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What is the Hava amina of the question?
Are you asking that one needs to be a professional or businessman with a good income to afford a frum life (maybe except for the rebbe)?
“Do rebbeim and mechanchim have to get a college degree?”
What is your point here? Is a degree for parnassa, or is it for general knowledge or to relate to students (like a degree in education or child psych) or …?
“Please list some Yeshivish job options (little to no college, short hours, tznius environment) “
Back to my first question. What is the tachlis? Parnasa or to enhance teaching? In either case it depends on the need of the situation. That you will have to evaluate with your Rebbe and family.
Zoo,
Billiards (choose a classy place),
Museum,
Board game
You want something that allows for lots of conversation, but yet will give you something to do/look at. That will give you something else to talk about and break some tension.
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Jospeh said Parasha above. Maybe that or another vort. See how the other person is holding in learning and hashkafa.
“That even a single Jew could even consider a vote for the candidate of Louis Farrakhan and David Duke shows that we do not learn the lessons of history. “
Dr. Hall,
I believe that you know that Trump has a Jewish daughter and Jewish grandchildren. Why antisemites will vote for him is beyond me.
BTW a grand wizard of the KKK in California just recently endorsed Hillary.
To explain a few points that I mentioned above. One is more spititual on Shabbat (neshama yeteira) and in E”Y. Therefore closer to coming true. But it seems that neither of which is relevant here.
There is a chart, I think from Rav Hai Gaon, which lists the days of the month and their significance. For the 27-29 of the month, it says “It will turn to peace and rejoicing.”
About teeth falling out. The idea mentioned is similar to the Bar Hedya story I cited. You mentioned that you do not have children, but according to Rav Hai Gaon a sister is included in that.
I am at a loss. The timing is good, but the dream says “good”. Always say a dream is good, because they may come true based on the interpretation. My advice is to give tzedaka and daven. Last year I had a couple “good” dreams that pointed out something “good” was going to happen soon, and even the dates pointed out something “good” was soon going to happen. The second dream fell out on Shabbat. I fasted and davened. After Shabbat, I gave a sizable donation and davened some more. A week or two later, I got a good dream which seemed to say that something “good” had passed over.
“I know the gemara talks about it, does anyone know where and what it symbolizes?”
Berachoth 56a – talking about an evil dream interpreter, Bar Hedya:
Subsequently Raba went to him by himself and said to him: I dreamt that the outer door fell. He said to him: Your wife will die. He said to him: I dreamt that my front and back teeth fell out. He said to him: Your sons and your daughters will die. He said: I saw two pigeons flying. He replied: You will divorce two wives. He said to him: I saw two turnip-tops. He replied: You will receive two blows with a cudgel. On that day Raba went and sat all day in the Beth ha-Midrash. He found two blind men quarreling with one another. Raba went to separate them and they gave him two blows. They wanted to give him another blow but he said, Enough! I saw in my dream only two.
Finally Raba went and gave him a fee….[and from then Bar Hedya gave good interpretations]
The first thing to ask is were you thinking about dental work any time recently? If yes, then the dream came from you own imagination.
If no, we have to see if came from a mazik or from a malach.
When did you have that dream? Which Hebrew day and date? What time of night? Are you in E”Y? Did you say kriat Sh’ma (to protect from mazikim) – at least the first two lines or at least saying “biyadecha afkid…”? Did you wake before the dream (that ends your protection unless you say it again)?
How real did it feel in the dream?
I have a book about dream interpretation by Rav Sh’lomo Almoli at home. Tell me more details and I can see what it says.
“But what excuse is there for ….”
Getting married is not like picking up a loaf of bread. It can take a while to make a shidduch.
That reminds me of what my brother told me about getting married:
Hey MDG, you can any girl you please.
The problem is that you don’t please any.
Harsh words, but I could not be upset with the truth.
I find it interesting that the Aryan is the one who has a child that is Jewish.
I find it funny that white racists have backed Trump, while he has a Jewish daughter and son-in-law. If you google “Roosevelt and Jew” you will see that there are Jew-haters that are suspicious of FDR because his great-great-…..grandfather might have been Jewish. And yet, Trump’s direct relative is Jewish and no problem, as long as Trump is racist enough.
