Mammele

Amazing. There are no words…

Health: My two cents of advice to you: try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes for a brief moment, so you can at least understand their point of view. Besides for its immediate benefits, it may even help you in your quest, and in life in general.

If the OP is truly a kid, meeting his nutritional needs is harder on a vegetarian diet, especially since he most likely isn’t in charge of food shopping and cooking. And protecting our health is a commandment.

I know you’re all talking in general, but he probably doesn’t see it that way.

LU: Be aware that a person can be a great speller and still misspell words. The brain can actually trick people into thinking a word is spelled differently than it actually is because it “knows” what the word is supposed to be. Immediate proof reading very often won’t help in such a case, but may help when the writing isn’t freshly written and the words ingrained.

If there was only one spelling mistake and you think he actually wrote the resume himself, he’s probably better at spelling than the ones that have perfect resumes written by others.

And here’s my two cents of advice: since you consider yourself Jewishly educated, you’ll have a much harder time respecting an Am Haaretz than a bad speller. And for most people, spelling can be improved much quicker than lack of Torah knowledge, especially with spell-check.

I’m not saying that guy was right for you, but choose your spouse wisely. In the scheme of life, there is so much more that you can/should respect in a husband than proper spelling. And unless you plan to mostly communicate by text it’s almost a non-issue.

Absan and most others chiming in now: Mothers (usually) bear their children, they don’t just raise them. Taking this crucial component out of the equation seems blissfully ignorant. But the whole college versus mothering is just as ignorant. Sigh.

Lol Zdad. I wonder how many crazies actually feel that way…

Akuperma: I don’t know about success in the US against malaria, but where I live in NY we have at least 3 types of mosquito, one of which is the Asian tiger. Growing up I only remember having to deal with the brown clumsy ones, even in the Catskills.

And the stupid government advice still mentions to avoid going out during dusk and dawn as that’s when mosquitos are most active. Even those websites that acknowledge the existence of all day/all night biting mosquitos. (At lease this was the case when I last checked a year or so ago). And

fighting standing water is kind of a lost case when these mosquitos can breed within 24 hours in water in a soda cap.

End rant.

SL: I don’t think it’s fair to pressure her where’s she’s from, especially since there’s only one likley neighborhood in the Bronx that you have in mind — regardless of your reason.

If the mods will allow

http://hamodia.com/2016/05/06/kohanim-may-not-permitted-visit-liberty-science-center-june-january/

I believe I’ve mentioned this is the past, but if the mods would create an anonymous thread, more posters would be willing to put their name+mother’s name out there for tefillos, kvitlach etc.

So basically the mod’s should delete who the poster is (perhaps replace all posters with anonymous) and just list the info. from within the post. So we’d never know for example if a name is from a one time poster, or the real Joseph.

Just a suggestion.

Kapusta: The mods don’t have Ruach hakodesh, or do they???

The situation seems off, or at least unusual, and unless she explains a bit more (why she took the job to begin with, what her parents knowledge and input has been, why the doctor is out while the patient was in [lunch break maybe] why she thinks there are no other jobs out there for her etc.) I’ll retain my suspicions.

Shopping: most Chasidish girls are not redt shidduchim before they are 18, at least not in the US. And for the few that get engaged at 17, they don’t usually get married before 18. Maybe in your Israeli Chasidish circles it’s different, but redting at 15 sounds extreme.

JF: are you implying that all references are blatant liars?

Also, nice things can be objective. For example someone can ask if the girl is to the quiet side or more vivacious, and both can be good depending on what one is looking or what trait complements his character.

Sparkly: when has Shopping ever mentioned that her family or school are Chasidish? You really need to read up on old posts before you chime in.

WB, ARwSF!

Has anybody tried standing desks or a treadmill/desk combo? Can any computer work get done while “walking”?

And going back in time weren’t shtenders used for standing while learning? Was it more common to sit or stand?

TM: ignoring the Halachik aspect for now, are you implying that non Frum owned car dealerships are more reliable/give better service based on your experiences with a dry cleaners?

