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People, especially women, often equate the word “illegal” with “wrong” and “aveirah,”
so glad we have you big strong smart men to explain all this to us….
so remind me again why YOU need shemiras anayim and we don’T??This trend started in the First World in the 1960s, with all the other immoralities that decade is infamous for having wrought upon society. It was in that period that the birthrate began a precipitous decline that has most sadly picked up ever since. This timeline coincided with the mass entry of women into the workforce. Whereas, previously women mostly were homemakers and stay at home mothers, the feminist movement began insisting women join the workforce and demanded government and social programs pushing society into that direction.
The feminist movement? How about the KOLLEL movement, where the husband abrogates his kesuba obligations?
So choose to educate your children that way. But don’t ask for government funding (aka “mandated services”) if you don’t comply with state requirements.
The title is used in Yekkeshe kehillos. It is given to someone who has served the community, often to mark a special birthday (60, 65…). In Breuer’s, the chover’s wife must cover her hair. Breuers also gives “Chover Tittel” (as it’s called) to a young man who has learned for a few years after marriage (I believe 2) and (once again) if his wife covers her hair.
My father-in-law z”l was a Chover. My husband told my children it’s part of their Kibbud Av vaEm towards their grandfather to use the title when making a mi shebeirach for my husband.The discussion of LV as a makom tuma has its place. But in these days where we seek to atone for sinas chinam, why isn’t anyone reacting to the arrogant and unwarranted:
send a (****formerly****) teiereh yiddishe neshama
Cheshbon hanefesh is supposed t be reflective, not upon someone else.
May we be zoche to see nechamas Tzion and yerushalayim!
Interestingly, our Rav once told me to use the escalator rather than the shabbos elevator. I was in the hospital with an elderly relative over Yom Kippur and needed to go up and down (from operating/recovery room back to room). He did not hold of Shabbos elevators, but this was 18 flights – while fasting – so he told me the best option was escalators (which ran between several floors) alternating with stairs
This is deteriorating into a discussion of the hashkafas of various magazines (why am I not surprised). I think the OP is asking which has a wider readership and who that readership (demographics) is
Why is it inappropriate? People buy burial plots as a segula for arichas yomim. Some have a minhag to buy tachrichim when they reach 70 (yekkes, for one). And do you think that the commercial casket makers don’t prepare in advance??
SO SHIMSHON is the nazir that kills the plishtim, not Shemuel. Shimshon also did not make himself a nazir – a malach did…..
Nezirus Shimshon doesn’t include the issur of tumas mes, and the no haircut is forever (not for a specified time period). See ???”? ?????? ?, ?”?
These are not cheshbon is for us to make…it’s a slippery slope to another religion where one person died for everyone’s sins.
We should each engage in our own cheshbon ha nefesh – and not in someone else’s.
I’m from a chasidishe (rebbish) family married to a super yekke. Interesting mix – we’re always exactly 15 minutes late!
As far as the word yekke – see the ramban on yaakovs brocho to yehuda – velo yekas amim
How much is a woman’s Torah worth? Whatever the seminary charges!!!
Haleivi- because the Persian law was that a decree could not be rescinded – hence the problem when esther begs achashverosh to rescind the decree against the Jews…..
Droish –
Look at the peshat meaning of the PASSUK.
??? ?? ??? ???? means that she will never again come before the king. Does that mean she was banished or killed? Midrash is not peshat. Am I a Kroger for having a hard time believing she had pimples and a tail?
@shlishi-
ONLY the chilonim discriminate against Sefaradim? What about Emanuel? I just came back to Israel and there were Ashkenazim and Sefaradim on the flight. One of the ashkenazim ran around the plane trying to find ten ashkenazim for a minyan. When my husband asked him why, he said “I NEVER daven with —(and he used a deragatory word for Sefaradim).”
Death of gedolim? Death of an innocent child? Fires? Illnesses? What is it going to take for people to realize this is all shtuyot!
Yehi ratzon shenizke lirot benechamat tzion veyerushalayim.
First of all- from WIKIPEDIA:
Facilitated communication (FC) is a process by which a facilitator supports the hand or arm of a communicatively impaired individual while using a keyboard or other devices with the aim of helping the individual to develop pointing skills and to communicate. The procedure is controversial, since most peer reviewed scientific studies conclude that the typed language output attributed to the clients is directed or systematically determined by the therapists who provide facilitated assistance.
and now from me- there have been several cases of children from frum homes removed from their homes because a nonverbal child typed an accusation against a parent – and the same people who are so nispo’el over this letter here were busy yelling that the kids were inaccurate there – ?? ??? ??? ?????? ?? ??? ????????
