miamigirl613

The main issue is not that you are less religious because you wear jeans, that shouldn’t make a person less religious, rather it’s the way people perceive you and like said previously, people judge based on the way you look without knowing who you really are.

Reply To The Wolf:

I don’t think it’s modern and I did not come up with the term “Modern.” This is what I’ve been hearing from people and I was wondering myself what that meant. Anyways I was leading this into shidduchim because it’s 100% true that some people won’t go out with a guy/girl if they wear jeans, even if they are on the same page. That’s what I was trying to get out of this. Does this make sense? Is this because it’s more “Modern” or “Perceving someone of being less religious,” I don’t know, and that’s what I’m trying to get out of this.

Reply to The Wolf:

What I’m trying to say is that many judge a book by its cover and by wearing jeans people automatically think the person is more modern (I guess you can say less religious in their eyes), because a really religious person wouldn’t. But there are many people who are religious and still wear it. So if there is a girl/guy that wears jeans, should this stop a shidduch from continuing because its not the standard of a religious person even though some do?

rock is anachnu maminim, melech, zacreini na, yerushalayim, chazak, etc.

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Reply to Bein Hasidorim:

I definitely agree with you.

Btw this was a a story I heard from someone and I was really annoyed because hashkafa and looks were both good. It was just a feeling that the person had that they only seemed like really good friends. It doesn’t make sense to me and I don’t know how people plan to move on with that attitude. If something is going well, keep on going. If there was something wrong then it was really minor which should not be the cause of a breakup!

I understand that Avraham Fried and MBD were the kings of jewish music. They still are amazing now but Shwekey has definitely taken over as the new king of Jewish music. No question about it!!!

Reply to Derech HaMelech:

You are right to an extent but if it does work out then your friend would wonder why you didn’t tell her. I understand that this is more important than a friendship, but at the same time that is going behind a friends back and it should not be approached that way. If it’s just a friend, then maybe. But if it is a good friend then this is not the way you should end it. Unfortunately, there are cases where real good friendships end because of this.

Even better, I know of a situation where someone dated a person and the family did not approve. They ended up getting married. The question remains, family or future family?

I understand family is more important then friendship, but its the same concept. You shouldn’t put yourself in a situation that’ll possibly end off worse for one. You should discuss beforehand with your friend and if your friend says No, and it’s your bashert, trust me it’ll come around again somehow.