Sun screen is not enough to say. You must put on sunscreen every few hours because it comes off (especially those in camp where you go swimming). Someone I know has to put it on every 1/2 hour because they are very light skinned and get burned very fast. I’m not light skinned and even I have to put it on a few times not to get burned. It’s very dangerous. Also everyone should drink, drink, and drink some more! (and I mean water, not all that sugar in soda)

True artchill but still sad. Besides, breaking engagements can come from cold feet about something normal, or something they agreed to and got scared of. For example, I know someone who had a minor mental disability and got engaged to a boy from a troubled home. A few days before the wedding the boy called it off because they suddenly realized what they’re getting themselves into even though they knew about it the whole time. It was very hurtful to the girl’s family and a big disappointment to everyone.

I think the one I’m referring to is the waterbury cd one although I never heard that cd. I listened to the one by the Toronto Pirchei and it’s not the same one. Unless there’s another al tirah that nobody mentioned and that’s the one I know.

Wolfishmusings-who said you have to lie? You just don’t have to publicize what’s not asked. If they ask a question about the girl’s weight, then of course it’s wrong to lie! Besides, obesity can be a health issue too. But, if they didn’t mention anything, it’s totally fine to say she looks good even if she’s overweight because most girls in shidduchim do look good even if they are a bit heavy.

clearheaded-are you a girl? If you are then I don’t get why you don’t understand that girls spend hundreds upon hundreds of dollars on their beauty. Not only is it the money but the pain too!

Hashem is everywhere and HIE-this is too confusing! can we change them or something?! At least when ppl want to refer to hashem is everywhere write it out so we know which one.

I think its reasonable to say no to a shidduch if the girl or boy is dangerously overweight because that can cause major health problem. If s/he didn’t manage to lose anything by then and they know they are very overweight, who said they’ll want to later on and it can be a very big health risk. However, for someone who is slightly overweight, they should be given a chance.

I’ve googled myself and many other random ppl i know and whatever came up was rather stupid unless they were someone major (rabbi, singer, famous businessman, etc.)

who’s song is al tira ki yashir… It’s also a really great one.

R U a teenager? I had a similar problem a few months ago and when i went to the doctor I asked them and they said that it’s a teenage stage and that many ppl have it but it will pass. i’d probably say to go c a doc anyways just in case.

Can your wife just sort of “run away” and get busy when he starts? Otherwise #4 sounds like the best idea.

like so right said-the knees must be covered by a skirt regardless of the tights/socks/knee highs.

But, I have another issue with tznius. Is there any heter to wear sheer tights? Why are ppl wearing sheer stockings if the foot also hasta be covered. Why is this considered less assur than short skirts? Maybe I’m just missing the heter. You might as well go without stockings! (I’m not at the madreiga to give it up-I still wear them)

I didn’t really read the whole thread but I do want to say that if you are a boy, you can’t understand. I’m totally not justifying not dressing appropriately but I’m saying that you shouldn’t start calling it names. Most girls that wear short skirts are wearing it for peer pressure. Plain and simple! It’s still not right at all but I don’t think it’s cuz of lack of self-esteem cuz don’t tell me that most girls have issues with self-esteem.

It’s quite scary that in order to cross a “quiet” street safely you hafta say tehilim!

I do music but of course, ask your rav before. Also don’t use electronics (not including an ipod if that’s what ull use to fall asleep) for a few hours before going to bed. Don’t do exercise either for a few hours before.

Sorry!

peerimsameach-Get a life!!!!! This is a public discussion place with moderators to make sure that things don’t get bad. Who cares if her name says girl? As da said she might really be a seventy year old grandpa!!

HIE-100% true! Some people seem to live their lives on here. I post here pretty much but not nearly as much as some others on here.

jewish girl-does life hafta revolve around the internet?

I personally eat chalav yisroel only but I totally think it’s wrong that people have the attitude that you’re “not as kosher” if you don’t. I know many very kosher people that eat chalav stam. Most poskim hold that either is fine depending how machmir you are and what your minhag is.

I’m a dairy person so reason or not-I’d love lasagna, pizza, cheesecake, dairy chocolate…every shabbos. My mouth’s already watering!!!!!

I personally think that BYHD and the intensive program are both waiting rooms to get married and say that they passed sem. Nothing wrong-just not for the girls who want a serious year of learning and a REAL sem experience. I know quite a few girls who went there and were home half the time. They were the type for it and so they loved it.

Besides for the fact that he can totally get messed up on the internet, why give a thirteen-year-old an expensive item like an ipad? Isn’t that spoiled? That alone could ruin someone! In addition, it is extremely addicting.Gobs is 100% right!!!! Yes, maybe he can also access things like italmud or whatever torah programs they have but he can also access things that nobody should have access to-especially not a teen.