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Take the guy to a beit din.
The Admor of Sherputz, Moreinu v’Rabeinu HaGaon Shloimala Rosenbaum, shlita, has taught his talmidim always to answer a mazal tov with “IY”H by your simchos.”
We should all be zoiche to greet Moshiach with the Rebbe, shlita, bimhayra v’yameinu amain.
Just as you shouldn’t look to the CR for psak halacha, you should not look to the CR for legal advice. You need to ask an immigration lawyer familiar with Israeli law, or you need to work with an embassy or consulate official.
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Unless you are an accountant and you see the owners’ tax returns, you have no idea how much money they earn from the camps. Owners are supposed to delegate – that’s how the capitalist system works. The larger the owner’s enterprise, the more delegating she/he does. If your hashkafa allows, take a college class in microeconomics so you have a deeper understanding of how different parts of the system work together. Shabbat Shalom!
This is the way capitalism works. There is a large group of kids who want to be counselors; since the group is so large, the people running the camps can pay less. They know that if one kid doesn’t want to take the job, there will be many more lined up behind him/her who will work. The more kids there are, the less the salaries will be. It works that way in the “real world” job market as well, so you should get used to it now.
Incidentally, the first summer I worked in a day camp, I made a grand total of 50 cents an hour. (That includes staying overnight twice during the summer.)
“We forget we are in galus, we feel comfortable with the fact that the UN proclaimed it a land for jews… ha, how riduclous could our thoughts be?”
Actually, Rochelle, the UN didn’t declare it a land for Jews – HKB”H did. It’s in the Torah. That’s why I am here and not in the States. The Torah doesn’t mention Monsey, Flatbush, Boro Park, Lakewood, Baltimore, Cleveland, Waterbury, Teaneck, Five Towns, Crown Heights, Deale, Toronto, Montreal, or anyplace else in North America.
But like I tell my kids – they can wake up and be in Hashem’s holy city Yerushalayim in an hour, on a bus that costs 15 shekels. Their friends have to take a plane that takes 11 hours and costs $1000.
I would suggest that y’all read the book “Eretz Yisrael in the Parsha,” by Rav Moshe Lichtman.
Mybat, one year the Rebetzin of our shule was pregnant, and she dressed up as a nun!
Why any return flights? The kid’s not old enough to be here for a year without going home? He doesn’t have any relatives/friends he can go to for the chagim?
Over the last several years, Moreinu HaRav Hagaon Shloimele Rosenbaum, shlita, has met with numerous boys and girls, along with their parents. He always stresses to the parents that they should have limited say in the matter of shidduchim, and that a child is far more in touch with what he or she needs, as opposed to what the parents want.
HaRav Rosenbaaum, shlita, has also forcefully come out against the shtussim that goes on with shidduchim – looking at the girls’ dress size, tablecloth color and food choices on Shabbos, camps the girl attended, and so on. He works hard to get the boys and girls of his community (near Tzfas) married as young as possible. It’s not unusual for all the girls from a particular high school graduating class to be engaged before they graduate!
BTW, Mod42, NeveAliza is a neigborhood in Ginot Shomron/Karnei Shomron. Very little yiddish spoken there.
If you have an interest in the IDF, especially the Tank Corps, go on a visit to Latrun. That’s both a museum and memorial for the tank corps. There are also a couple hundred tanks you can climb on, if you’re so inclined.
I once got to go to a pidyon that a man made for himself. He discovered that his parents never had one for him, so he made arrangements for a kohain to come (with a minyan of course) to have the pidyon.
Hey, I’m still around too – although it’s nice to be missed!
You should contact Maran Harav Hagaon Shloime Rosenbaum, shlita, of Tzfas. He heads an amazing community there that’s full of ruchnias and chessed. He himself must be one of the lamed vav. There are shiurim in his Bais Medrash in Hebrew, Yiddish, and English. There are many opportunities for chessed there as well. The Rebbe’s own wife, may she live ad 120, has a wedding cake gemach where she bakes cakes herself for chasunas in the community. There are kollelim set up for yungerleit and in the evening for working fellows as well. All in all, a diverse community with an outstanding, dynamic leader. There are many English speakers there; the community is about 30% Anglo. B’hatzlacha!
You may be able to pop the CTRL key off – gently – and look to see if there is something stuck underneath. Press it down firmly to get it back on.
I’m curious – I grew up in Baltimore, and lived there for 40+ years until we were zoche to make aliyah – why does the community need a siren? Are the clocks in Pikesville/Park Heights/Greenspring that inaccurate that people need to hear a siren? They can’t tell that it’s late by looking at a clock?
