“Besides, it’s a natural process, animals do it and just keep running. “

Easy for you to say, isn’t it? I have often said that if it were the men who bore the children each family would have one child. There would be no risk of overpopulation anywhere in the world. Countries like China would never have to pass a “one child” law. Men are wooses – as a former ER nurse, I could provide you with countless stories to back up my “woos” statement.

Heimishe Mom – you said “Yes, pizza is junk.” Sorry to tell that you are wrong. Ask a dietician and they will tell you that pizza contains most of the food groups in one handy product. It gives you grain, dairy and protein. If you have a vegetarian pizza, then you also have an extra group. Of course, cheese is a high calorie food, so, as with everything, eating pizza must be done in moderation – a meal should be a slice or two, not an entire extra large pizza. I have read many articles saying basically what I have just said. Most professionals also say that if your kids want to eat cold pizza for breakfast, let them do it. It gives them a more nutritious start to the day than a bowl of sugary cereal. They will stay full longer with pizza, enabling them to absorb more of what they are being taught in school. I didn’t make this all up – just parroting what I have read. Pizz is NOT junk.

2qwerty: I noticed something about csn on the website. Could you give me a brief explanation of what it is? I have been comparing prices for one particular product and the wide price defferences on the identical item is amazing.

I got married very young – although for the times (1965) it was fairly average. I was 20 years old and I had my daughter when I was 21. I often say that my daughter and I grew up together. Of course, in the 60’s we were groomed for marriage. Most of my contemporaries went on to university, but very few graduated. It was considered a pastime until the right guy came along. In todays far more complex world than the one that I was raised in, I think that a 19 or 20 year old has a lot of growing up to do. The fellows need even more growing up time. Although many are married very young, until they are about 25, they usually aren’t mature enough for the reponsibilities of a family. I am not even referring to education, but to social skills. Although many married men go out with a male friend periodically, young men need the opportunity to develop friendships with other men – to spend a Sunday afternoon at a ballgame, etc. This is how they develop social skills. Women usually develop these skills as teenagers but they still need to work on their “spiritual and emotional” skills (as binahyeseira said). When I look back upon my marriage (now divorced after a 40 year marriage), I realize that I did what was expected of me and that I was “in love with love” and not the man that I married.

Thanks for answering my question, yossi and deiyezooger. I had a class at the Chabad Learning Centre last night and I did ask the Rabbi the same question. He said that of course I can watch from my balcony. He said it would even add to the joy of Shabbat – lots of extra lights. I personally didn’t think that there would be anything wrong if I watched, but, of course, personal opinion doesn’t count. I think I will take this opportunity to wish all of my fellow Canadian posters a happy Canada Day. Enjoy your day off work – it is very nice that it falls on a Friday this year, giving a lot of people a 3 day weekend.

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And I will ask the same question about a different website. Has anyone used 1800wheelchair.com? I need to buy a lightweight walker and their prices are amazing. They also have a Canadian site and ship most of their Canadian orders directly from Canada, therefore there are no extra duties or taxes. They also advertise free shipping even though their prices are so much lower than any other site including Amazon and WalMart for the same product.

When I put my mezzuzah up outside the front door of my condo, my neighbor asked me if it was part of my burglar alarm system. I explained what it was but my son in law said that I should have told her that yes, in fact, it was part of an alarm system with the best “central” monitoring available.

OfCourse, you said: “Ive always wondered why the heavier girls are more discriminated against in the frum community, and less able to find husbands, than the world at large. Or am I wrong?”

I believe that you are wrong. Larger girls are discriminated against even more in the secular, Conservative and Reform communities as well. From what I have seen and been told, this issue is the same in all religions and all walks of life. It is so unfortunate that many men cannot see beyond the fact that someone is not a size 0. They miss out on wonderful opportunities to meet women who are clever, witty and wonderful prospective wives and mothers.

yentingyenta – perhaps men change their kippot because they are bored with what they have. Men don’t have many ways to express their fashion sense – except perhaps for their tie and their kippah. Woman, on the other hand, have many different ways of dressing, depending on the time of day,the place, the season, etc. We can also change hair (or sheitl) styles – length and color. We can be peacocks (even though peacocks are actually males and the females are the boring ones without colored fantails) and men, well menswear can be drab.

popa- GREAT NEWS!!! You may have your wedding anytime now as the Canadian postal strike is now over – I just read the news here on YWN. Please send my invitation to:

Minyan gal

New home of the Winnipeg Jets.

