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Parkways are not for parking.
Driveways are not for driving.
What’s also interesting is that the last day of Pesach in E”Y is on a Friday, which means Shabbat still has to be Peaschdik (since chametz can’t be bought back). However, there would not be anything wrong with eating kitniyot, so we’re already planning a kitniyot Shabbat that week, including hummos, beans, etc.
I was learning in E”Y shortly after I got married. Just before the first Gulf War started, I got a letter from my parents asking us to return to the U.S. I took it to Rav Scheinberg, and read it to him. He smiled and said, “Nothing is going to happen.” We stayed, and B”H he was right.
Is this really any of your business? Aren’t you supposed to be dan l’kaf z’chut?
Throw this into the mix: Syrian Jews wash and say hamotzei on matza only during Pesach. The rest of the year it’s mezonot.
An iPhone is no different than anything else in life. Use a bit of self-control and you won’t be addicted. Really, is this such a difficult concept for an adult? (Thinking of another thread where someone complained about eating a ton of food at a shule kiddish, then not being hungry for the meal when he got home. Same concept here and there.)
Start visits to the dentist early; don’t wait until the kids are older.
I would add let the kids drink fluoridated water, not bottled. If your water isn’t fluoridated, make sure the dentist gives them fluoride treatments.
I was talking about the olam who doesn’t wear hats. Obviously they don’t believe that you need a second head covering for davening (and there is basis for that view). Yet some still wear the talis over their head for devarism shebakedushah during Shacharis and others the entire Shacharis, while wearing nothing on their head (other than a kippah) for Minchah and Ma’ariv.
I do this, to honor the Rav of the shule where I grew up and davened until after I married. Although it was a small shule, and not in the main frum area of the city, most of the kids who were brought up there are frum today, across the spectrum – from chareidi to yeshivish to MO. Although I don’t wear a hat, I do cover my head with my talit during most of shacharit – i made it my minhag, to follow the example of that particular Rav.
ARWSF – It’s really good to see you back – hope you are able to continue moving in a positive direction!
Suppose a girl doesn’t want to do it. Is she forced? Just curious.
mayabe you can split it with someone and just get her for like 2 hours of the morning or something like that. we always shear her.
Why, is her fur too long?
Sorry, couldn’t resist this time. 🙂
I had a friend long ago who was Chassidish, but didn’t follow any one particular rebbe. He said he was a chasid of the Baal Shem Tov.
Yes. It is not a grain, nor is it kitniyot.
How do you handle it?
It’s called self-control.
Mazal tov! And now you can send her the flowers!
I’m not so sure this is a kiddish Hashem. The Beren team knew the rules about game scheduling before they began the tournament, yet they went ahead and played anyway. They violated the rules, then raised a fuss when things didn’t go their way. Is this really what we want the kids to learn?
Why would you have to remove them? And why aren’t you asking a Rav?
Luckily, our gabbai tells people when they come to collect that they have to wait until the end of davening, and then they get to say their spiel.
They are probably counting the number of times the Muslims pray, not the amount of time they spend praying.
L’Chaim!
You should check into finding any of the Nero Wolfe books by Rex Stout. They were written from the 30s to the 70s, and have nary a girlfriend in site. They are also language clean. I still enjoy reading them, even though I’ve read almost all of the stories many times.
Machmir does not necessarily mean better.
When I will need to use the savings, I will try to come back here and thank you (and your father:)
My bracha to you is that you should never have to use money you set aside for emergencies in an actual emergency. (Then you can use it for other things.) But it’s good to know in the back of your mind that it will be there if you need.
I’d like to ask you since you sound like a responsible parent: which do you think is generally the preferable option (ie what Hashem wants)- for a mother to work full-time and stash away some money, or for a mother to work part-time (sending children off in the morning, greeting them after school, holding baby more) and no extra money for stashing?
The preferable option is not necessarily the best option, but that’s how it is in life. B”H when we lived in the states my wife was able to work 3 1/2 days a week, and the entire family left together in the morning and we all came back together in the evening. Ask yourself this – if an emergency comes up, G-d forbid, is it fair to place a strain on the entire family? Money problems may be an “adult” problem, but any major problem places a strain on the entire family, including the kids.
What happens if the mechanic says “it’s dangerous to drive this car until the brakes get fixed.” Do you tell him you don’t have the money, and drive the car anyway?
Practically, does it make sense to invest money while in debt (student loans, mortgage)? You usually pay a higher interest rate on loans than you earn on savings.
I’m not talking about investing money, I’m talking about putting it aside in an emergency fund – just a regular savings account. Even a small amount helps, like $20 or $30 a week. This is an investment in having it available for whatever life throws at you. Think of it as tzedaka for yourself, for piece of mind.
It seems to me that we should only put away money if it doesn’t interfere with our present obligations.
The problem with this is that when one lives a yeshivish lifestyle, there are always “present obligations.” Tuition turns into weddings, weddings turn into supporting kids in kollel.
I don’t intend to sound harsh; as you said, I try to be a responsible parent and husband. Maybe I picked up some of this thinking from my dad, who was raised during the depression in the 1930s. I can remember as a kid in the 60s and 70s watching him bring home his cashed paycheck every two weeks, and putting the money into envelopes for certain things – gas and auto, insurance, savings, medical, etc. He always told me to make sure I had some funds put away for emergencies, and he was right.
mamashtakah,
I think even learning is forbidden during Chazaras HaShas. So how will it help to switch one for the the other? And what if someone is learning on his cell phone?
The OP specifically stated after you finish Shemone Esrei, before the Chazoras HaShatz begins. But of course you are correct one should not be learning during davening.
