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DQB: Not eating a chicken and cheese sandwich is also a d’rabbanan.
DQB: A wife shouldn’t be dressing in public for the husband’s (or anyone’s) attention. That should only be done in private.
You can buy a coffee. The regular coffee is made in a parve coffeemaker.
Is buying an unflavored black coffee the only time you can avoid cholov stam in DD by using the cholov yisroel milk?
Another example of societal degeneration.
What good is it if the DD offers Cholov Yisroel milk? All the keilim and equipment their using to prepare the drinks are Cholov Stam anyways.
DQB: How can a microwave be kashered? And why wouldn’t a single incident ruin its kashrus? The Chasidish velt (as well as some others) generally treat cholov stam as actual treif (i.e. no different than if you were visiting remote Africa and found milk in some hut.) In which case cholov stam is not simply being meikel on a chumra but rather violating an outright issur m’ikur hadin.
Math games.
If a Shabbos guest in your home asked to borrow a book to carry home with him after the Shabbos seuda he ate by you, with him utilizing the neighborhood eruv your rov held as treif but his rov held as kosher, would you loan him the book? What if it wasn’t a loan from you but rather him simply asking you from which shul he can pickup a copy of a freely distributed dvar Torah newsletter he wants to carry home with him – will you direct him to where he can pickup a copy?
Have you ever dealt with DD headquarters in Massachusetts in reporting a franchise overnight-shift employee’s personal use of an out-of-state franchise store’s microwave or are you just making an assumption that they will throw out the microwave and/or franchise based on a one-time infraction?
lc: Lior, if the person asking holds that chalav stamm IS kosher ( and there are many poskim to rely on ) you can tell him.
PP: Others can feel free eating there because:… Rav Moshe…
No. One can’t eat something because there are poskim to rely on when his own posek holds it is treif. And if his own posek holds cholov stam is not kosher (as various big poskim maintain), he can’t suggest, facilitate, direct or feed another Jew cholov stam (even one who holds of the very valid shitta that it is not non-kosher).
Much as someone who holds an eruv is not valid, cannot suggest, direct, ask or facilitate another Jew to carry on Shabbos – even if that other Jew and his posek holds the eruv IS valid.
apy: that is a gross violation of DD policy and should be reported to DD.
It is highly doubtful, and certainly not a given, that DD will do much even if it were reported to them. A single incidence of warming up a personal sandwich in the microwave doesn’t rank on top of the things that the franchise company headquarters in Massachusetts will worry itself with or throw out the microwave because. And certainly not without strong evidence, such as a video.
apy: whose employees are usually non jews.
PP: If you think that a store owned by a shomer shabbos is not susceptible to employee (or chas veshalom propreitor shaningans)you are fooling yourself.
A Jewish owned food establishment is far more likely to care and be responsive to kashrus violations by its non-Jewish employees (who are less likely in the first place to be preparing the food) than a non-Jewish owned food establishment, let alone one open on Shabbos.
zd: Dunkin Donuts like that, the ones that are Kosher have normal Hashshchas (Like the O-k)
DD, at least in NYC, does not have a national hashgacha.
If a person doesn’t eat cholov stam because his shitta (per his mora d’asra/posek) is that cholov stam is not kosher, is he allowed to help or facilitate another Jew (who holds cholov stam is kosher) to obtain or eat cholov stam?
It seems to me akin to someone who doesn’t hold from the eruv to suggest or facilitate for another Jew (who does hold from the eruv) to carry on Shabbos.
Sam: How do you respond to Dash’s sentence immediately prior to the one you quoted? Namely, “You can’t Pasken that someone is not jewish simply because of the ramifications that would occur if they were jewish.”
If you use FAFSA for Beis Medrash or seminary then you will have to pay thousands more for college, should one go, correct?
The Ethiopians, if any desired to become Jewish, would need a full blown conversion.
It was about reporting a family to ACS since they have bedbugs at home.
The relatively few such people would have been wise enough to not purport to conduct a geirus, especially considering – as you said – that there was no true kabbalas ol mitzvos on the part of the purported convert.
Conservative “rabbis” are heretics.
Because cops are risking their lives every day of their job, putting their lives on the line to protect the public, and thus they are certainly granted a greater benefit of the doubt when the necessity of their job includes the use of force resulting in a suspects death. That being said, again, even a civilian who accidentally causes a death will not necessarily result in an indictment. True, a prosecutor can indict a ham sandwich should he so desire, but correctly not every accidental death results in an indictment whether the person is a law enforcement officer or a civilian. Not every case is even brought to a grand jury in the first place as often the prosecutor himself will decide to not indict. That is what should have happened in Ferguson, for example, but the prosecutor brought the non-existent case to a grand jury due to public pressure by minority groups whereas he should have dismissed the case on his own.
