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Heshy; B”H. I’m waiting for the day when my most serious problem will be speculating whether Chaim Behr or Moshe Gronim (Or, Bunim) really DID send regards through Chatzkel Feivish, or he is just making it up to make me feel (Even) better. On the other hand. As long as the other party (Some of whose names I enumerated Above.) did not specifically say NOT to send regards, he really meant to send. ?????? ??? ????? ?????
Zeeskite; If the Alter from… said (As he is quoted to have said.) That in Chodesh Elul, even the fish that swim in the lake/s are shivering (out of fear from the Yom Hadin), then he must have also said that from Rosh Chodesh Adar, the fish are happy. Especially after Purim Katan, when most people (who are in the (drinking) line (or mood) start celebrating.
Zeeskite; No. my ‘keyboarding’ isn’t so “Sharp”. You don’t have to keep a distance. Wish you could see the pieces (Posts) the Mods (Both, here and the other Jewish website.) didn’t let through.
Zeeskite; You have enumerated lofty goals, indeed. I personally am not at this (Lofty) Madregah, yet. My present (spiritual) standing is, that if attacked, (Mostly verbally) I plead with the attacker to cease and desist before I unleash a befitting retort, which the perpetrator will surely not like. I am (B”H) blessed with a sharp tongue that can really penetrate the kishkes (Guts, blaa”z). As far as flying off the handle (You) due to a (Chronic) cold. It’s simple. Take some over the counter cold remedy.
Shorosh, et al; How about an FFB Bochur dating a girl from a BT or (NYF) family?! A(n) already observant family shouldn’t be a problem at all. Unless your life is running so smooth that you have no financial or Chinuch problems (Or, already solved them, all.) that your main preoccupation (after returning from Winter vacation in Florida or Palm Springs.) is Kovod and Yichus. But the rest of us, average people should be open to suggestions from all segments of Ehrlich Yidden.
Gavra-at-Work; the Mishna Berura, indeed discusses the proper time for davening Mincha and Maariv. He concludes by saying that anyone can freely choose to daven Mincha before the Sh’kia or after. Or, daven Maariv at an early Z’man (when three Medium size stars are visible.) or Rabeinu Taam. He stipulates, however, that you can’t daven late Mincha and early Maariv.
ItcheSrulik; A wheel chair ramp (For those that need one) is not a portable item and has to be custom-built and properly anchored. Therefore it is not something that most volunteer organizations (Like Chaveirim) would deal with. The route to go would be to inquire with a contractor about size, type and cost of building one. (Albeit for relatively short-term use.) And then inquiring about financial help to defray the cost of setting it up.
ItcheSrulik; The fact that some family members are (Very) MO, while others dress in “Veisse Zocken” (White socks, on rolled up pants.) is heartwarming and very healthy. First off, it shows that where family is concerned, there are no barriers. The most Chassidish will attend the simchas of the most modern. Secondly. It exposes the children (of all sides) to a different culture than their own and it helps them adjust well emotionally. In my (extended) family, it’s been like that for the past 37 Years and I see the (good) results of that exposure. In our family we have B”H the entire range from Very Chassidish to MO. And everyone respects the tradition of the other.
aries2756; I agree with you that when a landlord refuses to do his/her duty and gives the tenant a hard time about doing repairs that are indisputably his obligation, it’s very frustrating. At the same time it shows stupidity on the part of the landlord. B”H I haven’t encountered this problem. Partly because unless it is a serious structural repair, my landlord won’t even hear about it. I’m not judging about this particular case but speaking in general. The fastest way for good relations bet. landlord and tenant to deteriorate is when the tenant is in the landlord’s face every Second (or Third) day kvetching about relatively minor repairs. If the tenant is not handy, he can hire someone to do the repair. Rather than bug the landlord.
TLC; I can see the root of your problem. You fail to realize (Due to your own nature or upbringing.) that beside being a tenant you are also a neighbor. And you must strive to be good neighbors. (It cuts both ways.) I had a hunch that your interpersonal problems didn’t just start out of thin air. When you tell your neighbor/landlord that you expect him to shlep your trash, you’re automatically showing that you expect him (for the rent money) to be your servant. And when you kvetch about the stairs not being cleaned, I would tell you that taking a shovel and cleaning for a change wouldn’t floor you. I rent an apartment, too. I rented all my married life. B”H we never had an issue about taking out the garbage or clearing the snow. Yes. I did have an argument with my landlord. He wanted to shlep my trash and I said NO. Try not to have an attitude that things are coming to you for paying the rent.
