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MiddlePath,
Also there is a difference between the Chaf and the Het. The Caf is from the roof of the mouth, whereas the Het comes from the throat. In fact, the Gemara relates that a Cohein that pronounces the Caf like the Het is not allowed to do Birkat Cohanim.
We are all like that. We forget that all is being watched and will be reviewed in the Olam HaEmet.
oomis1105 – Happy anniversary !
PBA – Happy Birthday
sem20 – Happy birthday !
BTW are you now sem21
hanab,
These newspaper people are all about money. Why is the paper for free? To tell advertisers that they have a large subscription, so that they can charge more for advertisements.
It seems to me that you must constantly go after their money sources, their advertisers, until they (publishers and advertisers) get they point. Otherwise, they (publishers and advertisers) don’t care.
Being that you are in real yeshivish community, see if you can get some rabbanim on your side. I think that will make a bigger statement.
“Where did she specify castration as the topic of discussion? “
Those of us who read about the boy in Syria know he was castrated, among other things. I understood from the start that was what hanab was referring to when she said “Published a graphic description of torture in an Arab country, including specific reference to mutilation of body parts. “
It’s rather gruesome what they did to him. Do a search on “syrian boy” to find out.
No trolling.
This happened in Syria just recently. A 13 year old (supposed protester) was captured and brutally tortured to death by the Syrian gov’t. Do a web search for the gruesome details.
hanab – I see your point that our holy children should not be exposed to the brutality of the world. Even without details of which body parts were mutilated, it still may be too much for a child to hear about torture. OTOH I am not sure how bad news could be delivered to adults without the children finding out. Hashem Yaazor
One job recruiter told me like this: how is this job going to get you your next job. Factor that into your consideration.
Mine sky-rocketed with a cracked water main. To test for a broken water main coming to the house, shut off the main valve to the house. Then go outside to see if the water meter is still running. If it is, you gotta a leak in your water main.
The Mishnah says “Dah Mah Shetasheiv L’apikores” – know what to say, but it does not say that you should argue. Your best choice is to just walk away.
Considering how she treated B’not Yisrael, I would have a rather harsh punishment for her. Something like the Pilegsh B’givah. I’m sure there were enough pagans that would have volunteered to help.
The OP has said repeatedly her husband would NOT be upset if she shaved.
But she also said that he would not really like it either.
But we don’t know and neither does she. She needs to talk to her husband.
I remember from the beginning of Horiot (and I paraphrase): If you follow the Gedolim and they made a mistake, you are not considered “guilty”. But if they made a mistake, and you know it, but you still follow them, then you are “guilty”.
I think that if you have questions about the advice then talk them over with the Gadol who gave you that advice. Maybe he didn’t understand your situation, maybe you didn’t understand his advice, maybe there are some other points that were missed on your side or his.
Listen to Gedolim, but don’t forget about yourself.
Rav Moshe did not use the term “Chalav Stam” – regular milk;
He used the term “Chalav Companies” – milk from companies. He transliterated “companies” from English to Hebrew. I’m not sure when/how we got the term “Chalav Stam”
IMHO, Rav Moshe was matir “chalav companies” because of the policies and procedures that we have in place in the USA. But if you were to buy milk in a different country or buy directly from a farmer who normally does not sell milk, you can’t assume the same level of kashrut.
Tzaddikim are not infallible.
Often C”Y is not treated with the same care as C”A (or C”C – chalav companies).
When I lived “in town” the local kosher store would sometimes get a shipment of C”Y and it would be next to the fridge for a while (maybe an hour) until the worker put it in the fridge. It often did not last well after I bought it.
Now that I live OOT, the C”Y comes to a large, regular supermarket. When they get the C”Y they put it in the walk-in fridge and the milk stays good well past the due date.
First of all, the term Rav Moshe used is “Cholov companies”.
If she can read Hebrew, get her a copy of the Shulchan Aruch (Y”D 115) and the Teshuvos of the Iggros Moshe (Y”D section 1, pages 82-89). They can be found at http://www.hebrewbooks.org
Here’s some informative articles:
http://www.oukosher.org/index.php/common/article/chalav_yisroel/
http://www.oukosher.org/index.php/articles/single_print/5688
The more she knows, the more comfortable she will feel.
“However, I do know that it must be great because the yetzer hara will bring forth arguments in your mind why not to do it. “
With that line of logic, all kinds of things could be considered great, even bad things, just as long as you have doubts.
“You never know what this might protect you from.”
That could be said about superstitions also.
Ask your husband and your Rav. Don’t fall prey to emotional arguments.
Ain kli machzik bracha ela ha’shalom (the only vessel to contain blessing is peace).
If the proposed action will effect your Shalom Bayis, then the bracha won’t come. In fact, other brachos may be lost.
When Hashem told Moshe to go free Am Yisrael, he still asked permission from the people around him. Same with Yaakov – he asked before he went.
I celebrate those days like most Americans – through food.
I celebrate Labor day, the holidays for unions, by acting like a union member. I just loaf around.