The police officer may have caused his death accidentally while in the process of carrying out his duties as a deputized law enforcement officer in engaging a criminal suspect. If so, there is no basis for an indictment. Even accidental deaths caused by regular civilians are not necessarily indictable offenses.
Like said above, alef is a 100% born Jew just like you and beis is a 100% gentile.
Then report the landlord to ACS and to the city Department of Housing.
Mammele: I believe Shopping lives in Eretz Yisroel.
Is that in the Napa Valley?
Do you think the minimal marital age ought to be 21 or do you think the age for alcohol should be 14?
Once ACS puts their boots into a families neck, it will be long and hard in coming before those government bureaucrats take it out, if ever before the children attain majority. ACS are not a bunch of loving, caring volunteers coming to help out families while minimally intruding into their lives.
Wisey: So insular folks who are not subjected to the type of media or other exposure that you refer to, do not experience the same physical changes referred to?
Minor? Why is it a parent’s fault for being physically disabled? The other “faults” are, too, a tempest in a teapot. Should the disabled now be prohibited from having children?
I am told that because of our diets we mature early these days
So should we start marrying earlier, say at 13, rather than at 15?
so how does one go about helping these people?
Pay for a cleaning lady, buy them new mattresses, help them carry their groceries and give them tzedakah.
It’s prohibited. Like 147 said, the absolute last thing on these government bureaucrats mind is the welfare of the children. Nothing can be worse for the children than to seize them from their parents and put them into some foreign foster home or orphanage who they never met in their life, together with untold numbers of other uncared for children.
And it is especially disturbing that this question is being asked about a parent who has clutter in their home or bedbugs or is physically disabled. Being in a wheelchair or having clutter is a reason to throw children’s lives, and parent’s lives, into a situation of far worse turmoil?
Chazal have a pretty clear opinion on this question. Why not take their advice?
In New York State it is legal to get married beginning at age 14.
Why do so many frum people take their health for granted and do little to make sure they stay healthy?
That assumption is grossly inaccurate. Frum people, more than anyone else in the world, do not take their health for granted.
How many others do you know that pray for their health at least three times a day? And there is no greater way to not be taking your health for granted than by asking He who grants good health to bestow good health upon you and your family.
#4 is the most accurate description (with #14 falling along the same lines.)
I’d compare myself to former California Governor Schwarzenegger.
Gavra: The yeshivishe olem also doesn’t allow social contact between unrelated unmarried boys and girls.
I initially understood your comment to mean the answer should be obvious, but now I see you meant to say there’s no easy answer. My apologies.
Okay, I give up in trying to guess your implied response. Pull out your surprise.
Those who’ve had no social contact with the opposite gender prior to marriage successfully get married at rates at least as much as those who’ve had a lifetime of pre-marital social contact with the opposite gender.
She works, I presume is your implied response, but her income doesn’t suffice to cover family necessities.
Generally, if a boy very strongly wished he would be able to learn after marriage, he would only go out with someone who has a good job or whose parents could provide support.
And what does a girl who very strongly wants to establish a learning/kollel home, but doesn’t have the wherewithal to support it, do?
Well, perhaps you’re correct or perhaps I’m correct.
Either way if that is his question or otherwise, it is a good question worth exploring an answer for. That answer should at least provide direction to the OP whether or not he meant to ask that. And it should provide direction to others who have that same question.
I think the OP is asking about a boy who will need to immediately be working after marriage yet very strongly wished he didn’t have to and could have instead had the opportunity to remain learning after marriage but cannot do so for financial reasons.
Don’t *all* people of a lesser financial situation have a “harder time dating” than those of wealthier status? Whether either one was hoping to learn full time or work full time.
chumchuck – You’re suggesting the purpose of paying for a nicer date is to woo her rather than to make her happier? So if you don’t want to woo her anymore, no need to make her happier? Then you should be taking RY23’s advice.
The Economist magazine, for example, had always used the male terms as the default whenever it wasn’t specifically referring to a female.
“Feel free to substitute Facebook profile, LinkedIn profile”
I still don’t understand the suggestion to use contact technologies that most people don’t use or even know how to use, such as Twitter and LinkedIn, when there is a plethora of methods of contact, such as telephone and e-mail, that is virtually universal.
that’s a stupid tradition.
So you say.
Traditionally, sentences are written using the male term when referring to an unknown or either gender.
The rules can change based on popular usage. It is a living language.
If anyone has a question, they should raise their hand.
Isn’t the minhag in Eretz Yisroel for the boy and girl to meet at a mutually agreed place rather than him picking her up?