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We have 6 boys over the age of bar mitzvah. There input in the invitation was the same as mine 45 years ago……0%.

Here is the text of the normal berochah. I did not listen to the video. From what you are asking it seems to be the normal brocha on a kiddushin.

ברוּךְ אתּה י-י א-להינו מלךְ העוֹלָם אשׁר קדשׁנוּ בּמצוֹתיו וצוָנוּ על העריות ואָסר לָנוּ את הארוּסוֹת והתּיר לָנוּ את הנשׂוּאוֹת לָנוּ על ידי חפּה וקדוּשׁין. בּרוּךְ אַתּה י-י מקדשׁ עמוֹ ישראל על ידי חפּה וקדוּשׁין.

the word “NO” is still in the parent dictionary. you dont have to give your 6 year old an explanation.

Reb Eliezer: For Maariv?No kedusha. For Shacharis? I dont know if you can as the tzibbur would lose out on birchas cohanim.

Libbi: This is not always so as can be seen by a story concerning R’ Avrohom Pam TZATAL. A yungerman in the yeshiva was asked to be a “tzenter” in a neighborhood minyan while walking to daven in yeshiva. He made the minyan but they davened at a pace that he was uncomfortable with. He asked Rav Pam if this happens again can he ignore the requestas the speed of the davening was problematic for him . Rav Pam suggested that he should walk a different route so that he wouldn’t have to pass that shul. So we see that Rav Pam’s psak was ruchniyos comes before chesed.

GH: Why do you think Lake Terrace changed?

akiva1: As a resident of Flatbush, I have no idea what you are talking about.

student: hopefully you realized that UY started this thread in 2008.I doubt he/she has not been sitting by the keyboard for 11+ years waiting for your response.

midwesterner: maybe to you its a rumor; tome it is fact it happened to my BIL and SIL who live in NJ but 35 miles north of Lakewood and to two of my neighbors.

Unfortunately my “big city” NY mouth opened without thinking and providing a coherent response. If the shidduch is local of course one should try and stay local and I think it is fantastic that there is a local option. However, if its a Baltimore/Philadelphia or Baltimore/NY shidduch then one would have to weigh the cost of making the chasunah in Baltimore versus Lakewood, considering one would have to become a member of that shul (unless they are already a member).

Shlita is common for anyone who has semicha.

Pro: I am wondering how firewood would be chometz?

SK: You started with the premise “Why has is become the new normalcy for mesivta boys to stay and go to a local mesivta versus everyone used to always go out of town”. Where and when was it “normal” to always goout of town? I was in Mesivta Chaim Berlin in the 1970’s and 90% of the talmidim were local (Brooklyn), 5% from Queens and 5% from outside New York State.

What makes you think it needs its own brocha?

1: That is between CTL and his son, not a concern of the mechutans family and certainly not a concern of the denizens of the coffee room. If the parents of the chosson or kallah has the funds then there is no reason to turn to their parents to share in the cost. You asked “What else do you need the money for?” None of our business nor the mechutans family.

Aer Roster : Once again your disdain for american Gedolim just wants us to change the channel. So I am.

CTL: DIL thinks he believes grandparents should pay for as much as possible as there are younger children to educate and marry off.

If that’s the case let kallah’s grandparents pay as much as what they want. While they have an achrayis to help defray the cost of marrying off and educating the younger children of your future machatanim you do not.

Ratuional: You stated “The Chazon Ish not only married “late”, he also married a woman who could no longer have children.” I have never heard this. In the ArtScroll Biography it only mentions they weren’t blessed with children not that she could no longer have children at the time they married.

Yes their is a chiyuv to get married and engage in pru urivu. However their is no place in chumash that states the age one should get married. It s quite obvious that hamon ahm does not follow the shemonah esray guideline. Your arguments are not convincing any body. I do not know a psak except for my chaveirim who are advised by our inividual moreh derachim who all seem to have an opinion different than yours. I am also not speculating why our gedolim waited. It is just a simple FACT that many of them were married in their late twenties. In addition, you have the entire seviva of those in Yeshiva Chafetz Chayim who dont even start until they are 25.

Are Roster: When Gedolim got married is not relevant to this discussion? according to you they were mechuyav Misa? eb Moshe was the Rav of a town from the time he was 20. I dont think he was worried about not having food.

bsharg2: Amy Klobuchar is the best for the Jews, out of the Democratic candidates. And your basis for this assertion?

bsharg2: who knows my children better ME or YOU??????? You think 21 is the oldest age? I can tell you without a doubt in my mind that my sons were not ready for marriage at 21. Not only that but neither was I. and yes I did gain some maturity between 21 and 23 when I started my shidduch odyssey. Part of that maturity came as my friends started to get married at that time so i dont agree that 21 is the the time they are mature or should be the oldest age.

because he is currently the duly elected president of the country.

Haimy: I know of a recent case where the public was notified through YWN on the need for tefilos where the brother of the niftar told me that when his brother left for the hospital it was for a routine treatment and then something happened that turned into an unexpected crisis and by the end of the day his brother was niftar. Although he was sick it was not expected at that time.

Haimy: This Story was Printed in the ArtScroll Biography of R’ Moshe Feinstein RE Reb Moshe’s sister Rebbitzen Chana Small.

When Rebbetzin Small was suffering for five years with a lingering, very painful illness, Reb
Moshe made a point of calling her regularly. During one of these calls, a grandchild overheard her
say, “Moshe, daven for me.” She listened to his response and then said, “Moshe, since we were young we all knew that the One Above listens to your prayers.” Toward the end of her life, Rebbetzin Small slipped into a coma. When she had been comatose for four days, her doctors suggested to the family that they “pull the plug.” There was virtually no hope that she would ever be conscious again, they argued, and even if she were to come out of the coma briefly, her brain could no longer function. The Small children asked Reb David and Reb Reuven to consult Reb Moshe on what they should do.Reb Moshe was in very delicate health and his sons felt that it would be dangerous to give him such tragic news, but they told the Small family that he had never permitted such a procedure. Soon after that call, Reb Moshe was reminiscing about his siblings and he mentioned the names of those who were no longer living; “Uber Chana leibt nach” (“But Chana is still alive”), he said.That very day, she awoke from her coma and became completely lucid. Her children and grandchildren visited and carried on conversations with her. For the first time she was able to meet a grandson’s new bride. For the next seven days she was completely conscious, and then she passed away.

One never knows the power of tefilla and Hashems help comes Keref Ayin. Even if the sword is against ones next.