I certainly support the use of medical marijuana under very careful medical supervision. Supplying through controlled growing facilities and designated sales depots keeps costs down and quality controlled. However, I do know that here in Canada, patients using the government issued marijuana constantly are complaining about its poor quality and lack of efficacy and many patients obtain their supplies elsewhere. I have never tried it myself, although I am a chronic pain patient and have been on other narcotic medications for over 20 years. At one point, about 15 years ago (before the govt marijuana program), my physician offered me a script for the artificial THC medication to use for nausea. I declined it because my research showed that this medication (can’t remember the name) didn’t work all that well and had its own long list of side effects.

Jam: they don’t starve themselves to be one size smaller. This has nothing to do with it. They have a dysmorphic disorder and when they look in the mirror they do not see their hip bones, ribs and collar bones sticking out – they still see themselves as very fat. Often this occurs in girls who originally were not even obese but perhaps 10 or 15 pounds overweight and someone close to them (family or friend) has commented on this once too often. They begin dieting which quickly turns to starvation. They cannot see themselves as anything but fat. Anorexia is a dreadful disease and takes a lot of medical treatment to control. I say control because often, it cannot be cured. Many patients are able to resume a normal life but often have to resist the urge to begin the cycle again. These patients must be on guard for the rest of their lives, although past middle age, the symptoms and urges often dwindle.

It is quite common among Jews, particularly girls in their late teens. I don’t know if it has anything to do with shidduchim, because a high percentage of the Jewish girls come from non-frum backgrounds. Amongst the frum sufferers perhaps you are right. I think some of it may be coming from high expectations many Jewish parents place on their children in the non-frum world – they want them all to attend university, whether or not they are so inclined, because they want “professional” children. I know it isn’t in the same classification (according to mental health professionals), but Jews have a high percentage of inflammatory bowel disease as well (crohns, colitis and IBD) and school pressures and stress have been shown to be contributing factors.

From reading what the OP said, this is not a new situation – the man hasn’t had a real job for 10 years. Correct me if I am wrong, but I do believe about 10 years ago the economy was quite stable and obtaining decent jobs was not nearly as difficult as it is today. It appears that this husband is happier being one of the children than an equal partner with his wife.

600 Kilo – if you lived here in Canada, you would also need to know your metric measurements. The odd thing in Canada is that the supermarket fliers still advertise their goods in pounds, so that the items sound less costly than if advertised by the kilo.

How long has theyeshivahworld.com been around and when did the CR begin? If I am reading correctly, The CR began late in 08 or early in 09.

adorable: I missed it (until just now) when you said “I dont think a person can ever feel really “whole” without a spouse- that is the way Hashem made the world- we are always looking for our other half”

It all depends on the stage of life that you are at and your life story. I am divorced in my 60’s and was married for almost 40 years. I can tell you that I am more “whole” now than I was during my entire marriage. The only wonderful benefit of my marriage was my most amazing daughter (and her very fine and loving husband and, of course, my 2 grandsons). Right now, I am happier than I have ever been in my adult life. I don’t even know if I would ever consider marriage again. He would have to be a very, very special person. Occasionally I think that it would be nice to have a companion to attend functions and concerts with, but I have plenty of girlfriends to go to these things with. I know that you are much younger than I and of course, your life’s goals at this stage, are far different. If you want to have a family, then of course,you will want a marriage. But, remember that a person can definitely be whole – at any age – without a spouse. And never, ever, sell yourself short and settle for someone, just because you want a family. You deserve better than that and in fact, you owe it to yourself to find someone who respects you and your goals, just as you will do the same for him.

Personally, I don’t know why she stays with him – it seems that he is just an extra mouth to feed. He is certainly no mentch. If she is managing a business and her household and being a good mother to her children, there would be more Shalom Bayit without him around. JMHO.

bombmaniac: Mazel Tov to you on your success. Now there will be no stopping you – we will be saying Mazel Tov again when you win the Pulitzer, B’H’. Will your article be available anywhere online as Ami magazine is not available around here?

600 kilo: Dr. Kevorkian recently died. I wonder if someone else “helped” him in his “time of need”.

Its been a tough, sad week for we Jews

Full of high drama and bad news.

Tomorrow we’ll chant Pinchus

The ancient words will link us

And bring shalom to help us defuse.

