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Rav Ovadia Yosef is lenient for recordings IF the man does not know what she looks like.
When it comes to speaking voice (Kiddushin 70), I learned that the Gemara is talking about going out of one’s way to hear a speaking voice – and that is Assur. Normally, we exchange information when we speak and that is Mutar. But talking for the sake of enjoying her voice becomes Kol Isha.
“All of Zimmerman’s actions in following Martin prior to the confrontation, were entirely lawful. “
I’m not so sure. He was carrying a gun and looking for a fight, and he confronted Martin against police orders.
“First, a man is not complete until he is married. Then, he’s FINISHED!”
That’s why the bride is called a Kalla, from the Lashon of VaYichulu – when Hashem finished the earth.
That is also why the groom wears a burial shroud called a kittel – from the same lashon of Bar Ketalla – sentenced to death.
Marriage is more that a word; it is a sentence.
Go ask Deborah Feldman 🙂
Seriously, I think it’s because they do a lot of texting and email and just want to just get the point across quickly. Outside of formal writing, they don’t feel the need to write correctly.
“Your friend found a Domino OUP bag under the heimish bag, so what? The point is he doesn’t rely on OUP unless the heimish rav says to. It is money well spent.”
Nope, it’s making a buck.
The Rav that gave the extra Hechsher on Dominoes sugar could have just said that he approves of that product without having to put his name on it and charging for it.
How much work did he put into it to charge that extra amount? I seriously doubt that much, if any, maybe a few phone calls.
Speaking of which, I am appalled by those that put out lists of things that they say are muttar, when they have not been to the factory. There is a infamous web site that is matir almost anything by checking the ingredients.
“Derech achilla there is no problem of gebrocks so no issues of matza in the mouth getting wet etc.”
But you will have wet matza crumbs in your mouth that could – and will- remain there for a while (unless you brush after eating)?
A few years ago, I called a hand-Matza bakery, and the owner told me that most of the kneading of the dough is done by Goyim. He told me that most every hand-Matza bakery does this. A Jew starts the process by pouring water on the flour, which is considered the start of the kneading process (BTW for that reason assur on Shabbat). He said that he cannot get frum Jews to that kind of hard labor for $10/hour. He tried to hire frum high school kids, but they quit within a couple days.
At that rate, I’m not sure why hand is better than machine.
I think it depends on what you ask and – more importantly – how you ask.
The Chacham and Rasha ask almost the same question. The nuance makes a big difference.
I’m not asserting or implying anything about MO or any other group or person.
I realize that, but I was answering the question.
That certainly could be. I just did not get that from his posts above.
“But I will get up with abibishten’s helf. “
Amen ! Kain yehi Ratson !
“So he has the Heimish Rav Hamachshir certify that this particular OU product does meet those standards. “
He never said that he follows a Rav to tell him which OU products are good. He said, “I don’t use OU b’chlal for Pesach.” which implies to me a personal (IMO baseless) “chumra”.
You are selling the chametz that may be in you keilim.
If you sold the keilim, you would have to tovel all your (metal and glass) dishes once you get them back.
“But now my wife wants to un-invite my in laws from our Shabbos table permanently.”
I agree with her. And she should do the un-inviting as it’s her parents.
Avraham Avinu left his father (see Rashi at the end of Noah) and his father eventually did teshuva (Rashi later on). You might need to do this.
You really should ask your LOR about this. IMHO, there is not a Mitsvah of Kivud Av in this situation. AFAIK, you are obligated to avoid any outright disrespect, but you don’t have to invite them, cater to them, or feel obligated to live near them.
BTW, you will need those promotions more in the future as your chinuch bills get bigger.
If he believes that what is in the Torah is not meant to be taken literally, then you should not be nice to him. He is biting the hand that feeds him.
“Anyways, I don’t use OU b’chlal for Pesach. “
I find that comment to be rather silly, as so many products and/or their ingredients are certified by the OU. The final hashgacha might be you local heimish Rav, but the ingredients could very well have been certified by the OU.
Machine shmura – if only talking about white Matsa – otherwise egg Matsa.
always runs with scissors fast said:
“but i want to get remarried asap. And im yirtze hashem in a mazeldige shu I will!”
I’m no psychologist, I don’t know you, and I think that people should be married, but I am worried that you might need some time to clear your head, possibly with some guidance.
It only matters if you care.
bpt,
ZK has indicated many months ago that she has little kids.
One reason that Ahashvarosh avoided music at his wicked party was that music means different things to different people.
soliek,
Do you eat Kitniyot?
Even David Hamelech wrote a song about it: Mizmor l’Soda
“Have we really descended to the point where we cannot handle minhagim that are different from our own?”
A lot of people give off the impression that if you don’t do things their way, you are doing it wrong. That of course is silly, because to do things right, you don’t have to do them their way, you have do them my way 🙂
“the Chofetz Chaim and the Steipler Gaon also had this chumra”
They did but not their families.
She can ask, and you can say “not now” or “no”.
Maybe she thinks you got it all together. Maybe she thinks that the computer project is a little one.
Hi Goq,
I still share the laundry responsibilities. I try to do more than my wife.
I have a friend that did this diet and lost a pound a day for 5 weeks – 35 pounds total. He told me that it can only be done for several weeks at a time, then a few months before you can do it again. He said that he had almost no appetite on the 500 calorie a day diet. He said that he feels fine now.
I have been losing about 1.5 pounds a week on the “hunger feels good” diet (I made up that name). Just eat less and when you feel hungry know that it means a sense of accomplishment. After a while you will get used to – and like – the hunger.