What about the Rashi on Shirat Devorah – “OORO MEROZ” – that Meroz was a star whose inhabitants didn’t come to belp Devorah and Balak?
wellmeaning-
The original post on FB asks posters to INCLUDE their local z’man hadlaka;
The post reads:
A Jewish response to tragedy is to add light to this dark world. Women around the world are uniting to light candles for this coming shabbat, March 18, in merit of the holy souls of members of the Fogel family murdered mercilessly. PLEASE CHECK LOCAL SHABBAT CANDLE LIGHTING TIME and make this your status. May Hashem have pity on his children.
Guys, please remember if you live on your own, you can also join in by lighting the candles for shabbat or you can get family and friends to do so!
Please note that if you already light shabbat candles, it is better not to add extra candle in their memory, but rather invite a friend who does not light to do so. If you keep shabbat you may choose to light the candles a little earlier.
May Hakodosh Boruch Hu inundate our world with his light and the light of peace and may the holy neshamot (souls) of these special people who lived for Israel and for peace enjoy eternal life and be our emissary in asking G-d for peace.
Maybe you should be dan lekaf zechut as a source of aliya for the neshamot of these 5 kedoshim who died al kiddush hashem
ABCD:
“the reason being this way you are not preparing the kitniyos mixtures yourself on yom tov”
– you may own kitnios on Pesach; You may use kitnios on Pesach; you may touch kitnios on Pesach; you may NOT consume kitnios on Pesach….
Preparing (ie touching) kitnios on Pesach is ok. Probably better to buy premade to avoid spillage on your dishes etc….but it’s not because you’re doing it yourself…
and the reason there is no inyan of kitniyos for a baby is b/c s/he is a choleh.
observanteen –
you “just read somewhere” – source, please? ?? ????? ??? ??? ????? ???? ????? ???? (???? ?)
and your friend had a heter of ???? ???? because her FATHER was in the city??
What are they teaching you girls these days?
My advice – when you get to sem, learn well, stay off the internet and grow up
Actually, Syrians do not accept adult geirim. If a child is adopted, and needs giur, he is converted and fully accepted. This taqana was enacted in the early part of the last century – men were travelling on business and returning with wives whom they claimed had converted.
The taqana is quite stringently enforced in America and South America (the communities for which it was enacted). Several years ago, there was a ger from Israel who had married an American Syrian woman. He was not given an aliya in the NY shuls. When he complained to Hakham Obadia Yosef, he was told, “Come to Israel and you will be called up to the Torah- in NY, the taqana remains in effect.”
The community does NOT has veshalom treat geirim as non-Jews; they are accepted for edut, etc. However, they are not allowed to marry in.
I don’t know the gemara’s source, but it can’t be a pasuk. Tanach was “sealed” (chatima) by the Anshei Kneset Hagedola at the beginning of the second Bait Hamikdash. Hence, you have no psukim being generated about current events then as you do with Bait Rishon.
Eshes chayil class????????????????????
does that mean the boys are in Talmid Chochom class?
This is from the Far Rockaway/5 Towns organization ACHIEZER:
12 AM Sunday Night/Monday Morning:
By 12:45 AM, their heat was repaired and food was delivered to their home.
8:30 AM Monday Morning:
A 78 year old woman was trapped in her home in Lawrence. Four volunteers were dispatched to the house, where they shoveled her out, had her vital signs checked (through the help of Hatzalah), and one volunteer delivered her enough food to last until Shabbos.
8:45 AM Monday Morning:
10:30 AM Monday Morning:
We received a call about a man who had passed away on Sunday. The family wanted to have him buried, but due to the blizzard conditions, the burial was delayed, and as of Monday morning, it was impossible to get a minyan out to the cemetery.
11:30 Monday Morning:
10:15 Tuesday Morning:
A gentleman from the Five Towns was scheduled for surgery which had been approved by insurance and setup through our office. He had no way to get to the hospital, and furthermore the pre-arranged babysitter had no way of making it to their home.
We arranged for a driver to take the man and his wife to the hospital, and paid for caring babysitters to be with the children for the remainder of the day until tomorrow morning.
We give thanks to Hashem for allowing the Achiezer team to be there for those who need us, though we continually pray for the day, when we will no longer be needed.
As the 2010 calendar year draws to a close, we ask you to help us, and allow us to continue to help all those around us who require our assistance. As you will see in our newsletter, which should arrive at your homes over the next few days, our call volume is expanding, and we are in the midst of rolling out some new, innovative and vital programs for the members of our community.
