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balckhatwannabe: lol! my son is three! I’m taking advantage of this time. I’m hoping he’ll be ok with it for at least a decade before i have to start shelling out the money for haircuts! Besides, if your mother/wife/brother/father/sister does a good job, whats wrong with her/him cutting your hair? There are so many woman who cut adn style shaitels and i’m sure, almost 100% sure that giving a boys haircut is so much simpler…
hah! i opened the door purim morning to 2 neighbors, i gave and received. a few minutes later, more neighbors showed up. lets just say that i got about 4 of the same shalach manos from my neighbors! I would imagine it was from one of my neighbors to everyone else who decided to give it to me! I never figured out who originally packed it!
regarding tips, as a day camp counselor of many years, i cannot stress the importance of showing appreciation. Money is not the only way. A parent who worked in pearls gave their childs counselor a gorgeous black pearl necklace! I once got a watch. But what lasts most, as mentioned before is a simple card. I have all my cards, which add up to over a hundred, in my scrap book and it means alot! If you can give money, thats great. If you cant, just say thank you!
Now, as a mother in a tight financial status, I cant give alot. But I always send a warm thank you card with some money. Between busdrivers, therapists, teachers, bus counselors, and asst teachers, its just too much to give alot to all. I’m dreading the mandatory huge tips for Rebbeim when my son has a rebbe. I believe that Rebbeim are underpaid and work hard and are deserving of tips but mandatory huge tips are out of control…
Most anything in a judaica store is good. A silver, crystal, mahogany item is usually good and classy
Someone who lifts their arm to harm someone is called a rasha. Why would you thank him? Thank Hashem for giving you this ‘tzarah’ over a different one, but definitely dont feed into someones rishus.
I dont go into mens swimming areas if i could help it.
I was at a hotel one summer and my husband and a couple of his friends were in the pool. There was maybe 2 or 3 middle aged or older men there. My then 2 young children wanted to go with him and being that there was no lifeguard on duty, I went in and only watched my kids. If a man was in my view, i saw him only because he was right there. A few minutes later oen of the older guys comes over to me and harshly tells me to leave as it isnt proper for me to be there cuz people change in the pool area (this was an indoor pool)
I was highly insulted because i was standing at the edge of the pool at the shallow end and the older men were in the deeper end. Its not like i was there to enjoy watching my husband swim, it was for safety. But i did understand him at the same time..there’s a way to say it though..I got my kids and left.
i give my son a haircut at home. Aside from the mess, he and i have a good time! My husband, he wont let me touch his hair but I think i may get to him after a few more fantastic haircuts to my son…lol!
there’s a manhattan dr., affiliated with mr. sinai, who has a brooklyn office. I heard he’s very good. i dont use him cuz i was high risk. his name is dr. adler and he’s on ocean pkwy somewhere near ditmas, 18th ave, foster…
So, i dont go for manicures that often, but when i do i stick with light colors. the only time i had a french was at my wedding. the once in a blue moon that i get to go get a manicure, i always smush a tiny bit. Thats my signature design, perfect nails with one smudge!
Now pedicures, that would be awesome if i would have time for that!
Oh, and cars? all i know is we have one that works!
thank you!
I’m not the biggest poster, so although i may not deserve a welcome back, i’d like to welcome back the CR into my life!!
I dont live in the country, i live in the city…
Being that i did meet this woman when she was a teen and seemed totally ok, i did read as much as i could about her and what is going on. I am shocked, hurt, and full of pity for this lost soul…
big deal: i have to say that while reading the posts here i’ve been drawn to your posts. You write so respectfuly and with such clarity!
MiddlePath: you have nailed it on the head. I couldnt have said it better!
Home Economics is very important in a girls education. There is nothing wrong with learning rambams, rashis, ba’al haturims, and all the other mefarshim. However, from personal experience, as someone who had zero experience in the kitchen before i got married and just about zero home economics in school, I would’ve appreciated learning baking/cooking basics. Or quick and easy recipes for the many of us working women who have very little time to put up a big hot supper (as opposed to macaroni, eggs, sandwiches, etc…). Or not just cooking/baking, what about laundry tips?