One is supposed to grab less than a k’Beitsah amount (about 2 ounces)at a time. At that rate, one should cut/break/rip the pizza first.
I have heard though in the name of Rav BenSion Abba Shaul, that since some foods are eaten in big pieces, like pizza and sandwiches, then it may be OK to eat them like that.
K9 by BlueCoat
It’s free, you can set blocking catagories, and you can set times that it blocks all internet (like when the kids are supposed to be doing homework).
“harvard doesn’t have hebrew. it has veritas. “
“which I think means “variety”. The idea is that you can get any variety of ideas there regardless of the truthfulness. “
PBA, thank you for that “truthfulness”
LOL :>
Just Do It !
Go volunteer somewhere and give your time.
Once you are committed to it’s success, give some money.
“I started the thread to be funny”
PBA, I was laughing the whole way through 🙂
Thanks :>
“i think its ridiculous the way everyones watching u and reporting back to ur husband….i am not living my life for other pple but it bothers me that other people feel the need to talk about me and then it gets back to me… “
I find it sickening that in such a Torah community there seems to be such L”H.
They are suffering as a kaparah….. for our indiscretions.
The passing of a Tzaddiq atones for us.
ARWSF,
I just looked your thread from 2 months ago. I think it answers it:
Today and yesterday, and the day before and the week previous to that, and actually for the whole past year or 2 (my husband and I) are fighting a real lot. He is harsh in his responses to me, over anything and nothing. He snaps, he is a grump,of course it hurts my feelings, ruins the shalom bayis, I turn sulky, beg for his acknowledgement and apology or at least to notice he did something wrong, but he does nothing except justify his actions.
Very lately he is turning into a monster. The anger and whatever (call it depression) is escalating with in him, and he is taking his frustration in the marriage out on the kids. This depressive mood is almost tangible in the house since I am in a deep depression because of him and the life he has to offer us with all his problems.
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/very-disturbing-please-only-kind-people-read
ARFWS,
Six months ago you posted about the stern tone of your husband and how you did not like it, but you also posted this:
“You know what? ITs funny but ever since writing this….I have noticed a dramatic change in my perception. Let me explain..
My kids are leibedig and know how to manipulate me. Lately I have started noticing how under control my husband seems to manage them. I have grown in the last few days to come to respect some of the way he is “Different” than my father because of this.
I told my husband shabbos, I like your way of making them control themselves.
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/sefardic-fathers-vs-ashkenazi-fathers”
I’m glad that you and your kids are out of an abusive situation, but it seems that things were OK (or at least tolerable)6 months ago, and now you got a Get. It seems that the situation really deteriorated fast. Is that what happened?
s2021 said : “I feel like im the only person on earth, …”
I also find it very Not funny. I always hated the three stooges.
Hey,
We missed you. How are you doing?
“If someone says Tikun Chatzos every midnight, that practice might fairly be described as kedusha vtahara. “
Tikkun Chatzot is mentioned as a halacha in the Shulchan Aruch and accepted by all. It’s not a new minhag that some Gedolim, like the Steipler, argued against.
No comparison.
Chosson,
Thanks for the anecdotal story which proves nothing. Your mind is like the Bedouin’s foot; it can’t feel logic. Most people here are not Mizrachi. But you seem to think that if it’s not Ger then it must be not frum or pseudo-frum, lacking in “kedusha and tehara”. Not true. Everyone here is interested in following Halacha. We may differ as to what is the Halacha depending on our Mesora, Rabbanim, etc. You can call any practice “kedusha and tehara”, but it does not make it halacha.
BTW, why do you put down Mizrachi people? Why do Gerrer have so much Sinah?
s2021
Welcome Back !
“What else could be considered a single crisis?”
Gloves. Did you ever lose a glove and keep the single glove in the closet, as if the lost one will come home some how?
It’s just caffeine at really high price.
Caffeine lasts about 5 hours in the body.
Aveirah Gorerret Avairah.
Not only did you show disrespect to your wife’s time and efforts in preparing the meal, you also show disrespect to her because she had to wait at home while you were stuffing your face with “cake, kichelech, soda, grape juice, fish, herring, gala, hot potato and lukshen kugels, hot chulent and kishka, and a host of those fatty foods that I don’t even know the name of”
What should you do?
Have self control and decide that you are not going to eat anything. Think to yourself that it’s treif and you won’t have much desire, if any. Wish Mazal Tov to the Baal Hasimcha, then go home and eat the nice meal that your wife or mother lovingly made for you.
Also apologize to your wife/mother for your past mistakes and tell her that you will be more considerate (and early) in the future.
Goq,
How about answering, “I don’t know what this is, but it tastes good.”
“S”A writes if a woman learns Torah, it will lead her to tiflus (immorality). “
That’s referring to Gemara, not Halacha.
BTW, does this place even exist ???! I can’t find it, nor any names mentioned on google.
“There’s supposed to be a karaite temple thingy in the old city”
A friend of mine was passing by their house of worship there and some Japanese tourist were there. He heard them misread it as “Karate Jews”, and they were quite happy to hear that Jews had their own sect practicing Japanese martial arts. 🙂
About Chassidish education:
I have met some with good skills and some with out good skills. I think it depends on a lot of factors, including:
1) Which Chassidish group – some are more appreciative of secular education
2) Male or female – I found females often have better secular education than males
3) Which generation
4) Family values of education
OOT K8 Tuition and fees = $13,500.
School has both genders, but separate classes.