I think that should do it. When Canada Post is working at their best they are able to track almost anyone down. A few years ago, a friend of mine received a letter addressed to “Auntie Shelley” with the name of her street underneath – no numbers – and she got the letter. In approximately 1920, my father’s uncle received a letter from his brother in Russia addressed to “Joe Shmoe (pseudonym) – Canada”. He also received his letter. So, in this computerized day and age, they should have no trouble finding me.

I am so excited – I will be coming to New York – and for a simcha!

Wolf : you said that your new kippah is larger than the previous one. Does this mean that your bald spot is getting larger? If I have to vote, my vote is also for “E”. A kippah is a kippah is a kippah. There are some very nice ones around and some of them even have “messages”. Many years ago when I worked as a nurse, a new, young and very frum doctor got privileges at the hospital I worked at. The first thing I noticed about him was his kippah – which was knit with a “mem” and “dalad” knit right into it. He met a number of people on his first day, but I was the only one who laughed and said “great kippah”. Perhaps you may be able to find one with “wolfish” theme on it.

“A blessing on your head, Mazel Tov, Mazel Tov! May you both have a long, happy and healthy life together. Enjoy this time as you prepare for your wedding. It will be an exciting whirlwind of activity – have fun.

“I ask: was there ever any person who ever did not get married in their lifetime? “

Offhand, I can think of several people – both men and women, both frum and secular, who never married in their entire lives. Most of them lived well into their 80’s – alone.

popa_bar_abba – Please promise to send me an invitation to the chasaneh. I have never been to NY and if I am invited to a simcha, well I always attend simchas. I hope they don’t change the law too quickly (which I doubt as the lawmakers are all tuckered out from the last marriage laws that they changed – they need a rest) because Canada is in the midst of a postal strike, so I won’t get my invitation. Please wait until the strike is over. Also, will your gift registry be at Amoco or Exxon?

ps: when you break the glass, don’t do it too close to the tires.

Simply out of curiosity – are any of the Mods of the female persuasion?

s2021 – I have had my GF for over 15 years and unless use a sugar based sauce (like BBQ, etc) the grill cleans up very easily. You just have to do it while it is still hot. If you let it cool off, take a soaking wet paper towel and put in on the grill, plug it in and let it heat up for about 5 minutes – the steam created will loosen everything up. Just remember to have the edges of the towel that hang out of the gril positioned into the drip tray or you will have water everywhere.

Food prepare on the grill is far tastier than many prepared in the over – steaks, chops, burgers, chicken breasts – there are dozens of possibilities. Even side dishes are great. One of my favorites is to cut up some onions, mushrooms, peppers, zucchini, etc. Put it into a plastic bag and pour some Italian dressing over it. Let it sit for an hour (or more), drain then grill. Terrific.

gregaaron : I just found out and even though I am not a hockey fan by any stretch of the imagination, I am very pleased. What a homecoming they had – all of the season tickets sold out within a couple of hours and there will only have about 500 extra seats available for each game. They will be changing the logo, though. Shabbat Shalom.

Gregaaron: Mazel Tov is happily accepted, although I must admit that I had nothing at all to do with it. Supposedly there will be 2 big announcements made this weekend – one is the name of the coach and the other is the name of the team. I (along with many Manitobans) would LOVE to see the team once again called the Winnipeg Jets, but I don’t think it will happen. Of course, there are already new Winnipeg Jets sweatshirts available. Perhaps I should pick one up as by Monday it could be a collector’s item. How did you figure out where I live – did you Google “slurpee champions”?

Moskidoodle – if you haven’t already figured it out, I am in Winnipeg, often fondly known as “Winterpeg”.

“If the community had any guts, they’d do something about it to rid themselves of this plague in their midst.”

Do you think that any men who might happen to be walking in Flatbush at night would subject themselves to a search to see if they had tzitzes or a bushy tail hanging below their shirt?

