I heard within the last half an hour on the news on the radio. Maybe 1010 Wins. They also said he was drugged. Hash-em yerachem. The only thing about that is hopefully it diminished the time he was alert and in fear. It angers me to hear the story about what his grandfather said. If a person questions whether they should have lived I think they are the only ones who’s lives should be questioned for that (“al tiftach peh lesatan”). I don’t want to judge anyone. I just am beginning to see that it’s time to work on my emu a’h and bitachon.

How about “BaGrill” ?

Was there another response that was deleted? I just realized My response may have been regarding a comment that is no longer visible. I think each person has to decide how they want to help. As long as I know 100% of the funds collected will go to the family, I would not question it. That is how I think. Others may choose differently; that is their perogative.

Fix it up

I do agree with you, however recommending someone isn’t saying someone else is bad. I think it’s ok to say if someone did a good job. Maybe I shouldn’t have asked about specific people. I named those I heard good things about (which does not indicate that those not mentioned are bad/ just unfamiliar to the writer, as yet).

With all the heartache this family has had to endure, I would not think it so terrible to help give them a little menuchas hanefesh, even if the money were collected to help ensure the financial future of their other children, (ad meah v’esrim shana). Although it is true that there are many competent therapists who accept insurance, there are issues with caps on therapy sessions allowed per year (and then the therapist has to begin explaining and requesting overrides on those caps) aside from the fact that the therapists who may be most skillful or trained in grief counseling and post traumatic stress disorder could likely not take insurance. Should we deny these people this option/need? Moreover, even if this family has a source of income in general, there may never be a more prudent time for them to stay home and work together on getting through this, r”l.

My husband and I have a fundamental disagreement in belief about hashgacha pratis. I believe that people, each individual has his/her own hashgacha (as sad as it is, that it isn’t coincidental that of all those blocks, the first one he chose to approach someone for help on, turned out to be the one with a mentally ill potential killer), whereas, my husband believes only nations and leaders merit to have this (that things just happen, without divine intervention). This only serves to anger him more, causing him to say “g-d has a lot of explaining to do”. Whereas, I, horrified, saddened and bewildered about this event, am left only to accept this as Hash-em’s will. I just can’t imagine that there was “tzimtzum” going on here . It would just seem too much like a parent abandoning a child.

I would add, a woman WITH CHILDREN.

I would also suggest, from personal experience, that children be taught to go into a store and tell an employee they need help.

I was once followed as a ten year old child by a group of scary looking teenagers. I went into a store and told the man working there what was happening. He gave me the phone and told me to call my parents. Any place that’s populated where others can see the presence of the child and their interactions with adults is ideal.