I have heard and read various ideas and suggestions on solutions of the “shidduch crisis”.I am convinced that this situation in self impossed.When kids are raised believing that girls should be married as early as 20 or so and boys can and should wait until they are in their mid 20’s is ptonlem.This is a problem because the mentality is wrong and changes have to be made.This is what I propose; kids need to be taught to start the dating game as soon as 19 for both boys and girls.Maybe idea could work out.It has worked out beautifully for the Chasidish community.You don’t find problems in Shidduchim in their community.When things break down and stop working a new attitude aneeds to be set in place.