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  • in reply to: שנאת חינם #2105207
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    @Kuvult: “don’t judge a Yid by their Hashkafa judge them by whether they’re a Mensch.”

    Why should a Jew be judged at all? And once I am judging him, why in the world should I judge him if he is a mensch and not by hashkafa? What’s the difference?

    It doesn’t say “You shall love a mensch as yourself.” Who doesn’t love mensches? Most people love non-Jewish mensches as well! The mitzvah of ואהבת לרעך כמוך means to love every single Jew, whether he is handsome, polite, smelly, dirty, stupid, or rude. (רמב”ם הלכות דעות פ”ו ה”ג)
    You don’t love your brother because he is a mensch.


    @Reb
    Eliezer – RE: Machlokes between Aim Habonim Smeicha and the Minchas Elozor

    These are actually two ways in the Gemara (Sanhedrin 99a):
    If we merit the Geula (זכו) – it will happen speedily before its time (אחישנה) and miraculously (ארו עם ענני שמיא).
    If ch”v we don’t merit the Geula (לא זכו) – it will happen in its time (בעתה) in a long natural process (עני ורוכב על החמור).

    in reply to: A Generational Change in Jewish Naming Conventions #2105021
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    @Kuvult:
    I think you are mistaken.
    Otzar Midrashim says this about Shimon Kipah (=Peter).
    Sefer Chassidim calls “Shimon Kipah – Peter Chamor” a “tzaddik whom people erred after.”
    Machzor Vitri brings in the name of Rabbeinu Tam that the nussach of Yom Kippur was arranged by Shimon Kipah.
    Elsewhere he writes “there are some who say that Nishmas Kol Chai was written by “Shimon Peter Chamor” when he was on the stone [=”Petros” in Greek]. Chas V’shalom to say such a thing, anyone who says so will have to bring a korban chataas when the Beis Hamikdosh is rebuilt.”
    (see רמב”ם עוז והדר הלכות מלכים ע’ שעב הע’ רמב)

    in reply to: שנאת חינם #2105006
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    @Always_Ask_Questions, @Kuvult

    It would be nice if everyone could takeh come together to learn. Although it would take lots of effort to accomplish such a think.

    At the same time, maybe the highest level of achdus is to realize that no matter how different we are, we are all one guf. For foot treatment I go to a podiatrist. For my heart I go to a cardiologist. For my teeth I go to a dentist.

    My foot doesn’t get offended that my heart doesn’t go to the same doctor as it. We feel perfectly at peace with the fact that we each have our own function and our own needs, and we live in harmony as one body. (besides for my right ear, it gets a bit narcissistic at times!)

    If children could go to different schools, get very different values and hashkofos, and still be taught the infinite value of every single Yid, and that without what every Yid brings to the table we would all be incomplete – that would be an incredible step toward achdus and the geula!

    in reply to: שנאת חינם #2104912
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    @Always_Ask_Questions:
    Halevai we should be on such a level that everything is a matter of black and white opinion in seforim. But the problem is:

    1) Unfortunately we are human. Most people will be nuanced in their teaching. If a teacher is of the opinion that l’poel one should have a beard, he will lean towards those poskim, thus affending the parents who don’t hold of that.
    If the teacher does not have a beard, you can’t exactly trust him to give an objective shiur about the importance of beards.

    2) Children will be confused. They must be guided by one general derech. It is obviously okay for them to see some diversity, but you can’t confuse them with completely different hashkofos and have their parents decide what is right.

    Imagine a teacher is giving a class about tziyonus: “Children, Reb Menachem Kasher teaches that every Jew is obligated to be עולה to Eretz Yisroel and support the government there. The Satmar Rebbe holds that the state is מעשה שטן. Now, go ask your parents which opinion you should hold.”

    This resembles more a public school education where everything is pure facts, and anything that is related to values and morals is banned from the classroom. We believe that schools should first and foremost educate our children with the proper hashkafos of how to be an ehrliche Yid, and for that you need a school that follows your outlook.

    ” I think a school should have separate classes…”
    How is this any different from separate schools? If anything this only causes more machlokes and less achdus between children!
    (“Oh, your parents sent you to that class? They must be treife college fans”)

    in reply to: A Generational Change in Jewish Naming Conventions #2104880
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    @Kuvult – “there’s even a Rebbe in Tosfos named “Peter””

    But let’s remember that Peter “the apostle” (l’havdil?) whose Hebrew name was שמעון כיפה was nicknamed in seforim “שמעון פטר חמור” (PETER chamor).

    [By the way, Peter is Greek for כיפה (rock, or dome). Peter locked himself in a church on a dome for many years.
    Some say that he was a tzaddik who was מוסר נפש to distance Christianity from Judaism. According to some sefroim he actually composed many of the tefillos of Yom Kippur, including נשמת כל חי. Other seforim say that this is blasphemy.]

    in reply to: Uman this year #2104861
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    @yungermanS:
    “When the Bais Hamikdosh…”
    You said in your earlier post that the best way to connect to Hashem is directly from your home. I demonstrated that the best way to connect to Hashem is the way it was prescribed by Torah. 2000 years ago this was through korbanos in the Beis Hamikdosh. Now it is (mainly) through going to shul and davening with a minyan. And also traveling to one’s Rebbe on the רגל (see sources above).

