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I make my husbands bed, nurse my children and feed his..oh wait we dont have an ox..do other pets count?
And by he way, my husband lost 20 pounds on the rambam diet.
I have no information about the yeshiva but I know the Rosh yeshiva and he is a very good man.
Truth sharer, I thought you wrote ” morocon” families lol. I was so confused. But good idea.
I’m the school I taught at for 3 years, a Jewish school, the only way the child could attend school without vaccinations was with a letter from the Dr. You will be hard pressed to find a doctor nowadays who will write such a note. And as my sons frum doctor says, ” people who do t vaccinate their children should be shot”.
I had scarlet fever when I was very little, I was quite ill but correct, there is no vaccine.
Chance, copy and pasting various articles by different Doctors isn’t going to prove to us anything. The truth is, those who don’t vaccinate their children should be held responsible when other children get sick as a result. I was a little weary of giving my son his 12 month shots, I bought into the autism scare for about 4 minutes, even though before I had never been a believer in that. I did my research, talked to many, many doctors, and realized that it is just plain false. It is now reccomended that children/babies in the Brooklyn area get the MMR vaccine at 6 months instead of the usual 1 year..it’s that serious. People should value the lives of their children and see that Hashem gave us these beautiful scientific miracles and we should take full advantage.
I have never heard of this halacha. Very interesting. I’m a woman so i guess it doesn’t count for me, but i can only fall asleep on my back.
As for these actions being part of your kiruv, if i were that kid, i too would be turned off. Even a non- BT teenager probably would be. And if you know this is a shabbaton of BT boys, going around and ” inspecting” to make sure they arent being mechalel shabbos in private…#1 they probably lost all respect for you if they had any to begin with, #2 treating them like little children who need to be checked on and controlled probably made them want to be mechalel shabbos even more.
My father, uncles, grandfather a’h all did and do. I grew up learning gun safety but also how to shoot.
I’m so for this. I have nothing to hide. And btw, they aren’t monitorin your calls. They can’t hear the conversation, they can only see what numbers you are calling:receiving calls. And if you on are the Internet, don’t most of you have someone monitoring your Internet searches already ?
Tzedaka
Ahavas yisroel
Hashem loves you no matter what and He is always, always there and is proud of all the mitzvos you do everyday.
I got my husband something he loveddddd but definitely not a common yichud gift. He wanted a leather recliner chair really badly, but didn’t want to spend the money on it when we were picking out our furniture. I ordered him one that was delivered during Sheva brachos. I printed out a picture and wrapped the picture and gave that to him.
ZD, who said there were 1000 NK? It was a very small group this year, thankfully. I didn’t even hear them this year, they just stood there with their signs.
As for the toieva. I kept my eyes peeled for them and must have missed them. I got there at 1030 before the parade started and stayed until almost the end. I was hoping they never marched but I guess they did.
I had the best time!!! I haven’t gone in a few years, I used to march with my schools, but this was the first year I went since I got married. Hands down the funniest moment was when Anthony Weiner waved to my husband and myself. Everyone around us just laughed because..come on, can’t take him seriously. On a more serious note, there was so much ruach and happiness it was amazing. There were more non Jewish organizations this year than I remember which was so nice. NK of course, barricaded safely away from anyone who might want to give them a piece of their mind.. Why are they allowed to protest?
I would never consider NOT tipping movers. 10% seems steep, and the amount should be up to the customer, but the act of tipping is most definitely necessary. When I moved 2 years ago, the movers couldn’t get my couch through the doorway of my new apt, it was August and boiling hot, they tried for 2 hours but ultimately it wasn’t happening. I gave them a huge tip because they had worked so hard. When you have a service provided for you, it’s appropriate to tip.
I think this is so sad. I saw this the other day, someone sent me a link, and I was blown away. I heard that the bidders were this guys friends. I’m just so sad. I personally, although I try to do the right thing and be a role model for my child/children, do mitzvos, keep Halacha, I’m terrified about what comes after life. As the seller put it ” were only in gehenom for 11 months”, to me that’s an eternity! I was just speaking to my husband about it, and about how frightened I am for that time. I know it’s off topic but, does anyone have any words of advice for me to not live life so scared of that. Or is it good to be frightened?
My phone isn’t letting me click the link can so
Some just translate fargin?
I just want to add something because I feel badly that I compared myself to poor/homeless and hungry people. It was my choice to stay home and not work this year, I easily could have stayed at my job, but I chose to be home with my son. While it was a financial struggle, I would not change a thing! We definitely had to adapt and change our lifestyle but I think it was worth it. I am iyH going back to work in a month or too, I am dreading leaving my son but it will be nice to be able to get some new clothing, easily afford gas for the car and maybe even put some $ into savings!
What does fargin mean?
Thank you syag. I am in no way trying to compare my life with those of the less fortunate. I am not destitute that so many others, I just live on a very tight budget, I k ow the difference. I was just trying to explain or say that when one is giving tzedeka, there are things such as food and undergarments that are more of a necessity than another pair of shoes. I didn’t see the original thread, maybe I am missing some information so ill end here. We should all be on the giving end always Please Gd.