Sefardim are more spiritual and group oriented. Ashkenazim are more intellectual and polar. That difference carries out in so many ways.
chocandpatience said “Of course he would want to hear when something’s bothering you. “
There is a fine line between expressing what’s bothering you and kvetching. Expressing for the sake of expressing is not a man’s way of doing things. It may very well come off as kvetching. If he offers advice, be quiet and listen. Better yet, ask him for advice about dealing with the situation. You don’t have to follow it, but show respect by asking and listening. And take action if you can.
Some women feel that expressing their frustrations for the sake of expressing is a good thing, and consequently can go on for hours. I have a family member that used to call and complain an hour each day (no exaggeration) . At first I felt that it was chessed to listen to her and maybe offer some advice. But I soon realized that it was futile. The same problems over and over again. She did not want any advice; she did NOT make any effort to fix problems; she just wanted to vent (and vent and vent….) I asked my wife’s advice, and she suggested to not answer when I see it’s the kvetcher on the caller ID.
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I thought it was about getting a date with a girl in your beer. That would be terrible as it would ruin the beer. And as DY said above “She would definitely not agree to see him again (and might charge him for dry cleaning). “
Pac-Man,
It was her friend that viewed hypocrisy that brought her friend down and almost brought her down.
Sac,
While I agree with you, I think that you don’t need to call him a bum (he very well may be, but still…)
Pac-Man said “And the author is any more right than anyone here because? “
The author has done her homework by interviewing hundreds of OTD kids. The product description on Amazon:
Based on a study which involved over 500 Jews who left Orthodox Judaism, Off the Derech presents the first comprehensive examination of the causes of defection from Orthodox Judaism. It clearly and thoroughly explains those causes, and provides solutions to this increasingly common phenomenon.
All our conjecturing is not getting anywhere. There was book written about this. I have not read it but I heard that it is good. It’s called
Off the Derech: Why Observant Jews Leave Judaism; How to Respond to the Challenge
By Faranak Margolese
Pac-man,
In case you did not know, one can’t change jobs just like that, especially in this economy.
yoyo,
It sounds like you are looking for other grocery shops to go to.
I understand that point, but our actions often have repercussions beyond our intentions.
I am assuming that the story was as originally stated and not that this kid was a habitual flirt who had been warned.
It seems to me that several lessons were learned from this event- probably not intentionally. The first one is that to be really frum you have follow the rules to the point of being merciless. Some kids will learn that. OTOH, some kids have now learned that the idea of Modeh v’Ozeiv Yerucham (confess, stop sinning, and get mercy) does not work. i.e. no Teshuva. Furthermore, many will now think that the best way to deal with authority is to deny/lie. Had he not admitted, he might have not been punished. Clearly, being truthful did not help. Lastly, one might see that being a gossiper (like the neighbor in this story) gives one power and is sanctioned by the frum establishment.
What says you? I’m curious to hear if aries has heard any thoughts like these from her clients.
OfCourse said: Please explain what the principal, and anyone else, stands to gain by negativity such as name calling and belittling the student that he/she is throwing out
What Daas Yochis and Health answer your request. Basically, 1) principals are human and 2)they wield a lot of power and that comes with its issues.
It sounds good in theory, but I think that it could be rather difficult in the real world.
The other offshoot has about 1.2 billion and counting.
We can argue back and forth about this, but let’s stick with the subject about what happened (or what we think what happened) and the consequences.
This discussion reminds me of this:
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/the-making-of-talmidei-chachomim
The tune is clearly from a pop culture tune, and it would be illegal to use that tune without permission. So I assume that they got permission from the original artist.
BTW, I heard the original version by chance, and I think that the Maccabeats version is a lot better.
Pearls – matching necklace, bracelet, and earings
happiest,
Don’t tell us; we’re powerless. Direct your heartfelt emoting to the only One with power. I’ll pray for you too and have you in mind tomorrow morning when I give the bracha.
Essentially, muscle knots are sections within the various muscles of the body that have constricted and create pain that is consistent. The condition is common enough to merit the application of a scientific name, which is myofascial trigger points. While there is not currently a definitive medical explanation as to why muscle knots form, several theories are undergoing testing. Here is some information about the nature of the muscle knot, as well as some of the treatment methods that are in use today.
The generally accepted answer to why muscle knots form is that something triggers a reaction where the muscle never relaxes. In effect, the muscle is always in a state where it appears to be actively rather than passively in use. This is unusual, since even with such activities as weight lifting, running, or any type of heavy lifting the muscle goes through a series of off and on cycles. The constant active condition of the muscle leads to muscle spasms, which in turn acts as the root cause the muscle knot.
Fortunately, there are some things that you can do to remove muscle knots.