“Coffee Addict, do you have another candidate for the king in question? What other leader has set out to destroy the entire Jewish people? “
First of all, like I said before, maybe that king has not arrived yet. Besides which, the Persians could make good candidates now for that evil position.
Avi K,
You are seeing what you want to see. Personally, I don’t mind the prayer for the Medinah, EXCEPT those words ????? ????? ???????
If you want to daven for Hashem to help the Jews of the Medinah then good, but no one knows Hashem’s plan for the Geulah. Maybe the beginning of the Geulah started when the Talmidai haGRA went to E”Y. Maybe at the beginning of Yeshivat Porat Yosef. Maybe it did not happen yet. None of us knows.
Basketball.
There are two reasons for sports. One is for exercise and the other is to become a better team player. I guess with any of the sports you can become a good team player, but basketball has the most exercise. Hockey also seems good for exercise, but it seems to me that there is more chance of getting hurt with a hockey stick.
“The Torah says murderers should be executed…. “
If you want to require Torah criteria, then even the San Bernadino terrorists would not get capital punishment. I’m sure there were no kosher aidim, especially no warning and acceptance.
There are no judges with real Smicha, and there is no Sanhedrin of 71 sitting in the Lishkat Hagazit (which is required for a court of 23 to carry out capital punishment).
I was just learning Mishnayot Ketubot.
It seems that much of the discussion of little towns vs big cities are encapsulated in the Mishnah of 13:10.
“If the violence is in progress. If it is after the fact and a shaila can be asked then we follow the psak (which may be to report it.)”
AFAIK, an abuser will abuse again. Therefore, although he may not in pursuit now, he will be soon.
“You shouldn’t say “good morning” because the phrase does not have Jewish origins. “
Maybe you are trying to funny by replying to Z-dad.
Joseph said, ” Absolutely, correct. If my Rav said not to, I would not. I would do what my Rav said to do. “
At what point do you draw a line?
Is there any time that you call the cops?
“1. I do not permit my children to bring their toys into a store if the store may carry similar merchandise.
2. If I don’t get a carry-out bag from the store, I hold the receipt in my hand when I walk out.
3. I try to be as careful as possible regarding complementary items; e.g., taking only the amount of ketchup packets I need for the food I just bought, offering to pay a quarter if I ask for an empty disposable cup, etc.
How about you? “
The above are about the appearance of honesty, which is also important.
“I don’t go out with a tent on Shabbat.”
“I’m glad you’ve found a new chumrah that doesn’t involve putting people down. “
Not a new churmra. A hat with a wide brim (at least one tefach – about 3 inches) may be considered like boheh ohel every 4 amot. Look at Shabbat 138 b. The Mechaber mentions this l’halacha (i think siman 301) and the Rema does not argue.
The MB and others find heterim for those that do wear hats with brim a tefech wide.
Dov,
A couple points:
1) please refer to which daf you are referring. I know we recently learned that daf, but it would be helpful to cite it exactly.
2) There is a YWN CR catagory for Daf Yomi if you would like to use it.
Dr. Hall,
What are the French leftists views now on Jews and Israel? I don’t know, but I would presume they are anti-Israel, like most leftists today.
Goq,
I’m glad to hear that you maintained the high road and showed class.
Putin has endorsed Trump. Why? Because Putin knows that Trump has no principles – just ego, so he can rule him.
Bored_on_the_Job said, “I wonder if HaRav Neiman had the personal experience of working in a mixed gender environment, especially with goyim.”
Joseph replied, “Do you wonder if HaRav Elyashiv had personal experience in gittin or geneiva….”
I don’t see that as a good comparison. As an employee, you are expected to be a team player. You may easily risk your job by ignoring others. Did HaRav Elyashiv risk his position by following such “Halacha”? On the contrary, it helped him.
Similarly, I once received advice from a Rav who had no idea what a work day was like. He thought it was 9-5 and paid “the big bucks” as he called it. It was more like 9-7 and paid decently (like 60,000-65,000 – 15 years ago) but not “big bucks”.
