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prunes are more chewy
“The way to rectify it is by lowering our expectations — considerably.”
I think that having more Emunah will be the answer. Know and appreciate that everything that you get – including spouse, money, children – is from Hashem. I know it’s easier said than done.
Adam yesh lo Manah, rotseh Ma’atayim
We are used to it, we expect it, and we are looking/dreaming for more.
A 100 years ago marriage was needed for survival. People worked longer hours outside and inside the house. There was no time to worry about the little things we do today.
My impression is that poor finances are a great contributor to a lack of peace in the house. My impression is that 100 years ago they had less and expected less. Therefore if they were married and poor, that didn’t bother them as much as it bothers us today. They had (almost) no expectations to meet.
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first of all, don’t say Lashon Hara about millions, besides which how do you know which minhag is correct?
second of all I (loosely) quoted a source from the Gemara, which Rav Ovadia quotes (better than I can)
My point in quoting him was not for telling people halacha leMaase, but to quote a source and a posek to point out that we are talking about minhag hamakom. Different Kehillot developed different minhagim.
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The Tur in Orech Chaim (siman 91) poskens that since it is not customary to stand in front of dignitaries and heads of state while barefoot, one should not daven barefoot.
The Bais Yosef writes that from the language of the Tur we can deduce that in countries where it is customary to be barefoot even before dignitaries and heads of state, such as Arabic countries, it would be permitted to daven barefoot.
Many people had dirt floors until a few generations ago. You’d definitely would have wanted to wear shoes then.
Rav Ovadia Yosef says that if the minhag hamokom is to greet respectable people w/o shoes, then you can daven w/o shoes. Based on a Gemara towards the end of Berachot (between 61 and 63). Clearly socks-only is not prohibited from halacha.
I like Lia’s advice. You have to be honest with them.
Your trust is the most important thing you have with your children. Don’t break it. Without trust, they have no reason to listen to you (except for fear – but that’s only in front of you). Tov Shem m’Shemen Tov.
I agree with Dr Charlie Hall that Pittsburgh is a nice option.
Go Steelers !
As a parent, having a uniform makes my like easier. No questions about what to wear. No worries about competition. Although “some feel it is a suppression of individual expression”, I feel that they are worth it.
A dress code still allows for clothes to be an issue – worring about choice and competition. But a dress code can still enforce some level of tsniut for girls and boys.
hudi,
I see manners and Middot as two sides of the same coin. Middot are internal and manners are external. If you worked on your middot, you should have good manners. For example, if you taught yourself patience, you won’t cut a line.
One would expect that a Yeshivish person, who we assume learns mussar and other ethical teachiings, to have internalized the ethics and act with manners. Therefore, I think that they are being judged more carefully, and maybe rightly so.
Would anyone care to actually describe themselves? – At least vaguely?
The Ben Ish Hai mentions the idea of creating souls in Shamayim when a married couple act with kedushah together.
Any sin which is sometimes permitted will be abused.
Lying is one of them. One can change the truth for the sake of peace. Well, once you go down that slippery slope, you can fall all the way down.
One may get involved in Machloket for the sake of Hashem, which may include speaking L”H. The problem is, again, that once there is permission in a limited way, it doesn’t always stop there. (heard from Rav Frand)
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If you do decide to say no, then do it in a way that does not turn her off.
I have a non-frum relative, who was considering to become frum. When she was looking to rent from and live with a frum family with young kids, she was told “NO” in such a way that she was turned off. She is getting married soon (to a Jew), but I can’t go because the wedding is not kosher (food and aidim).
If you have a nochria with access to your dishes then you have other problems as well. Your children are worth more than both of them. CYLOR.
Got asthma – complete deal breaker.
I once had a chavruta that smoked in the evening. His breath would make me cough the next morning when we would learn.
My understanding of 500,000 products is like this. Let’s say that they are the Hashgaha for Heinze ketchup. There are dozens of “products” included. You have so many different sizes (from the single packet to the industrial tubs) and varieties (corn syrup, sugar, etc). Multiply this for every product and you get 1/2 million. And for every restaurant add like 200 products.
Remind them to get back to learning, especially Chofetz Chaim.
Remind them that they should respect others privacy and space.
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Everyone should be respected, even if you vehemently disagree with them. We should pose our challenges carefully. Remember
that not everyone shares the same:
- education as you, be it more less or different
- modes of thinking
- style of communication
- sense of humor (and humor does not always come through so well in this mode of communicating)
But we all share the same desire to be respected.
Abraham Levis: Hot dog bun
A tip is about as optional as Davening Maariv (which use be called optional but has been the accepted practice).
It may seem rude to ask for a tip, but it is a downright dumb thing to ask a Mohel for a tip.
“A government may levy whatever taxes it believes are appropriate.”
Dr Hall, isn’t that like having the fox watch the hen house?
Further you wrote:
We assume that the wealthy and influential will plunder everything then use their power to get themselves bailed out. Corporate CEOs squander their stockholders’ equity and get rewarded with huge golden parachutes — and then get nominated (and sometimes elected) to public office.
That’s the way many of us feel about government’s handling of our tax dollars. Power corrupts, whether in industry or gov’t. The main difference is that in industry, there are alternatives – you can choose to avoid a company or maybe use the competition. But in gov’t there is no where to turn from bad policy. In addition, gov’t policies can go on indefinitely. You have no choice, short of running to another state or country.