I think its a great idea to give some sort of psychology lesson in how to deal with kids, how to be a good wife, good mother…
Not everyone is cut out to be a chef, but we all eventually have to use this skill. As opposed to many other subjects that will never again be thought about once the test has been handed in.
refuah shelaimah! i’m so sorry that you are suffering!
If you really need it, then take it. Like others mentioned above, you paid taxes and when you need services from the city/state/gvt, they should provide!
Besides, with all the fraud going on with the programs, (yes in teh Jewish community as well) i like to hear when people who really need it, use my tax money. 🙂
A heimishe mom: lol! wasnt affended at all! Its times like these that i am so happy my kids are in school! gonna have to wait until purim/shavuos when i get more info…lol!
2qwerty: I think this is not so clear cut as you are making it sound. There is a concept (halacha i think?) that if a rich person becomes poor and is collecting money, even though he’s poor but he’s used to walking on velvet, one should provide that for him. Providing someone with a means to kill himself is not a form of tzedakkah. Rather give him food or even better, a job.
Both were modest (Rus in the field, Esther in the selection), both lived with relatives, both were related (wife, mother) to a king.
mommamia22: When they come to the door and i’m afraid to open the door, i say ‘my husband isnt home right now’. In the street i’ll say ‘i’m sorry, have a good day/night!’. When they actually stop/block me on the street, i’ll listen to them and sometimes give cuz its a kiddush Hashem to others and if they really do need it, it may encourage others to give too.
2scents: I know. I should be cautious. But i cant help feeling bad! Especially when i read the letters to the editor in some newspapers from tzedakka collectors about how they are treated..
I always feel bad when they come to my house. But i’m afraid to open the door when my husband isnt home. When he is, he answers. I actually am trying to get over the fear of opening for collectors so i did open the door the last time.
In the street, usually i dont give. sometimes i do. unfortunately so many people collect in the streets and although i do wish i could help everyone, i cant. Financially i am not that well off and because of that combined with the frauds that i’ve found out about afterwards (see oomis1105 post above), i just cant afford to give. I respond to mailings but (pardon the pun) cant afford the handouts.
always runs witha scissors fast: I’m having a very hard day today so, thanks for putting a smile on my face!
OneOfMany: I dont think that smoking is coparable to chillul shabbos or eating treif but i believe cherrybim may have meant that smoking kills and therefore oiver ‘v’nishmartem m’od’. I am one of those girls, in fact part of the majority of girls, that did not/does not want a boy that smokes. I wouldnt even consider a boy that smokes and would feel very bad about hurting a boy’s feelings that i went out with, without knowing he smokes.
So to the OP, yes, i believe that because so many girls feel its terrible to smoke and dont want themselves or their children to live with the dangers of second hand smoke, it is imiportant to mention. Especially nowadays when covering the scent and hiding all hints of cigarettes are much simpler, girls should be told about it so that heartbreak can be avoided.
yeah when i saw that i thought of this story! In fact, i think that any time i see a turtle i’ll be thinking of always-runs-with-a-scissor-fast!
lol! That is funny! But like i say about twins; its cuter when it happens to someone else!
hatzloacha!
I’d say you’re about 21 in years but far older for maturity…
how about dreidel?!
There are so many games that one can play and have a blast with family! For example, personalizing Taboo, personalizing pictionary, charades…i know these may sound corny but when you play it, its alot of fun and the laughter doesnt stop!
Popa_bar_abba: Gonna be dan l’kaf zechus and say that just like the speeches of presidents have modernized from paper to teleprompter, i’m gonna go out on a limb and say that you did too!
Yossi z.: Here a short poem i received from a good friend who loved math. (sent to me during a trying time) and now i’m sending it to you.
May your joys add up
And subtract the sorrow
May your problems divide,
Success factored in on the morrow.
