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Since you are calling me out I will inform you that citgo and lukoil do not import oil from the middle easy. Ofcourse it would be nearly impossible to never get oil sold by the Arabs but I said I try my best.
That’s true I forgot about the fact that they do carry a lot of kosher items.
I don’t get gas from “Arab stations”. Years ago my family researched which stations get gas from there and we do not fill up our tanks there or atleast we try not to. And there is a difference between boycotting every single place that may or may not employ or support toeiva but the message target came out with loud and clear, that they are giving all the proceeds to the cause etc is different. Not that everyone should boycott target, it is a personal choice for people. Frankly target is a fantastic store that carries everything i can think of. But some people after reading what the OP said may not feel comfortable giving them further business.
The OP was just trying to inform us so that we can make our own decisions, and have all the information. I love target but this does make me very uncomfortable. Yes many many many designers are homosexuals, I would venture a guess that most male designers are, or so it seems in the fashion magazines that I read (once in a blue moon). There is a difference between that.. And between a corporation vocally support something such as this and announcing that all proceeds from a specific line is going to a group that also supports it. Now I would not be someone who is going to purchase a rainbow pride sweatshirt or whatever that are selling, but I may think twice about giving my business to target henceforth.
Cholent to a dog!?!? You will be cleaning the carpet for days
Before you stress yourself out about it, talk to them. It may be a simple thing like, oh yeah I never log onto that thing, ill delete it , you won’t know until you discuss it. Or maybe he/she? Is the type that is only friends with family on it I know many people that do that just so they can see family pictures and things I that nature. Don’t write them off yet!
Because I am not a socialist. Why should I pay for someone else’s health care when so many will get it for free. Yes someone is in it deep she they get sick and do not have health care, but it should be a choice. If Obama is going to penalize those without healthcare, what else can and will he enforce? If I choose not to have car insurance, will the government penalize me then? Or if I want to stuff my face with candy all day and become obese, is that the next thing the Libs are going to regulate? We are already headed in that direction.
Furthermore it is completely unconstitutional. How the individual mandate was passed is beyond me. I believe it will be repealed at some point. You can give Obama credit for trying to have the appearance of everyone’s best interest at heart but it is a farce. He is a socialist who wants compete control over every aspect of our lives. How so many people are blind too it I can’t get.
Unfortunately so many frum yidden take take take take from the government, so I would imagine many are for the affordable care act. To call it a “tax” should be illegal. I pay my taxes, I work as does my husband, so I am going to be paying this new “tax” while those who have been getting a free ride ALL along will once again be covered fee free with this act and I will be footing the bill.
That is why I opposed.
Well I am a girl and I love animals. Cats I can take or leave but I have a soft spot for dogs.
yes! this is awesome.i have 2 dogs! maybe that is a lo but i have always had dog, never less than too. They show unconditional love, they need us to care for them, they are great with kids, great for protection,great company. My friends growing up loved my dogs, yet after seminary i would say the vast majority could not go into my parents home unless the dogs were locked up. What is the deal?
NOt necessarily! My mother just got a new phone a few months ago, Verizon flip phone it is not ancient. It is quite nice looking. It does now have browsing capability, she does have email but I know you can disable that!
Why do people pay all that money for android and iPhones if they don’t want the ability to use the Internet. I understand why the need for filters but by dont you just get a much cheaper flip phone. The whole point of these smart phones is the apps and Internet.
sooo many intros are tunes to goyish music, you just don’t realize. My husband and i came in to a Sum 41 song, Fat Lip, the tunes was great it stars slow then gets really loud and instrumental. BTW it plays for about 15-20 seconds before the band picks up with the regular first dance music.
Speak for yourself. I personally work with a number of goyim who I consider friends. I have gone to get togethers at a mom-Jews house and they ordered in triple wrapped food from a place acceptable to my family, we had a table just for our food and the entire party was served on plastic ware. I am not of the belief that I am on a higher level then a fellow Jew OR fellow human. We are all on this earth together.
Back to the OP. as long as you supervise your child you should be fine! Gl
There really are no guarantees, but no one here will be able to tell you what to do. It’s something you will feel in your gut. If you are being pressured to make a decision and you are not sure, changes are its probably not the best match.
Oomis you are awesome. Well said.
Loyal Jew. I understand the point you are trying to make, but I can’t get on board with thinking like that. I personally wouldn’t want a shidduch for my child that is going to high horse themselves so much that they can’t accept someone who has family members that are not up to they standards of religious. My mother wears pants, and does not cover her hair. She keeps shabbos, kosher, literally has the best midos of anyone I know. She is the first person to jump to help someone, to pick someone up from the airport, to change a strangers flat tire( yea my mom is superwoman). I am very proud to have her as my mom, never once have I been ashamed of the fact that she and my dad are very modern. One shidduch that was redt to me,many other thigs were wrong about the match but the boys mother actually said to me infront of his sisters, ” we’ll if this goes anywhere it is going to be humiliating at the wedding if your mothers hair is not covered”. BH it didn’t end up going far, but who says that?!!! My modern mother would never have the chutzpah.
