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  • in reply to: ANOTHER shocking LETTER published IN the VOICE of LAKEWOOD #1325315
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    “we had a old European reebbe who walked around with a wood hanger and used it on anyone…. Verbal abuse was a daily occurrence with many of the rebbaim .”

    Now I understand why most Jews in Europe 100 years ago were OTD. From an early age, being frum had no joy, just pain and suffering. It seems that punishment was very cruel, and it at the will of a capricious bad hearted person. And that was from someone supposedly on your side.

    in reply to: ANOTHER shocking LETTER published IN the VOICE of LAKEWOOD #1325303
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    “Tanach states and Shulchan Aruch paskens that corporal discipline must be used on children.”

    I think that the Gedolim today say differently.

    in reply to: Parent of OTD child #1320683
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    “He said 25% of kids have this personality type, and statistically, 1 in those 25 become OTD due to additional stress factors.”

    Doing the math, that means that 1% of kids are OTD. I am under the impression that the percentage is higher.

    in reply to: The Chillul HaShem in Lakewood #1309778
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    The gift tax is 14,000 per person, giver and receiver.

    For example, let’s assume 2 parents and 3 kids, a family of 5. The grandfather can give the family 70,000 each year, 14,000 times 5 The grandmother can also give 70,000. Therefore the can give 140,000 yearly without paying taxes.

    in reply to: Synthetic engine oil is better #1307219
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    I drive an older car. At my last oil change, they told me not to use synthetic oil as it’s bad for my car.

    in reply to: Eating in the store before checking out #1306400
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    ” I think it is safe to assume most store owners are as MGD put it really nice guy or just a good salesman,”

    Maybe some heimish stores. Large corporations not. If you can ask, then good.
    If I’m wrong with my assumptions, nothing happens, If you are wrong with yours, you committed gezel.

    “I dont see why I have to follow your gezeirahs.”
    I’m giving advice. Follow it or ignore it at your own risk.

    in reply to: Eating in the store before checking out #1306038
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    “I provided the definition of shoplifting in my first post. There is no question that it isnt shoplifting.”

    You provided one definition. Maybe that is the correct definition. Even so, it’s still bad, as TheGoq said above, it can easily lead to stealing. ” if i i did not ask many times these items would go unpaid for not that was the persons intent but they forget ”

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    “I like BD spoke to a local owner who said he loves it…”
    He sounds like a really nice guy or just a good salesman, but most stores don’t allow. He is the exception, not the rule.

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    “The supermarket I go to even has plastic spoons they give out so you can eat your yogurt/pudding/ice cream cup. So I guess some store-owners don’t mind …”

    What you “guess” may be gezel.
    Many of the supermarkets I go to also have plastic spoon, but they are eating after checkout.

    in reply to: Eating in the store before checking out #1305942
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    “Isn’t the Halacha that you’re kona an item as soon as you pick it up, even before you pay for it?”

    Not if the present owner does not consent. Furthermore, in a store the kinyan is made through money. That’s the gemiras daas. You have never seen a kinyan otherwise.
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    “It’s in the owner’s best interest to let people snack on their purchases while they shop…”

    While the store owner would not want a screaming kid, s/he also does not want shoplifting. The item does not belong to the customer until payment. A hungry kid is the parent’s responsibility, not the store’s.

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    I find this moreh heter bothersome. If there was a safek of a treif ingredient, you would not touch it, but consuming stolen goods is just as bad – if not worse. I recently heard in the name of Rav Yaakov Kaminetzky [sp?] that one reason that kids go OTD is that they ate food acquired through dishonest means, basically gezel.

    in reply to: Shidduch for ex-Modox bochur #1298593
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    “i feel public school is better than co ed, cuz in co ed jewish school youre like ‘its ok, its jewish, nothing wrong can happen’ but in public school you KNOW you are different”

    It won’t take too long until a Jewish kid wants to fit in. There are a few exceptions, but most of those kids will be lost.

    in reply to: What did the mraglim do wrong? (non political) #1297947
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    At first they answered Moshe’s questions about the land. Then they said it’s all for nothing; they passed judgement.

    in reply to: What about the famous Rambam? #1296094
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    “Rambam [held] that kollel is assur”

    Not exactly true.
    Look at the end of Hilchot Shemita where he says that anyone can be like Shevet Leivi.

    in reply to: Shidduch for ex-Modox bochur #1296086
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    “Does that forfeit my ability to find a shiduch?”