    “May we all do teshuva… Mashiach…”

    Amen, this is certainly the most important tefilla.

    Unfortunately, sometimes people daven for a different type of golus, “If only we could go back to Uman,” “If only we could be like pre-covid,” “If only Trump would be president,” etc.

    Let’s remember that the עיקר is to daven for the ultimate ישועה with Moshiach Tzidkeinu (which is why we have at least seven brochos (!) in שמונה עשרה dedicated to the geula).

    in reply to: שנאת חינם #2104857
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    @Always_Ask_Quesions – “I find schools or teachers who “simply” teach Torah and derech eretz the best”

    Exactly! You find that education the best, therefore YOU should send your kids to such a school.

    How do you define “derech eretz”? If it means that when they grow up the children should go to college, get a degree, and that will make them a fine yungerman – many people will not want to send their kids to your school, because college etc. goes against their entire hashkafa.

    You might not want to send your kids to a school that teaches that Jews must grow beards (although this is an obligation according to many, many poskim from all sides of the chasidish/litvish spectrum), or a school that focuses on staying separate from the אומות.

    Obviously, you can’t find a school that has every single hashkafa exactly the same as yours, which is why you must take an active role in educating your children, but you want a school that fits your derech for the most part.

    in reply to: A Generational Change in Jewish Naming Conventions #2104698
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    @Gadolhadofi: How can you speak that way about Yiddish? Yiddish is the language used by holy Yidden and tzaddikim for a thousand years!
    This is the language that they used for divrei Torah, shiurim, chizzuk, etc.
    Most of the Rishonim and Acharonim that we learn learned the gemara with זאגט די גמרא, פרעגט די גמרא etc.
    The very name of this language shows on its Jewishness.
    In general, we see that from the 70 languages, there are certain languages which were uplifted by the fact that they were used for Torah and considered holy (e.g. Aramaic, Greek, etc.)

    in reply to: A Generational Change in Jewish Naming Conventions #2104679
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    @Kuvult: ujm did not say that children with Jewish names fare better in life than those with non-Jewish names.

    He just pointed out that it is a positive change.

    Yidden are less focused on integrating with the goyim, and more proud of our traditions. This is a beautiful thing. (Especially in light of the aforementioned Vayikra Rabba)


    @Gadolhatorah
    : It has been part of Jewish tradition for centuries to give Yiddishe nicknames, as apposed to goyishe names.

    in reply to: Have the Evangelicals Gone too Far? #2104668
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    Let us remember that the Evangelicals are much worse for the Jewish people than we think.

    Although they advocate for the PHYSICAL safety of the Jews, what about spiritual safety?

    Evangelical Christians believe in and support evangelizing to Jews and converting them to Christianity. Jews for Jesus, which is funded by the evangelicals, has an annual budget of 15 million dollars!

    Remember, millions of Jews have accepted death instead of accepting Christianity. If conversion is worse than death, then people who aim to convert are worse than Nazis. It doesn’t make a difference if they support Israel or not.

    in reply to: שנאת חינם #2104658
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    @Kuvult: At the same time, we must learn to separate the Jew from his ideology. Just because we love and accept the Jew himself, that does not mean that we agree with him whatsoever.

    There are times when children must go to separate schools because of different chinuch standards. This does not mean that the Chasidish Jew looks at the MO Jew as any less Jewish, yet he doesn’t want the MO education and values to be imparted to his son.

    Moshiach will come no matter what, but we will definitely bring him faster through:
    1) holding on to our own derech without bending one iota, and 2) overlooking the differences between Jews, and loving every Jew as a true brother (the fact that you don’t agree with your brother doesn’t mean you love him any less).

    in reply to: A Generational Change in Jewish Naming Conventions #2104651
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    This is indeed a very important improvement, after all, one of the four reasons why the Yidden were redeemed from מצרים was because “לא שינו שמם (ויק”ר)”.

    Let’s hope that we are redeemed from this golus as well in this zechus!

    in reply to: Uman this year #2104552
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    @yungerman:
    Which tefillos do YOU think are more powerful:
    Personal words from the heart, or prearranged words made in a centuries-old nusach?
    Words said from the peace and calm of your home, or in public in shul?
    Davening alone at your own pace, or davening with a minyan?
    Davening at any moment that you feel inspired, or at 3 set times every day?

    We believe that the Torah give us the path to connecting to Hashem. We don’t just follow what “feels more powerful.”

    Why were we עולה לרגל three times a year if one is supposed to daven directly to Hashem from the corner of his home? Why do we go to shul? etc.