We look for answers and we ask why

And we pray to Hashem as we cry

We are seeking an answer

Put an end to such cancer

But we must carry on – at least try.

A peaceful Shabbat to all of my CR friends.

I would ask for the key to the executive washroom and then order a newer, much faster computer so that I could keep up with all of the voluminous posters. Oh, I would also buy a round of donuts for all the wonderful CR posters. Also, coffee would be replaced with chicken soup on Fridays. Just think of how tasty it would be every Friday – washing down a cruller with a steamy mug of chicken soup.

Droid – she is only in her early twenty’s. Biological clocks don’t come into play for at least another fifteen (or more) years. Why are you being such an alarmist?

adorable: you will get a plaque AND they will present it to you at a gala fund raising dinner thereby killing two birds with one stone and making a bundle of money. Just think – we would all get to meet one another. We would all wear gigantic name tags so that we would recognize the screen names – even from across the mechitzah. Say mods – it ain’t a bad plan. You may all even get raises if enough tickets are sold. I will buy at least one ticket and come all the way from Canada. Does anyone want a houseguest for a couple of days? I promise to dress appropriately and to cover my head.

To the OP: A friend of mine had to go to the ER the other day and she said this tall thin man walked and said “Hello, my name is Dr. Seuss.” She noticed his name tag was spelled Suss, but it was pronounced just like yours. She said that she was going to say something about his name, but figured that there is probably nothing that he hasn’t heard about it before. She said that she had a lot of difficulty not laughing and on concentrating on what he was telling her. I was repeating this story to a physician friend and she told me that in this city there is a Dr. Death. She said that he pronounces it “Deeth”, but…..the spelling is the same. Apparently he originally wanted to be an oncologist but with his surname, decided to choose another specialty. So, to the Docs Seuss and Pepper – you are in good company.

UPHEAVAL IN EGYPT AND ISRAEL HUMOR

This was posted on Facebook by an Israeli: “Dear Egyptian rioters, please don’t damage the pyramids. We will not rebuild. Thank you.”

I must visit Eretz Yisroel before I go. Tentativly have a trip planned for 2012 – either in March or November. That trip cannot even be called a “want” – it is a “must”. On my “want” list is a trip to Australia and one to Ireland. Don’t ask me why I want to visit these places, but I do.

“One who is from Michigan is called a Michigander”

Personally, I always thought that a Michigander was a crazed male goose.

ms seeker – your barbs directed towards me are completely uncalled for as is any form of rudeness anywhere in the CR. We all have opinions and this is a discussion forum, regardless of the backgrounds of the posters.

What is the name of the book, please?

always here – I know that often times it may not seem like it, but Hashem never gives us more than He knows that we can handle. My condolences to you on the loss of your beloved friend. As we all know, we can’t choose our family but we can choose our friends. Many times our friends are closer to us and as dear to us as our family members and often times our friends “become” our family. As you go through the mourning period for your friend, remember how well you got on together and the good times that you had. I certainly hope that everything that life is throwing at you these days will be quickly and properly resolved. If you cannot do it along, get help – there is a lot available out there.

I am thinking about you.

If you are from Liverpool you are a Liverpudlian.

It seems that people get bored with the same type of fundraiser year after year. Fund raising committees really have to put on their thinking caps to come up with something different. I know that at my shul, for the past 2 years, they have held a “lottery”. Tickets are 100.00 and you get 2 tickets to a “gourmet” brunch and entry into the lottery. All the tickets are drawn and numbers 1, 18, 36, 54, etc. get a cash prize of various denominations – none less than 100.00. Only 300 tickets are sold. They have done quite well with this function and I do believe that if you just asked 300 members to donate 100.00, the response would be a lot different. I think people are looking for “something” in return for their donation or they are just jaded at the usual ways of raising money. These more exotic ways of raising money are definitely a lot more work for the same return, but I don’t see anything wrong with it.

ICOT: grrrrrrrrrrrrroan.

Forgot to mention that in my post. I also use filtered tap water – a Brita. Every time that I change the filter, I scrub out the Brita and the amount of schmutz on the inside of it amazes me – and not from the charcoal filter. This is “stuff” from the water. I find that Brita water is excellent to drink, although I often drink straight from the tap as well, if I have just refilled the Brita and it isn’t chilled enough for me.