miritchka

OMG!! The memories!! My siblings and i used to start a game of Risk friday night and it would go on through shabbos and sometimes a day or so into the week! Now i dislike that game with a passion. Its interesting how board games arent as popular as they were a few years ago – could be I’m wrong about this as my kids are too young to have the patience to sit and play for so long. But I think electronics have taken over the teenagers time, and building toys take over the younger children…well buidling toys never go out of style!

When i was younger i thought the money you earn through work was yours to spend. Now i realize that the money you earn through work is yours and everyone else’s who doesnt work.

Start backing off. Be friendly but dont share information with them. Depending on how close you were with them, they should get the hint.

I do that with nosy neighbors. Cool friendship I call it.

I use an Artscroll machzor and say what i can. Being a mother to young children, I cannot get to shul and cannot daven most of the davening at all. Whatever you do say, say it with as much kavanna as you can. I know its not the same as saying everything, but at least what you do say, make the most of it. Gmar chasima tova to you

Leyzer: I think having another woman, best if its the rebbitzen of the shul, go over and tell her straight out that she may not be aware of the halachic guidelines in the shul and please dress appropriately. It’s been done in the past. I would imagine its the same idea as a BY. When a student even wears the wrong sweater, there is a knas or some sort of warning before the knas.

Sometimes the best way is the blunt way.

notasheep: I think this issue is really common. And not just with carriages and strollers. What about shopping carts? wagons? or just holding alot of shopping bags? common courtesy and manners have flown out the windows. Its no longer “an old fashioned thing to do”, its now become something only heard of in books! Ok, that my be a bit exxagerated, but when you are pushing a stroller/wagon/carriage and people dont care to hold the door open, or push past you, it feels like common courtesy doesnt exist at all and never did exist.

Please everyone, when you leave a store, or if you’re passing by a store and you see someone who may need help with the door, hold it open! I was just walking down the avenue and this not frum lady was trying to open her car door but was having a hard time cuz she just got her nails painted (she was doing teh finger stretching, waving thing). I asked her if she needed help and she was so grateful! I mentioned the fact that she was not frum so that you can see that besides for a kiddush hashem that you can make, its just a nice thing to do for another human being!

As mentioned above, the necklace you are referring to should be fine.

I had a necklace with my name on it and someone made a comment that people that those necklaces are tacky and show the person has a low IQ. Although i cant figure out why…and i have an average – above average IQ.

Always best to wean yourself off coffee at least a week before the fast so that you dont have that headache. Those headaches are killers!

on the ball: happened to me except that when i saw he wasnt following me after telling me to go on ahead of him, i got off and asked what happened. We ended up staying in the lobby lounge…

When i saw this thread it reminded me of this one time when i was in high school and i was walking home with a girl from my school. We were talking and all of the sudden, a block before i was going to turn off, she said to me: “you know, you have a very negative outlook. Its not a great trait to have”! Whoa! I immediately got insulted and for teh rest of the block that we were together, i was silent and just absorbing what she said. When i turned off the block, i said good bye and contemplated what she said. After the initial self pity wore off, I realized she was right. From that moment on, I work on trying to be more positive. Its hard, Complaining is “in style” and brings more attention, but being positive is so rewarding! Its so much more pleasant to be near positive people!

Try it! Its hard but great!

Shopping613: I havent been a teen for quite a few years already but my sensitivity is still there. If someone says something that might insult me, whether i know them or not, I’ll be hurt. I dont like it when someone is upset at me and vice versa. You are allowed to feel however you feel. And you can express that too if thats what you want.

I can understand why some would feel you might be too sensitive. Thats their prerogative. But they should use sensitivity when telling you that, cuz just like you, they are allowed to post how they feel too.

I can understand why some support you too. But they should use sensitivity too when telling others why, cuz just like you, they are allowed to post how they feel.

Lets all shake hands, clink our coffee mugs, and be caffienated CR buddies!