Ctrl Alt Del: I have never had an ingrown toenail, b”h but after reading up on it online, i dont think Health is that off. (besides for the fact that he does have more medical knowledge than most of us). This is what i saw on wikipedia: The treatment of an ingrown toenail partly depends on how severe it is. In mild to moderate cases conservative treatment with warm water soaks, antibacterial ointment and using dental floss or a gutter splint to provide a tract along which the nail may grow, may suffice.[9] If conservative treatment of a minor ingrown toenail does not succeed or if the ingrown toenail is severe, surgical management is recommended.
is the level of functional or metabolic efficiency of a living being. In humans, it is the general condition of a person’s mind, body and spirit. (wikipedia)
plain donuts with sprinkles on top..mmmm
this is a great question. I always feel bad when i “forget” or dont acknowledge what my husband does. I usually notice when he does help around the house. There are times when he’ll do the dishes while i’m doing something else and i’ll only notice it later when he’s not home and forget to thank him when he comes home. Or there are times when i’m so distracted that i’ll walk into the clean room or notice the floor polished out of the corner of my eye and i just dont acknowledge it! I’m 100% wrong and i’m working on myself to appreciate what my husband does.
There are times when my husband will be so proud of what he did and say something like ‘I was able to get all the grime off the crock pot! Did you notice?’ And then the guilt comes in and i get insulted that he’s reminding me…cant explain the feeling.
Health: in a previous post you wrote: Now what happens if they can’t find the child somewhere else or they don’t feel like looking for a place for him/her, can they now let the kid go to P.S. or do they have to accept the kid?
I have a child with a disability that is barely noticable and doesnt require much interruption (besides for being taken out of class for therapy once a day) or disturbances or special requests from anyone, not the teacher or principal. You would not believe the responses i got from many schools that are considered frum schools! And no, they did not even try to help me find a place! I went from school to school and b”h i found a good school. My mind didnt even turn to PS at that point cuz i went to see a whole bunch of schools within a few weeks. After getting one rejection after the other I was getting saddened and disheartened, not to mention hurt to the core. Who would’ve believed that a Jewish frum school would turn someone down for something like that! But yes, i do understand what you feel like. Cuz now i know what parents go through when they get turned down.
Much hatzlocha.
I cant understand why someone would blame an organization for the reason mentioned – the fact that the girls were not acting mentchlich. There is a wonderful organization that i know of that ofers rides to people. The way it works is that when someone calls, they take the info and somehow let their drivers know that someone is in need of a ride to ___ and if someone is available, they go pick up the person. In this case, where the OP was waiting at the hospital, yes the org could have called to let him/her knwo that they were running late, but they couldnt have controlled the way the girls behaved. The girls were wrong, but the organization isnt.
real-brisker: I’m sorry you had to go through that with whomever that person was. But think of the schar you got! You didnt have to take this person! But you did and it was a pain, but you did it! This person was not fair but you get schar for that too!
It does bother me how there are ‘takers’ that feel the world owes them and that they can demand, complain, and be nasty to the ‘givers’. I hope we are all zoche to be on the giving end!
aries2756 wrote: There certainly is no reason to keep twisting the knife or pry for more details. You are getting into a war of words that is escalating for no reason at all because you are analyzing someone based on the way you perceived a post was written
Such brilliant words! I couldnt have said it better!
A lady i know works in a camp where i used to go and she said that nowadays teenagers need more excitement than 10 years ago. Not that we didnt have fun, just that we knew how to have a good and exciting time with each other without having to spend the $$ or time that teens nowadays ‘need’.
I use to light until i felt like i shouldnt anymore and was yotzei with my father. Now, I am yotzei with my husband and my kdis are starting to light on their own! Its so exciting and bring backs such wonderful memories…
That is so powerful! Are you related to MiddlePath?! 😉
lolkatz: any thread can get personal. this thread seems to be asking about plastic surgery. You dont have to say that you had plastic surgery, or where you had the surgery done, what part of your body was modified. This seems to be a simple question that one can answer by simply doing a search on the internet…or asking here.
someone told me to use conditioner every time i bathe my children. The ‘conditioner leaves a thin coat of some sort of residue that makes it harder for lice to hold onto.
zeeskite: interesting, never heard of that medrash before. Thank you for teaching me something new today!
daxy: yeah! mi l’Hashem eilai!
not a teen anymore, cant say i want to go back to those confusing, challenging years, but i cant say they were bad either…
Good luck to all you teens out there!