Mammele

Wiy: I know the two are contradictory, that’s why I was wondering if there’s more to the story. I honestly can’t reconcile the two and know the chilul Hashem overrides everything, yet can’t understand how proclaiming shma yisroel in public can be anything but a kiddush Hashem.

Does anybody know if it’ll be fenced in as I’ve read elsewhere?

Interesting how one can make a kiddush Hashem (with the tombstone inscription, especially shma yisroel which will be seen by thousands) in the midst of such an obvious chilul Hashem, so I’d like to know if there’s more to the story.

Even if technically done according to halacha (which is implausible if he used non Orthodox Rabbis) it’s definitely in poor taste Jewish-wise.

Scooter: she was expecting a 40% discount. It may mean the item was overpriced, but probably not by that much. The shopkeeper also doesn’t know right away if the customer is being truthful, unless she actually showed her the amazon price.

Health: I also found it odd that the Gazette actually found such a short sentence positive. (Especially in light of a recent verdict in NY, which made me pay closer attention to jail terms given, of course for totally different crimes.)

It’s also weird how they avoided mentioning the nationality of the perps, though it was very obvious for most of them. Perhaps the Gazette was correct in lumping the antisemitism of different groups together because by not punishing anyone for “petty antisemitism” (Quebecois most likely) the message to Muslims was that they need not fear retribution.

I don’t know much about Montreal, but it seems like a nice town, and obviously if the guy is inquiring, he probably has a reason such as a job offer.

However I think some people who are commenting and live(d) there have become oblivious to the anti-semitism.

We were there for a short visit, and I convinced my husband to drive to the peak of Mont Royal park at night as it was our only opportunity and I wanted to enjoy the view. Not being natives we drove around slowly and apparently ended up on a different side. Still driving in our minivan with NY plates some youths, likely students from a nearby university, recognized our “Jewish” car and started screaming “something” Juife. (I thankfully didn’t get exactly what.)

We have never come across such blatant anti-semitism anywhere else, and had quite a scare. And we have no mezuza on our car…

When I see Horowitz promoting Lapin, his neutrality becomes suspect.

When the woman who testified on Weberman’s behalf is vilified by so called victims’ advocates with filthy lies, while their “victim” is not allowed to be criticized at all, I wonder, is this how you promote the truth?

When credit card purchases are presented as evidence even though the victim never mentioned anything regarding them just because the store names sound salacious ( BTW I was recently at one of their stores in BP and they DID NOT have underwear for sale AT ALL) I wonder why stoop so low?

When I read how bored guys taking pictures in court is considered a choreographed campaign to intimidate and “out” her when you wouldn’t find anybody in Willy that doesn’t know her name I wonder some more.

When media accounts extol her as beautiful while Weberman is described as anything but, with even his beard getting a bad rap, I wonder isn’t a jury human with natural biases, why not place a media gag order while the trial is on (yes, some info would leak out but the jurors are probably not in the loop and would have to seek it out and it wouldn’t be as juicy as the NYP)?

When he gets 103 years with no concrete evidence I wonder how impartial was the judge all along?

So MR remind me again who’s in denial here?

13: you are underestimating yourself. If you are strong you might very well be able to build props (using cardboard, corrugated plastic etc.). It probably doesn’t need to be made from wood for one time use; then paint and the audience won’t be the wiser. Props are fun because they won’t be inspected by the audience from up close.

There are diy tutorials online for almost anything. Ask an adult to search and print for you if you have limited access. You don’t need to find the exact thing to get inspiration. Then get girls to brainstorm with you if get stumped. Have someone do the drawing if you can’t. Get your family involved in the logistics of the building process. Branch out a little from your comfort zone. Being strong is good, capitalize on it — cutting needs muscle too!

I’m not trying to be preachy but I’m talking as a “late bloomer” who used to think she has zero creativity.

Your school will thank you for the savings but you’ll benefit the most. Have fun and good luck!

TLKY: So you don’t actually live in KJ now?

The fact that they are trying to shut Ami down, otherwise known as “trying to silence the media” makes me think they have something to hide.

I’m just playing by their rules, which basically are where there’s smoke there’s fire, and only sunshine can assure that the truth is revealed. Why the sudden fear of exposure?

Health: Maybe you can help her out with the percentages, based on the vague information given. Hypothetically, if her mom and aunt are infertile (medically speaking, not ultimately) but her father’s family is ok, how would you gauge her chances of needing treatment to have kids? Again, just an educated percentage guess, I’m aware we’re not dealing with all the facts here.

Now what’s the percentage in general society for both men and women? I would define infertile as trying naturally for two years with no success, I think the real definition is after one year, which is kind of too soon imho.

Thanks either way.

My understanding is that her father’s genetics play an equal share here. Which, if I’m correct, would reduce her infertility risk by 50% from that of her mother and aunt. I’m not sure so I think you need to discuss this with a geneticist or at least read up on it. There’s also always a risk someone will be infertile, so there really are no guarantees with anybody else either.

Additionally, if you’re concerned enough to drop the shidduch, find a way to confirm more details instead of assuming the worst. Besiros tovos!

I’m not here to pasken, but I’d assume that if those teachers that barely get into the teachers’ room it’s because they used the beginning of recess to answer students’ questions or otherwise provide individual attention THEY ARE NOT SHORTING THE STUDENTS/PARENTS AT ALL.