I definitely agree with inviting people for a shabbos meal. When I moved to where I live now last year I knew one other couple, and for a few months I was really sad that I just had no women to speak to. I’m not sure of your age, I am about to turn 24 with one child bH, I worked full time up until I gave birth and I worked in a different state then I lived so I was always driving and exhausted. We started inviting my husbands friends and their wives over and now I have a handful of very good friends, bH and feel much more at home. Acquaintances doesn’t cut it. I need a friend/friends I can text randomly, or give a call just to schmooze, or plan a walk to the park. It took some time but inviting people over did the trick.
I know so many people who became frum a little later in life. Are they supposed to say ” ok mom and dad thanks for all you have done for me but I am cutting ties with you, bye!” ofcourse not! I have family that isn’t religious in the least but they have a kosher grill for when we come, endless new paper plates cups flatware. When we come they get us cakes and pies from acceptable bakeries. But when we go to functions with 50 other people who too are not religious or even Jewish, our hosts are expected to make the entire event kosher? For sure not. They are in my opinion going above and beyond by doing what I just stayed, especially because it is not something they believe is necessary, but out of respect they do what needs to be done to ensure our attendance. All you need to do is supervise your child, and explain to a 7 year old, there are a lot of things here we can eat and a lot we cant, so come to mommy and she will make you a plate and show you the nosh you can eat!
I have always wondered this!! Does anyone have an answer? On long long car rides I have stopped with my family at McDonalds and the like for coffee, and I always wondered what if people see me? There were usually rest stops in the middle of nowhere though. I have the same question about diners. I know many frum people who will get coffee in a diner, which is served in a china muh which is for sure washed in the dishwasher used for everything else. I was told by many that it is fine but how is it fine?? No one I have spoken to seems to think it is an issue.
I just had a baby a few weeks ago bH, and I had a male ob and I love him!!! He was the only doctor I saw throughout my pregnancy and he was so kind and patient, at first I was nervous because he was a man, and he was really amazing. When I went into labor he was not on call and I had a woman deliver me.. Who was fantastic! BH no complaints about either one, I was a little upset he was not there but I could not have asked for a better experience. So I think it depends on the person, not necessarily if it is a man or woman.
You don’t deserve a response.. So I won’t give one!
Volunteering at beis Ezra type places?
Health- good thing I didn’t ask you to shed any years for me then. Also calling me a wannabe makes you sound like a .. Well jerk. I don’t attempt to compare myself to someone in the
Medical field. What my point was, is that I really wanted to go into medicine, I love science and I excelled in it, but after having that course in mind for 3 years I decided it was not for me. I was just sharing a personal experience. Why did you have to try and make me feel foolish? Atleast I went to college and have an education unlike many others.
No need to try and put me down.
Anyway. I think it’s a really great think when a frum woman is a physician. My pediatrician for many years was a modern orthodox woman, I really likes her I felt like she understood me more than any other doctor I had ever seen. Good luck.
Go for it!! I was pre med in college and eventually gave it up..after 3 long years and switched majors. It is such an amazing thing to be a physician, but I knew for me I wanted to have kids young, really raise them and not rely on nanny/sitters, and not spend the first few years of marriage with my nose in the books. If it is for you and you think you can handle the work load, and all that being a frum wife and mother entails, I say go for it!!
Touro
It is not ok. On more then one occasion my feelings have been really hurt by something negative someone said on ywn aimed at me or one of my comments. I happen to be quite sensitive but still..
I may be alone in my thinking, and ofcourse one should not just jump on the divorce bandwagon but.. There are gets for a reason, divorce is an option for a reason. I definitely agree that talking to a Rabbi that you trust, or even one you don’t know who can be completely impartial. If not just to vent! Sometimes a person needs to vent before they can get some perspective. After all that if you are still utterly unhappy, there are things you can do
About it. Everyone deserves to feel loved, and everyone deserves happiness you should not settle for less. You don’t have kids yet, maybe that’s Hashems way of giving you a second chance. Just a thought.
Kodesh, do you know if your wife shares some of these feelings?
Ok #3 what are you talking about? You do not know the OP you don’t know why intentions or expectations he went into marriage with. I wil also say that bH I am married and I am a mother and I am 100% happy and content and satisfied. My husband is my best friend, he is a wonderful person he has amazing midos, we have a wonderful relationship that is honest and open. We laugh everyday. He is an amazing father. I think it wrong to basically say eh.. Marriage isn’t all it’s cracked up to be you just have to deal and move forward. Maybe I just misunderstood your tone and point, but that is no way to look at marriage. Also I know people that unfortunately got divorced but bH before kids and are remarried and so happy now and know without a doubt that they did the correct thing. Settling is not what Hashem wants, marriage is a beautiful thing sharing a family is what it is all about, settling for being on a so so relationship and being happy some of the time is not acceptable.