    Stop worrying about what others say. Hashem is in charge of making zivugim.

    in reply to: Reliable Hashgacha? #1289907
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    “Triangle K/Ralbag is completely unreliable. ”

    My town’s Rosh Kollel explained that we believe the lenient rabbis when they tell us about their subpar standards (that we don’t accept).

    in reply to: Anti Zionist demonstration planned in Barclays Center #1286133
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    What will the demonstration accomplish?
    Is there a price to enter?

    in reply to: Why the husband is in the driver’s seat 🤵🚗 #1285226
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    CTL,
    Mazal Tov on your daughter’s upcoming marriage.
    May they build בית נאמן בישראל.

    in reply to: how to deal with a guest who brings up Yom Haatzmaut 🇮🇱 #1282136
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    My rebbe in high school quoted his rebbe, Rav Aaron Soloveichik [sp?], who pointed out that Yom Haatzmaut does not conform with the normal way we make holidays. In all other holidays, we do not celebrate the war or the ability to fight, but we celebrate the next day when we could resume a Torah life in peace. Yom Haatzmaut was the changing of the flags, but not the end of the war. It just started a war with several Arab states. Nothing to celebrate.

    You could also say that Yom Haatzmaut marks the end of the Shalosh Shivuot. If they accept that, then they are accepting that the Sh”Sh are/were Lemaaseh before Yom Haatzmaut.

    in reply to: how to deal with a guest who brings up Yom Haatzmaut 🇮🇱 #1282135
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    My rebbe in high school quoted his rebbe, Rav Aaron Soloveichik [sp?], who pointed out that Yom Haatzmaut does not conform with the normal way we make holidays. In all other holidays, we do not celebrate the war or the ability to fight, but we celebrate the next day when we could resume a Torah life in peace. Yom Haatzmaut was the changing of the flags, but not the end of the war. It just started a war with several Arab states. Nothing to celebrate.

    You could also say that Yom Haatzmaut marks the end of the Shalosh Shivuot. If they accept that, then they are accepting that the Sh”Sh are/were Lemaaseh before Yom Haatzmaut.

    in reply to: Ponevezh Bans Technology 🚫📱🚫🖥️🚫🥔 #1275825
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    The GRA used to learn with a candle – even during the day – with the windows closed. That way he always has the same learning environment, which helps in reducing distractions.

    in reply to: Comparing Sephardic and Ashkenazic Chumras and Kulot #1266240
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    Yashan. Half the year your food might be not kosher. The Mechaber does not hold of the sfek sfaika of the Rosh and the Tur, while the Rema does.

    in reply to: Comparing Sephardic and Ashkenazic Chumras and Kulot #1266236
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    Eruvin. Real Sephardim don’t use most eruvs, based on the Rif and Rambam (and many others) and paskened by the Shulchan Aruch. The issue is what is a Reshut harabim d’oryta.

    in reply to: Comparing Sephardic and Ashkenazic Chumras and Kulot #1266229
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    I had a Sephardic guest last year who said that they don’t “say” slichos, they sing silichot.

    in reply to: Should Jews Flee France? #1264284
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    “Le Pen recently called for banning the wearing of the kippah in public….”

    So one can wear a hat. Besides, many of the religious Jews in France are Sephardic, who follow the Beit Yosef who says that a head covering is a Middat Chassidut (siman 8 IIRC).
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    I see Le Pen as good for the Jews. Reducing assimilation and reducing physical threats from those who are most threatening.

    in reply to: Tznius gone too far #1264304
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    The first time I saw a Burqa women was 4 years ago in Mea Shearim. It was very surprising to me. I just stared (and I think my wife did also), not even realizing I was staring. How ironic that she was trying to be tzniut but was stared at.

    in reply to: Your “friend” in Bava Bathra #1264252
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    Thank you, Mod-29

    in reply to: Your “friend” in Bava Bathra #1263337
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    A couple ideas I had is that there is maybe a difference between a Ben Brit and an Akum, although I think that’s a bad answer.

