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also, whether eating or sleeping over, always tell your host family if there are any allergies or special diets they should know about. if youre vegetarian, dont show up at someones house on shabbos and epect to be served lots of the things you like unless your host knows about it.
I’ve learned to make sure either my wife or I ask any “new” guests (those we have not had before) if they have dog phobias or allergies. Phobias we can deal with – we’ll put the dog in her crate. Allergies are more difficult, but not necessarily insurmountable. We don’t have to ask about vegetarians, because one of our kids is a veggie, so there’s always plenty to choose from even for the non-meat eaters.
Saw the thread title, thought you were referring to the clinic.
13 hours after havdala, give or take a few minutes.
Help clear the table. If your host/hostess doesn’t want you to help, they will see you made the effort.
Don’t hide in your room except for the meals. Bochrim are expected to attend a minyan. Girls, if not going to shule, should be out of their room(s) and spending some time with the host family.
(For visitors in Israel – if you are going for the entire Shabbat, don’t expect to shower when you get there. If you do shower, make it quick! Remember that water in Israel is dear, precious, scarce, and expensive!)
I took a girl once to the Ice Capades at Madison Square Garden, then out to eat at Cheers (a nice restaurant which is no longer around). I drove her back to her apartment, then drove straight back to where I lived. (It was about a 4 hour drive from NY.) Since I arrived somewhere around 4 a.m., I decided I would get my stuff from the car in the morning. When I opened the trunk the next day, everything was gone – clothing, tefillin, everything. The most expensive date I ever had, up until the time I actually got engaged (to someone else.)
Hashem put into the teva of the world that the sun rises during the day, rain comes out of the clouds and learning Torah protects the individual and the klal. This is not a miracle that we are talking about but nature.
So go wander with a gemara into Gaza, Ramalla, Shechem, and sit down on a bench and learn. See what happens then. We have to be on a certain madreiga for our learning to protect us. Unfortunately, we are not there. Our world is imperfect.
whats the deal with girls and the Israeli army??
They will be drafted, unless they have gone before a rabbinical board to certify that they are frum and do not want to go into Tzahal. At that point, they can either do a year of sheerut leumi or opt out all together.
My sons learning in E’Y claimed no knowledge of their fathers birth place on their student visas as recommended by their Roshei Yeshivos . . .
Am I the only one that has a problem with this? The Roshei Yeshivot recommended they lie on their forms?
Would they be suspicious if you came on one passport and left on another??
I’m pretty sure this is illegal. The border control people look through the passport before they stamp it; they will see there is no entry visa.
The IDF is our hishtadlut. It’s unfortunate Israel needs a draft, it’s unfortunate Israel needs an army, but that’s the way the world runs.
So DHM, what would you have said in 1948? That the Hagana should disband because Hashem is protecting us? Or 1967? Or 1973? What would have happened to all of the scholars if there was no army?
Put your trust in Hashem first and Tzahal second, but we are not on the madreiga to be able to depend on miracles.
I for one am not worried about what would happen if no one is drafted.
DHM, out of curiosity, do you live in Israel or Chu”l?
I for one would be…I like that the IDF united Jerusalem in 1967 and I can go daven at the Kotel when ever I please…
I would humbly amend this to ” . . . I like that the IDF with God’s help united Jerusalem in 1967 . . .”
If you have an Israeli passport, I would suspect that you have to enter Israel on that passport (because you are an Israeli citizen). Did you try calling the Israeli embassy, or speaking with a lawyer who has expertise? They are **very** strict about people entering Israel who have not done their Army service, and I know people who were arrested at the airport. If you’re planning on keeping your yerida permanent, why don’t you just renounce your Israeli citizenship?
Can one name a child “Rashi”???
Growing up I knew someone who was named Rashi. I believe he now has smicha as is living somewhere in the states.
Two experiences in Sinai Hospital of Baltimore, both rated good to great, B”H. Both times I went through the ER, and the doctors both times were caring and compassionate.
i think Gd would rather us pray from a siddur than an electronic gizmo.