So after reading the orignial post, i tried to figure out what exactly could be so bothersome. I came up with one conclusion. Cuz this bothers me too:

After walking on sidewalk chalk, the dust of the chalk clings to your shoes which then leaves chalk-footprints all over my floors. Therefore i told my children that if they want to color with chalk they have to color in a place that people dont walk. They usually color in my yard but not in the area that goes from the public sidewalk to my front door.

As i mentioned before, i dont open others cabinets, dressers, drawers, etc.. If i needed a bandaid, i’d wash the area and put pressure on it with a tissue. If i didnt have tylenol and the host wasnt around, i’d live with a headache for the night until i could borrow from someone the next day.

I, personally, would leave out a hostess basket including those odds and ends that one may forget (bobby pins, safety pins, tylenol, bandaids, tissues, cotton, a brush, ponyholders, etc..) in addition to a bit of nosh/drinks in case my guests were hungry/thirsty.

temimus: You are right. I wasnt clear. I was referring to those solid white lines. And yes they do block the tunnel lanes (left 2 lanes) when they cut the “bridge lanes”. The tunnel lanes move smoothly after you pass the bridge exit.

I can totally relate to this. A neighbor of mine knew i was pregnant before i did! Yup, she was Jewish!

Did anyone else see the article last week in teh yated (probably in the hamodia too) from doctors encouraging/reminding parents to give their children their vaccines? i hope their explanations were enough for those thick-headed parents who dont vaccinate.

I hate to say this but i am a snooper. If i’m invited to someone’s house i wont go through their kitchen cabinets, medicine cabinets, dressers, closets, drawers, etc.. but if i open a door (on purpose or not!!), i will look in to see what the room looks like. I have a tremendous interest in home decorating and love to see what people do with their furniture, pictures, paintings, linens, etc… So i guess i’m a partial snooper…;)

I too would lock my doors.

13: I’m sorry you feel like that about your schools play! There is a purpose to school plays. It brings out girls creative side, brings girls closer by working together, gives some the boost they need for their self confidence, gives girls an outlet, gives girls a chance to “hang out” with their school friends in a kosher environment, and so much more. When i was in school, it was an option to join the school play. about 95% of the high school participated in it one way or another. Whether it was sales, advertising, lighting, curtains, choir/dance/musical/play head, etc… It was fun! i was in props for one year and it was a blast! We would travel to storage buildings and see what the company was going to be discarding (when their customers dont pick up their things after a certain amount of time) and choose what we thought we would need for our play. It was really somehting! we would get furniture, mirrors, dishes, vases, etc…and i worked with girls i had no connection to at all, but we did have a connection after that!

Enjoy while you can.

tzaddiq: you wrote “where is your respect for someone else’s opinion toward this obvious controversial issue?” Although i cant speak for others, my respect for someone else’s opinions stops when it can harm myself and my family. Other than that, if you want to say the sky is purple, be my guest!

chance: I’m not going to try to change your mind, just keep in mind that Hashem created the vaccines. He put the idea and the know how into mans brain, He gave said man the tools, willpower and desire to make the vaccine, He made the results help cure the disease He created, and He gave everyone the chochmah to use it. Obviously some of us lack a few screws up there….

you wrote “a parent doesnt have to vaccinate their child in order to go to school” You are absolutely right, a doctor should.

Always runs with scissors fast: The situation you described sounds exhausting! When i was pregnant with my firstborn, I was scared of such a scenario. A friend of mine sent me a DVD of a show called ‘Nanny 911’. Basically its a show about families in dire need of organization and control of their kids. A nanny would come for a week and teach those kids and teach the parent(s). There was a lot of positive reinforcement, strictness in following up on consenquences, and charts.

After my children were born, I realize that following up on what you say is really important. If a child is told that they wont get a treat if they dont finish eating and putting their dishes in teh sink, dont give in no matter what method of emotion they use.

Charts work very well with children too.

Wishing you much hatzlacha…

GG Yekke: shaving cream? I thought you’d say Nair, or something liek that. Now that would be funny! (only in theory though…!!)

Thank you! i feel honored!