Pashuteh Yid; The story that you told (heard) about the lumber yard delivery driver hit close to home. My (younger) brother drove all over the place, to Lakewood, the mountains and everywhere else in between for Six Months on his Learner’s Permit. Yet when he took the road test he failed Three times. Puzzled. He asked me for advice. I told him, the inspectors don’t like it when you drive like an experienced driver. (And don’t observe the basic, beginner’s rules.) Drive like a beginner (And observe all the rules.) and drive in a humble way. He passed.
Zeeskite; I’m with you on that theory. (Why people utter that sentence, when they do just the opposite.) It’s a “Limud Z’chus” (Or a limit Z’chus.)It’s a reminder that these words shouldn’t be spoken on Shabbos… But we still do it!
blueprints; Since you wanted to hear what happened (In the case of the night owl neighbors.) We told them where to go. Additionally. One Shabbos afternoon, there was a very loud opening and closing of folding beds. (In case anyone is wondering how opening and closing folding beds can make noise. If a bunch of grownups who act like children decide to have fun in this weird way, they close and then let go the folded bed with great impact on top of the downstairs neighbors.) So I removed one ceiling tile and started banging on the original ceiling with a broomstick handle till the war of folding beds stopped.
Yogiboobo; My Rav is Bloomberg and he “Paskened” that I should call 311. Seriously. Those people are cruel and cynical at the same time. We once had such neighbors. A family with grown kids, who didn’t dream of knocking it off till 4AM. There was loud music and conversation. With furniture moving till the early morning hours. Naturally, they slept till the late hours of the daytime. One day, my son (whose bedroom was below the racket-producing epicenter.) took a “Boom Box”, mounted it on top of the armoire at 6;30 AM and turned up the volume. After about Five Minutes, they came running, complaining about the “Noise”!
HaleiVi; They (The “Pritzim”, plural for “Poritz”.) were not specifically Jew-haters, but money hungry. They needed tons of money to finance their ostentatious, depraved lifestyle. And their methods of enforcing payment were brutal. They could mete out any form of punishment (For non-payment of rent) and there was no one to stop them. Some of the stories that evolved around the “P’ritzim” and their Jewish tenants and managers are true. Others are fiction. But, they’re part of the folklore.
Rebbitzen; So, you’re saying (In your first post) (Paraphrasing).. Everyone needs a psychologist and if someone thinks they don’t need one, they REALLY need one. But the essence of what you’re saying (That everyone needs to express their worries and anger. Not keep it bottled up. And, speaking about it is therapeutic in itself.) is already discussed in the Talmud. ???? ??? ??? (Political correctness did not exist in Talmudic times.)?????? ?????? Meaning. If someone is worried, fearful or angry about a situation or event, they should discuss it with another person.
ha ha ha ha ha; (Ha4); I’m already in possession of a moniker. But I have a very short attention span. If someone has an elongated introductory, you lost me by the time you reach the substance.
real-brisker; “Noch Dus Oych”! What else do you want?! I’m not so sure about that. But, then again, she would be a Rosh Yeshiva, not a salesperson in a store. One thing is certain. I don’t envy her prospective Son-in-Law who would present himself as a Yeshivishe guy who wasn’t really. His bluff wouldn’t last more than Thirty Seconds.
apushatayid; There is no joke, (hidden, or otherwise.) and no joke was intended. Just an attempt to define the mindset of a MO Machmir.
Wolfish Mu…; I may not know the Modern Orthodox “Lifestyle” but I know the people who live it.
I only addressed the definition of a Machmir. Not the usefulness of that lifestyle. The only problem with “Machmirim” is, when they want to force their personal Chumros on everyone else.
Real Brisker (In response to Wolf.); I happen to know a Rebbitzen who worked in a famous Seforim Store in Boro Park, who could rattle off the names of all Rishonim and Achronim in the proper order of their appearance. She actually did have serious discussions with Kollel Yungeleit about the availability of all Seforim. She would never say –for example– that the Chazon Ish was an uncle of the Baal Shem Tov. Or that Reb Chaim Kaniyevsky was related to the Avnei Nezer.
Chayav Inish L’…; Teens (and everyone else) shouldn’t text while driving.
ckbshl; I know a lot of MO GUYS who don’t hold from Mayim Achronim, either.
Ha ha ha (Three is enough for me.); I downloaded the “Sage” Dictionary, which gives me both, Spelling and definition.
apushatayid; I have a very practical definition of a “Modern Orthodox Machmir”. A (young) lady who wears slacks that reach above the ankles and prays Three Times a day from the “Korban Mincha” Siddur. Maybe wears a “Shpitzel”, too.