SL, you misunderstand. When I say live comfortably, I mean, healthy happy and not taking money from the government/tzedaka/our parents. We get by. I can’t afford to get new clothes that fit me, even though since giving birth I basically have nothing to wear so I wear the same couple of outfits. I have one nice Shabbos skirt that fits me, and that’s it. I don’t go hungry though, I have what to feed my family and iyH things will only improve from here. I also don’t believe that the people you all are talking about have not gotten a new pair of shoes in 10 years. First of all that makes no sense in regards to children, as they need at least one new pair a year because their feet grow constantly. 10 years in a egsageration that I don’t appreciate.
I have stayed home this whole year with my child, BH what a Bracha it has been. That being says, this year was an absolute financial struggle and we were unable to splurge/purchase things that weren’t really necessities , at least for the most part. I have not gotten myself a new Shabbos outfit, top , bottom nothing since right before Rosh Hashana. I haven’t gotten myself new Shabbos shoes in over a year. My husband, who’s feet kill him from wearing his work/Shabbos shoes, has not gotten new shoes in over a year. BH we put food on the table, live comfortably on one salary for now, enjoy our life but rarely shop for anything g that’s not food, diapers or baby clothes. Is someone going to tell me that tzedeka should go towards new Shabbos shoes for me? If someone wanted to buy me shoes..how lovely!! But why? I unlike so many others, am not in need of tzedeka. BH I Am able to give tzedeka. When I do, I hope it’s going to things more important than An extra pair of shoes.
What made the OP seem like a troll, I’m lost. OP where are you looking , I have a good one.
We did family pictures before the chuppah and ours after. If you take your before, you can’t take any close or touching pictures it’s a poor option.
False popa. I’m 24 and I can’t be on my parents. I was off it at 21 then obamacare came about and they are very strict about putting people back on their parents. If you were on when obamacare went into effect, that’s different but no, not everyone is automatically on their parents until age 26.
I was my towns go to babysitter for years!! I babysat for one family every Thursday night for 4 hours, for 4 years. Some of these are so true! I love kids, I loved babysitting. I’m a teacher and a mom, can’t get enough. To those overreacting..calm down! You are reacting as though a 16 year old should have the maturity level and responsible head of a 25 year old. Maybe this is part of the shidduch crisis? People excpcting children to act and behave as adults.
Anyway, I didn’t mind if the kids were up. I liked making dinner for them and putting them to bed, but once they were asleep-the best part was taking something to eat and reading a book/magazine or even watch tv if you were in that kind of house.
Horro story: one time the father of the children I was watching was paying me and I was there 4 hours and 45 minutes. He didn’t have change but didn’t want to give me those few extra dollars, so he asked if I had change. I said no, so he said ” ok ill get you next time”. I never got those few dollars he owed me. Outrageous! One of the wealthiest families in my town. This was like, 6 years ago and I still think about it!
When I volunteered with a special needs boy one summer, I went to water parks with him, out to eat, to the mall, whatever his mother wanted. I had fun while giving him a good time/keeping him safe/making his mother smile. Did I also have fun? Yes. So is the mitzvah undone?
As much as I hate discussing this, even with strangers, I had an eating disorder for years. Although I have kept its at bay, it’s not something that you outgrow or get over but you can “stop”. Some of the advice here is just plain wrong, and it’s clear that you have no experience with dealing with an eating disorder or people suffering from one, so you should not be giving advice . To the poster who wrote that you should go to a Rabbi or someone with authority.. Why because his authority will have to force her to stop? That’s delusional. If I had had a friend who knew about my situation, and she would have gone to my mother, that would have been the end of our friendship. I got pretty good at hiding and lying when it came to my issues, so if my mother had confronted me i would have lied through my teeth and made her believe me. Now I am not saying not to help, but the attitude here and advice is wrong. Talking to a school
Psychologist is not a bad idea, for they can give you real tools to help your friend , talking to your friend in a mom threatening way, telling her you are worried and that having a candid conversation. The truth is, she isn’t only throwing up or not eating for short term to lose weight for shiddichim, it just doesn’t work that way. It’s a very emotionally draining disease and you will not stop until you are ready.
I, after a long while, decided on my own to discuss it with a very sweet rabbi who also stood as psychologist in my high school. He helped me without threatening to tell my mom or friends but he talked to me almost daily and helped me work through my problems. I had had no idea that being bulimic posed a danger to future pregnancies and that is probably one of the major reasons I worked so hard to stop. I won’t lie and say after high school it never happened again, but I did get a lot better and Baruch Hashem am a mommy to a healthy big baby boy and iyH will have many, many more children, healthy and happy. It was my choice, not something a doctor or rabbi or parent forced me to do. This is a very complicated situation and you shouldn’t listen to advice from people not in the know.
