LOLA

>I don’t think this is a women’s issue. The older single men seem >to be expressing a similar sentiment.

>Shtuyot. I’ve never heard a man express anything of the sort.

Just to reply to a post a few comments up- I dont think all guys express the same sentiments- (ie. bad/pitied/worthless etc.) but there is certain level of shame that some men exhibit and feel once they have dated for a few years, and are still not married.It can be hard at times to be part of a community that expects (rightly or wrongly) that everyone girl/boy be married at a certain age- and if not…well…keep at it, put your best face forward, daven, date, etc. I recall one friend, while in Yeshiva, was very affected by the whole process and would withdraw inbetween suggestions as he was constantly waiting for the next one.