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Why is it not a problem to drink after fleishigs but is a problem for people who are makpid on keilim for cholov stam?
Men and women have different roles in life. There is no reason why women should be in the public spotlight, something contrary to Jewish tradition and law. And there is no reason why the male legislators cannot represent the needs of the tzibbur. This idea of everything being equal and men and women needing to be and do the same thing is only a recent secular phenomena of the last century that has no historical basis and runs contrary to nature and common sense.
If a Keurig machine was previously used with a milichigs K-Cup coffee flavor, does that prevent it ever being used after a fleishig meal even with a pareve k-cup flavor?
He should be blessed with much hatzlacha in his holy work of raising tzedakah for Klal Yisroel’s needy.
Halacha has no concept of the secular-style ongoing alimony other than the one-time kesuba payment. His obligation to support his wife while married does not obligate him to support her out of his home if she decides to separate, and his support obligation is fulfilled by stocking his fridge with food and the closet with clothes and inviting her to live in his home to utilize that support. If he forces her out of the home then that obligation of his would continue wherever she is. His rights to her earnings can only be ended by her agreeing to waive his obligation to support her. This latter arrangement is entirely in her hands and can be invoked anytime during a marriage.
No Halacha allows a husband to hit his wife. You’re confused with Beis Din. And Beis Din can hit a husband or a wife or a grandpa or anyone in contempt for that matter that it needs to as a last resort to enforce its judicial decisions with.
It’s an undeniable statistical fact openly clear to anyone with their eyes open. Have you ever been to Boro Park, Williamsburg, Monroe, New Square, Yerushalayim, Bnei Brak, Antwerp, etc. today compared to 15 years ago? They’re bursting at their seams. KJ is in the legal process of doubling their territory (they’ve already more than tripled their population in their existing territory) and have obtained government approval to tapping NYC’s water supply since their rural county supply is incapable of supporting their population. These places are doubling and more their population in a small timeframe. You can look at U.S. and Israeli censuses for these exclusively Yiddish-speaking towns or you can look at academic studies such as the aforementioned Avi Chai or you can simply look around the block. Living out-of-town makes it easy to miss the explosive population-growth that’s going on in the Jewish world today.
New York’s Chasidic schools student-body alone has grown 110% (i.e. more than double) from a mere 15 years ago. Satmar alone now has more school children than the entire Boston Public School system.
Syag: The fastest and most explosive growing population in the Jewish world are the Yiddish-as-a-first-language speakers. Native Yiddish speakers worldwide currently number in the multiple hundreds of thousands and it is double what it was a generation ago, especially among the young. According to Dr. Schick’s recent Jewish school census, Yiddish speaking schools have more than double the number of students today than they did a mere 15 years ago.
It hardly needs any CPR.
The citizens of the secular state happen to be part of Klal Yisrael
Only the Jewish citizens of that State are part of Klal Yisrael.
His concern is that they might end up marrying non-Jews if the incoming citizens don’t convert.
The solution, then, is for the State to not to accept incoming citizens who aren’t Jewish. Not to do a pretend-conversion and pretend they are Jewish and therefore if they marry it is somehow not an intermarriage.
As far as the non-Jews the State already granted entry, pretending they are Jewish following a pseudo-conversion where they continue to be Mechallel Shabbos the day following their mock conversion not only doesn’t fix the problem but makes it immeasurably worse in fooling some real Jews into believing those pseudo-converts are now Jewish and causing intermarriage by fellows who otherwise would never have married a non-Jew.
And the only reason he (and others) came up with this ingenuity, in the guise of religion, is due to their nationalism which is otherwise known as zionism. It was never to solve a religious problem, as it in fact makes the problem worse – and it’s a problem that was seeded by zionism in the first place – but rather to solve their nationalistic concerns.
Yiddish is very much a growing language.
A husband can be mochel his wife’s halachic obligation to him in a particular setting. He cannot be mochel his own halachic obligation to honor his parents first. Y’know… one of those Ten Commandment thingies. 🙂
Yeah, whateveh who carez what old fashioned halacha sayz. This iz Amerika.
Anyways, you’re correct that I shouldn’t be marrying them – as Cherem Rabbeinu Gershom is still in effect.
He could have the same concern; but he wouldn’t come out with a solution worse than the problem, as they have done.
Yes. (Two minchas.) And same with the other tefilos.
The Knesset couldn’t give a hoot about Halacha.
Yelled at by the Letzonei Hador.
000646: The Halacha is 100% clear that if your parent and your wife make conflicting requests to you, that you’re legally obligated to honor your parent’s request over your wife’s. (The reverse isn’t true, as the Halacha is that a wife must honor her husband’s request over her parents.)
I know that these halachic facts don’t sit well with modern 21st Century American sensibilities, but so be it.
On top of all this, the OP is talking about a potential fiance, not his wife. It is far from the same. This girl has red flags written all over her.
If his only choices were an engagement ring or nothing, certainly it is best he take nothing.
Rebbe Dovid: According to 000646’s logic, if the girl insisted you end your relationship with your parents you should do so if you love her the most.
Dumping your rabbi, based on your potential fiance’s request, is no different than dumping your parental relationship based on her request.
She isn’t marriage material if she actually is asking you to dump your rabbi. No sane person would make such a request.
PAA: If that was a “legitimate concern”, than on the same token it should be advocated by the same people to convert hundred of thousands of intermarried couples, their children and grandchildren and all the Reform Conservative “Jews” who aren’t halachically Jewish. Since they, like the above “legitimate concern”, are acting, thinking, intermingling and intermarrying with Jews as Jews.