While I agree that gedarim are needed, some of the ones mentioned are unrealisitc.
“Donald Trump is not a jerk. He’s someone who tells it like it is.”
He’s a master salesman who is saying what some people want to hear. He knows how to get attention. For example, by saying we’re going to kick out all illegal aliens. He also knows how to backtrack subtly, like saying we can let the good ones come back in. I predict he will eventually backtrack more and say, “why kick out the good ones and then let them back in, just keep them here.”
His whole life he’s been a limousine liberal and fast talking salesman. Nothing has changed.
I’m normal. My doctor has said that I am ABsolutely normal. Actually he just abbreviated with ABnormal.
“Another hillbilly giving their two cents…”
Your caricature of a New Yorker made me laugh so hard that I almost fell off my milking stool (how else can you get chalav yisrael milk out here).
But you New Yorkers should be careful out here. My friend from New York came out and wanted to try milking. He thought it couldn’t be too hard. Seriously, if a hillbilly could do it, he could easily do it. I stood back and just let him try. After 10 minutes or so, he wasn’t getting any milk, so he asked what was wrong. I told him that we don’t milk bulls.
“Let’s face it, every hick town’s got elected officials….”
Joseph,
You Crack me up 🙂 I had to stop reading after that line because I was laughing so hard.
Unfortunately, I don’t think everyone else here understands your humor.
Joseph,
You’re Welcome.
I really appreciate that the Mods let you post with your “real” name. Your posts have gotten so much better.
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Mods, Thank you.
Joseph,
As someone who is originally from OOT, lived in NYC metro, and moved OOT, I really liked your opening post. It gave me a smile. I know that you are using some humor in your generalizations and caricatures, but there is much truth in it.
While you call the OOT’s hillbillies (and I think many in-towners agree – even if they won’t say it), you imply that in-towners are pretentious and always wanting more (“Yesh li rav” mentality), which is how many OOT’s view in-towners. OOT’s see that NYC metro has needed Jewish things, but the spirit is often lacking.
You captured the views of both sides.
OH no! My cover is blown 😉
Someone told me that the most affordable Jewish community is Milwaukee because the price of housing in cheap and they have school vouchers.
Visiting my grandparents overseas and getting sick on the plane. I still remember the smell of roasted corn on the cob that the street vendors were selling. I was 2.75 years old. That was decades ago.
Ray2220,
Do have family in the East? If so, staying relatively near by may be helpful. Places like Cleveland and Detroit have reasonable housing, but the cities themselves are rather poor. Pittburgh is a little more expensive, but a lot less than NYC metro. Baltimore also, but Baltimore seems larger than what you’re looking for.
I think you need to look at your needs and wants and prioritize them. No place is going to have everything you want (unless you’re really lucky).
Joseph asked, “Do you walk around without a yarmulka during those times?”
Either with a cap or without.
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“to “MDG”
According to the media the US is becoming more and more like France. I have just seen a video where a professor said that you need guards to protect you when you want to speak about Israel….”
College campuses have become increasingly anti-Israel, but most of the US is OK. Crown Heights, as far as I know, has always had a problem. Look up the Yankel Rosenbaum incident from 25 years ago.
“Leave France. “
I think most of us living in the US wonder why Jews would continue to live in France. 10% of you population is Muslim, which itself is not a problem. But it seems that a high percentage of them are radical and violent. Remember what happened a few years ago and last year over a few cartoons.
The need to hide one’s Jewishness means that there is not a safe feeling. There are times, here in the US, that I go without showing my Jewishness, but it’s few and far between.
“MDG: You speak in riddles. “
It’s a political entity. As such it is concerned with its own perpetuation and growth. I’m not going to deny that the Medina does a lot of good.
But in my opinion, a truly Jewish state would do everything according to Torah and Daat Torah, whether that’s Rav Shteinman or Rav Dov Lior.
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” The medinah does not need your “hechsher’ stamp.”
I’m not trying to say good or bad. I’m just trying to define what I see. Actually, since the beginning, it’s been a dispute.