The support that you lend, will allow us to continue this great mission, and I thank you all personally for enabling us to make the dream called Achiezer come true.
If you know of a friend, neighbor, or relative who is stuck in their homes, lacking basic staples, in need of shoveling, or even some bread and milk, please let us know.
Additionally if you know of anyone that would like to join us and volunteer with this initiative, please call our office right away.
Call the ACHIEZER hotline at (516) 791-4444, and Esther or Eli will be glad to setup assistance for those who may need it.
In our family, once you b”h reach 60, we wish them “du zolst derleiben moshiach’n mit gezunt and nachas” – Loosely translated: you should merit to live to see Mashiach, with your health and nachas.
and b”h my 2 grandmothers lived to almost 100
mbachur-
a predictable siman ra? what happened to ur bechira?
MOD:
First of all, the process may have taken more than 20 min- they edit the trial for TV. And small claims court proceedings generally last for about 30 minutes total.
Secondly, the producers of this show check public records for people who are filing claims in small claims court. They contact the defendants and offer them the option of appearing on the show, and if they lose, then the show pays the cost. If the defendant agrees, they make the same offer to the plaintiff.
So- this means that “M&H” (who at least chose not to have their family name on TV – zchus avos!) FILED A FALSE CLAIM IN SMALL CLAIMS COURT. Had this gone to trial in court, they were willing to swear/affirm that all this was true.
Am I the only one who thinks that funding a sheitel this way is “tovel vesheretz beyado”?
How are we an “or lagoyim?”
First of all, that’s the idea – you are now reminded to be careful to light. BTW, that seems to be the source for adding a light for each child – since the kimpiturin was not supposed to get out of bed, she couldn’t light…
secondly, on yom tov you can light anytime through the evening. Our minhag, in fact, is to light right before kiddush so that the shehecheyanu applies to the lecht as well and the wife can answer amen to it without it being a hefesek for her for kiddush.
bottom line – ASK A SHAILA, NOT YW COFFEEROOM!
I do my rounds a little differently:
Roll out 4 strands
Put them in the shape of a tic-tac–toe board (two down, two across, but overlap like a weave). Leave a little space between the strands.
Now go around clockwise over-under once with each strand (ie, take top right and move it either over under the strand next to it – whichever looks right; then take next strand and do the same, all around.) Now reverse direction, going over-under counterclockwise.
I rarely have enough dough to go a third time around, but you could….
Flip the whole thing over and place in round pan.
BTW – i add cinnamon/sugar in 2 ways –
1- sprinkle the top with cinn/sugar after you egg it. You can egg it with the white only b/c the sugar helps brown it…BUT this way gets the underside of the challah deckel dirty (which is why I started doing it the other way,..,
2- slit each rope lengthwise, drizzle in sugar/cinnamon mix, close the slit … the kids love the “surprise”
in any case, a gut gebentshed year!
Our son’s chasuna was held at a very “posh” hall in New York. The morning after the wedding, I called the caterer/owner to thank him for all he had done. His secretary asked me why I wanted to talk to him. When I told her, she said it was the first time she could recall that a baal simcha called to thank, not complain. Bemused, I then called the photographer, florist and band – same reaction!
If we want our children to build homes based on middos tovos – specifically hakaras hatov – shouldn’t we be makpid to express our hakaras hatov on the day they begin their homes?
Helpful says: The white shirt thing has nothing to do with this issue. It is simply a uniform for Bnei Torah, as Yidden are supposed to have a uniform
But a soldier who appears in a dirty, rumpled uniform can be court-martialed!
And a soldier who wears a uniform that he doesn’t deserve can be jailed!
And a soldier must always be conscious of not being a “disgrace to the uniform.”
It’s not a pasuk but rather a ma’amar chazal found in Gemara ??? ????? ?? ?”?.
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Kasha-
Correct me, please, if I’m wrong…but don’t those same poskim you cite all speak to the obligation of the husband to support his wife (and thus she need not leave the home)?
How do we expect our young women to “support”? By using the internet? That’s more outside than these teens on the street!
yeshiva guy-
adam was machshil his wife by adding to the riboono shel olam’s commands and NOT TELLING HER IT WAS A “SIYAG.” Look at meforshim!
WIth reference to Rav Falk’s sefer: Remember how Adam Harishon was machshil his wife!
oomi- thank you for your comment.
I once heard a beautiful explanation for tzniut – you conceal something precious, but it can be revealed when appropriate. If something is disgusting, you hide it at all times. If we taught our wives and daughters that tznius is an expression of their value and self-worth, rather than to cover something which has negative powers, don’t you think that would enhance the value of tznius in their eyes?>
mod-
why isnt this loshon hora?
