some people use, but don’t post. so they will be members for while but only after, say, 5 years will they post something. takes major self control, I must say, to see some poster ranting on about complete nonsense and not set him straight.

HGF: its HeMsworth.

as opposed to die wrong

neve campus would be good if it weren’t in harnof which has another staircase every time you blink.

streekgeek- people lack common sense and sensitivity in the frum world and outside it too, that should not be a reason to push you off if you think about it. just feel sorry for those tactless people who are constantly putting their foot in their mouth and wonder why every conversation is punctuated by awkward silences and people stomping hard on their feet underneath the table.

you can be hurt or you can be strengthened by how blessed you are that you have the understanding and sensitivity to know if and when to say something.

the titanic

the Hindenburg

apollo 13

live music

music studios

Alaska

Denmark

Greece

Australia

farms

deserts

none of the above

“in the words of rabbi tendler “babies cant have babies” “

Unfortunately they can. which seems to be this world’s biggest problem.

getting a bf/gf married is a nice suggestion but many a time, the pair is not even a shidduch so it may not be the best idea. And what I was really focusing on was a parent’s attitude towards the action of the child rather than what to do about it.

and no, im not joe

I take deep breaths and let all the stress whoosh out of me. and then I say, when I get home, I am going to eat the entire pantry.

awesome book. original setting and plot and skillfully written. I like when authors use “show me don’t tell me”. you don’t have to give out every detail of character in a paragraph. you learn about the character through the story. whenever I see a book that starts off with something along the lines of:

“Chava was a beautiful girl with blue eyes and chocolate brown hair. She was smart and had many friends……”

I will immediately put it down. that’s not called skillful writing.

i’d tell you but then id have to kill you.

how about AFTER today I NEED a:

a) beer

b) advil

c) hug

d) good cry

e)ice cream sundae

f) hot Jacuzzi

g) all of the above

and I pick G

“Sadly, I see mainly BT and convert families teaching their kids these things, and not enough FFB families emphasizing the need to be ethical, moral, and law-abiding.”

stereotyping at its best

it hurts as well to not get any suggestions at all. alls quiet on the home front 🙂

im speaking for myself only and not LAB since I don’t know what his train of thought was but basically this generation is filled with people who have no respect for anyone not even themselves. and im just saying when you have no respect for yourself, you will do anything, degrade yourself physically and spiritually because you don’t think you are worth anything anyway. and not respecting others, especially authority….. kids nowadays (I know I sound like an 80 year old ranting grandpa but..)ok scratch that:even adults nowadays walk around thinking they know better than everyone and therefore disregard anything anyone else will say or put in place for their own good. people have no respect for rabbonim, sects of Judaism don’t respect each other, people among the sects of Judaism don’t respect their friends. its a respectless world in a nutshell.

all of the issues above seem to stem from what LAB mentioned: a lack of respect to authority or just a lack of respect for anyone at all including ourselves.

nobody cares about what anyone else is doing. that’s why the world is the way it is. s-e-l-f-I-s-h.

I am a poster that sticks out? why? and for the record, my name is not LIVERright.

I dunno. I cant see this going over so well for some reason.

yes I prefer o reilly as well but he wasn’t one of the choices.

I think Bookworm120 hit the nail on the head (maybe without meaning to). when someone lashes out with an insult, it is almost always meant sincerely. very rarely will someone insult in an insincere way (we call that teasing). and things that are said sincerely, imprint. in a big way.

Unfortunately, many compliments are forced or broad stretches of the truth (think: “you look beautiful” (take that dress off NOW!) or “This chicken is delicious (gag)”). and when something is not sincere, its noticeable. and it wont stay with you that long a time.

Yes I agree that there are a painful number of girls who don’t think for themselves and therefore marry whomever it seems hip to marry and then go on to raise another generation of non-thinkers. But, to those of us who think for ourselves and have some backbone in that spine of ours, we make a decision and are proud of it. and we don’t care what seminary rebbetzins think because we understand that not everything is for everyone and we have chosen what we believe to be the best for us. that goes for those who choose what the rebbetzins happen to be preaching as well. but we did not make this choice out of the lack of the use of our brain cells, we made this choice consciously.

And a side point, my sem rebbetzin would not consider a girl who marries a working boy any lower that one who marries a learner. Because she understands that not everyone is cut out for everything. SO its just a matter of picking the right seminary. which leads you to every other thread in this instant coffee coffeeroom.

ironpenguin: way to generalize! you have officially succeeded in presenting yourself as someone with a biased opinion.

get to know some brave girls who value torah and are doing all they can to be able to provide for a home where a torah foundation can be built. they are not doing this because it is “circumscribed” and because “they cannot fathom standing up and having a creative opinion.” this is not the easy way out. its hard, its daunting and its stressful. if you ask me, marrying a rich or professional guy seems like the easier option.