Ofcourse; That word is an “Oxymoron”. (That word itself requires some (intense) research). A “Modern-Orthodox Machmir” is like driving a car with two gear boxes. One driving forward and the other driving backwards. Modern-Orthodox, by definition is seeking the least, most lenient, way out form of Yiddishkeit. Hugging the (I’ll be getting it over my head) Conservative movement’s level of observance. A Machmir, on the other hand is a “Charedi” Jew who is not content with the Shulchan Aruch. He always seeks new “Chumros”.
TBL ROX; If someone is a good writer, they can channel their talents to write dramatic stories that have a happy ending and a lesson to be learned. Writing a dramatic story about murder is glorifying it. A person with feelings of compassion (Rachmanus) is abhorred, rather than entertained by murder.
Always Here; Thank you. But what these painful events taught me is, that everything that happens to a person is pre-ordained m’Shamayim. And if it happens (ch”v) we have to accept it and make the best of the situation. B”H, in my case, I didn’t miss out even one day of work or going to Shul. But, in the case of a property owner who doesn’t shovel the snow and put salt or other de-icing chemicals on the sidewalk the first chance he gets, is liable “Min Hatorah”, and if someone is injured and sues, they deserve to pay every last penny.
Always Here; I could empathize with the sad story about your husband slipping on ice one year ago and again this year. Because it happened to me. But, I didn’t need ice to hurt my body and get black and blue marks and excruciating pain. In my case, the first part of Hashem’s message to me happened before Pesach when I skidded off a wet loading dock with one foot and the rest of my body hitting the lift gate of a truck. (The exact circumstances I am too embarrassed to tell.) I could not sit or stand. I could only sleep turned completely on one side. When that pain almost subsided, I tripped and fell inside the bus that I drive. On the way to the floor, I hit the back of a seat with my left arm, injuring the muscle and paralyzing my left arm. For months, I had a black and blue mark.
Now let me go off on a humorous tangent, addressed to “Zahavasdad”. You should have used your cell phone to call your Rav, asking a Sheilah if that particular property owner was allowed to shovel the snow on Shabbos. (Since in your view it is 100% allowed.) Or you should have called a cab to take you home. Or to the emergency room.
Daas Yochid; We have to thank GAW for opening this thread and thereby showing (Indirectly) what a Talmid Chacham he really is. Some people (especially the ladies) can’t keep up with the terminology. (It almost prompted me to open another (Sub)-thread.). But there is one point in your post that we should all strive to follow. Namely. That if I follow the Daas Torah of one particular Godol, I should still respect the opinions of the other Torah Scholars. Same goes for Chassidus. Everyone can follow any Chassidic Rebbi at the same time respecting all of the others. This would be a major contribution towards Shalom and would, hopefully bring Moshiach closer.
IMHO, BTs should get most of the credit because they chose a difficult path in life. One that is full of challenge and uncertainty. But most people who choose the path of T’shuva don’t just wake up one morning and decide to make a radical change in their life. It’s an evolving process, that takes months and sometimes, years. But, in most cases it’s triggered by a momentous event of survival that opens up the thought process to the possibility that there is a higher authority (Than is perceived on a conscious level.). But, in every case, the Emunah is very strong once the decision to alter the lifestyle has been made.
anonymrs; With all the rules and sub rules posted, I decided to stay home. Home, sweet home. That’s the best place. Where you find out about the rules post facto. When your wife yells (I mean speaks loud) at you “Why don’t you do this…” Or. “Why do you drag the (coffee) spoon all the way (with you) to the “Fridge” (along with the milk) and back to the sink?!
The Torah does not need the support and corroboration of Science. But sometimes, Science seems to confirm what the Torah has said already. Like when the archaeologists find a location that is mentioned in the Torah and the events described are confirmed by the evidence. But confirmed atheists (apikorsim) will find excuses for everything and will not become believers. Some years ago, Science and Torah were mutually exclusive. The scientists mocked the Torah, claiming it to be old fashioned and not sophisticated as they were.
One very important rule of being a good (and welcome to return) guest that none of the posters mentioned is, (for a no sleepover guest) to know when it’s time to leave. Some guests don’t know when the host is ready to shift gears. Either to go to sleep or attend a simcha that they have an obligation to go to. I’ve had such a Shabbos and Yom Tov guest. He was very pleasant company, shmoozing and exchanging stories during the meal. After “Bentching” & desert, no amount of hinting would help. I was obligated to show at a Sheva Brochos. I was in a dilemma. So I invited the guest to come along to the SB. Which he declined. But it helped get me out the door.
yersl; He (Your rabbi) might as well stay there till next year Pesach. Because soon after the High Holy Days is Chanuka and “Tu B’Shvat” and Purim follow right in its footsteps.
Shlishi; What’s wrong with thaaaat???!!!
shlishi; Unless I don’t know how to read (English). I don’t see where yersl was berating her father. If you see it, can you please point it out.