NJ???
Havent you heard how the new governor is cutting education jobs??
jobless:
Let me understand this. You finished a masters in a field which requires you to work with kids when they’re available (after school/sundays??) and then are having a hard time getting a job which allows you to be home with your kids after school?
You were ill-advised…
When my daughter was looking at careers, she was told (by one of the frum “ezpass” degree programs) – become a therapist, you can make your own hours. Sure – (insert sarcasm here) – no one wants to take their child to a therapist after school, or on sundays….only when it’s convenient to you.
we and our daughters have become victims of the entitlement mentality. If you want to earn a decent living, you need to work – and work hard. If be”h you are successful, THEN you can make your hours and pick your clients..
tomim/cherrybim/wolf-
as a member of KAJ, it was said many times by the Rov.
According to Rav Schwab ztl the tune of “ledovid boruch” sung in Breuer’s on motzai shabbos dates back to the beis hamikdash.
I also heard that the “nah nahs” that many shuls insert in the davening on yomim noraaim (between phrases that the chazan sings) dates back to the geonim.
as far a trup – remember that different kehilos have different tunes – ashkenaz/syrian/morrocan/yeminite/yekke etc…
From Wikipedia
[9]
The earliest written source for this custom is the sefer Oheiv Yisrael by Rabbi Avraham Yehoshua Heshel, the Apter Rav. He calls schlissel challah “an ancient custom,” and also offers several kabbalistic interpretations. He also writes that after spending forty years in the desert, the Israelites continued to eat the manna until they brought the Omer offering on the second day of Passover. From that day on, they no longer ate manna, but food that had grown in the Land of Israel. Since they now had to start worrying about their sustenance rather than having it handed to them each morning, the key on the challah is a form of prayer to God to open up the gates of livelihood.[9]
Check your american insurance. We have blue cross/blue shield and it covers 100% worldwide (better than the coverage in the us). you may have to pay up front, but they’re very good about reimbusement turn around times. We only found this out after two daughters had aim in seminary and one son had it for four years in the mir!
Parsley-Garlic Chimichurri
1 large bunch of fresh flat leaf parsley (he says to toss the stems, I usually leave quite a bit on)- You can either buy the prechecked or check your own carefully. It’s obviously financially cheaper to use the regular – but it’s up to you if you feel like checking the leaves!
8 cloves of garlic, peeled
3 tablespoons minced onion
5 tablespoons distilled white vinegar
5 tablespoons water
1 teaspoon kosher (not table) salt
1/2 teaspoon dried oregano
1/2 to 1 teaspoon hot pepper flakes to taste
1/2 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
1 cup extra virgin olive oil
If you like the fresh crisp flavor of parsley, use immediately. Letting it rest overnight will balance out the flavors.
Sorry to burst your bubble-
1; he won the district, not the main event (that’s held on Yom Ha’atzmaut). It’s like getting into the semifinals…..not yet winning the world series.
2; there are different tracks for religious and non-religious students. For example, non-religious may be asked to distinguish between the three Isaiah’s and their time periods (non of which is pre-churban bayis rishon) – not a question you would ask a religious student!
But – a yiddishe kup bleibt a yiddishe kup!
NO pidyon is done if a male is born VBAC. I, too, learned the opposite in school, and was deeply embarrased when I had a boy VBAC and told my rov that we were planning a pidyon. Thus began my problem with seminary girls teaching halacha….
as far as the miscarriage – the mishna explains that if the fetus was “formed” it releases the parents from pidyon obligation. In recent years, it has become more and more possible for a woman to know that she is pregnant before 40 days (the mishna deadline, which btw is the day when gender is established hormonally), and thus that she’s having a miss. Previously, they probably thought she just had a late cycle. In any case, a miss before 40 days doesn’t count and a son born naturally after that is the recepient of a pidyon.
The entire ashkenazi population is descended from about 20 families who left Italy with Reb Klonimus and settled in the Rhine Valley at Charlegmagne’s behest. SO – if for each of those families who might claim descent from Dovid Hamelech, at least 5% of ashkenazim have that yichus….
“i always thought laundry meant on clothes meaning i could wash towels sheets and other stuff like that”
maran (shulkhan arukh) says you can wash “flat” like towels etc (even though you shouldnt change the beds (except for in case of need- dirty…). Ashkenazic minhag is not to do any laundry (although my sister in law sorts it all as she brings it to the basement…)
Hate to burst your ashkenazic bubble…
Sefardic Jews DO honor Rosh Hodesh by eating meat…and we don’t do laundry during ???? ??? ?? – which this year is a long stretch!
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