Gamanit: With the current NYC decision, if you live in NYC, you can gather 200 petitions and request women’s swim hours if you have a local city pool. The city’s rates are more reasonable.

I stand corrected. There is apparently a Yeshiva in Crown Heights with a pool that offers men only swimming.

There were never any separate men’s hours at the Metropolitan pool in Williamsburg. If anything, the city should add men’s hours to boost their case.

NYC To Continue Separate Gender Swimming Accommodations; Hikind Praises Mayor, NYC Commission on Human Rights

So it seems NYC will be doing the right thing. Let’s hope the loony liberals don’t sue the city for opting to accommodate our needs. And I don’t think our previous “Jewish” mayor would have acted in the same manner (although it’s officially the Human Rights Commission that made the decision the Mayor at least sets the tone).

Shopping: try to be glad you’re in a community that shares most of your important values. Colored nail polish is not exactly classy, and most of our traditional communities are conservative when it comes to dress. The reason you feel otherwise is most likely because you grew up in a different environment – and you’re young which makes you naturally more adventurous – so you have a different perspective.

If I’d wear soft pink nail polish with soft grey cat decals/art (nothing ostentatious) would you feel it appropriate for a Bas Melech? Since I’m a grown woman and most likely the women in your former community didn’t wear those, I assume you’d find it unappealing.

And if you want to compare it to tatoos, there are stickers that may even appear real, so no actual issurim involved (perhaps maros Ayin, but for arguments sake let’s assume it’s irrelevant). Would you consider these appropriate for either men or women?

Finally, since our grandmothers going back many generations didn’t wear nail polish, most “chareidi” women didn’t feel it’s right to start this new trend, so they remained without. That’s part of what being traditional entails, although usually change does creep in slowly, hence the soft colors some embrace. Be aware that like everything involving tznios, it may be a slippery slope.

If it makes you feel better, nail polish and the solvents to remove them are generally unhealthy. Avoiding them will add to your schar for the mitzva of protecting your health.

Joseph: You mentioned they’ve been around for 50 years or so. I don’t think they updated anything since. The stories don’t have any technological items or even something as simple as a ball in them – they’re very educational stories of tzaddikim and midrashim – but nothing recent.

For current conversations a vaser-treger is less relevant than a sink… However, it’s still good background info to have — but not necessarily as a starting point.

Current childrens’ books may be less educational, but include trips to the zoo, kid’s games etc.

The Yiddish itself is mostly proper Yiddish, perhaps with a slight Chabad slant, the style a bit more verbose than your average conversation (which is the case with most good writing material). The OP wrote he wants to converse with people, so I thought other books might be more relevant, at least at first. If he wanted to attend a Gemara shiur, Machanayim might be more informative.

Thanks DY and Joseph.

LC: I was basing it on anecdotal “evidence” as an additional and counter point to what VM said. There are still those not happy with their Yiddishkeit, but usually with strings attached, such as learning difficulties that have soured Yiddishkeit for them. And most likely their learning troubles weren’t handled in the best manner. So we come full circle as many aspects can be intertwined.

I was really loathe to mention the word abuse as it has different connotations for different folks — but obviously those on the receiving end of the opposite of positive attention and caring will turn away in greater numbers.

So when it comes to basic parenting one may be too strict with a specific child that can effect her adversely, and even though it’s not considered abusive she may consider it as such if she’s overly sensitive and it’s not balanced by love.

Very often it has nothing to do with Yiddishkeit but they are not getting enough love and care from family and other authority figures. Or they simply don’t have any friends. People that are unhappy may blame it on the wrong things or simply turn to diversions. Because if one lacks in one area he may try to compensate in other areas.

Health: was the gun bought in America? If not, why does being an American matter.

The problem with harsher punishments is that many of these criminals are the opposite of chachamim and don’t think beyond the next 30 seconds. And of course when it comes to terrorists and other mass shooters, dying in the process is part of their end-game.

However, gun-ownership by the right people can stop a terrorist in his tracks sooner rather than later. The problem is that we apparently can’t differentiate between friend and foe when issuing gun permits.