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You don’t necessarily need the extra yud. See for example Koheles 3:14. V’haElokim asah sheyir’u lefanav. Posuk is clearly referring to yir’ah as in fear, not r’iya as in seeing. Yet there is only one yud. Dagesh can fill the gap. and the sh’va is na.Aishet Chaver: There is a dagesh in the Daled of Kedishanu. That is a dagesh chazak as it is in the ayin hapoal of a binyan pi’el conjugation. A sh’va under a letter with a dagesh chazak is always na.
You want apikursus? How about Boruch hu Elokeinu shebaranu lichvodo. That means we created Him C”v. Should be Sheb’ra’anu, that he created us for his honor.
And many medakdekim will pronounce the word nih’ye with a sheva nach in the middle, as a two syllable word, not as was mentioned higher up this thread. NO change in teitch there.
Or how about those that say “asher kiddyshanu,” There is a chirik chaser under the Kuf and a sheva na under the daled; not the opposite.Interesting proof. One gadol (allegedly) used a kameia once as a placebo. Ergo, kameios are (all of them throughout history?) placebos.
Today, 9 Elul, is the yahrtzeit of the Novominsker Rebbe, Rav Nochum Mordechai Perlow, father of the current Novominsker Rebbe.
Thank you all for the kind wishes! That kallah from April is already married now. We made the lechaim the night before Bedikas Chometz! We also have another one, BH, getting married shortly after Sukkos!! Neither chosson is a poster, BH!!
Simchos by one and all!!
Kol mitzvah shene’emar v’lo nishneis, l’yisroel ne’emra. ex. Gid hanasheh. Pru Urvu is to klal Yisroel. There is another possuk in Mishlei, “lo sohu bra’ah, lasheves yetzarah” which may apply to women, avadim and goyim. These are extended sugyos in Gittin (ch 4), Yevamos ch 4), and Bava Basra 13a, among other places.
I would say, Hilchesa k’Joseph, v’lav mitaamei.I saw this in a shul last week. It is one volume on the first two perakim, about half of Maseches Makkos. Tosfos on half the masechta was a little bit bigger than the entire Maseches Makkos regular version. At that rate, expect 146 volumes for all of shas!!
Yeshivos are not about producing gedolei hador. How many gedolei hador can there be at any one time? The term itself implies a limited amount. The gedolim of a generation. If there would be a thousand of them, then they wouldn’t all be gedolei hador; only the greatest among them would be.
Yeshivos are trying to produce people who are gedolim themselves in Torah, Yir’ah, and other related midos. But not in relation to anyone else.
Of those tens of thousands of bochurim passing through Mir, BMG, Brisk etc, most if not all have grown from the yeshiva to be gedolim, more than they would’ve had they done other things.
This tripe about producing gedolei hador is routine talking points from the anti Bnai Torah crowd. They ant to know how many gedolim there are, make a quota system, and then send the rest to the army, to college, or wherever. Just not in the Bais Medrash. They do not understand the concept of as many people as possible, each one focused on his own personal spiritual growth more than other pursuits.
PS: Ponevez is bigger than Brisk, perhaps Slobodka as well, although they don’t cater to the Americans nearly as much as Brisk and Mir.Cuckoo? Some might say the process borders on somewhere between nichush and Chover chaver v’doresh el hameisim.
There is no such thing as a tzadik without a Yetzer Hara.
“I have a great way to work towards the coming of moshiach
Think outside of yourself and towards love of every Jew
That includes NKs, WoW, and any yid that you don’t agree with (that includes people that might call you a kofer for your beliefs
When hate leaves the world moshiach will come”
Halo mesan’echa Hashem esna, uviskomemecha eskotat.
Tehillim 139:21Shwekey was about 6 years old when MBD recorded that on HASC II.
There is no Forest in Marianos.
6.99 in Jewel
Bobov was a Rebbe’s child. Belz was a child of a rebbe’s only son and obvious heir.
TLIK: I am maskim that the roshei yeshiva get a bigger bash than we do. But when rebbe chasunas host twenty thousand who come and make a week’s trip out of it, and rosh yeshiva chasunas get two thousand people who come for a half hour after night seder, I don’t get the comparison.
