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be careful not so say lashon hara!
Here’s one but I think that unfortunately people have gotten used to it and don’t realize how crazy it is. “Is she pretty/ is she skinny”. First of all, what guy doesn’t want a pretty girl?? but beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and i’d like to say that all people have something beautiful about them. I won’t say it because someone might pick it out and bash it so just know it think it. And so your gonna turn down a shidduch because someone doesn’t think the girl is pretty?!?! Gosh! And anyways, everyone has different tastes! Additionally, iyH after the skinny girl has kids, who says she will stay the same size?!? Would you rather have someone who is skinny or someone who bH has kids? like what once she’s fat you’re gonna drop her chas ve’shalom. (not that people aren’t necessarily skinny after they have children. Some things I always would love to answer a question like that is “Well before I answer you, I know that the girl actually had the same question as you. She wants to know what size YOU are because she only wants a mother in law who is a size two or four.” Or something like “is that’s what’s important to you? I don’t think she would want a mother in law who cares so much about those types of things. She doesn’t need a mother in law looking down her back to make sure she’s always skinny either. she doesn’t want that type of pressure.” I don’t know what I would say but I do know that if I get called up for shidduchim I would start off with a disclaimer ” Before you tell me the name of the girl that you want information about, I just want to let you know that I do NOT give information about looks/ weight.” That way if she asks you and you didn’t say that and the girl happens not to be gorgeous and not to be skinny, you’re not in an awkward situation that if you would say “oh I don’t answer questions like that” they might assume she’s fat/unattractive and that you are avoiding the question. Maybe there is a shidduch crisis because people are focusing more on the looks of the person then the looks of the inside of a person and who they are, not how much they weigh. It’s just an idea though I know that obviously that’s not the reason. Whatever the case, this whole post was just my view, I understand people have different view then me but either way, I wish everyone Hatzlacha in finding the right one quickly and without any pain or hardship for them and for their children…. Hatzlacha.
This may not have to do with anything in this thread but I think it’s an important point… It doesn’t matter what type of Jew you are, a Jew is a Jew is a Jew. Whenever you do something, go somewhere, wear something, look at something, say something, do or don’t do something… everyone is watching you. They are watching you and judging you… as a Jew. To them you are a Jew. When they see you doing something wrong or wearing something too short/too tight… they say “what is that Jew doing?” they KNOW you are better than all that, they know you are above all that. We just have to wait until WE realize that we are greater. They view us as greater and have higher expectations BECAUSE WE ARE GREATER. I don’t care what type of Jew you are, you are a Jew. The goyim see you and judge you as a Jew. If you wear something u shouldn’t or do things u shouldn’t they wonder why you are rebelling. They know we dress a certain way and have a certain way we should act. You are a Jew and are judged as a Jew. Remember that always. and remember that a Jew is a Jew no matter what type of Jew so respect him and love him. I hate all the fighting that goes on in this coffee room and yes you may say that I should just stop reading them. I don’t usually read them but it doesn’t matter if I read them or not, they are still being written and read. Why start fighting? you can disagree on issues, no need to get riled up about it. No need to start sinas chinum. we have enough of that thank you, we don’t need more. We have enough goyim hating us, we don’t need Jews as well. Stop fighting on here and stop the lashon hara too. It’s not worth it. Make this site into one that is pure kiddush Hashem and makes Hashem proud. It’s possible. You’re above it and you’re great and you are a Jew no matter what type of Jew. Remember that and act accordingly please. and be proud to be a Jew.
I’m in Isreal now and was never told what to do when Moshiach comes if you’re in Israel. Do you run for a number two/cab and run to the beis hamikdash or do you also get picked up from an eagle? It sounds like a funny question but I always wondered what to do because Moshiach is definately on its way
i don’t know too much about either, though i heard Rabbi Wallerstein tell hundreds of stories about it and say how bad and dangerous it is, and i agree with him.
I think that people shouldn’t be able to post comments on articles. All people end up doing is either bashing the person who wrote the article, or bashing someone who added a comment that they don’t agree with. Obviously people like adding their say to the articles so maybe the moderators can remove the lines where they bash other commentors. Everyone has their own views and opinions on every matter and it’s 100% okay to disagree but I think it’s horrible to bash someone who has a different view point than you. I read aricles about all these tzaaros that Bnei Yisrael are going through, and when you see the comments, you see that people are bashing each other. It’s so sad that we put people down cuz we disagree with them over tzaaros that are happening. Wasn’t the Beis Hamikdash distroyed because of Sinas Chinum?? We learn that all tzaaros come because we don’t have the Beis Hamikdash anymore so isn’t it a little ridiculous to fight over tzaaros which causes sinas chinum???? Hashem should save us from all these terrible tzaaros and bring us all together be’achdus and serve Him!
I’m from Machon Raaya and I just want to update what was written a few days ago by another Machon Raaya girl… THE WORK HERE IS MURDER!!!! when she posted that, we had just started school but now, two days later, we’re loaded with work. The only thing is, the Seminary is there for us. They listen to our compaints and they are there for us. You feel so comfortable with the staff, that it doesn’t feel like a principal/ teacher/ student relationship, it feels like a home. You don’t have to feel uncomfortable or awkward to go over to them and tell them how you feel. Today my principal came over to me and asked how it is going (no this is not the first time she asked me. She is constantly making sure we all are adjusting and she shows she cares, and it isn’t fake.) when I told her that I feel really overwhelmed, she told me to come to her when I have time and she will sit with me and work it through with me. I honestly feel like I’m in a home. Not just a home, but a small, warm, close nit place, with people who really care. If you want a big seminary, than this place is not for you. If you want a seminary where you aren’t just one of many girls, but you are a person, an individual, than this place is for you. It is extremely open minded. If you want to come with your group of friends, forget about it because you won’t fit in. Meaning that here eveyone is friends with everyone, there aren’t cliques or groups. so if you are gonna hang out with just your little group, don’t do it here. Here everyone is friends with everyone. Everyone cares and you feel that warmth from the second you step into our Machon Raaya Home. Hatzlacha to everyone, I know it’s hard but iy”H you I will daven for all of those 12th graders all over the world. Just relax, you’ll be fine. Smile.