    Alternatively, I was thinking from a more mussardik standpoint. When you do business, treat the other person as your friend. Treat him fairly, at least.

    in reply to: What's a Bungalow Colony? #1219107
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    “Toyota Previa, Ford Galaxy, VW Touran.”

    Never heard of these, so I googled. These are models that are not sold in the USA, probably because we like larger vehicles. Our roads are wider and our fuel is less expensive – like a third to half of the price.

    in reply to: Let's make YCT teshuvas, by popa #1218391
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    “Can YCT people drink their own wine? “

    I found that funny because it’s true. IMO the answer would be no.

    It reminded me of a Gemara towards the end of Ketubot (IIRC) where it talks about a deaf person giving a get. The Gemara asks how can a deaf person, lav bar daat, give a get? It answers that the way he got married, he can get divorced – whatever level of daat. Therefore, if a YCT person is a true maamin, then he/she/it can drink his/her/its own wine. And if that person is an apikoros, then they don’t care anyway. Still assur, but a moot point.

    in reply to: Home-baked Cookies in MM #1227794
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    Most of the home made and much of the store bought MM that we receive go to my wife’s workplace open kitchen. Left out = hefker. Let them enjoy it.

    in reply to: ???? ??? ??? ?? ?????? #1210827
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    “What happened to the – ??? ?? ??? ?? Joseph?!?”

    He forgot Joseph Biden.

    in reply to: What you prefer to receive as mishloach manos #1211387
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    I prefer to receive nothing. I eat Chalav yisrael and Yashan. That’s a near impossibility to expect in my little OOT community. Furthermore, I’m not interested in eating too much junk food.

    in reply to: Haftorah at modern orthodox shul (No LH) #1210807
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    lightbrite said:

    “Anyway. I love love Chabad. It’s so spiritual. So deep.”

    The traditional Ashkenazic way was intellectual connection to Hashem, whereas the traditional Sephardic way was emotional/spiritual connecting. The Chassidic world focused on the emotional/spiritual.

    in reply to: Haftorah at modern orthodox shul (No LH) #1210796
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    The Hertz chumash was written to counter biblical criticism (kefira), expecially that of his day. Hertz wanted to show the wisdom and relevance of the Torah using all kinds of sources. The audience is a person with an intellectual (secular) approach.

    in reply to: MENOrah 🐠📣 #1207017
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    Meno Re’ah (friend)

    in reply to: Eating Before Shacharis if it helps to daven #1204699
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    At this time of year, sunrise is so late that I can eat well before.

    in reply to: Life updates happygirlygirl #1199471
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    Mazal Tov

    in reply to: Jokes #1202946
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    lightbrite,

    It’s based on the proverbial half filled glass. Do you see it as half full or half empty?

    in reply to: Bad Samaritans #1197072
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    According to wikipedia, portraying a Samaritan as good was a shocking chidush. That story in the Christian bible was meant to be provocative, not normative.

    In other words, the parable of one good Samaritan is to the exclusion of all others who were not.

    Furthermore, it was a parable. Maybe that guy never really existed.

    in reply to: Closing online business for Shabbos #1198512
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    There are different views on the subject. Some say (see below) that you are doing business on Shabbat and therefore prohibited. Others say that you not making a sale, just taking orders – akin to receiving a mail order.

    In any event, you should talk to a posek.

    From Rabbi Mansour’s daily halacha site:

    “Rav Shemuel Pinchasi (contemporary) addresses this question in his new book (listen to audio for precise citation) and rules that it is forbidden to allow the site to run on shabbat. Even if the majority of those accessing the site are not Jewish, and even though the site owner will process the orders only after shabbat, he must have the site shut down during shabbat. Rav Pinchasi cites a number of leading Halachic authorities who hold this view, including Rav Yosef Shalom Elyashiv, Rav Chayim Kanievsky, and Rav Yonah Metzger.”

    in reply to: Shabbos issues #1196007
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    “You are allowed to keep Shabbos until Tuesday night. They say the Amshinover Rav did/does that.”