It’s very easy there to tell it’s late – the closer it is to Shabbat, the faster and wilder the cars are with people driving all of two blocks to get to shule.
And HIE writes “I think it’s great (living in flatbush) but i think it’s only good for a tremendous frum community like flatbush and BP. But baltimore isn’t such a tremendous community . . .”
I personally believe the same thing – sirens are only good for a tremendous frum community like Yerushalayim or Bnai Brak – but Flatbush isn’t such a tremendous community . . .
“Perhaps I should open a business that deals only in white shirts and get a hechsher guaranteeing that only yidden who washed negel vaaser touched the materials and machinary in all aspects of the manufacturing, packaging and shipping of the shirts.”
jphone, this is a great business model, but you need to use only people who go to the mikva before each shirt is made.
“You cant mismatch a white shirt with ANY color pants”
Actually, both my wife and daughters agree that a white button down shirt and khaki pants are a fashion disaster.
Perhaps this is because I and the shadchan did not live in the NY/NJ area at the time, but she was quite up-front with how much a successful shidduch would cost ($1,500 total) which I was quite happy to pay. I gave her a check during the week of our sheva brachot. I was also lucky; not only was that the first time I ever used a shadchan, but also because I married the first girl she introduced to me!
“Is there a reason why tachrichim/kittel must be linen?”
Because linen falls apart fairly quickly.
Yerushalayim, Chevron, Tiveria, tiyul of the Shomron . . . that pretty much takes care of the week.
Ruach Revival and The Stanley Miller Band
Better to ask your doctor, rather than to rely on opinions from people who are not scientists and have no idea what they are talking about.
I collected coins as a pre-teen and into my teenage years. I really enjoyed going to coin shows, because I met many interesting people who knew a great deal about the history of the coins they sold. My father also collected coins, and I enjoyed the time spent with him in a common hobby.
“And we have to accept it b’sever ponim yofois!”
Why? This school rejection thing is an embarrassment on the entire Lakewood community. The people running the schools should be ashamed, and the rebbeim should be speaking out forcefully against this.
Cherrybim wrote: “When we touch a davar sh’bikdusha, the holiness is tranferred over to our hand and we can kiss it, i.e., kissing: a sefer; a mezuzah; sefer torah; t’felin; s’fardim kiss their hand after shaking the hand of an adom chashuv.
The order is never reversed; we do not kiss our hand and touch it to the object.”
Years ago, I remember one of my Rebbeim telling our shiur that it’s acceptable to kiss the Sefer Torah by touching it with a hand and then kissing the hand only if that is how one kisses his wife.
Every year my kids ask me what I want for Father’s day, and I always tell them the same thing – kids who listen the very first time, all the time. Still waiting for that to happen . . . sigh.
Since there’s no Father’s Day here (E”Y) let’s see if they remember it this Sunday.
My kids’ former school has had a blood drive every Father’s Day for the past 11 years or so, which was a great way for me to honor my Dad – he donated over 10 gallons of blood to the Red Cross during his working years.
What is the “freezer rule?”
Actually, the entire basis of the OP is flawed.
“The kids that come from ages 13-18 tend to stray from the derech (not all but alot) and i think this has to do with the difference bet. american chariedim and israelin chareidim.”
How do you know? Did you take a survey? Did you actually talk to the kids and their parents? Do you have some expertise in this field? How do you know they weren’t “going off the derech” before they came?
Oh, how I wish I saw this thread when it started!
Yiddishmeidel: “i was just in isreal for a visit… t’was amazzzing BUT i would never in a million yrs consider to live there!!!”
Didn’t we just read about the meraglim who spoke lashon hara about E”Y? Think carefully before you refuse a gift that Hashem gave you! How can you possibly say such a thing?
Notpashut: “As I’ve mentioned on a previous post DON’T COME WITH KIDS BETWEEN THE AGES OF 10 – 20!!”
I wish I had seen this when it was posted six months ago. I don’t know where you come up with stuff like this, but it’s pretty obvious you do not know what you are talking about. How can you make a blanket statement like that? (BTW, I made aliyah 2 years ago, and I came with my wife and our 3 kids, all of whom were between the ages of 10 – 20!)
“The litmus test of a person’s yearning, and specifically for Eretz Yisrael, is that when the opportunity presents itself, and it will present itself for a person that yearns, they either take it or have a very, very good halachic reason to not fulfill it and if, for some reason, they’re bound to stay in the Diaspora because of the halachic issue, it should pain them.” — Rabbi Pinchas Winston
“In my family we FIGHT over the end pieces. Everyone wants the shpitz of the challah. It has the most crust, what could be bad??????”
My daughter loves the end pieces. One she shmeers through the salt, and the other she shmeers with humous.
