autism is lack of emotional response and lack of smile, socially withdrawn, lack of eye contact. Do you see any of these signs?

He does want to lessen the dependence on Medicaid which is what we need. I think he is a fantastic choice. I have heard him on the John Gambling show ( talk radio) a number of times. He is a real conservative, and from his speech today I can see that he will be able to hold his own with Obama and Biden.

” this is YESHIVA works news”. I went to a ” yeshiva” high school and it co-ed. There are many different types of Jews, many different types of frum Jews. You seeing an anonymous Jew write that they watch the Olympics I hope is not going to ruin your life.

I respect them because they worked so hard for something. It’s amazing to work at something every day and accomplish your goals ( mainly being the best in the world at something). Before I got married I was training for a half marathon. I ran, I worked out I ate right.. I got married & pregnant bH and did not accomplish that goal, but if I had I would have been so proud of myself. Clearly in my case what I did accomplish was greater but that is not my point. The Olympics may not fit into a “torahdik” lifestyle, but who in the Olympics takes on a fully torahdik lifestyle anyway. ally raisman called attention the Jews in a positive way. Honestly most goyim when they think of Jews think of chassidim with long payos and and nickers. ( which is fine) BUT maybe if they think they can relate to us a little better it will lead to less anti-semitism. Who knows.

How is “Jewish pride” a chillul Hashem? Is she conservative, mo? I have no idea but I am sure that she made a positive impression on the millions of people watching, especially since there has been a lot of negative press for Jews lately.

I don’t think there is anything wrong with anything that I said. I’m not sure why it is bothering you so much. Can’t we agree to disagree? This is completely irrelevant BUT I would rather be friends with someone who has good midos, is charitable, helpful, considerate etc and wears pants, then is completely Tsnius and a jerk. Obviously if everyone were perfect moshiach would be here! I’m just saying wearing pants is not the worst thing in the world, but obviously it bothers me or I would not have commented on the thread! It makes me sad that so many of my friends don’t care about being religious anymore but what can I do? Pick them apart and never speak to them again?

Ofcourse all pants on women are untsnius!! Didn’t you read my posts? My point was that all of my friends who moved to the city stopped being frum. By saying ” lovely” I was trying to be nice. I did not look at her and think eww you look heinous. I thought ” Oy I remember spending so many shabbosim with you and we talked about what we were looking for in boys and what kind of lives we wanted in the future, and this is just not that”. You misunderstood me. By saying lovely I was referring to your comment about how Jeans are not approprate. He wore ” fancy” jeans. Anyway..

Wait though when I go through ez pass, it’s automatic there is no one actually swiping my ez pass.

And it’s not about beating the system. Tolls ate outrageously expensive and a lot of the money goes to funding projects that have nothing to do with the mta. I worked over a bridge this year and spent hundreds every month, and the tolls for the bridge went up after I took the job. Now I usually do have 3 people in my car, why not use this benefit?

Ok you are extremely rude. I don’t care if you buy it or not. 2 of my best fiends growing up and a number of friends from high school moved to the uws and… Not one keeps shabbos or kosher anymore. Many still go to shul Friday night and they do shabbos meals with friends, but they are not keeping shabbos. As I said they are still my good friends, I love them it has not drastically changed out friendships, but that is the truth.

And why would the cr censor the fact that I wrote someone looked nice in pants? You can still look attractive if you are not tsnius, just because I don’t wear pants does not mean I think people who do are disgusting.

I didn’t say it was the worst thing in the world. Read my post. I said she is a great person. She is a very good friend but if you knew how frum she had been for years and years, you would atleast do a double take. Don’t make this tread into something it’s not. Maybe there are a lot of frum Jews on the uws, and that’s great! But every single one ( no exaggeration here) of my friends from HS and college that moved to the uws is no longer frum. I am personally still friends with them because a friendship does not disappear over night, the only things it really effects is when they want to go out and eat at places I cannot.

It depends on a number of things. Do you have a car? Will you be traveling a lot because if so you need to consider money for gas. Are you paying utilities? Rent is a lot lower lets say on Lakewood than Queens. Do you have any bills /debts to pay off? 2/2500 seems OK, but little things do come up. Having a little extra for those nights when you just want to go out to dinner, or away for the weekend is really nice to have. But if

Your rent in in the 1000,1200 range that should be ok. Don’t buy a brisket to make every shabbos if things ate tight. Also buying family packs of chicken I have found saves money and I freeze what I don’t use right away and use if for week night dinner or the next shabbos.

Also find out of your grocery gives discounts. In queens the grocery stores give discounts if you are a teacher or if you are in landers.

Good luck!!

Such a nice thing to say! I think the point of your post got a little lost with people going off topic but.. Wow!! I hope you find a wonderful wife soon who does all those things and that she appreciates you just as much as you do her!!