    I never understood tht until I heard the following: Souls in Gehinom get a reprieve for Shabbat. Their reprieve lasts until the last shul says havdalah.

    in reply to: Shidduchim and overweight girls #1196178
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    I believe that we seek that which is healthy/good for raising a family, like bearing kids (female) and supporting them (male). A few generations ago, healthy meant plump for a woman. Nowadays, it generally means athletic.

    in reply to: Talis Gadol and the Older Unmarried Fellow #1195156
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    I believe that the Minhag is based on a Gemara in Kiddushin (around daf 30) which mentions that it is yuhara for a non-married person to wear a beged over his head. The interpretation is that it’s talking about a Talit Gadol. That would not seem to have an age limit.

    Apparently, Sephardim either learn the Gemara differently – saying that the beged mentioned is not a Talit Gadol. Or that if everyone does it, then it no longer becomes a chashuv way of acting.

    From what I’ve seen, young yekkes wear a TG with a hat, so that they don’t wear the TG over their heads.

    in reply to: Photoshopping tznius #1194896
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    “This applies to regular BT frum women today too.

    What if your grandmother is a baal teshuvah and grew up secular…”

    I think that there is a difference between having a relative photoshopped and a frum publication. I think a person is more willing to forgive a relative’s touch-up. OTOH a book which is trying to portray inspiring frum ideas will look hypocritical.

    I think that they should either leave it out or inform the reader that the picture was touched up. No need to say what was touched-up.

    in reply to: Are foods we liked as kids have the same "geshmak" when we grow up? #1194849
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    I used to enjoy fruity pebbles; now they taste gross to me – too sweet and artificial.

    in reply to: The Death of the "Normal" Minyan #1196458
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    “Will the “normal” minyan become another victim of the immoderation and partisanship that is overtaking the Orthodox world, with those on the left moving ever further to the left and those on the right moving ever further to the right? “

    About 25 years ago a friend of mine, while visiting NYC, heard Rabbi Norman Lamm of YU say that he felt that one of biggest problems facing Jewry was the shteibelization of American Jewry. At the time, it sounded funny to us. We (in OOT) had no idea what he meant. But as time goes on, I can see his point.

    Growth is fortunate. But unfortunately, it’s all too easy to find a group of like-minded individuals and break away to one’s own bubble, ignoring the rest of the community.

    in reply to: Who's the Bigger Crybaby? #1194602
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    “This is another example of slaughtering the chicken that lays the golden egg. “

    Maybe not. This may be the best form of free advertising for a failing show. Now everybody heard of it.

    in reply to: The Real Number 1 Anti-Semite in the US #1193655
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    “Arabs and Muslims are also Goyim! “

    So are the Druze, except that Druzim are loyal citizens of their country, not subversive. Druzim are treated well in Israel, whereas Arabs are sometimes held in suspicion.

    in reply to: The Real Number 1 Anti-Semite in the US #1193654
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    BTW, speaking of David Duke, there are pictures of him from the 70’s, where he looks a lot different. He had a large curved nose, darker hair, and a weak jaw line. He must have had a good plastic surgeon.

    It seems to me that he is now sporting a short beard to cover up blemishes, either wrinkles (his skin looks terribly worn) or scars or problems that have come up with his plastic surgery.

    in reply to: Orthodox Jews Overwhelmingly Voted for Trump #1193594
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    “I saw a poll being reported that overall (i.e. across the country) Orthodox Jews voted 56% for Hillary.”

    I have troubles believing that number.

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    Joseph said, “Ultra-Orthodox constitutes 67% of American Orthodoxy, according to Pew Research.”

    Not quite 67%, but close.

    From Pew forum (dot) org:

    ” The Pew Research Center survey was designed to look at differences within the Jewish community, including between subgroups within Orthodox Judaism. About six-in-ten U.S. Orthodox Jews (62%) are Haredi (sometimes called Ultra-Orthodox) Jews,…. Roughly three-in-ten Orthodox Jews (31%) identify with the Modern Orthodox movement….”

    in reply to: Heartbroken over Hillary? #1193237
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    “You have the wrong friends.”

    That was really funny. 🙂

    And kind of true.

    in reply to: Converting to Judaism, how do I explain to family about Xmas? #1193140
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    A friend of mine who converted started by looking around and wondering (kinda like Avraham). She asked, what do German pine trees have to do with a baby being born in the middle east? What’s with the fat dude in the north pole?

    I don’t rachiv can challenge her family like that.

    rachiv,

    Can you come up with some convenient excuse? Sick, school project, work, etc.?

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