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I’ve also never heard of this coat. Seems like a good idea, though, for people who wear hats.
taking a break, I really think the best way to let him know that is by telling him straight out, but politely of course, that you wish to have a strictly in-school and only school-related, relationship.
About another issue, I personally feel that it is not nice to give anyone the cold shoulder for a compliment, Jew or non-Jew. There are other ways to give the message to “back off” that are more polite. Giving the cold shoulder can be viewed as rude, and can possibly lead to a chillul hashem.
And I happen to think Avigail is a very pretty name.
Queen Bee, I totally agree. And a girl with a southern accent is simply adorable.
I would consider it a plus if the girl had a British, Australian, or Southern accent. I love those. I’m not so into the New York accent, to be honest.
All of Tehillim were written as songs, anyway, by Dovid Hamelech. Therefore, I would say it would make sense to compose songs from Tehillim.
WIY, I don’t wish to argue with you about this, but not everyone considers this overstepping boundaries. So, it is quite possible that this boy is still a good, frum yeshiva boy, and even a “ben torah”, whose ideas of overstepping boundaries may be a bit different from mine or yours. I think this is what Mr. Taxman meant when he said we shouldn’t judge or label others.
I would NOT advise giving him the cold shoulder. I think that is rude. You can politely tell him you want to keep your relationship with him strictly in school and only to school-related things, and that you would not want to go further than that. If he is a normal, nice guy, he will respect your choice.
I think most girls wouldn’t give their phone numbers to a guy just because he complimented their names, unless they’re desperate. He would have to do much more than that. I’ve done my share of getting girls’ numbers when I was a teen, and I had to do more than that.
Goq, I agree with you, but unfortunately, I can’t really see anyone beating the Packers this year, especially if they stay healthy.
I don’t want to put you through all the trouble of racing to post first! If you really want to do it, I’ll let you post first every Friday. I’ll wait for it.
Thank him for the compliment.
It seems that he may be interested in you, so just be aware of that for the future. If you are not interested in him, try keeping your distance, and if he comes onto you again, you can politely tell him you aren’t interested.
adorable, have a great shabbos. I see you beat me this time…shucks! Maybe next week. 🙂
the patriot- First of all, do you have an amplifier? If not, you’ll need to buy one, and they go for at least 50 dollars. Just something to think about.
Now, in terms of the actual guitar, for 100 dollars, your options are a bit limited. There are a few brands that make entry level models that are decent, such as Ibanez, Epiphone, and Fender. They can be anywhere between 100 and 200 dollars new, so you might find a used one for less than 100.
Another option would be to go to your local Guitar Center or Sam Ash and see what they have on clearance. Sometimes, they’ll have something marked down a ton, and you can save so much money that way. You may even find a 300 to 400 dollar guitar for around 100 bucks. Also, Guitar Center has their own brand guitar called Laguna, and they’re actually great quality, and are pretty inexpensive.
Bottom line, here’s some brands you should consider if you find them cheap: Ibanez, Epiphone, Fender, Laguna, Dean, Gibson (if possible), Schecter.
Good luck!
I find myself looking forward to aries’ posts. I also really enjoy reading posts from people who have given me help and encouragement (adorable, Goq, bomb, bpt, and many others), or have interesting or funny things to say (ZK, Popa, Wolf, and many others). I do try to value everyone’s opinion and input.
Perhaps there is a bus or a train? Or maybe you can find a ride back?
I’ve spent shabbos in Monsey a few times, and they were all wonderful experiences. And as yummy and adorable said, there are other places in New York, and even the country, besides Brooklyn.
Funny story- I once told someone from Flatbush that I live in such and such city (to remain nameless), and he asked, “Is that a suburb of Toronto?” And the city is in midwestern U.S.
I’m not trying to put down anyone, this was just a funny story with one person. I’m sure many people from Flatbush are very knowledgeable in geography.
rfs, what you consider to be problem, I really don’t see as a problem. I think it’s great to have a really good picture of yourself.
ootiny, I personally would be intimidated dating an extremely pretty girl. I like plain and ordinary…but attractive, of course.
adorable, it was so thoughtful of you to bring back this thread!
Feif, I hope you are doing better!
bomb, I admire you for your courage, and like others here, I believe you did the right thing. Every situation is different, so SB’s friend may or may not use your method, but just seeing how others deal with these kinds of things give others strength and ideas of how to cope better.