“Weather you call it a “segulah”, a “mitzvah”, or whatever, it still comes across as offensive in many advertisements where the solicitation implies the more you give the bigger the “dividend”. ”
There is no question that the more you give, the bigger the dividend. Otherwise everyone would give pennies.
“Both the Tanach and the gemoroh explicitly endorse giving tzedokoh in the hope of a reward. Calling it “avoda zara” is outright apikorsus.”
Not every thing that is wrong is apikorsus. Calling everything apikorsus is not only incorrect; it cheapens the label for when it is appropriate.
A lot of the comments here remind me of a famous line from R’ Shmuel Kunda z”l.
“No pizza? My, how the Yidden suffered in Golus!!”
There are so many choices of siddurim, just figure out what works for you, and use that. And for whoever complained that his shul only uses Artscroll, either ask the gabboim to take other options into consideration, or dig into your own pocket, and sponsor a few of the kind you like.
PS. DY’s comment has bothered my for years. Why does Tefilas Shlomo have Vihi Noam in weekday maariv, and Yitzchok Yair requires you to flip to 262?!
Laurel!!!!
Everyone who went to shul this morning (unless there was a bris or some other such exemption) said a small piyut composed centuries ago and accepted by Klal Yisroel as an appropriate nusach for these issues. Acheinu kol beis Yisroel, hanusunim batzara uvashivya, etc.
Was recorded first on a Bobover record. Maybe was Ufduyei Hashem Yeshuvun.
MBD’s lyrics: forgive the Litvishe phonics
Yidden dermant eich fort
Vos hut zich getuhn oif dem ort
In Eretz Yisroel in Yerushalayim
M’hat maktir geven zevachim
Shlamim olos unsachim
bizman shebeis hamikdash haya kayam.
S’iz oleh geven l’reach
Oif dem heiligen mizbeach
Oif ein ort aleh minei karbanos
Mechaper tzu zein avonos
Al haratzon v’al haones
Uber hein iz nebach a grois rachmanus
Oif dem veinin mir und klugen
Beten und zugen
Aleh tag di bnai melachim
Yeden in defri
Vert gefregt elizehu (eizehi)
Mekoman shel zevachimBald indefri
Ven m’gait in shul arein
M’gait davenen mit kavanos
Dermanen zich di yidden
Az di Tefila is b’makom temidim
Az di davenen iz doch shtutz karbanos
Di kahal und der shatz
dos iz doch a bloizer zatz
Shteit a korban, nor a bloizer tefila
Az men zeht doch vi men halt
macht men doch a gevald
bnei vaischa, oyoyoy, kevatchila
Bet men nor dos einer vort
zeit men tzurik dos ort
Makriv Tzu zein temidim unsachim
oy vi lang noch vi,
vet men fregen eizehi
Mekoman shel zevachimM’fregen b’safah rafah
Di shaila iz ma yafa
ma yafu pe’amayich bane’alim
Oy ve shein oy vi zis
Zenen geven di trit
Vehn yidden zenen gegangen oilei regalim
Tzadkim vachasidim
uremeleit und negidim
m’zenen gegangen b’ahava v’reus
Can’t make out this line
Di neshamos Zeinin gebinden
A kesher in leben is gleicher deios
Shreit gevald kumi roni baleilos
al darchei tzion ha’avelios
M’zol shoin oisgeleizt tzu zehn aleh Tzion’s derachim,
Oy Bashefer enfert di
Di shaila fun Elizehi
Mekoman shel zevachimBechus di tzadkim zolen leiben
Im yirtze Hashem Yisbarach geben
Mzolen shoin geholfen veren mit a yeshua atzind
Oif dem beten mir oich
zol nisorer veren Dein koach
Mekarev Tzu zein di geula sheleima geshvind
Und plutzlung is der tzeit
Veht men zehn (cant make that out either)
Der Bais hamikdash dos bayis veha’aliyah
S’vet zein v’kulom modem
v’yachad kulam hodu
shehashechina hakedosha tihye beneinu sheruya
Teikef b’osos hayom
vet bald zein v’nocahl sham
min hazevachim und min hapesachim
S’vet yeder vissin vi
e-e-e-e-zehi
Mekoman shel zevachimFirst Toronto record. About 1974 or so. Soloist was David Buzaglo.
No reason to say elokist. When used in the context it is a shem avoda zara and therefore should be pronounced as chol. Elohist works just fine.