Haleivi; Your Sheilah has a lot of merit. I couldn’t fall asleep without knowing the answer. So I called my LMOR (Local Modern Orthodox Rabbi) His voice mail picked up & apologized that while he is vacationing in Hawaii, all Sheilos be put on hold until he returns to Brooklyn.
guardmytongue; Thank you for the clarification. Yitainingwut was never put down (ch”v.) in any way. It was all done in a jesting way. Since Ytng. was “patting” himself/herself on the shoulder how “Good” they are on picking up clues, it was merely pointed out in a “Smiling” fashion how “Wrong” they were. Again, if anyone’s feathers were “Ruffled”) (I don’t even know what that word means. metro.) we’re here to “Un-Ruffle” them. Let’s all have a good and pleasant Shabbos.
dunno; I disagree with you. Here, CS didn’t even have a face to face conversation (where she can gauge the facial expressions and other body language) with this “guy” and she already feels bad about this whole deal. From this minimal phone contact she can surmise that he is not a straight dealer. It’s best to drop him at the start, rather than getting involved with an unsavory character.
smartcookie & guardmytongue; Because she doesd not live in my house. I only found out (about her complaint) by reading about it on CR. It’s like having a conversation that is not confidential and let everyone else eavesdrop on it. Also, it shows how different people read different meanings into simple statements.
“Guardmytongue”. You are, unfortunately contradicting your name. You are accusing someone of being rude when this is not the case at all.
yitayningwut; You would have gotten that promotion if you had guessed (Right) that yersl (Not yesrl) is (Oh, My) my daughter! But since you didn’t provide the right answer (Just like on Jeopardy) you stay in the same position.
MDG; So, what happened to those cities that the Israelites (The Yidden) built in ancient Egypt, (Which, BTW is not located where present day Egypt is. Rather, where Sudan is.)
CharlieSmall; You should have added a stipulation…”Because everyone (who does) seems to have time to read and post on the CR. If someone works in an office, they can sneak off to the CR (when they think the boss doesn’t see.)But in my job, I can’t read or post while on duty.
yitayningwut; Don’t give yourself a promotion, yet. You’re one of the greatest detectives for having figured out that “Yersl” is a “She”. I wonder what clue you went by. You’re almost in one league with Sherlock Holmes. But, not quite. The relative that I was referring to, happens to be my younger brother. The reason I put “Brother” in Quotation Marks is, because he “Forgets To Call Home”!
Since you’re such a great detective, I’m wondering if you picked up another “hidden” clue that “Hits You in the Face” on this entire thread (by yersl).
yitayningwut; I’m going to go out on a limb and say that even though “Yersl” is (probably) older than 13 Years, —- never put on Tefillin, even once.
BeenaMalka; I used the same argument to yersl. But, the relative that — is upset about is (probably) not such a distant one.
Yersl; What makes you think I know when your relative comes to town? I happen to have a close? relative (like a brother) who doesn’t announce his presence and I only “Bump” into him on the street while driving. When I honk, in order to get his attention, he does not even realize that his “Brother” is sitting 2 Feet away in the next vehicle.
AvidReader; First. A Refuah Sh’leima to the patient. As a general rule in the treatment of Cancer (r”l). The best way is the conventional way with the biggest experts in the medical field (MDs) assessing the kind of Chemo Therapy and/or Radiation that is required for that specific patient. All the other supplements offered by the various purveyors (Some are honest, others are simply charlatans, preying on the desperate and raising false hopes for huge amounts of money.) are helpful to the patient in conjunction with the prescribed Chemotherapy. The so-called “Alternative Doctors” are all a bunch of phonies. Again, raising false hope and wasting money and precious time that should have gone to conventional treatment.
shticky guy; The first set of names (Mentioned in Sefer B’reshis) are not specific Jewish names, and therefore, it’s natural that most of them should not be used. But, the children of the Sh’vatim were named for specific events in their life. Also, most names that were popular in Tanaaic and Amoraic times are not in use today. Maybe that is why they sound strange to us. But, the question remains why they fell out of popularity. Also, the Tana R. Meir could learn the character of a person through his name. As is recounted in the Talmud.
LAer; Shlumiel (Ben Tzuri-Sha-Day) is a name mentioned in the Torah. So. I’m (genuinely) wondering why people stopped giving this name to their children?
Chayav Inish (Or, Inosh) L’Vesumai…; I like your new subtitle. It suits your posting name. Just make sure you don’t reach “Ad d’Lo Yada”.
Why are names such as Gimpel, Getzel, Zerach (Zoorach), Shlumiel for boys and Shprintza, Dvosha for girls so rare?