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I went to EY for shiddduchim. My chosson came from Detroit. I did meet him in EY. He wasn’t living there, he came for a visit.
Probably because it’s so much out of our hands, as much as we like to think we are in control. My salvation came, when I said, “H-ashem this is up to ONLY you.
I have a nice relationship with my ex- in laws. they live out of town. We e-mail or talk a few times during the year. It’s not their fault…
It can be a nice idea but it still doesn’t help the older singles. What about them?
How about this one? Kol hamaavir al midosav, maavirim lo al kol pisha’av.
You don’t understand. There are a lot more people today so you need a lot more shidduchim. We are a growing population.
Sephardim were allowed since last night.
I just heard a Rav who made a takana how many times people have to date before they get engaged. He’s hoping that will stem the tide of young couples getting divorced.
See the yehiva world film by Norman Blumenthal of Chai Lifeline.
Originally from Brooklyn. Today…
Very simple. Be a mentch. Be a mentch. Be a mentch!!!
There is a new field called “dating therapy.” Maybe it is worth looking into.
Don’t we all aspire to be an aishes chayil today?
Responding to the original title of this thread: This is the first line of a poem I wrote recently about shidduchim. The topic of shidduchim it takes over our minds…
I tried that twice, it didn’t work. One time I asked someone to set me up with someone else. He didn’t want. Twicw someone called to suggest themselves to me!
My Rav once told me, “You are never fully alone, concentrate on AIN OD MILVADO.” If you make that a principle to live by it makes a huge difference in your life view.
i can tell you a lot about bi-polar. I am divorced because my ex-husband had it. Medication and taking it is the major issue. Dealing with mood swings and mania is another.
Yes it’s a real issue and requires medication like any other mental illness. In order to be diagnosed it has to interfere with daily living not just little idiosyncrasies.
I grew up in Flatbush ,but have since re located outside of NY vicinity.
About the ten people, I know a few. Sarach bas Asher
Chanoch (ben yered)
Eliyahu Hanavi (who was previously Pinchas).
Heres a tough one: Which 2 pesukim in the Torah contain all the letters of the alef-bais?
Where in davening do we have 5 consecutive words beginning with the letter alef?
Heres one a friend once wrote me:
She just loves to get mail,
Most times happiness you do feel.
You should calm down,
Smile and not frown,
And to your worries say big deal!
I also wrote one about EY a nice long one.
I know exactly what you mean. At times we feel very left out. Is there any simple quick fix?
It could be from a sinus infection. Refua sheleima!
I write poems but am not posting them for the world at large.
I heard from a professional date as long as you need, and be engaged as short as possible.
I used to live in Brooklyn. Not anymore!
Ask p’sak from a Rav!
The most important thing is for him to be normal and a mentch. From my experience it’s asking a lot.
The word b’simcha are the same letters as the word machshava. Your happiness is dependent on you and your thoughts not any outside circumstances. Happiness is a state of mind.
That it’s almost over!
It maght be harder in certain aspects-really. But look at the zchus to live in EY. It’s a dream comr true.
I already told you. It depends what specefic quality you are looking for. Plain and pashut.
The Sefardim do. i.e. Anyone who davons eidut mizrach.
Theres a few things I don’t like. The only thing I HATE is Shidduchim!
I got thst message yesterday whwn I clicked twice because the first time I thought didn’t go throgh. too fast for the system I guess. A lesson in patience!
That is one of my favorite stories. Even after so many times every time i read it or tell it I cry. I am a big reader.
Doesn’t it depend on who you are and what you are looking for?!
Do research which is vital. More important is knowing the right questions to ask. See the previos post for some good ideas. Foe example: Ask what year the person is born in, not how old they are(its too easy to skew the # not the year) . About mental health ask straight out. If you ask the right questions to the right person you’ll get answers eventually. A professional once said Ask as many questions as you want to as many people as you want.
I am an oldest. The best? I am not quite sure. The youngest forsure is the most sppoiled and gets the best of everything. But thye can be hard hit. Oldests learn to give in more and have a stronger sense of right and wrong.
Ohr Lagglah does still exist. You can contact Ohr Somayach and ask for Rabbi Levy or Rabbi Meyers.
A connection with Rav is vital. A marriage without hadracha won’t have too much Hatzlacha.
I don’t know about the boys camp specifically. But in my day the girls Heller attracted a verybroad range of great girls from all over. From the very yeshivish to the more modern.
The one who said to my sister, “Whats the quickest route to drive you home?” They were only 5 bocks away!
It was 12 minutes long,literally! As soon as he heard what i do, he decided we were not for each other. He said, “Hatzlocha” walked out and left me sitting there!
Find s geneticist and discuss it. Or use your computer for more information. Very important to know and not all that difficult.
My neighbor is named Mishael. I think it’s a great name. Why don’t we hear of MORE Daniels or Ezras or Zecharyas?
2 is worse. In 1 your rejected as a name. 2 your rejected as a person. That’s much more painful. I am speaking from experience.
Don’t hide things. Usually the p’sak is to tell by the 3rd 4th date.
My sister asked a rav (in EY) about wearing a sheitel after being divorced. In America there’s a heter from Rav Moshe that if it’s preventing you from getting Shidduchim, Take it off. In EY it’s not done. It would hinder shidduchim more than help.