This thread has been driving me nuts for days.
I don’t know if this is what the OP is talking about, but I have a sneaky suspicion that I might have an idea. I am related through marriage to one of the food columnists in one of the frum publications. And this writer has used that term in her column once or twice. She has been called that term by acquaintances, and has adopted it a little.
In the sense that she used it, it means only that she likes experimenting in the kitchen, and trying new things that give a little variety in the monotonous menu that we sometimes have. I have been with this person on occasion at a restaurant at a family get together, and she spends half the evening trying to figure out how to make herself for cheaper what the professionals charge an arm and a leg for. She likes cooking and baking, and has a little talent there. That’s how she got the job writing for that publication.
I would say that her talents in the kitchen are a serious resume enhancement, even in the frum chareidi world. Anyone here who is looking for a shidduch for their son, and would hear about her kitchen talents and exploits, and says that they would reject her because she is too much into gashmiyus, I would suggest they are lying.
Now that the wisdom of the world is all refined, we can check that item off the list and forget about it?
Now watch the female unemployment rise.
IIRC his name in the annual Molei ceremony (8 Cheshvan) is Chaim Shalom Tuvia ben Yitzchok Shmuel. I will check for sure and get back.
Child Tax Credit stops at age 17. Deduction goes until marriage.
Glad to hear the CTL gives every single penny of expendable income to tzedaka. Dollar for dollar, what the IRS gets, tzedakos won’t. However, if he is in such a bracket that the deductions will cost him 20K, he will surely save a chunk on the drop in the marginal rates at the upper end.
On a slightly lower scale that many more of us are at, please note: Personal deductions gone. So a (hypothetical) family with 8 kids (and our community has a lot of those) will now have to pay tax on 41,500 more in income. Maybe there will be a slightly better bracket, and standard deductions goes up (If you pay a mortgage and give maser, that won’t help you much either), that is still thousands more in tax expense than before. The average baal mishpacha of a decent size making between 80-120K, not the rich of our world by any standards, are gonna get socked like you wouldn’t believe.
While a lot of what Yserb says is accurate, I’m not sure there were any takanos from R Aharon about secular studies. in Lakewood High Schools. There were no yeshiva high schools at all in Lakewood (that had to do with the BMG community) until the 80s, and R Aharon was nifter in 1962. The only high schools R Aharon had a shaychus to were Philly and some of the other Lakewood snifim, such as Long Beach and Scranton, (maybe Adelphia also) and they all had decent high schools from their founding until today.
It is also unlikely to say that there were takanos against sit down restaurants in R Aharon’s days, as it is exceedingly unlikely that anyone even dreamed of such a think in Lakewood back in 1962 and earlier.As far as the Eruv is concerned; virtually every block, development, schuna, neighborhood has an eruv. And many of them link with many others, letting people carry for some fair distances in some places. What there is not is anything large that connects far apart neighborhoods. Aside from the halachic reasons to exclude a mavoi mefulash d’oraisa, as some would consider Route 9 – Madison/River, there are hashkafic and social reasons not to allow unfettered carrying anywhere and everywhere. The total negation of all Hotza’ah restrictions can lead to decreasing of the kedushas Shabbos atmosphere. I know there are eruvin in Yerushalayim and Bnai Brak and places like those, but the old timers, establishers of the Lakewood community wanted to reduce the hustle and bustle, and therefore discouraged large scale eruvin.
Inactive yetzer hara or no Yetzer hara at all. Hmmm. Please explain kol hagadol machaveiro yitzro gadol mimenu. Also, please explain the taana on Dovid Hamelech when he said “Libi chalal b’kirbi.”
He knew when R Chatzkel Abramsky was let out of Siberia
Being involved in a few local mikvaos, I can tell you that What Daas Yochid says is exactly how it works. Mikva fees do not cover costs. Donations fill the gaps. They charge what they can and they’re still not making money. So when they have a captive audience, they try to reduce that gap. Also, as a followup to Joseph, where I live, if you buy a regular membership for either daily or weekly use, the Erev Yom Tovs are included, even ERH and EYK.
Move to Toms River and build yourself a teeny sukkah. Move to Jackson and good luck getting an approval for an eruv.