Hacham, that is not always true. I have worn a colored button down shirt and slacks for a first date. I have also worn a suit. It depends on where we were going.
OP, I agree with many of the posters here that we don’t really know the impact or lack of impact had on your classmates, since that is something not always shown on the surface. I personally have certain views on the topic of communication between boys and girls that aren’t quite in line with some people’s views here, but that doesn’t change the fact that a school rule was broken. But, I do think that in general, a Principal or Rabbi in a school should really think carefully before making a decision that can possible change a student’s life, because they may be held responsible in heaven for their decision.
Concerning something else brought up here, I don’t think going to an MO school will solve anything. If anything, it’ll make things worse, both for this student, and fellow classmates. I PERSONALLY know of so many kids from more religious schools who were expelled, went to more modern schools, and ended in far worse trouble, and caused other classmates to stumble, eventually giving the class, and even the entire school, a bad name.
I think MO schools should NOT accept students who were expelled from more religious schools. There are schools specially made for students like that in most large cities.
But of course, my opinion on this is simply based on what I saw. So if people disagree with me, that is perfectly fine, because they may have seen things work out differently, and I understand that.
May you find your path back to G-d quickly and easily.
“I just want to know if I’m dating a normal type of girl and if she knows what the done thing is???”
MPC, to answer the first question, based on the information you gave about her, she sounds like a wonderful girl, and perfectly normal. To answer the second question, I would like to ask you a question: Why in the world does that matter? Who cares if she knows what “the done thing” is? I once went out with a girl from a very small community (I mean REALLY small), and after walking around a mall and sitting at a food court, she and her mom invited me for dinner to their house! Is that “normally done”? Doubtful. (This was a first date.) But guess what: I had a wonderful time, she was a wonderful person, and we went out a few more times. It didn’t work out at the end for other reasons.
So what I’m saying is, don’t make things that are normally or not-normally done into a huge deal, because it’s not important at all. What’s important is the PERSON you are dating.
haifagirl, whether or not other people here appreciate your grammatical input, I think it is nice to have someone here that sees the importance of it. I would not mind at all if you corrected me on my grammar, and I view it as a privilege to have you here offering your grammatical help to those who need it. If others don’t want to be corrected, fine. But feel free to correct me when necessary, and I will appreciate it.
I think the uniform of a ben torah should be a mode of dress befitting one who considers himself part of the nation of G-d. For some, that means wearing a white button-down shirt, black pants, and a black hat. For others, that means wearing a green polo shirt, jeans, and a kippah. It is different for different people. The main thing is to realize that people interpret “proper dress code” differently, and to not look down on others for dressing differently.
Welcome!
minyan gal, thank you for such a wonderful post. I think people need to focus on listening, and not just “hearing”.
aries, it is great that you do that. By the way, is it possible for you to take a look at the “Question about being self-centered” thread? I would love your input and ideas about that topic!
Mod 80, I see the Brooklyn- Jerusalem thread was closed, so I’ll post here. It was NOT yossi2468 who berated me, it was someone else. I think the thread it was on is closed now, anyway. And it doesn’t matter, I forgive the person who did it. There were good intentions in what was said, even if it could have been said in a nicer way.
adorable, I took over your job this week. Have a wonderful and restful shabbos, everyone.
Ir, in response to your post which responded to my post (I hope that isn’t too confusing), I think you are right. There is no reason for you to consider your ex-fiance’s feelings about this. I only said what I said because that’s what I would have done. If I were in a such a situation, I think I would be concerned about my ex-fiance’s feelings. But that would be wrong. I would have no reason to. This is somewhat related to the thread I started a little while ago. It’s something I have to work on. Good for you!
As many here have said, girls are extremely caring and sensitive to their friends and their feelings. It would be imperative to first see if both this girl and your ex-fiance are not too weary about such a suggestion (through someone else), and only then to bring yourself into the picture and talk directly. It is so important to take into consideration any feelings that may be hurt along the way, so move forward with extreme care. I hope it works out!
Happy birthday, Goq! And amen to adorable’s wonderful bracha.
always- You are right, I should not have assumed anything. I will try to work on my middos so that this won’t happen again. Yossi2468, I am sorry for accusing you of being someone else. Please forgive me.
adorable- Thank you for supporting me, but if I did embarrass anyone, then I was wrong, and I am sorry.
I have this strange feeling that yossi2468 is mosherose..just with a bit better grammar.