Well if a woman gets married at 19, and her child has a baby at 19, there you have it. I would imagine it is quite common in the chassidish communities. Not young 30’s perhaps though.
That is terrifying. If i read that letter when i was in high school it would have given me nightmares. What was the school thinking? To terrify young girls into being tznius so that it doesn’t even mean anything, they are doing it purely out of fear?
i have one from chayas pre-cuts in the 5 towns. I wear it as a fall and pony its great.
I agree somewhat. I find it hard to find fault with little kids in general. What bothers me is when the kids pile on the cholent and nuggets at a nice Kiddish and eat 1/10th of what they take!
I grew up with him. He is a really lovely guy who comes from a lovely MO family. He is a religious man he is just trying to find his balance. He grew up Matt..dabbled in being chassidish it wasn’t for him. Where is the picture of him without a yarmulka? To my knowledge he is still a frum guy. I saw him last the week he shaved his beard he is just finding himself. What does that have to Do with his music? The lady who washed my sheital last was wearing jeans when I went to drop it off should I no longer give her my business. I am not understanding why boycotting his music will help anything even if Cv’s he isn’t frum anymore.
For #2 Ripleys believe it or not museum in time square is really fun! I have gone with my husband and also with my parents who are in their 50’s. I think it’s clean I’m not sure someone else can speak up but I found it to be completely acceptable. The wax museum in time square is also a lot of fun. Good luck!
why IN YOUR OPINION is it assur for children and women to go as well?
Just because you do not support something or agree with it does not make it assur. There may be girls getting coffee at dunkin donuts the same time as my husband..ah! assur.
What is the difference shabbos and YK? that is like saying do people who keep a kosher home but eat dairy out, also eat chicken out?? the answer is yes probably.
Wolf -So true everything that you said. So true.
Is it the child’s fault though? If the parent is contemplating murder, it probably has zero to do with the child.
Why do you new to cover the controls? I don’t use a blech so I don’t know.
Wanderingchana-I just cracked up! Moitrin!
Tylenol does nothing alieve can help but if you have had tmj really bad, it doesn’t do the trick. The mouth guard helped me a lot I was very good about wearing it, and as I got older I needed a bigger one made. BH I am doing well now but yes stress seriously adds to the pain!!! And chewing gum. A lot of people don’t realize things like chewing gum and eating lollipops exacerbates the pain. I really hope you feel better, good luck. Don’t grind your teeth!
Thank you.
Also! My doctor had reccomended this to me, I was in severe pain and I think 13 or 14 but acupuncture really helped my tmj. Before the mouth piece really started working. BH my fathers insurance covered it it can be pricey but it was amazing. I had not slept for weeks and I fell asleep in the car ride home from the first acupuncture.
Did I say the Asifa was foolish???????? Did I at all????? I said people seem foolish for constantly starting new threads, online…about the Asifa. Get off the Internet then!!!!!! It makes Zero sense to me. Ywn is not for your Parnassa, you are on hear to give mussar about how dire it is to get rid of Internet. That is foolish if you are going to spend the better part of your day writing about it.. Online.
Is it necessary to tell the poster to ignore all of us who tried to give some advice? I personally dealt with TMJ for years. We are just trying to help. I am so sick of the attitudes on this site. Surely I am not the only one.
I suffered from tmj all of elementary school and high school!!! I was fitted for a tmj mouth piece bH today I am great. Every once in a while if I am exhausted and constantly yawning real big my jaw semi locks and it is painful but, nothing like it was. I used to stay home from school due to the pain. Please go to the dentist!!
The Asifa is definitely the most talked about thing as of late of ywn. It is so silly to me that everyone is still on here, talking about the issur of Internet and arguing with each other. Do people realize how foolish it seems to others? I have made no such commitment but, come on folks.
I don’t think anyone is saying no one would find a shidduch if it was not for these dating websites.. But sometimes you need to do some work to see results. You cannot sit on the couch and say Hashem will provide food for my family. You need to go out, get a job, make money and purchase food. Hashem gives you the means ( your health, agility whatever) but you need to put forth the effort. These sites DO help MANY people who otherwise are having a great deal of trouble finding a shidduch.
Why pay for a smart phone then just get a kosher phone. What is the point of paying for Internet and the elevated price of an iPhone if you do not plan to use it.
When on earth did I say only frum men have no self control? I was not talking about the divorce rate I was referring to your choice words filth and smut. I don’t care what the rest of the world does. Clearly with the Asifa, and many stories that I have heard nebach of married FRUM men meeting women on Craigslist and looking at the wrong things on the Internet, there are a lot of frum men who have little to no self control. That needs to be addressed, don’t blame Facebook and call it smut when it’s not of used properly as I stated above in my post.
Why are you using such strong words to describe Facebook? Yes, if you have no self control which clearly SO many frum men do not have, then Facebook can be dangerous. If you use it with caution like I do, and do not accept requests from people you don’t know or people that you know will have inappropriate images, it is not as bad as some people make it out to be.