I think God wants us to daven. The mitzvah is to daven; as long as it’s done in a meaningful way, does it really matter if it’s from a siddur or a “gizmo” (or by heart, for that matter)?
Why would you care what other people think? You’re doing what is correct- davening from a text. If people think you’re doing something wrong, then they have the problem – not you.
This isn’t texting; there’s no reason to use incorrect grammar.
Today’s grammar lesson is titled “There, Their, and They’re – learn the difference!”
Yes, we have a 6 year old Keeshond. (That’s a dog breed.)
The one brilliant plan I heard was to give it to a random non-Jew for a while or something without saying anything and hope they give it to a doctor to do it on their own.
There was a non-Jewish vet where we used to live who would “buy” the dog before the surgery, then “sell” it back afterwards.
We just stopped picking up the phone for any number we didn’t know, or any call that had the caller ID blocked. That pretty much took care of any phone solicitations.
I wear blue jeans. I wear them to work when I can, I wear them to shule, I wear them to travel. They are the most comfortable pants I own. In my community, wearing jeans is not a statement.
Yerushalayim, Kiryat Sefer, Bnei Brak, Be’er Sheva, Ashkelon, Ashdod, Netanya, Ra’anana, Imanu’el, the list goes on and on . . . If you’re looking to go through the hassle of moving, then why not move to Israel?
I always opened the car door for my dates, and I noted who did and didn’t unlock my door from the inside. It wasn’t a deal breaker, but it should be noted that the young lady I married did unlock my door.
The Ravens will beat the Steelers, and I’m hoping the Jets beat the Patriots. That will set up an AFC championship game that will be in Baltimore.
Of course, I will be watching the Ravens-Steelers live, as it happens, while you all will have to wait until Shabbat ends to watch. Just another advantage to making aliyah!
Catsup is a variant of ketchup. Neither are registered brand names.
For more info, see http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/catsup?rh=dictionary.reference.com
I know of a frum couple where the husband didn’t like his last name – so he took his wife’s last name instead!
Mint:
Yom Kippur cannot even be Mechaper such Shmutz.
You forgot to add “IMO”, because that’s what it is-your opinion. I’m glad we don’t pasken by anonymous posters in the CR.
mikehall12382
I suggest you look at someone/something else to blame for this other than facebbok. Sometimes a look at how you are doing things in the home is needed…
I am honestly shocked that the mods would let this comment through. What a rude thing to say to someone! What do you know about Eclipse’s home? Who are you to judge?
What’s a tie? I am proud to say I have not worn a tie in well over 3 years.
The OP is, of course, assuming that Facebook is assur. I make no such assumption.
Jeans, a comfortable pull-over shirt, nice thick socks, and comfortable sneakers.
If you are in business class they will give you ear-plugs and an eye mask. If not buy your own to help you sleep.
I flew Turkish Air last year between Israel and NY and all the passengers got these for free.
Best thing to do is get rip roaring drunk on the free drinks.
I don’t think any airline serves alcohol that’s free anymore.
Does he talk or shmooze during davening, or does he take it seriously?
When we made aliyah, I spoke to the Rav of our new shule at length about changing nusach and pronunciation. (All the shules on our yishuv are nusach Sfard, while in America I davened Askanaz.) He told me it was OK to switch nusach, but not to switch pronunciation to Sfardit. His reasoning was that most people who do so end up pronouncing the words incorrectly. Since the shule has no rules about having to daven Sfardit when davening for the amud, I stuck with my own pronunciation.
I think it’s terribly rude. Do your shopping and wait in line like everyone else. Is the person doing the actual shopping any more important than the others waiting in line? You don’t have time to wait in line? Then come back and do your shopping later.
All states have an exemption for religious purposes.
The OP was asking about serving alcohol at tishen and onegs. Kiddish is for religious purposes; tishen and onegs are not. There is no halacha to drink at a tish or oneg.
Last year, during the first huge snowstorm in Baltimore (the one on Shabbat Chanuka), the Rav of one shule stopped davening in the middle so some of the men could shovel a path through the snow so paramedics could walk someone on a stretcher down the block to the medic unit.
My wife and one of my kids each have one.