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” Zionism is not dead at all.It survives in Maale Adumim, Kiryat Arba, Kiryat sefer, etc…..which is to settle Eretz”
I meant the secular Zionism of Hertzel (and those who followed him), who envisioned Vienna in Jerusalem. That is dead. He also suggested Uganda.
“Emails can be very short and sweet…”
If you call that ‘maintaining connection’, then fine.
” Why can’t we focus on the topic?”
Yes, political grandstanding is wrong when done by anyone.
Like I said above, Zionism, as an ideology, is basically dead. But don’t tell that to the anti-zionists. They need something to rally about.
“what do you guys say about the fact that the same Israel that purports itself to be the Jewish state…”
I’d rather call it a state full of Jews. The state uses the other appellation when politically expedient (including political grandstanding).
Find out which Hesder Yeshiva. Some are more Hesder oriented and some are more Yeshiva oriented.
Find out what he has done since then in terms of outlook.
Let’s assume only 10,000 head of households and only 10 minutes per person per year. That would still require 4.5 hours a day – every single day – for maintaining a connection.
Possible, but IMHO unlikely.
“You have to realize that the Kalver Rebbe met with close to 75,000 Jews in France over the years. The Rebbe has maintained a connection with all of them!”
If he spent one a hour a person, it would take 8.5 years to speak with every one, and that’s without any break whatsoever.
75,000 / 8760 hours a year = 8.5 years
“The government is krum, not zionistic.”
There are very few old time Zionists around, maybe Shimon Peres. The rest are just modern secularists, without any real ideology.
“The parents are older, wiser, more experienced and knows their child. “
Many boys are out of the house for many years, including high school, yeshiva, etc. Parents may not know the boy all that well. They are living with the image they had.
I had an “older and wiser” relative (not parent) set me up once because they wanted to be connected to the chashuv family. Like I said, they can be just as subjective. BTW, the girl was quite rude.
I have friend that admitted that he was attracted to a certain girl for his son based on the way she looks. He admits that he went after his eyes. B”H it didn’t work out. He asked a Rav for a good shidduch suggestion, and he son is happily married to that suggested girl. My friend said that this girl is not the kind of DIL that he wanted. To which I replied, that she’s the good shidduch FOR HIS SON. To which he admitted that’s what more important.
“Pretty does not necessarily mean any healthier than a less pretty person.”
There are some natural pretty traits that translate to healthy, like facial symmetry (left side and right side), youth, healthy looking skin & hair.
There are others that are more cultural, like skinny or hair color, which may have nothing to do with healthy.
“The parents often have a better idea what the child needs than the child. And the child often understands and accepts that and wants the parents to be directly involved. “
I assume that’s true often, but not always. Parents can also be subjective, looking at a shidduch for all the same reasons as a child, good or bad.
“How is that unreasonable? “
“The problem is that the mother doesn’t necessarily know what her son wants. “
She might not know what he needs either. She might not even know what she wants. Kind of like a kid in a candy shop. “this looks good… wait… maybe this… maybe this….”
“If you don’t have a beard you’re a goy”
Unfortunately, some are more concerned about outside appearances rather than talking with kedusha.
I heard a great vort from Rabbi Frand.
When the poweball reaches several hundred million dollars, people start thinking, “What if I won? What good could i do? Would I be in charge of the Tsedakah fund or would I hire someone? ….”
What are the chances of winning powerball, about 1 in 170 million. What are the chances of getting in a machloket with someone? Far far higher. It’s almost inevitable that we will disagree with someone sometime.
We should think about how to better handle a machloket, as it’s far more realistic and pertinent.
“MDG, as above, you have no idea that his life was lacking structure. Why are you making that assumption? “
It seems to me from what write or wrong has written before that her son comes and goes as he pleases, any time of day or night. He wasn’t holding down a job. He was hanging out with his friends all the time. To me, that is not a life of structure.
Last week, my wife was feeling cold. She’s almost my size, so I offered her a colorful sweatshirt/sweater of mine. She looked at it and said, “No thanks, that’s so 80’s.”
“My son is now 20, and is in the army.”
I hope that gives him some structure in his life. It sounds like before he had none. Maybe also some self-esteem.