If you are going to go with family members you might want to consider going seperate as well and meet up at home and avoid parking, Take the Bus or Train
I would say to get every family member a cell phone with texting capabilities, so that they can keep tabs on each other throughout the siyum.
One of my daughters told me that she’s going to hire bouncers for her wedding to make sure people turn off their phones, and that they don’t sit and text or play games during the chupah. I think she was at least partially serious.
If you make more than your expenses, you are ok, no matter how much you make.
Uhhh . . . no. It depends how much more you make than your expenses, and what you do with the extra. Look at the budget most people have. What will they do if there’s a sudden emergency – car needs a major repair, the breadwinner loses his/her job, someone has a major medical issue? You need to have extra money stashed away somewhere in case it’s needed on an immediate basis. Many people don’t do this. The budget above does not provide for this.
If a person has that much time, why not learn a mishna or two? It amazes me that we lived centuries without cell phones, and now we’re at a point that people can’t go 45 minutes without checking email messages. Do people get up in the middle of the night to check messages? Turn the phone off! Whatever messages are there can wait!
Two of my rebbeim hold you should daven without a minyan (at your seat) on a plane in any case, because it causes problems for the flight crew to get around and past the group.
tomim tihye, if you don’t mind my asking – there are no entries for life insurance, savings, or retirement. How do you plan to handle these items? What happens when your kids, IY”H, are ready to get married?
LIFO = Last In First Out
It’s an accounting term, or, in this case, a way of life for some mitpallelim.
it is ABSOLUTELY assur to have your toes uncovered while you are davening.
Then I guess there’s a problem, as hundreds of men and boys here (on my yishuv) wear sandals on Shabbat in the spring and summer. I myself switch from shoes to sandals when I get home from davening on Shabbat morning.
It’s hard to estimate for frum Jews since many don’t take the test.
Obviously your definition of “frum” doesn’t include the MO, since thousands of them take the test. The Sunday tests are filled with them.
Red Fur Does Ostentatiously Surprise
Without knowing the facts, you still havta ask yourself . . .
Without knowing the facts, the only thing you have to do is worry about yourself. This discussion is the worst example of lashon hara.
Are any of you so perfect that you really have the time to worry about people who don’t know you, and don’t care what you think?
Mind your own business, people!
The answer is speak to your Rav and not to a bunch of anonymous posters on the internet who may or may not know what they are talking about.
The mitzvah of yishuv ha’aretz is very optional today.
Depends on who you ask.
Anyone can be frum in EY, where Shabbos is enforced by law and kosher food is all you can find everywhere.
I don’t understand. You feel this is bad thing?
I have met a lot of unhappy Western olim, often with children in distress and most of their family back at home, justifying themselves with this superior attitude when in reality they are depending on their relatives back home for all but the basics.
I have met many who are just the opposite. They have jobs, they have a car, their kids are fine. Your words sound like an excuse.
Every country has Israeli drug dealers in its jails.
You can substitute U.S., Mexican, or Colombian, for Israeli and the sentence would be equally true.
CG, thanks for proving that much of the so-called tech boom in EY depends more on chu”l than the other way around.
CG “proved” nothing of the sort. He spouted his personal opinions.
I don’t see myself as affiliated specifically with 1 single place.
That’s a pretty sad thing to hear from a frum Jew. There’s no mitzvah to live in the world anywhere other than E”Y.
Tens of thousands of Israelis descending from Hungarian blood have applied for, and received, Hungarian Passports. The same is happening in the Embassies of other European countries in Tel Aviv.
Hershi, let’s play the cite game. You make some sort of outrageous claim, and I ask you for a legitimate cite to back it up. I would love to know where or how you came up with this.
Go to Kosher Bite in Baltimore and order the fries.
oomis1105 +1
You bang Latznu once or 2x every day in Ashamnu (if you say Tachanun) it means Leitzanus.
Nitpick: Not everyone who says Tachanun says Ashamnu. Most places davening nusach Ashkenaz do not say Ashamnu in Tachanun.
As a kid I used to lay on the floor, reading books. If a cousin or someone would step over my, my mother would make them step back over me in the other direction.
I thought by law kids had to be vaccinated before starting school. Is that only for public schools?
We recently had one of our shule members become an avel. He davened shacharit for the amud at our minyan, and he’s actually a slow davener. (He took 45 minutes on non-leyning days.) The gabbi took him aside and politely asked him to speed up a bit. He got it down to about 38 minutes and made those who have to leave for work much happier.
I had a roommate way back when we were both dating. He kept a list of girls he dated, and he was over the one hundred mark when he got engaged. He wasn’t being picky; in many cases it was the girl who didn’t want to continue dating him. B”H he’s married, lots of kids, they’re happy. What’s the big deal how many girls he went out with?
Nothing is wrong with it. Some of the best times of my childhood were spent with my father when he took me to see the Baltimore Colts at Memorial Stadium. He had season tickets for years. Johnny Unitas, John Mackey, Bubba Smith . . .
As for the caftan and turban, while unnecessary, it is certainly better than jeans and baseball cap-the preffered levush of many wannabe goyim.
I guess that makes me a goy, at least in your eyes.
I do usually wear jeans, as that is what’s comfortable. I do, on occasion, wear a baseball cap. It’s unfortunate you feel the need to come up with these off-the-wall pronouncements. Perhaps you should worry less about what other people are wearing and worry more about what you need to learn for bein adam l’chaveiro.
How about you reading these – “Vayoel Moshe” and “Al HaGeuloh VeAl HaTmuroh” and you will know the reasons.
For those who are not Satmar and do not hold of their shitos – can you give a better answer?
I would look forward to a Ravens – Giants Superbowl so the Ravens can trounce them again like they did in 2000.
PURPLE REIGN!!