    The Gemara says חייב אדם להקביל רבו ברגל – now that there is no Beis Hamikdash, one is obligated to visit his teacher. The mifarshim point out that this is not for the sake of Torah study because women are obligated to go as well. It is because the way to be closest to Hashem nowadays is to be near a tzaddik that one is connected to. This is not chassidus, it is pure halacha. (See Sukkah 27b and Pnei Yehoshua)

    [I am obviously not advocating for going this year. I am discussing in general.]

    in reply to: שנאת חינם #2104447
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    כבר הבטיחה תורה שסוף ישראל לעשות תשובה בסוף גלותן, ומיד הן נגאלין (רמב”ם הל’ תשובה פ”ז ה”ה)

    On the contrary, specifically in these last days of golus, the ס”מ tries its hardest to infiltrate our hearts and arouse שנאת חנם. Now we have the greatest נסיון, and we must each try to overcome it in our own life.
    Regarding everyone else who we can’t control, let’s just daven that Hashem remove the שנאה from their hearts. Eliyahu Hanovi’s job is לעשות שלום בעולם (see רבמ”ם הלכות מלכים פי”ב ה”ב).

    in reply to: שנאת חינם #2104378
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    Unfortunately, we are learning from the goyim to look at everything externally. We decide if we should love other Yidden based on their opinions, who they vote for, how up to par they are in avodas Hashem, etc.
    If we start looking at everything from a Torah point of view, we will only see other Yidden as pure neshamos whom we must love as true brothers.
    At the same time, Hashem doesn’t need us to defend Him for not sending Moshiach. If we try to do everything we can to add in ahavas yisroel, we can demand from Hashem that enough is enough. (מדרש תהלים פי”ז. חפץ חיים על הסידור סי’ קסח. ועוד )

    in reply to: Gun Control #2104196
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    @Rava: If someone is pumping lethal gases into the air in your city and people are dying left and right, I assume you agree that it is the responsibility of the tzibur to shut it down.

    Will you say, “If you’re scared of lethal gas, go buy yourself a gas mask and wear it constantly”?
    I don’t think so.

    Now, I’m not sure if guns are the same. Is owning a gun a definite prevention of gun violence? That is up for debate. I don’t know the answer.
    But you can’t make a blanket statement that any time a person could theoretically help himself (especially if much effort, money, skill and inconvenience are involved), the tzibur is not obligated to get rid of the danger.

    in reply to: Gun Control #2104031
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    @mentsch1:
    Even without a sanhedrin, Jews always believed that the community has a responsibility to care for each other.
    You are obviously correct that there must be a balance. Therefore I stressed that Judaism doesn’t believe in PURE republicanism.
    There are aspects of republicanism which we accept and aspects of democracy which we accept. Possibly even some aspects of socialism and communism. That doesn’t mean that any of them are the right way (especially the last two, obviously), but no single package perfectly adapts Torah’s view.
    For that we’ll have to wait till Moshiach comes.

    in reply to: Gun Control #2103905
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    Unlike pure republicanism, Judaism believes that the establishment must care for the individual. Including mandatory tzedaka donations (maaser, gabbai tzedaka, etc.) and safety measures (even banning certain animals).

    Frum Yidden should definitely support the giving up of private rights for the greater good. (This is NOT to say that gun control is necessarily the greater good. That is up for debate.)

    [Think about this example: The town elders were responsible that every visitor would be given food and escort, and if they neglected this responsibility and the visitor died – it was as if THEY KILLED HIM (רש”י דברים כא, ז). That doesn’t sound very republican to me…]

    in reply to: Gun Control #2103867
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    It seems that whether gun control is right or wrong, neither way is the perfect answer. I don’t think that these shootings will stop whether we outlaw guns or give everyone guns.

    There is an underlying issue with the education and value system of this country which neither political party wants to address. Instead, when we demand of our politicians to do something about the violence, they say, “Oh, we’re trying to ban guns” or “Oh, we’re trying to get rid of gun control”.

    Through turning this into a shallow partisan issue, they try to distract us from the heart of the problem which they are to lazy to deal with.

    Menachem Shmei
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    Are multiple Yetzer Tovs able to team up together through the cr?

    in reply to: gedolim pictures #2102978
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    Interestingly, the Lubavitcher Rebbe was initially opposed to people taking pictures of him. There are several pics of the Rebbe blocking his face from cameras in the 1940s.

    At the same time, he spoke strongly of the importance of “tziyur pnei horav” – looking and thinking of a tzaddik’s image as an important method to yiras shamayim.

    In later years, he allowed pictures, but even then he only allowed the official photographers, and many times he stopped others from taking pictures, especially bochurim. A relative of mine was once taking a picture of the Rebbe, and he accidently forgot to turn of the flash. The Rebbe confiscated his camera, and later returned it on condition that he would focus on his learning instead of photography.

    Rashi says that Yosef overcame his desire to sin when he envisioned the image of his father in his mind (דמות דיוקנו של אביו).
    As well as the Gemara that Reb Little Frogie mentioned about looking at a the teacher while learning Torah.
    There is also the Gemara in Bava Metziya (84a) how R’ Yochanan would have the women gaze at him when exiting the mikveh so that their children would be beautiful and talmidei chachamim.

    There is also the Yerushalmi which Rabbi Hoffman wrote was often quoted by Rav Shneur Kotler that when saying over a teaching of a Rebbe, one should envision him standing before him.
    (147 wrote a beautiful suggestion in the comments)

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