Not allowing time to drink a cup of coffee would be counterproductive. If they’re simply overstaying the allotted time it’s a different story…

Also, I used to hate it when teachers allowed the lesson to continue into recess time. If that’s the reason they’re short on time my sympathies are with the students.

He’s also known for suing left and right. This is not just about his views. Though his kids are innocent, the question remains whether parents can do whatever they want with no repercussions from the mosdos. Some people need incentives to stay in line, while others need to know that “crossing certain lines” will have consequences. Again, what rights do the schools have?

WIY: The question wasn’t directed at me but one contributing factor whether she will continue to learn (assuming she currently is this type) is whether you expect her to be a “supermom” or not. If you want her to work (especially full time) while raising a family and running a “perfect” home it’s not likely she’ll have the time and energy to devote to shiurim etc. without collapsing from the pressure.

However, don’t be judgmental if she’s not “learning” at any given point as marriage, having kids, a new job etc. are not easy transitions that will need some adjusting to and figuring out how to juggle everything.

Also you can’t pre-plan life’s curveballs, you may for example have triplets, so don’t forget to be flexible and fair in your expectations. We don’t run the world.

Okay, so I just reviewed Shmendrik’s profile, and he actually claims to be goldenpickanicerscreenname/goldenpupik’s husband. Which means he probably isn’t and they’re one and the same…

I thought goldenpupik was his wife when he recently posted that his wife learns daf yomi. Can you really be sure couples don’t share devices? Just asking.

Although the screen names chosen by both are definitely troll worthy…

Gavra: I hear you but don’t think you are being realistic. Appearances nowadays are everything rightly or wrongly (and was way back, remember the heating the empty oven pretending to bake challos story?) Even if you are technically correct our midas hachesed should surpass what others are allowed to beg for by us trying to maintain their lifestyle and not judge.

Also, tzeddakah is more complex so I probably can have it both ways. Anything I give for a mosad is tzeddakah regardless of why there’s a shortfall. And some merchants will give discounts knowing the benefactor is truly needy, however the one doing the bargaining thinks they’re only cutting into a high profit margin. It may be a form of matan beseser, but I still wouldn’t call the one asking for it the same as requesting tzeddakah from the community.

Chesed is a Jewish middah, let’s not muddy the waters by being picky on who’s deserving of our help or what they must do first. On the other hand let’s not forget to focus on job training and creation, financial planning; maybe even a babysitting co-op. And on this thread some pragmatic money-saving advice as I believe was the original intent.

Zdad: I have no clue what chumra mongering is but please don’t bother explaining it — as I mentioned before this thread is not the right venue.

Try brown rice. The longer cooking time vs. white should help in a slow cooker. And no beans, so no chulent similarity.

I’ll let you design a recipe based on what you have, but I’d try either olive oil with vegetables (I know you “prefer” canned) or if you’re going with chicken that’s even better. And of course spices and water.

Gavra: I thought this thread was about NOT accepting tzeddakah but living within ones means, unlike the thread this is a spin-off of. As such, it would be advisable to only give advice that readers are likely to implement, not simply “stir the pot” by jumping on their religious stringencies first.

Aside from the fact that one probably needs to be matir neder before changing a minhag, assuming for arguments sake that all these kashrus issues are just minhagim.

Health: it’s just seemed too complicated to wash at the time, and not washing felt wrong. I didn’t think of “not touching” the bread, but I’d probably need gloves/plastic bags for that. Everything, including water, is available in a hospital, I just don’t usually like to bother the nurses, and when I do there’s no telling when my request will be fulfilled.

In order to wash while in bed (assuming I’m hooked up to iv or haven’t yet gotten out or I simply don’t feel up to it) I’d need a proper cup (usually use the ice water pitcher) something to pour the water into (the bedpan- why else is it there; and then I’d need to explain “that it’s only water”) and of course paper towels to dry my hands on (tissues will work, but they will shred). Again, nothing impossible, just not worth the effort for one slice of bread when not in the best of health, AND have to bentsch afterwards. My point was that the OU/chufK/OK I’m not really sure who, would do many patients a favor by making it mezonos.

Opposite experience yesterday. A guy cleaning in a Manhattan shop was wearing a t-shirt with a Yeled vaYalda logo. Turns out he works there in the mornings – and he commented to my husband “your people are good to me”.

Part of the problem with falling asleep with the lenses on is that they might not get a “lengthy solution soak” if you sleep longer than intended. Some people alternate between two pairs (and keep it for 4 weeks instead of 2) to prevent this, since the other pair is always fresh and hydrated.

However if your eyes are dry you’ll still need to wear glasses instead.

Avocado, let ripen out of the fridge. Potatoes – needs ventilation esp. if you won’t use fairly soon, but refrigeration isn’t good.

Mewho: Try wrapping your kirbies in paper towels in the fridge to absorb the moisture and keep it from spoiling too soon. Don’t expect miracles though, they don’t stay fresh for long.

Thanks everybody for speeding up the closure of this thread… I’m holding my breath. (There was a double standard anyway with my recent posts on this topic not going through.)

Chalila, I’m not sure if he’s guilty or not, but I’ve yet to see one therapist come out publicly stating this (besides the original one that started this case).

And Wolfish, I’m sick of this question. Whatever one answers he/she is doomed. There is a concept in L”H of not believing yet being smart enough to “err on the side of caution”.