Don’t go without a support network, there is lots available. Anonymous helplines like Yitty Leibel helpline 718 435 7669, and recognized Rabbanim and Rebbetzins who have helped many others find stability. Gut voch .

FYI When going from NJ to NY over the Outer Bridge Crossing you change from a 65 mph limit (on NJ440) to only 50 mph limit in Staten Island be careful !! The ticket for going 72 mph in a 50 zone in NY costs $150 plus $300 rem penalty, it hurts!!

The Pizza/falafel places have coffee, don’t they?

I once asked a choshuve Yid who had a shul in BP that still exists, which chassidus he was from and he told me, “International”. By his levaya the Satmer and Bobover Rebbes were both maspid.

Goq: FYI The Lakewood Scoop has the Supt.’s letter of resignation and it is very detailed, she actually compliments the Board President, Attorney and majority of Board Members for caring about the success of the Lakewood public schools and helping her, so you should really watch what you say based on rumors aka loshon hora.

Meanwhile there is tremendous coverage on the outrage over the US soldier killing Aghan civilians but did anyone see anything at the time of the Palestinian killing of the Fogel family?!!

Did you see the small paperback, “Mastering Patience”, it’s good, especially if the lack of patience leads to anger.

The book helped me also and I spoke (by phone) and got advice from R. Gamliel as well.

There was a story about a powerful non-religious lawyer in Europe who objected to the practice of a certain yeshiva that sent young bachurim collecting and complained to the Rebbe of the yeshiva and he answered him this is important so that they learn it is not wrong to lower oneself and ask for help especially if the alternative is a crack up. The lawyer remembered it years later when his situation changed and he was at the end of his rope, almost suicidal and he came back, to yiddishkeit as well as sanity. Besuras tovos v’kol tuv.

Depends on from what country, some esp. E. Europe can be difficult to impossible even to get a visitor’s visa.

TCG Perhaps you need to realize the public nature of this law which compels the recognition of these relationships as marriages, this means changes that will effect Jews in many public fields, business, education, law, insurance, etc. I agree with jewishness as to the likely effects on the general morality, a significant further deterioration – the goyim i predict will not be happy – as you say they will -if they see an increase in narcissistic selfishness bringing more crime, drug abuse, dishonesty. Your statement above just let them be is against the lesson the Torah teaches of why the Jew is in this world, IMHO. I hope you broaden your narrow view of our role.

TCG and bes. You are not thinking of the literally hundreds of thousands of not yet Torah observant Jews in the USA who are likely to be further distanced and harmed by this legislation and the educational and cultural changes that will ensue.

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computer777 Do you really think the Chofetz Chaim would give only 1 or 5 minutes of tehillim or learning to save the life of his close chaver and Rosh Yeshiva ?! The story was the bachurim all were asking for days, weeks, etc. of their lives to give up for their beloved Rebbi, and they approached the Chafetz Chaim and he thought a long time before answering 1 minute, and he was serious not cynical when he answered. Perhaps we should also be considering it?

Do you believe the Twin Towers could have fallen during the lifetimes of the four Gedolim that were niftar the year before or is it true that Hashem chose to remove them first for His reasons? Maybe the olam should back down from being mzalzel this avreich and think a little about what really might be at stake now?

The gemara in Taanis discusses the shemoneh esrei which is expanded to 24 brachos in cases of communal threats (such as famine) and details the text of all the additional brachos, so perhaps there is no need at all to adapt Chazal to medical knowledge just marvel at the reality, Torah came from the Maker!

The slide is ameliorated by the fact we can still rely on the makil shita at times, for instance in kashrus b’hefsed mrubah it is often seen that a rishon that we don’t usually rely on will be. Also in hilchos Shabbos, but this can be taken too far as well; I once heard a Rav matir borar of non-food items based on an Ohr Someach that is seemed (at least to me) to be speaking theoretical and not l’halacha.

There is a firm that advertises in the Hamodia and Jewish Press regularly. They will walk you through the business and share financials but only after they qualify you as a customer by asking and viewing yours.

Echo referral has data on the best doctors if you would try another opinion. There are other resources similar, too.

May Hashem send you the right shaliach for a refua shlaima b’karov bsoch shaar choleh Yisrael!!

pba: i drove that route frequently in the somewhat distant past but I always went thru Queens Plaza got over to the right for the beginning of Queens Blvd. but then cut right on Van Dam and sraight a few lights then under the LIE and left to the entrance.

OK I know someone who met his wife on a singles shabbaton where there were a range of Jews religiously speaking MO to Yeshivish, BT and FFB, etc. So much so that there was some activities that were not for everybody for instance they had Motzai Shabbos square dancing. He opted out and went to the hotel lobby and just stared at the fireplace there when suddenly a female voice asked him, “Are they really supposed to be doing that downstairs?” She meant the mixed dancing, anyway they started talking and it turned into his shidduch/beshert. – I thought(when I heard the story) wow all the ones who would say why not try it, it’s not disco you have to put in hishtadlus for your shidduch no it turned out the right hishtadlus was keeping shtark and true to your derech.

Hatzlacha to all singles may you find shidduchim hagonim b’karov.

I did not accuse you of saying anything incorrect, but I wish Hashem to help you become an osher, the one Chazal say has simcha.

During the first few brochas of shemoneh esrei, many times, while it still feels like I am serving before the King, I feel happy. I think how could it not make anyone pleased and happy to be given this job, serving the Master of All.

Sam2 Oved Hashem, it’s the title you gave yourself above, come on doesn’t it make you just a bissellah freilach?!

seems a good kasha maybe check the mephorshim on rashi like the gur arye and mizrahi?

I agree Yaakov was giving mussar (see Onklos- kibal ulphan)

Apush: What are you suggesting?

A big improvement would result from the public respectfully asking more questions both to Mashgichim, Rabbanei Machshir and business owners. Some examples of questions consumers should be asking are; What are the Mashgiachs duties here? What are his hours? Do you have the phone number of the Rav HaMachshir? How often is he or his representative here? What are your hakpadas?

These questions show the public cares about the kashrus and has an effect on the atmosphere of the place, it helps the mashgiach, and is imo an easy way for anyone to have a zchus of zikui harabbim, but be prepared to follow up if the answers are problematic, by calling the Rav Hamachshir or asking your Rav to call.

There is a range of opinions on the issue of how often a yotzi v’nichnas needs to enter to establish mirsas and if customers at establishments where they are relying on the more makil side inquire they may be able to find out. For instance I found that the difference between o-u and o-u P on a particular canned product was a mashgiach visiting once a month for o-u and a constant presence for 6-8 weeks before Pesach, now which one do you think is less likely to have a mishap?