Charlie,
How much is the obligation to support the five Mem’s?
i.e. At what point do you stop taxing?
If the gov’t can levy a tax to whatever degree they want (which includes taxing everything) then that is, IMHO, tantamount to socialism.
What is your opinion?
Falling in love = infatuation
Real love takes time. Yaacov worked on himself before he met Rachel for 14 years, learning from Ever.
Passiac – lived there 8 years. Lots of BT’s and lots of singles. Very open to all.
Global warming has set itself up to always win.
If it gets hotter and drier, well that’s global warming.
If it gets colder and snowier, that’s global warming too.
If anything happens, it’s global warming.
As we saw from the stolen emails last year, they will fix the data (and/or analysis) to make their calculations fit their agenda.
Yichus means greatness:
It can mean a continuation of greatness
Or the end of greatness.
I believe I heard it from Rabbi Abraham J. Twerski MD
I think that it is permitted based on the idea that shaving with a razor is forbidden, but not other ways of removing facial hair. (It’s been a while for me, but see last perek of Makkot -Mishnah on 19a; Gemara on 20a and see Yoreh Deah 180-182 one of those simanim).
The concept of begged isha only applies to removing hair where women (could) normally remove hair – underarms and below the belt (again see Yoreh Deah in about the same set of simanim).
From Makkot 20a:
?”? (????? ??) ???? ???? ?? ????? ???? ???’ ???? ??????? ??? ???? ?”? (????? ??) ?? ????? ?? ?? ????? ???? ?? ???? ????? ??????? ??? ???? ????? ???? ?? ????? ?? ???? ????? ??? ?? ????? ??? ???? ?? ???
For a word that ends with the letter ‘O’ you need the decimal point. ‘Hello’ is not really .7734 but really 0.7734
My son reacted well to soy formula.
Stimulating and intelligent conversation and humor.
I may come here a lot, but I’m not addicted. I can quit any time I want 🙂
It is hard for people to have to remember all the details about all the people that we meet, so we create categories with names for those categories.
Pollard’s sentence was disproportionately long. He gave information about various Arab groups, including terrorists, to Israel, which does not hurt US interests (at least not directly).
My son is six.
My son who has very strong emotions and can be rather difficult. I wish I knew what he goes through. Although his childhood issues may seem trivial to us adults, it’s a lot for him. That way I would understand him and I could direct him better.
The are not the same but there are many times where they are similar, with the communists being a lot more radical.
myfriend – can you elaborate more? I think you will need more proof to make your point stick.
charliehall – what do have to say about the comment from Joe Sims?
I did not think of that. Now that I think of my teenage nephew in yeshiva, trying to be cool comes to mind. I guess I’m out of it.
Going back to the original issue – that it seems to annoy some of us – It’s funny what may seem to be cool to some looks like stupidity (or laziness) to others. Mussar to be learned.
Sometimes I like to add chili powder to it. It’s easy to make it “Mexican”.
It’s laziness.
They feel they are obligated to wear the hat for davening, but don’t really want to, so they just plop it on.
Same for jackets that some drape over their shoulders.
IMO, if you want to dress up for davening then wear a tie and jacket, and put them on like a mentch.
I heard a class on LearnTorah.com where the Rabbi said, quoting a divorce attorney, that 30% of all divorce papers filed nowadays have the word “facebook” in them. The Rabbi said that it should be called “open bar”.
I heard from Rav Shaul Kagan zt”l,
The reason why they call MIL in Yiddish “schvigger” is because it was the ugliest sounding word they could find :>
Not exactly, I was talking about feelings, not necessarily actions.
Before, there were plenty of Jews willing to intermarry, but we were not accepted in society to that degree. Even if one wanted to intermarry before, he could not so easily.
Now that we are more accepted, many of those Jews that want to intermarry can do so easily.
Intermarriage rates have skyrocketed since the past generation – not because Jews are marrying gentiles, but because gentiles are now marrying Jews.
There is a common conception that Jewish women are demanding. For example, if a guy takes out a girl and does not spend a lot. The conception is that the Jewish girl would be turned off – maybe even disrespectful, whereas a gentile girl would be appreciative.
So if religion has some meaning to a young man (but not a lot), he might trade in his marginal feeling of religion for a real feeling of being appreciated.
I did not see Pres. Nixon as being antisemitic. Apathetic yes, but no real hatred (nor real love) for Jews. He was just looking after his own interests, just like all politicians (including Kissenger).
He said, when Golda Meir visited, that he did not want to invite any Jews that voted for the Democrats. That was plain politics. He was saying that he wanted Jews that voted for him to join them. On the other hand, he did not seem to want Irish nor Italians nor Blacks there at all.
I like Rabbi Fishel Schechter on the Daf Yomi shiurim among other shiurim.
I like R’ Yaakov Yagen for his good stories.
I could go on, but I’ll just say that each has his own style that I appreciate.
I believe that the Halacha for returning a lost object includes the idea that you don’t have to return something that is beneath your dignity to retrieve.
At that rate, each of us may have a threshold that we feel is beneath our dignity to retrieve.