There are some wonderful gems on the tapes of Rav Avigdor MIller, zt”l, that can be found not in the regular lectures, but in the open floor Q&A at the end of the shiur.
Q: Rabbi Miller; Why are there so many mitzvos not to oppress and bother an almanah, but nothing regarding a gerusha? Aren’t they both undergoing the same challenges of single motherhood?
A: Because 99% of divorces are the woman’s fault.
At this point you can hear serious shuffling in the background, mumbling and grumbling from the audience, like a rebellion is about to launch.
Rabbi Miller continued, “And in case you think I am anti women, I will add that 99% of divorces are the fault of the man. There are maybe 1% extreme cases on either end that are the fault of only one spouse. However, in the vast majority of cases, both parties are at fault and both could have done things to salvage the relationship.”
Virtually exactly what Enough Divorces said.The mod formerly known as 80 has been posting under the name feivel. I believe he has not kept this a secret. If he does want it to be secret, then please don’t post this message.
Sorry for not responding earlier. I don’t have access at night. The Shach over there is only quoting the gemara about the reason for showering being part of the 18 gezeiros. Those 18 gezeiros (well the first 10 or so at least that are about tumah/tahara) are all talking about tahara for teruma and kodshim. That is not what men are doing today. We are all possul for teruma and kodshim anyway. Everyone in today’s world has tum’as meis, which makes them at least a sheini, and most likely a rishon. There is no tahara for that without parah aduma. And even those who think they are doing tevilas Ezra, if they were really doing it for that – are they makpid to wait for bias shemesh to complete the tahara? Or do they walk out of the mikva feeling spiritually rejuvenated, but not much of a halachic impact? Not that it makes a bit of difference anyway. We pasken like R Yehuda ben Beseira that divrei Torah are not mekabel tuma (Ha’idna nahagi alma k’hani t’lasa sabi). So Tevilas Ezra in only relevant for Teruma and kodshim, once again see above.
And anyways, the entire 201 is talking about Tevilas Nashim, not men.The only distinction I made in the boys was between the top tier long term learning boys vs. the 2 year kollel life and learner-earner types. How someone read into that that I was referring to people going of the path is beyond me.
I’ll throw another fact out there. In our world, most of the time, the spiritual identity of the family is defined by what the father is. Is he a teacher, a learner, a baal habos, a learner earner, a kovea ittim. Does he have real sedarim, or does he go to a shiur if there happen to be no scheduling conflicts.
There are more girls looking for that top tier fellow, then there are top tier boys. And when they figure out that he wasn’t has top tier as he was billed, (girls are very intuitive that way) they drop them for what seem like frivolous reasons. They’ve been trained to reach high, and when they sense a fellow spends more time in the coffeeroom – the real one, not the cyber version – than in the Bais Medrash, they decide that is not what they are looking for. Even if they know that they will have a harder time finding the next one that he will. Her spiritual identity is hitched to his more than his is hitched to hers.DY: I never said that there aren’t more girls than boys. It is clearly so, at least among the serious bnai Torah, and those wishing to marry them. (Personally, I have 2 daughters on the market, and one going into 12th grade. My boys are all married.) The question is why. I think that the major cause of this is that we do a better job in general keeping the girls on the straight and narrow than the boys. A boy can be frum, and nice, and ehrliche and all of the above. But if he is not a natural student, with a decent kishron and zitzfleish for learning, he won’t feel successful in the yeshiva system, and he won’t be found in the higher groups. A girl who is frum, nice, and ehrliche, although not necessarily a successful student, has many other non scholastic outlets within the Bais Yaakov system that can help her feel successful and want to stay in the fold. She can still get into a good seminary (maybe not BJJ, but a decent one), and be a high quality Bais Yaakov girl looking for that top learner.
The chassidim do a better job of finding outlets for their boys who are not necessarily stars in the Bais Medrash. (Just look at all the young musicians and singer groups out there today. I don’t know a number, but I’d bet that 90% of them are chassidim.) They don’t look at some of those people as second class like the litvish do, and therefore more of them stay in the good places, so their market is more balanced.I acknowledge that they start at the same time. But I would say that a much more significant number of boys get engaged in the first one or two girls, than girls do. The average guy comes out of the freezer, say 17 Tammuz; half of them are engaged by chanuka. The girls come back from seminary, 15-20% maybe are engaged in a year, most are on the market 2, 3 or more years. That itself brings them closer in age to those they are marrying. (I know it is anecdotal evidence only, but my girls were on the market an average of 2.5 post seminary years before getting engaged. My son came out of the freezer 17 Tammuz, and was engaged within the week of 15 Av. Most of my friends have very similar scenarios.)
