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Don’t get hung up on schools or seminaries. It is not a very meaningful way to tell who is right for you. I found my wife on Frumster, you may want to give that a try as well.
The tickets may cost money, but spell-check is free . . .
The real issue with girls only dating “learning boys” is this: Can you imagine a frum girl telling a shadchan that she is only willing to go out with a boy who is a doctor (or in medical school)? She would rightly be laughed out the door. When a girl says she is only willing to go out with a boy who is in learning, she is doing the same thing, just picking the Torah profession instead of the medical profession (l’havdil, of course).
smartstar wrote: “HI can anybody tell me why is it that some girls say they want a Learning Boy?”
Answer: Some of them are no doubt sincerely interested in having a husband who devotes himself to k’lei kodesh, but the rest of them have been brainwashed to ignore the Rambam in Hilchos Dayos, who cites the Gemara in Sotah which indicates that the proper way is to first find a profession, build a house and then marry; but the fools marry first etc. The Kessef Mishneh raises the problem that R changed the order from the Gemara – in the Gemara, (Sotah 44a); the ideal order is to build a house, find a profession and then marry; Kessef Mishneh answers that the main objection is to marrying before being “set-up” for married life; the profession and housebuilding are not of concern, as long as both of them come first. (Based on Torah.org)