Instructions
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things you’ll need:
* Heating pad, microwavable gel pack, or a similar heat source
* Non-steroidal anti-inflammatory medicine or muscle relaxers
* Massaging pillow or hand held massaging device (or a masseuse)
* Topical muscle pain cream (optional)
1 Apply heat to the affected muscle. If the muscle pain is indeed just a muscle knot and not an injury, heat will help relax the muscle so that it can loosen and release the knot. If you believe the knot is due to an injury you’ve just received, apply an icepack instead and see a doctor. Electric heating pads, heated gel packs, and heat-producing disposable pads all work well for muscle knots.
2 Massage the area. If you know a good masseuse, arrange to receive a massage as soon as possible. If you do not have a masseuse or cannot afford to visit one, there are other ways you can get the muscle massaged. If the knot is in your leg, you will be able to massage it easily yourself. You should knead the area deeply.
Unfortunately, many muscle knots occur in the neck and shoulder area and are not so accessible. In these cases, you can stand under a hot shower and let the water beat down on you for a long time. After the shower, use a massaging pillow or hand held device on the knotted muscle.
3 Stretch the muscle a little at a time, as best as you can. This will help keep the muscles surrounding the knotted muscle from clenching and thus adding to the problem.
4 Take non-steroidal anti-inflammatory medicine or muscle relaxers or drink a glass of wine (but do not take acetaminophen with wine or other alcoholic beverages).
5 Eat a banana and/or take a calcium and magnesium tablet. Sometimes muscle knots are caused by muscles lacking minerals such as potassium, magnesium and calcium.
6 Apply a topical cream for muscle pain. Most topical creams for muscle pain give only temporary relief; however, they may be beneficial right before a massage. Topical creams help relax the muscles slightly and facilitate a deeper, more helpful massage.
Tips & Warnings
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Remain as mobile as possible. If you stiffen up, it will take longer to remove the muscle knot. Movement will help the muscle fibers remain loose.
If pain persists or you believe the knot is due to an injury, ask your doctor for recommendations.
If there is significant swelling near the knot, ask a doctor before applying heat. Ice may be more appropriate in some cases.
Do not burn your skin.
Follow instructions if using a heating pad and do not apply for longer than recommended.
Never fall asleep with a heating pad on.
Do not attempt to drive after taking a muscle relaxer.
If you use a topical cream, follow the directions. Some are not intended to be used with a heating pad.
Some muscle pain creams contain an ingredient similar to aspirin. Do not take aspirin or other non-steroidal anti-inflammatory medicines while using these kinds of pain creams–if you do, you will risk a serious overdose.
Frequent or persistent muscle knots in the same area may be a sign of an underlying problem.
From wisegeek and ehow.
In line with believer’s last comment. I seriously went out a girl who was really different than my wife. She was what I thought was for me. Breaking up with her gave me better insight. After I first started dating my wife, I thought that she was not my type, but I quickly remembered that I was mistaken about my type.
Sorry, I didn’t get your humor.
tomim tihye – what’s with the public L”H against Sac ?!?!?!
Comfort and progress are often opposing.
You can get comfortable elsewhere.
At my cousin’s wedding, they had mixed seating, with a mechitza that went around the women’s dance section. They were in their own “room”.
Try chinuch out of town. Not so over-crowded.
Actually, it could be called an anti-religious gov’t.
HIE,
Just go study and stop complaining and stop looking for excuses.
You claim that you school is good at education, but you show a lack of appreciation for education. A lack of appreciation for education usually goes with poor education, whether secular or l’havdil Kodesh.
BTW, I agree with Wolf that you think that you know it all. You are not the first high school kid that thinks that way. Not even the millionth.
From: http://judaism.about.com/library/3_askrabbi_o/bl_simmons_shabbatexercise.htm
Question
I would like to know if it is permitted to run on Shabbat. By this I mean run instead of walk, not as a sport. If one has to cover a long distance can one run part of it? It is physically exerting I know, but it is not work.
Answer
While there are certain restrictions on Shabbat activity, there is a special mitzvah called “Oneg Shabbat” — which means a person should do what is enjoyable on Shabbat!
Actually, if a person is exercising for enjoyment, it is permitted to exercise on Shabbat. One should he careful, however, not to push himself too much, because to get sweaty and overexerted goes against the spirit of rest and serenity that Shabbat is designed to provide. (see “Code of Jewish Law” O.C. 301:2)
With blessings from Jerusalem,
Rabbi Shraga Simmons
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oomis,
I agree that taking those pics is strange, but what can you say to get her to the doctor? Perhaps say that a full check-up is needed.
mewho,
I think that you can revisit that issue and tell her the problem. Better yet, the two of you (you and husband) should stand together while one of you speak with her. I have a feeling that she feels that he is OK with whatever she does. He has to voice/show his dissatisfaction, otherwise she will assume that he really agrees with her against you.
Shrek,
I think that you have to let her know that her unsolicited advice is not needed nor wanted. It may get her to be quiet. BTDT.
She may be looking to feel important and/or needed. Maybe find other ways for her to feel important, like take care of the kids, read books to them, help set & clear the table, etc.
Many parents are used to lording over their children and treating them like little kids. Some times, we need to break out of that rut OR change how that relationship works.