The ads suggest they date earlier, but as you say, and I agree 100%, they should follow their rabbeim. All I said is their rabbeim are mostly not hurrying them. They are advising them to continue the process as has always been. (Except REBW, who tells some of his talmidim to marry before Israel.) What I said was don’t read what they write in public announcements that askanim nag them into signing. Rather follow what they tell their talmidim away from the pressures of the busybodies.
Read the letters carefully. The only ones signed by recognized gedolim say that there is nothing wrong with bochurim dating girls closer to their age. And you know what? They do!! All these people that say there is an age gap because 23 year old boys marry 19 year old girls has an exceedingly closed mind about how statistics work in the real world. They have no understanding about the fluid nature of the shidduch market; what brings people in and what takes them out. Most shidduchim are redt and most marriages are between people of closer age than 4 years. Just because a boy starts at 23 and a girl starts at 19, doesn’t mean that every, or even most shidduchim have a 4 year gap.
There are so many factors in our community that can increase or decrease the flow of bochurim and girls. Analyzing cheder statistics is an unbelievingly shortsighted and perspective-limiting method of determining what happens in the shidduch market 10-15 years down the road.
That gemara in Shabbos, which I referenced above, has absolutely nothing to do with why men go to the mikva nowadays. Hence it is not referenced in Shulchan Aruch. Which is why when Joseph said twice that it is in Shulchan Aruch, and He was challenged for a source, he has suddenly gone uncharacteristically quiet.
The gedolim, by and large, do NOT support this theory, and even more so, they emphatically do NOT support the solution offered. They way to know this is not by looking at whose home a meeting is in, who signed a kol koreh, or who gave an emotional appeal at a levaya.
The way to tell what they really believe is to see how they guide their talmidim, and their sons and grandsons. They (with the partial exception of R Elya Ber) are not sending them to Israel earlier. They are not bringing them back earlier. They are not encouraging them to date earlier, or to marry before going to Israel. They are not nagging R Malkiel to open the freezer earlier.
All those gedolim also have daughters and granddaughters. They know the nisoyonos the girls and their families are going through, because most of us are the same families, as we have both boys and girls. And they still do not change the model of Torah chinuch. That means that they clearly disagree with the solutions.
joseph: Source please?
Joseph: False! In the world of tuma and tahara being kept on the level of eating teruma and kodshim, there is one of the 18 gezeiros in the first perek of Shabbos about showering causing tuma. That does not apply to our level of tahara and to our mikvaos of today. Especially men’s obligation. And when it did apply, it included every shower one would take, even in the privacy of his own home – not related to the mikva.
There is a legend that someone asked RSZA zt’l if he should shower before or after the mikva. He said before because of bain adam lachaveiro, and then again after, because not everyone is makpid on bain adam lachaveiro.
Syag: Thank you!! Does this personal wish of Mazel Tov mean we have to acknowledge that we’ve already met?
Haleivi: Not that I’m aware of.
Did you ever bring a camera to a family wedding? Won’t your pix be the same as the professional’s, except not as professional?
If I’d give a list of those whom I’ve met, I’d probably get banned for giving away too much. I’ve said enough about myself over the years (passed my 10th CR anniversary last December!), that just saying who I’ve met could risk exposing some of the most famous names in this vaunted location!
A lunar eclipse is a siman ra for Klal Yisroel because we count our days by the moon. A solar eclipse is a siman ra for the whole world, or for the goyim; depending on the 2 leshonos in the gemara Sukka 29a.
How abut off and on?
When we were younger, the weather warning siren in our neighborhood used to run a test at 1:00 PM on the first Shabbos of every month. It was very loud and annoying, and scary to some of the younger kids. My 3 year old brother was petrified of it.
After some successful lobbying by many community members, they cancelled the tests.
My mother heard of that accomplishment and came home to report, “The siren is not going to go off this week!”
My little brother got hysterical. “You mean it’s going to stay on the whole Shabbos?!!”