I grew up with a dog as a kid. We acquired one six years ago, and we are very happy. She’s a great dog, and I couldn’t be happier that we’ve had one. The kids lover her to pieces.
I believe there are issues with walking a dog on a leash on Shabbat is there is no erev.
We own a TV.
I actually watch much less here than I did in the states. On Sunday nights in season, I watch football. During the rest of the year, I may watch a show here or there, but that’s about it. Occasionally, I’ll watch the news if something really important is happening.
We also have unfiltered internet.
And, we have a dog.
And, we have a child in Tzahal.
That about sets the record straignt.
Mamashtaka was joking.
I will say that I once had a long-term chavruta with a guy who learned in yeshiva in the morning, worked as a legal clerk in the afternoon, and went to law school at night. I didn’t know him before he was married, so I don’t know how his shidducim went. However, I can say that B”H he married a wonderful lady. (Am I allowed to say that?)
Of course there’s something wrong. College is assur. Why go and demonstrate the fact that you don’t have bitachon that Hashem (via government programs and the shver) will provide? Who would want to marry such a boy?
Before an argument starts, I am presuming mamashtakah is just joking. Please respond accordingly.
We made it a point to never answer a mishullach after 9:30 p.m. I would tell them (through the door) that it was too late at night. I very rarely gave to meshullachim collecting for out of town yeshivot. I explained to them that we decided what tzedaka we had would support our local institutions. I would say this nicely, but firmly. Of course, if it was hot out, I would always offer them a cold drink.
Besides, we had a dog, so many meshullachim never wanted to come inside anyway. (She’s actually very friendly, but they didn’t know that.)
Furthermore, not only would a majority of litvish gedolim concur that it is proper to not davka open the door, I’m not sure any would disagree.
I love it when people throw around terms like “majority” and “any.” Have you spoken to a “majority of litvish gedolim?” No? Then what right have you to make a statement on their behalf? Have you personally spoken to any gedolim about this? Would you really take up the time of a gadol for something so insignificant?
mamashtakah,
Now that I’ve asked, can you ask your Rav and let us know his reponse (rather than your assumed response of his)?
I did ask. He did not see any halachic problem with opening the door for a date, or a wife, or a daughter for that matter. He is of the strong opinion that opening the door is absolutely not chukat hagoyim. He added that he opens the car door for his wife. I asked him why HE does it, and his answer was “because it’s a nice thing to do.”
The problem is that the OP tries to make something assur in halacha that just does not exist. I tell you what, so right, go ask your Rav what he thinks and let us know.
Have you tried the government? Social Security and CMS (formerly HCFA) in Woodlawn? The government agencies in D.C.?
opening the door is for married couples only (or those engaged)
And your source for this statement?
Before you try excusing this behavior with whatever excuses you have, see if your excuse still stands after asking yourself this:
Why shouldn’t the girl open the car door for the guy?
Back in the days when my wife and I were dating, my car was not equipped with electronic locks. I had a key, and the doors could be unlocked from the inside by pulling the button up. I always unlocked and opened the door for the girls I dated; I then noted if the girl leaned across from her seat to unlock my door from the inside. The girl I married was one of the few who did.
I eat it on Sunday, and sometimes I don’t even bother to heat it up first. Tastes good to me either way.
Yes, most guys can tell you if they found her attractive or not. But details…forget about it.
It’s funny, I used to stay with my aunt and uncle in NY when I went in for dates, and they always teased me because I came back afterwards and never knew details, like the color of the girl’s eyes. The one time I paid attention, and was able to tell them – that girl eventually became my wife!
I failed the first two times when I was 16. After the second time, I saw the examiner’s clipboard and the checklist with what I did wrong. I practiced those things, and did fine the third time.
After we made aliyah, I passed the test on the first try.
You think you’re on time, but when you get to shul, they have already started and you missed borchu. Setting a clock or watch ahead solves that.
Know what else solves that? Stop playing “Jewish Time” and simply train yourself to be on-time. Believe it or not, much of the rest of the world manages to get things started on-time, like weddings, family celebrations, graduations, meetings, etc. Gee, maybe I should post this in the Pet Peeves thread!