Ivrit is a new and different language than Loshon Kodesh.
And Ivrit is very far from a universal language among Jews. Most Jews cannot speak Ivrit. In fact, among frum Jews around the globe I would guess Yiddish has more speakers.
Reb Moshe was unwilling to make statements about HKB”H’s calculations for how He runs the world and why He makes things happen… I can accept that a Talmid Chochom, such as Reb Moshe was, could possess Ruach Hakodesh, and could be privy to HKBH’s master plan beyond what is accessible to us mortals. But that neither gives him the authority to divulge this…
Reb Moshe, for his reasons, may have chosen not to attribute specific tragedies to specific causes. Other Geodlei Yisroel zt’l have indeed made such specific attributions. Each of these Gedolim had their own cheshbonos in deciding whether or not and what to attribute it to. And the Gedolim who have, in fact, attributed tragedies to specific causes are far wiser and more steeped in Torah and the ways of Hashem than any of us here to dare challenge them.
“Actually, a chosson without a chosson shas is like a kallah without a kallah shas.”
So a kallah without an engagement ring is like a choson without an engagement ring.
A child should never, ever, answer back a rebbi.
If a need arises it is the parent who must take up the responsibility. And even they should ascertain beforehand with certainty the rebbi indeed was in the wrong rather than the child.
ubi: The Rema doesn’t support you at all. You fardreit the Rema into the results you want in this case.
From the time of Avrohom Avinu throughout Jewish history, yidden have taken a local non-Jewish language and made a cholent out of it with a dictionary of our own internal words into our own unique Jewish language.
No different than for us.
It will never become ingrained, even over the next century, since it’s chukas akum and thus rejected (now and over the next decades) by the vast majority of ehrilche yidden.
Get a strong filter. Can’t stress that strongly enough even if you insist that you don’t need it and haven’t misused the ‘net. And even though this is a separate point from being a news junkie. (Although you can set the filter to block all news websites and let only someone else have the filter password.)
Erva has to be covered. The only different parameter I can think of is that it doesn’t matter whether they’re married or not and their hair can be uncovered.
Very sincere.
eek: Gentile females are obligated under the arayos provision in the sheva mitzvos to not display erva in public. (Also see Ben Ish Chai – Bo 12 and Kaf HaChaim 75:24)
The so-called “minhag” evolving to giving gifts directly stems from the Christian religious holiday in the same season. Yes, that origin would make it assur. Giving gelt is a Jewish minhag that does not stem from another religion.
Rabbi Pruzansky is correct in taking the RCA to task and resigning from their geirus committee after they capitulated to the left-wingers desire to use the unrelated DC scandal to initiate changes to halacha regarding geirus.
I believe PBA and akuperma are both correct and their points are not mutually exclusive.
LF: Many of us hold very highly of your shared thoughts.
Sam: Where in the Seforim HaKedoshim, prior to the de Beers diamonds-are-forever marketing campaign, has engagement rings (not wedding/chupa rings) been mentioned as a minhag and among which communities?
What Judaism certainly has contributed to societal wedding practices is the white kallah dress.
“The engagement ring will probably be nicer than the previous ring.”
PAA: Like her possibly wanting a nicer ring, he might want a nicer Shas with more meforshim.
PAA: Presumably if she likes rimgs she has one already. And there’s no more mizvah to buy her an engagement ring than there is to buy him a Choson Shas.
Yes, the minhag is gelt. So called Chanukah gifts has its origins from Christmas gifts.
A Choson without a Choson Shas is like a Kallah without an engagement ring. If she doesn’t expect that engagement ring (which has no Jewish basis anyways) I can hear him not expecting a Shas.
Of course if one is following his manhig’s instructions TO vote, he must similarly follow his manhig’s instructions on WHOM to vote for.
Dump the girl with such chutzpa, certainly not the rabbi.
My sincere apologies that my point came across harshly. I solely intended the point to make a general, and not a specific or individual, societal observation. There are rules and there are exceptions to the rule. I was focusing on the rule. I do certainly realize there are exceptions to the rule, and apologize for not being clearer about that fact. But the truth sometimes hurts and they say that statistics don’t lie. I just think it is important to consider all aspects of a shidduch, and divorce familial history is one of them. A number of other posters agreed that this is a factor that needs to be considered/evaluated. Extenuating factors relieving and mitigating some of the negatives of divorce is certainly important to look at. And each shidduch proposal must be individually considered and evaluated, not decided based on generalities. But generalities also need to be considered on a societal scale to at least bring awareness to that a familial divorce history has a propensity to negatively affect children. And again I apologize for not being clearer in what I was trying to convey.
P.S. secretagentyid: The inclusion of some names on your list is misleading. For example, the Vilna Gaon insisted on his daughter being divorced because she hadn’t had children for ten years of marriage.
MDG: For you to suggest that the Gedolei Yisroel, such as Rav Eliashev, Rav S.Z. Auerbach, the Gerrer Rebbe, etc. (as well as their adherents following their instructions and/or minhagim) who sported a shtreimel are doing so due to gaaiva, is egregious.
I dont know about signs but the Brisker Rov didn’t vote nor do his talmidim and yeshiva.
Shidduch choices aren’t limited to between children from broken homes and children from homes with poor shalom bayis. You can avoid both if both have a negative impact on their children.