I don’t want a CR Anonymous, what I would like is nice big jug of hot java – after all this is the “coffee” room. Surely some computer genius should be able to figure out a way to make this area actually hand us a cup of hot joe when we click “visit CR”. So far, it seems that we have to supply our own beverage.

I think my screen name is self evident. I am a gal who attends the daily Minyan at my shul.(also on weekends – I am usually there 7 days a week.)

Just remembered this one. I had an uncle who decided that because divorce was becoming so common, he would no longer give a wedding gift until one year had passed. He made a note in his date book and sure enough, if the couple were still married, they received a gift on their 1st anniversary. You could be invited to several weddings for the same bride or groom. At least a child has only one Bar/Bat Mitzvah.

Goq – you said that because you are single you don’t feel it is necessary to give a gift. Well, it depends on your age and stage of life. In another thread you said that you don’t ever expect to get married. I don’t know how old you are, but if you are a 50 year old bachelor, you can’t get by using the reasons you now use. If you are lucky enough to still have parents and you are young, your parents can include your name on their gift, but it isn’t the right thing to do after you reach a certain age.

zahavasdad – I am with you. If I feel I can’t afford a gift, I don’t go. I may send a donation card (18.00) anyway. Recently there was a Bar Mitzvah at my shul that I was not invited to. I do see the mother and the Bar Mitzvah bochur every week at shul and often share a table with them for kiddush. I am also active in Sisterhood with the mother. So, even though I wasn’t invited, I gave the boy a card with a check for 18.00. I thought of a donation but thought that the boy would prefer the money. 3 weeks later, they are both still thanking me and telling me how thoughtful I was. The boy had his thank you cards mailed within a week. Surprising but wonderful.

yeshivabochur – “inexpensive” is far more elegant than saying “cheap”. I had an aunt who owned a ladies wear shop. Her staff were instructed to never use the word “cheap” no matter how the customer worded things. If something was too expensive the staff would say ” I will find you something that is “less costly”. The word “cheap” was forbidden in the store.

Coke: your posts are a pleasure to read (and you love to clean, so that really boosts your esteem in my eyes). If we are “fighting” for the position of being the most troublesome poster, I will nominate moi. Being one of the very few (I believe) non-frum posters around here, I occasionally (or possibly more often) say the wrong things. It is usually not out of malice but due to lack of knowledge or complete understanding of the topic. I am very thankful to the Moderators who know what is appropriate for posting. I also thank all of you for teaching me so much. I must admit that in the past 3 years since I re-discovered shul and began studying and davening, I have built myself a whole new life. It is a wonderful life and I haven’t been this happy ever. Most of you here in the Coffee Room have made a big contribution to this happiness by your friendship, teaching and listening to the opinions of this older Conservative Jew. Toda Raba, Toda Raba.

I think when a parent is frustrated, they are more likely to say (or yell) things without a full, or any, explanation. When they have more time and things are calmer, is when you should ask what behaviour you exhibited that annoyed them and what are the expected behaviours from you. It isn’t easy being a parent, particularly in the times we now live in. We want to raise children who are healthy, good citizens and good students who will go on to good careers and become good parents, themselves. Years ago this was much easier to accomplish – the typical mother was at home baking cookies when the children arrived home from school. There was a lot of time available for “family” time. Life was not so frenetic. In many areas of the country, people didn’t even lock their doors when they went out. Life was just simpler – nobody had credit cards. You saved until you had enough money to purchase what you needed – you were considered affluent if you had a television – ONE television – that was chosen for its appearance as a piece of furniture. Now, we live in homes with alarm systems and both parents working as a necessity, often having huge mortgages and large amounts of credit card debt. Yet, we still have the same dreams and aspirations for our children and because so many of today’s parents are being pulled in so many directions, occasionally we “lose” it. I hope that some of what I have said makes sense to you. When my daughter was young, I was often guilty of yelling at her when I really shouldn’t have. I remember I had a very tiny decorative table – poorly placed – with a chachkie that I really liked on it. One day, while she was running in the house she collided with the table and my chachkie fell and shattered. I was angry and I gave her potch. Within a few minutes it dawned on my that it was my fault for having the table where it was. That was the end of that table – but I am quite sure the memory of her undeserved potch (I deserved the potch) stayed with her for some time. Parents are people and people are imperfect.