Didn’t you all ever see the poster titled something like “NY’ers View of the World”? It shows NY as huge, and the rest of the world being pretty tiny.
I don’t know – a group of us asked our Rav (in my former city) about davening on a plane, and he quite pointedly said one should daven in his seat. Before you all jump on my with “But Rav Sscheinberg said . . .” I simply feel that I asked for a p’sak from a Rav that I know, who knows me, and is well respected in the city. This was his answer, which I follow.
BBQing on Friday afternoon is a weekly ritual at our house. We cook up chicken that we will have for Shabbat lunch. (We also put a few kabobs on as well as a late afternoon snack.)
Maybe someone can help me with this eating cholent on Friday night thing. I just don’t get it. I don’t understand how people can go eat a full Shabbat meal, and then go and eat cholent right after. What’s the point? After all, cholent is not the most healthy thing – not with fatty meat and kishka in the pot.
A shule near where I used to live always advertised cholent as part of the Friday night learning program. This is supposed to induce people to come?
Last year was a bit hard for me during the davening because it was our first Shavuot in Israel. That means that we had a longer davening, because all the second day additions (Megillat Rut, and Yizkor) get added into davening as well. It all worked out in the end, and I managed to daven, stay awake, and come home for a nice cheesecake kiddish before I went to bed. (Something else that I really liked is that Megillat Rut is read 20 minutes before davening starts in the morning.)
Ames, when I lived in Baltimore City, their policy for jury duty was “one day or one trial.” That means that you go sit in the court room. If you are not picked for a jury, your service is completed at the end of the day (until the city summons you again, usually about 2 years). If you are picked for a jury, your service is completed at the end of the trial, and you can’t be called again for 3 years.
I was picked twice. The first time I was an alternate juror on a murder trial – one guy shot another in the eye and killed him over $10. The other trial was a civil lawsuit which lasted two weeks. I, by virtue of being picked first for the jury, was the foreman for the jury.
I would advise against skipping jury duty. The very first time I went I saw a judge signing bench warrants for those who did not show up for jury duty that day. Besides, as long as you’re sitting and waiting, you can pull out a sefer and learn the time away. (Our jury room also had movies, one before lunch and one in the afternoon!)
Why do you want to get out of jury duty? Does your system go by “one day or one trial”?
My daughters are not old enough yet for this (my oldest is 17), but I’ve already told them that there are two kinds of boys to avoid when dating:
1. smokers
2. late to davening and/or talking during davening
This whole discussion reminds me of soemthing a friend told me over Chanukah. She has family who live in Kiryat Sefer. One of the little kids, in Gan, came home with a picture the class had colored in school. The picture was of the Chashmonaim fighting the Greeks. The Chashmonaim – with swords and shields – were wearing suits and (presumably black) hats!
“To address the hat/jacket in sweltering heat question, is it inconceivable that when a man loosens up, and removes the garments that he usually wears, that some of the standards he tries to live by stay home too?”
Yes, it is inconceivable. Standards should stay the same no matter what clothes the person is wearing. The person has the standards, not the clothing.
1. Download and install Sefira Counter (Google it). It even allows you to set up the minutes after sunset you wait in the evening, as well as an exact location.
2. If you can, daven with a minyan every night.
Zach is 100% correct. Making friends can be a huge difference. We have no family here at all, so our friends have become our family. We got some names when we came on our pilot trip, so we were emailing people well before we came. These were the people who were the most friendly when we got here.
Anyone here in Israel, if you came with NbN, they are having a one day tiyul to the Dead Sea area on Monday Chol Hamoed. The price is very reasonable, and transportation is available from Yerushalayim and Beit Shemesh. Check their website for more details. Shabbat Shalom!
RoshYeshiva, what kind of couple are you talking about? Kollel? Young marrieds? Are either (or both) working, or planning on working? And what do you mean by “without financial support?”
Before my wife and I started dating, she went out with two guys. The first had the same first name as me, and the second one’s name was my middle name. We joke that she combined the two and got me.
Let’s make sure that the families going away are paying full tuition to their kids’ schools. If not, then stay home.
I know a guy who rented a suit of mail (you know, armor). He knew where the girl would be at a certain time of day, so he walked down the sidewalk until he reached her. Then he got down on one knee and asked her to marry him. He wanted to be “her knight in shining armor.” This is true, I saw pictures a friend took of the whole thing.
There was a nice milchig restaurant in Flatbush that I remember back from my dating days. It was called Weiss, I think. Is that still around?
Actually, my mother asked our Rav this question many years ago. He told her that as long as the packages were sealed, they could be used the following year. Of course, you should ask your own LOR.