Rav Lau’s autobiography has recently come out in English:

“Out of the Depths: The Story of a Child of Buchenwald Who Returned Home at Last”.

Have you heard of IMAGO RELATIONSHIP THERAPY?

Revealed by Harville Hendrix in his groundbreaking book, Getting the Love You Want, Imago Relationship Therapy involves viewing a conflict between a couple as the answer to the situation, not the cause of the disharmony. By examining the conflict itself, a couple can unlock the key to the solution.

There are therapists who are specialised in Imago, they have saved many marriages. It’s definitely worth a try.

cynic613, I left Yeshiva/Seminary a long time ago, so I might not know the exact definition of apikorsus (should I check on Wikipedia?) but I know that the main character of The Chosen goes searching for truth in the secular world. He wants to be a psychologist and Freud (an apikores) becomes his Moreh Derech. His message is that the Torah doesn’t have all the answers, and there is truth elsewhere too. You call it “not glatt kosher”, to me it smacks of apikorsus.

About your name, why do you represent yourself as an observant Jew with a negative character trait? It’s an oxymoron…

Escape from India by Avigail Myzlik

Escape from India is the amazing true story of Ronen D., an Israeli, who like many of his peers was drawn to the free and relaxed atmoshphere of India. Ronen becomes entangled in a world he wished he had never known. He is tempted to stray from the path of a newly observant Jew committing a crime to cover debts from his struggling business. The act he performs, “one last time”, lands him in prison in India.

Incarcerated in a Bombay jail built for 800, Ronen is crammed in with 3500 prisoners, many waiting years just to stand trial, without knowing when their ordeal will end. The terrible overcrowding, the constant hunger, and the presence of thousands of hardened criminals, in a prison lacking the most basic hygienic standards and where filth and disease are rampant, caused most prisoners to lose their human dignity.

While in this living hell, Ronen is further tortured by loneliness and longing for his wife, daughters, and loving family. But Ronen’s imprisonment serves as the impetus to rise above the prison walls and finally escape from his own evil inclination. With his powerful wellspring of faith, Ronen dedicates every waking hour to learning Torah and immersing himself in prayer; he repents from the depths of his heart, and attains freedom, even behind bars. Trusting only in God to help him, Ronen miraculously succeeds in escaping, seemingly accompanied by angels, all the way back to Tel Aviv.

The book is translated from the original Hebrew, in Ronen’s own straightforward touching style. You will journey through Ronen’s fascinating and unique inner struggle. It is a journey that will take you from despair to hope; from a broken heart and body, to a spiritual and physical triumph. It is a journey that will never leave you!

The Third Twin by Ken Follet

Kane and Abel by Jeffrey Archer

Raquela by Ruth Gruber

Hak nisht in tchainik.

Literal translation: Don’t bang in the kettle

Figurative: Gimme a break!

Dovid Gottstein was the only survivor of the van that crashed into a train.

bein_hasdorim, are you talking about the patent from Yankel Hoch, the schach that needs no shlag?

You can dip yellow gold into white gold, and vice versa. I don’t think you can dip metal into gold. To avoid irritations, I would advise solid gold (no silver) preferably 24 carat.

Creative Energy

The Shabbat challah is braided. “Six days shall you work (engage in creative activity), and on the seventh shall you desist” (Exodus 34:21). Part of the preparation for the Shabbat is engaging in melacha, creative activity. Braiding is creative activity. The braid is a shape that does not appear in nature. (Ficus trees are hand-braided.) It is a shape that is made by humans and it is representative of the human ability to manipulate the raw material of the world. Braiding the challah strands helps us harness our creative capacities for the purpose of observing the Shabbat.

Braids don’t appear in nature; they are created by humans.

But braiding is more than that. The Talmud tells us that God Himself braided Eve’s hair in preparation for her wedding to Adam (Brachot 61a). Was He merely beautifying her? Rabbi Avraham Chaim Feuer teaches that God’s braiding of Eve’s hair was His wedding gift to the couple. He was arranging her creative energies, channeling her imagination into an ordered form that would allow her to maximize her potential as a wife. He was both charging her and gifting her with the ability and the task of channeling the energy of the couple into positive and creative directions. The braid represents that directive, to focus and give order to the energies of one’s household.

Significantly, many loaves are braided out of six strands. Six represents the days of the week that are not Shabbat. My mother-in-law taught me that braiding six strands into one loaf represents the six days of the week that are bound up in the one Shabbat. Six directed toward one, weekdays manifesting on Shabbat, this world bearing fruit for the next. The six-stranded braid offers us the direction of the channeling that we are enjoined to accomplish.

70 Faces of Torah

Round challahs are unique to the High Holiday season. Some say they represent a crown that reflects our coronating God as the King of the world.

There are 70 faces to the Torah, or in Hebrew, shiv’im panim la’Torah. This means that there are 70 ways to understand every facet of Torah. The word “panim” can be translated either as “face,” or as “innerness.” Thus the Torah presents 70 different “faces,” appearing differently depending on the psychological, intellectual and spiritual angle from which it is examined. It also means that there are 70 different inner realities for every facet we can see.

Even while studying the same weekly Torah portion, we are able to tune into a new aspect each year.

King David lived for 70 years, and, in our tradition, that is considered to be the “average” lifespan. Each subsequent year of life makes a person into a different creation than the year before. So if one lives the average lifetime, another understanding of “70 faces to the Torah” could mean that we, through living 70 years, have our own 70 faces that we can turn to the Torah. That is why we often have “aha!” moments even as we study the same concepts we studied last year, or hear the same weekly Torah portion we have heard for years in a row. Turning a different one of our faces to the Torah means that our “receptor sites” are different, and we are able to tune into a new aspect each year.

Climbing Higher

The word “shana” has a double meaning as well. In addition to “repeat,” it also means “change”. As the year goes go round and round, repeating the same seasons and holidays as the year before, we are presented with a choice: Do we want this shana (year) to be a repetition, or do we want to make a change (shinui)? Hopefully, each year we make choices for change that are positive, and each year we will climb higher and higher, creating a spiritual spiral.

The shape of the Rosh Hashana challah reminds us that this is the time of year to make those decisions. This is the time to engage in the creative spiritual process that lifts us out of the repetitive cycle, and directs our energies toward a higher end. Have a sweet new year!

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