OP, thank you for bringing this to everyone’s attention. While yes, the OP failed to completely details the process in which doctors in the US can detect spina bifida, she was just bringing to light an important condition that, yes, folic acid is a key nutrient that when taken reduces the risk immensely. I took folic acid daily in the months before I was married. Since I gae birth last summer I have completely forgotten about it! Thanks for reminding me, and when I opened this threa a few days ago, I went out and bought a new bottle and have began taking them again. I do eat lots of leafy greens but, better safe than sorry!
DY, I wasn’t or didn’t mean to hint at a higher divorce rate ping the yeahivish crowd than the modern crowd at all. What I am saying is that to my knowledge, the divorce rate among the yeahivish or yeshiva crowd IS going up.
It’s not at all about indecisiveness. It’s about the fact that people are expected to make the most important decision of their lives in a matter of days. I have a number of friends who have been dating for years but either they or the other wanted to continue and felt they needed a few more days, but of course the shidduch had to end. When did the whole shidduch system become what it was. Surely we all know that even in the frum community, years ago men and women , boys and girls, actually met each other on their own, didn’t have to necessarily go through 3 channels , shadchan mothers sisters etc to see if a date should even take place. I think that the current system treats these potential chosson and kallahs as children, and if you believe they are children, then they shouldn’t yet be married.
I will also note that more and more people I know and meet are divorced by age 23 and it shocks me every time but I am unfortunately becoming desensitized to it.
If after a handful of dates you aren’t 100% positive that you want to spend the rest of your life with that person, raise a family with that person and be intimate, I don’t think that shows there is an issue with you. Rather it shows that perhaps the shiddych system is somewhat flawed.
I think he should be executed. Do I think it will happen? No, not in this country. If he was 16 I would say no to the death penalty, but the truth is 18,19,20 it’s all the same. He is legally an adult. Now the better question is, what is going to happen to him considering you cannot be put to dead of you are injuries or sick. Now I know people can be on death row for years upon years, but from what I have heard, he sustained life long injuries.
Republican.
They don’t put pigs milk in with cows milk in the US.
DY, I don’t understand your post. You are equating someone who smokes to someone who talks on a cell phone? So you would turn down a shidduch for your son of you heard the girl has a cell phone? Good luck finding a shidduch.
Also, I am quite the pro gun morah. So that example doesn’t make sense to me either!
Shalomtoyou. False.
I’m glad that with terrorists, and bombings, and other majorly important issues going on in our country, this is what is on your mind. How about if YOU don’t think it’s Tsnius, you don’t do it?
I never thougt about it before, but yes it does seem pretty gross and I’m not sure why.
The goq, too funny!
I primarily use gmail but I do have a yahoo account because there is a yahoo community group in the town where I live and you can only get those email if you are logged into your yahoo mail.
Also what is an innaropriate headline?
Oomis, of course the FBI has intel they haven’t shared with the public yet. They always have more information than they let be known- for good reason. One of the men in question is a Saudi national , and as much as the left wants to point a finger at a teeny percentage of Muslims committing these acts, we k ow better. I’m sure there is a small cell in Boston, that wouldn’t surprise me at all. Details will emerge I guess well have to wait and see.
Swiet, you are advocating lying on ones resume? First of all that is morally and ethically wrong and anyone who would do that is of poor character. Secondly, what if said person lies and does get caught, what are the chances of them being hired again by a reputable organization?
Popa and the like. When you say the most successful people you know don’t have degrees, which I find hard to believe, how old are they? Times have changed. It is near impossible to get decent-high paying jobs without at least a BA. Nurses, teachers, OT, PT, social worker, counselor, therapist, MD, NP, PA these are all jobs that require more than just a BA. Even secretarial jobs prefer undergrad studies. Don’t steer her in the wrong direction!
^ like bush and the wmd? The bush administration had intel that there were weapons on mass destruction. Their problem was waiting so long to make good on their promise to go in and the weapons were probably smuggled underground to Saudi Arabia. Don’t put Obama, lehavdeil, and President Bush in the same sentence.
It’s good that you are aware of the situation and trying to take matters into your own hands. I will say that one of the above posters is dead wrong about college being overrated. I would like him to back up his idiotic statement. I went to college, and my husband did. I’m 24, not like it was ages ago and things are different. My husband went to touro with men only. He has friends who decided they didn’t need college because its overrated. One is married with a baby and just moved back in with his in laws. One works 3 part time jobs. So many are on gov assistance and being supported by their parents, not because they agreed upon it and are learning, but because their garbage jobs don’t pay the bills. Stay on school but be realistic with what you can handle. Switch schools if need be, take a course or 2 online if you can, talk with your parents and mentors and see what the best options are.
Actually I think, short of a massive electrical explosion, most people’s minds went straight to terror. BH we have been so lucky that so many terrorist attempts have been thwarted by the American government. Thank Gd they do such a great job at keeping up safe. But let’s be honest, when you heard terrorist attack, you think Muslim. Yes there have been a few who weren’t, but the majority were and will be.